Table of contents : A new approach to dealing with anger -- A first look at anger : how does it feel? -- The cause of anger : an unmet demand -- The cost of anger : who pays? -- Anger and awareness : who me angry? -- Pride, honor and other buttons : our sore spots -- Giving and receiving : shifting the emotional balance -- The mythology of happiness : do we really know what's good for us? -- Unshakeable calm : dealing with the anger of others -- To be or not to be angry : you have a choice -- Transforming anger into compassion : wielding the flame of fury -- Coming to a conclusion : what happens when we give up anger?