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Spiritual Insights for Personal and Business Growth ELSABE SMIT & FRASER HAY

Copyright © 2018 Elsabe Smit & Fraser Hay All rights reserved. ISBN: 9781729063743

Table of Contents Gratitude Challenge the Boundaries That You Have Put in Place Don’t be Tribal in Your Approach Aim for Random Connectedness Rather than Chaos Trust Gets You Through Your No-man’s Land Take on Just Enough Slowly, Slowly with Using Your Intuition Leaving People Behind Dealing with Downturns Slaughter or Laughter? Fixing Your Aura Compassion or Interference in the Destiny of Someone Else? Help Unconditionally Be Your True Self to Market Yourself Do It Go Inside Feast on Success Believe in Yourself Schrödinger’s Cat Embrace Opposites Accept the Entire Experience Be Like a Caterpillar Accept Your Challenges You Are a Spiritual Being Do an Angel Shower Embrace the Shadows It’s All in The Mind How Do You Define a Quantum Leap? Chemicals Don’t Provide Balance Blossom What Do You Want? I Should Have … Waves and Particles What is Creation? What Do You Remember? Co-incidence and Synchronicity Why do Some People Remain Ill Despite All Efforts? Emotions and Feelings The Quantum Vacuum Knowing is Sharing Spirituality and Spiritualism Dedication and Commitment

What is a Fair Price for Your Product? Technology or Gut Feel? Prayer and Meditation You Are a Creator Be Selfish ABOUT THE AUTHORS

HOW MUCH ARE YOU WORTH?

If you don’t recognize your value, how can you expect other people to recognize it?

HOW TO DEAL WITH INSURMOUNTABLE PROBLEMS

Imagine a river that is flowing really strong - so strong that nobody can cross it. Then the river reaches a point where it splits into a number of deltas. You can cross any of those deltas with ease. Where is the mighty river? Break the problem down into smaller parts and then resolve one part at a time.

HOW DO YOU FORGIVE YOUR ENEMIES? Forgiveness is about understanding that everything happened for a reason and you are so much better off because of it. Forgiveness is about saying thank you for teaching me a lesson in life that is precious and priceless. Forgiveness is about recognizing and acknowledging a great teacher rather than rejecting a person who made you feel like a failure.

APPROACHING CHALLENGES

Don’t approach the challenges with an attitude of "I will show you". Rather approach them with the view of "This is exciting! What more can I do? What else is there that I cannot see yet? How much more is inside of me that I am only now becoming aware of?"

Gratitude Gratitude is where your heart opens with love and you get tears in your eyes.

Challenge the Boundaries That You Have Put in Place Imagine you have a white sheet of paper. In the middle of that sheet of paper there is a big black blot of ink. The blot of ink is your “problem”, and everything around it is “no problem”. When you are so close to breaking down that boundary between “problem” and “no problem”, where you are fully aware that there is a constraint but it is not clear what it is, there is a tremendous amount of discomfort because “they are not doing what they should do, they are challenging me all the time and I am fine. There is a problem and they are causing the problem.” They are in fact saying to you there is a constraint. When you know what “they” need to change, you will know what you need to change, because they are not changing. Then you can stop picking at the boundary and break through it.

Don’t be Tribal in Your Approach The laager attitude of “let’s stand together against the outside world, let’s be safe” reflects the base chakra. “Anyone who challenges this, is outside of the tribe and therefore wrong. We have only one mode, which is right. Either you are as right as we are, or you are completely wrong.” Compare that tribal belief system and attitude (if you are not with us, you are against us) to moving much higher to the heart chakra (I now understand

why I am here, I now want to translate this for other people).

Aim for Random Connectedness Rather than Chaos There is a massive difference between creating chaos and understanding random connectedness. When you create chaos, you don’t know what you are doing. When you understand random connectedness, you can detach and look in from the outside and see the pattern. It is like singing in the shower with no audience, and expecting to win the x-factor, as opposed to natural, true talent.

Trust Gets You Through Your No-man’s Land Trust is the most important aspect of your journey - trust of yourself, not me, not what is happening to you, nothing else. It sounds simple, but as you are opening up and discovering new truths which are sometimes so far from your current way of thinking, every one of your beliefs are turned upside down and shaken around and tested. This leaves you in that no-mans-land where you cannot return because what is behind you is hollow, and you do not want to go forward because you are on a staircase and it is pitch dark at the top of the stairs, but at the same time you absolutely have to go forward because you have to know what is at the top of the staircase. Just trust and you will be OK

Take on Just Enough

Do what you feel comfortable with. You know how it feels when you are in the space where you are your true self. If you need to slow down so that you can stay there until everything feels comfortable again, do that. You are still 100% in control. Sometimes you are in control of a dinghy, other times you are in control of an ocean liner. It does not matter. What matters is that you can do both.

Slowly, Slowly with Using Your Intuition As your intuition grows, you touch on people's emotions simply because you no longer ignore who you are. Be very careful of telling people what you pick up about them for different reasons. 1 It is OK to use the information you get naturally, but NEVER look for more without their knowledge and permission - respect their personal space. 2 Give yourself time to get used to it. You will learn what you like and what you want to block out 3 Initially that ability is quite fluid, but over time you become more discerning and you can kind of switch it on and off - it is always there, but it becomes more natural and part of your identity And it takes time to get used to what are your own words/emotions etc. and what you receive from other people.

Leaving People Behind When your spiritual path takes off, you will be concerned about leaving people behind. We leave people behind all our lives - you no longer have contact with all your school friends or some relatives etc, and the process of leaving them behind was natural and happened without you even being aware of it. The difference this time is that you consciously leave people behind at a much deeper level, and you are a trailblazer, and you are not sure where the trail is heading. People walk with us as far as they need to, and then they either take another road or fall behind while we move on. They do not understand what happens, and they find ways to justify their actions e.g. focus on things you "did wrong", which can be quite hurtful if you do not understand. Or you do not understand what happens and you feel rejected, done in, treated unfairly etc. While it happens, you need a lot of plasters and you run out of friends to turn to for sympathy. But when you look back you understand how they in fact "gave you permission" to move on by their actions, and that is so liberating when you can love them for being selfless, albeit sometimes in a nasty way. This gives a completely new meaning to "midlife crisis"

Dealing with Downturns How do you deal with negative events in your life like illnesses or accidents - or any negative event for that matter? Do you treat it as one of life's lessons, shrug it off, and crack on responding and reacting to what life throws at you? Or do you simply acknowledge it with a “thank you”, for allowing you to explore another part of you?

Slaughter or Laughter? "Dad, did you know that Slaughter and laughter are spelt the same except for one letter?" Now that you come to mention it, you're right". I said looking at my daughter. "The bad guys should drop the "S" in slaughter, and focus on laughter instead." she continued... "Maybe they'd stop asking others to take pity on them, and start showing compassion for others." Dats ma girl.

Fixing Your Aura A person's aura can get "shattered" by a sudden, traumatic life experience. Of course, such a sudden trauma touches your spirit immediately and with a huge impact. This is reflected in your body which gets in a state of shock. Going to hospital, even just visiting someone in a hospital, has the same effect, albeit to a lesser degree. But the same thing can happen over time in many different situations. Some people try to be everything to everyone. Mothers get exhausted, not so much because of the physical work, but because of sharing their energy bodies, and commuters who share their auras with others daily experience the same. When people do that, they allow tiny "tears" in their auras and they allow other people to put their "energy tentacles" through those tears. People who are spiritually strong and creative understand how to generate their own energy. They intuitively attract particles to them which resonate with them, and those particles make their own auras more solid. The more solid their energy bodies are, the more they can focus on what they create, in other words, the clearer their future become to them and the sooner they let their dreams materialize. When these spiritually strong people do not understand their own spiritual energy and power, they allow the "tears" in their auras, and this gives more "diffuse" people in terms of energy the opportunity to latch on to the strong energy of the more "solid" person. If you are not aware when people do this to you, they can really dilute your energy. If you are aware of the "hitchhikers" it becomes so much easier to put a barrier between yourself and

them. Of course, this is often labelled as "being selfish" and "not giving" and "not sharing". But if you have nothing left to give, you get different labels. We need to keep filling up so that we have something to give, and that is not selfish.

Compassion or Interference in the Destiny of Someone Else? When I was still young, my dad and some of the other people on the Afrikaans Reformed Church council decided to round up all the homeless people in the area and give them food and shelter. They had the best possible intentions and of course things went very well for about a week. Then these homeless people disappeared one after the other, back to the streets. The Methodist Reverend heard about this scheme and told the church people that it would not work, because you cannot change the way other people want to live their lives. The Reformed people initially made it quite clear that the problem with the Methodist Reverend, as with all the "English people" was that he did not understand compassion; he was a Christian but not "of the right sort who help people in need" - and he spoke English as well. By the end of the week, when the experiment had obviously failed, my dad could not stop talking about the wisdom of the "Englishman", which he then understood and adopted. I have in later years thought a lot about that episode, but also in terms of other things like getting alcoholics to dry out, or on a bigger scale, having a war to try and change the entire culture of a country. What if the women in Afghanistan incarnated specifically so that they could experience the effects of denying their female power? Does the American government help or hinder them in their eternal journey? Or is it part of the eternal journey of the politicians to build up female power which maybe they destroyed in a previous lifetime?

Help Unconditionally Help people where you really feel your actions can give them a hand up. Don’t expect anything in return, and don't tell the world about it.

Be Your True Self to Market Yourself There are many people who follow the various "gurus" and look for a recipe for eternal riches and success, and then get seriously disappointed. And it is not just marketing - the woman who has plastic surgery so that she could act as a double of a celebrity and the church-goer who never misses a service do the same in a different environment. It is like baking a vanilla cake that contains garlic and curry, and thinking that if only you can put on a thick enough icing, it will be all right and nobody will notice. The problem is: no matter how thick the icing is (a marketing or web design or stocks and shares course or whatever) you can still smell the garlic and the curry. We live in a society where someone needs to be "guilty" if things go "wrong" with me. Marketing is an add-on until you realize that life is about marketing yourself every waking moment – a marketing expert just puts a label on it and makes others aware of different ways to do what they already do naturally. If you are passionate about something, then you market it already by default - people associate you with what you are passionate. The problem is when you see marketing as an add-on which you don’t like, rather than as numerous different means of expressing your passion. When you blame a lack of anything (the effect) by pointing a finger, you have 3 fingers pointing to where the real problem lies (the cause). We market ourselves every day in everything we say and do. When you see marketing as an external add-on, it becomes an artificial leg to be added

to your own two legs, rather than a means of strengthening the muscles in your own legs. Marketing is about fine-tuning what you already do. This is exactly why various seemingly unrelated issues that people need to deal with come to the surface and demand to be dealt with, especially if you try to find something outside of yourself to use as a plaster to cover up what you find inside yourself. You can have a passion, but if the passion is clouded by curry and garlic, you need to get rid of the curry and garlic first before you will really live and breathe your passion. You can’t blame any course you do for that even if you don't do any courses, you will have to do that kind of cleansing anyway.

Do It If you want to win the 100m at the Olympics, you do not buy all the possible courses and read all the books and then pitch for the race. Of course, you could do that, but you must be willing to learn and "fail" all the time.

Go Inside When the voice and vision on the inside becomes more clear and profound and louder than the opinions on the outside, we have mastered our life.

Feast on Success Remember your moment of success and strive for it when you enter the next phase of your life. Always return to this moment when you doubt, and remember where you came from to reach this moment. Use the same energy to follow your intuition.

Believe in Yourself Believe in yourself and remember that you are never alone.

Schrödinger’s Cat Schrodinger had the question: if you put a cat and poisoned food in a box, what do you have in the box? A dead cat that ate the food, or a live cat that did not eat the food? You won’t know until you open the box. And even when you do open the box, you will see either a live cat or a dead cat. At some point the cat will be alive, and at another point the cat will be dead. The two states of the cat will be in complete balance, but at different times. We have all kinds of life experiences, and we only see one side of that life experience. That one side of the life experience is typically like Schrodinger’s cat. You have a fantasy of your first love and how it would have been if you had married that first love. Then you meet this first love again and he has a stomach that frightens you, he doesn’t wash and there goes your fantasy – and you are down in the dumps, or you have a nightmare about an experience, but eventually you realize that it was just the way you looked at it at the time that turned the experience into a nightmare. It is like putting a 3-year-old on a roller coaster when they are not ready for it at all. Throughout our lives we carry only one half of the equation and that shapes our reality. It is only when we understand that there is another half of the equation and what it is and how we can benefit from getting that balance, that the fantasy or the nightmare disappears, and we get balance.

Embrace Opposites What we have in the outer world reflects what we have in our inner worlds. For example, money reflects our inner abundance. We move from confusion to harmony, but it is a temporary harmony, and harmony is not the end result, but merely a resting place which precedes confusion. Think of it in this way: we (our bodies and brains) are impure expressions of Light in the sense that, literally, we are not transparent. The element hydrogen is the most prolific in the universe, and in its purest form it has been described as "frozen light". Our entire existence here is an unconscious striving to become Light, and we do this by means of converting emotions into feelings. Emotions are always based on a one-sided perception of any situation. Something happens, and you experience it, but you only experience it in your own way, which is different from anyone else's. You see only one side of the experience (yours) and you use that perception to shape your future actions and decision. The result is confusion and discord. Let’s say you have identical twins. One grows up to become a very rich, successful entrepreneur. The other one grows up to become a swindler and violent criminal with no morals. When asked why they made their life choices, they both respond: "With a father like mine, what do you expect?" But if you look at the father, you will find the traits of both sons represented in the father. You will also find the opposite traits in both the sons, but they choose to only experience and perceive one side, and they discard the other side. The result is confusion. When each one of them see, accept and embrace the opposite traits in the

other person, a proton and electron are united, and the result is a quantum of light. Immediately the "good" person is closer to average (or balanced) and the same happens to the "bad" person. The harmony is temporary because this process happens in quantum leaps (and a quantum is the smallest unit of light, so you can imagine how much work we put in before we have a physical expression of the result). However, because of the moment of harmony, we come closer to overall harmony. Once this is done, we commence work on the next quantum leap. Our entire lives are like a production line of quantum leaps. We can speed up the production line by deliberately searching for the opposite of an experience, or we can slow down the production line by rejecting the opposite and insisting that our version is the only truth.

Accept the Entire Experience When you clear away the emotion around anything specific (in other words you recognize and acknowledge the opposite effect of the experience and therefore remove your judgement of the experience) the heart chakra opens, and you have that experience which is beyond time and space. "Wrong" thinking means recognizing only half of what you experience and discarding the other half - like saying I will only accept abundance if it comes in coins with heads - and then you throw away all the coins with tails and you end up with nothing. The great secret of life is when you know to focus on recognizing your emotions and the perceptions that relate to these emotions. The moment you have emotions or a judgement on anything, you will know that a part of you is out of balance because you only recognize the one side of the experience. For example, when you win the lottery and you recognize only elation, you will probably experience the opposite as well because the Universe is balance. When you are raped and you only recognize the violence, you dismiss the other side of the experience, which could be e.g. a lesson in selflove, a lesson in forgiveness, experiencing the miracle of healing and finding a very satisfying career which otherwise you would never have considered, and so on.

Be Like a Caterpillar See the image of yourself as a caterpillar breaking out of a cocoon. You had completely outgrown your cocoon – it was stifling you and you have now broken out and left the cocoon behind. Yes, there was the initial thought of “Am I doing the right thing? Will I not mess up everything?” It is natural, and you are so much more comfortable in your own skin and being who you have been for a very long time without acknowledging it even to yourself.

Accept Your Challenges Challenges are not there to break you down. They are there to make the existing foundation even more solid. A challenge is all about breaking down stuff that has been preventing you from growing. It is really saying “You are at the next part of the barrier or the obstacle? Are you ready?” Every time you answer “Yes, I am ready” and there the barrier goes. That has been the challenge. It is not “What the hell are you doing?” it is “You are at the next step – are you ready”?

You Are a Spiritual Being Once you have made peace with who are as a spiritual being there is no end to your creativity. It can become a bit scary, but it also saves you a lot of work. Get the spiritual building blocks in place so that you can build your business on your passion.

Do an Angel Shower One person, with eyes closed, is led from one group member to another and given a friendly hug - no words spoken, just pure touch and silence. It is called an "angel shower" because it can be either very emotional (people experience it with all their earthbound senses) or very spiritual (no particular senses are used, but you feel as if you are leaving your body and floating - beyond time and space).

Embrace the Shadows Often it is the shadows, the dark places, that reveal to us more things about how we are going to manifest. If everybody existed in a place of no shadow, there'd be no need for relationship, for contact, for service. We need places with shadows to remind us of our mortality and our totality.

It’s All in The Mind A person’s physical ailment is often an expression of something that was not right on spiritual level. If the physical ailment is healed, they will just find a different way to express their dis-ease physically. That is where the healing comes in. You don’t just take the physical ailment away. You first give them what they require spiritually and then the physical ailment just dissolves and never comes back in any format.

How Do You Define a Quantum Leap? A quantum leap means becoming light as opposed to remaining dark. If we are made of light, then technically it should be possible to split the beam and live two lives at the same time. Imagine how interesting life can be - and how much we will get done.

Balanced Rather Than Positive Thinking Victims of "positive thinking" make the right noises and have no clue that the universe requires balance rather than only accepting heads on the coin and rejecting tails. Positive thinking means you accept only coins with heads, because you do not need tails in your life. So you throw away all the coins with tails, and see what is left.

Chemicals Don’t Provide Balance Ever wondered how an aspirin knows exactly where in your body to go to relieve a headache? It does not know. It is a chemical that enters your body, and spreads through your body. It helps you regain balance in one part of your body, and at the same time causes havoc with every other part of your body - called side-effects, for which you have to take another chemical etc. etc. (Bruce Lipkin – The Biology of Belief)

Blossom “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." Anais Nin

What Do You Want? We stress ourselves into an early grave about the stuff we want, when in fact all we need to do is be VERY clear on what we want, and relax, and it all bubbles under the surface. But we choose to get totally stressed out about the obvious, and then it just happens - spills over from dreams to thoughts to actions, and we forget to be grateful.

I Should Have … You could look back and say “I could have, I should have, I would have”, or you could look forward and say “yes but, what if”. You have to deal both with guilt over the past and fear of the future.

Waves and Particles Everything is a wave. Only when you go looking for it does it turn into a particle. Time is a wave. We tend to experience it as a particle called Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, but in fact it is a wave of time, a wave of everything. Turn it vertical, then look up and into the future where it’s still a wave, but the act of you looking into the future, turns that wave into a particle which gives you information. The result will manifest itself but because of the time lag and the experience during that time space event that we create by shifting from the act of the observer is the time lag to becoming the participant. This is a very simple way to explain it. Time is linear, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. If you think particles are definitive things, one, two, three, four, each of these are part solids in terms of a reality because we can shape and mold them and identify them for what they are. However, one understanding of time is that it’s in fact a wave until we observe or look at it, and we then focus our thoughts, and by doing that within a particular period, a space of time, we are changing it from a wave to a particle to help solidify it, to manifest itself into a reality.

What is Creation? I tried to have this conversation with my wife, but it did not go very far. I said to my wife “I want you to close your eyes and picture a pirate ship”. She closed her eyes and said okay. I said, “now did you imagine that, or did you create a ship?” She said “I imagined it, but it doesn’t exist” I said “no, wait a minute, you closed your eyes and you created a picture of a pirate ship. Now, where is this pirate ship?” She said “nowhere, it does not exist." I said “it exists, because you created it. You could not see it, touch it, smell it, with the limited senses that we have, but you cannot deny its existence.” Then she said “yeah, but it does not exist anymore, because I have opened my eyes and I am not thinking about it” I said “ah, stop. An object or an event-we can create an event or a series of events, but because when we open our eyes and we cannot touch and feel it anymore, it does not detract from the fact that it was created. We then try to place it in the time-space continuum.” I ran out of steam with the explanation. I then took a cup and put it on the table. I said to my wife “somebody thought of the design for a cup, and then created the cup. We bought that cup. That cup is on the table. Would you agree with that?” She said “yes”. I then said, “touch that cup.” She said “why?” I said, “just confirm for me that the cup is there.”

She picked the cup up and placed it back on the table. I said to her “I want you draw an imaginary circle around the cup, about two or 3 inches away from the cup.” She drew an imaginary four-inch circle around the cup. I then put the cup away behind the table. I said, “looking at your circle, can you still see the cup?” She said “no, you hid it.” I said “hang on a second, is the cup still there?” She said “no, it’s not” I said “hang on, can you confirm there was a cup there?” She said “yes”. I said, “can you confirm you drew an imaginary circle around the cup?” She said “yes” I said, “can you confirm the imaginary circle is still there?” She said “yes, I drew it. I created it.” I said “OK, you did an imaginary circle, which doesn’t exist, but it’s still there, but the cup, which does exist, is no longer there” She said “enough of this. You’re doing my head in.” The things we create don’t necessarily exist (and it comes back to the time lag thing that you were touching on earlier on). What we create can take longer to manifest itself in the three-dimensional reality we live in. So, we’ll put in the work, the effort, the results will take their time.

What Do You Remember? I thought of putting a chair between two rooms, right on the threshold of the doorway between two rooms. I said to the twins “right, which room is the chair in?” Chloe said the chair was in the kitchen. Charlotte said the chair was in the hall. I said “well, you are both partly right, because it’s both in the kitchen and in the hall. If I move the chair into the kitchen, where is the chair?” They said “in the kitchen, dad” I said, “if I move the chair into the hall, where is it?” They said, “in the hall”. I said, “if I put it back in the doorway, it is both in the kitchen and in the hall.” I then took the chair out of the room altogether and pretended to put a chair in the kitchen. I said, “where is the chair?” They said, “you haven’t got a chair.” I said, “if I had a chair, where would it be?” She said, “it would still be between the kitchen and the hall, in the doorway, because that’s where you left it.” I said, “why do you say that?” She said, “you had it, but you took it away, and that is where I remember you having it last.” I thought, how fascinating. Whether something exists or not, the experience of what we remember determines what the next step will be.

Co-incidence and Synchronicity Co-incidences happen together according to plan. For example, you think about a person and then the person calls. Nothing happens by accident. When you think of co-incidence and make it off as nothing you are in fact denying the Plan while you are living the Plan. Synchronicity goes a step further. Synchronicity is co-incidence, in other words things happening together at the same time as planned, but it also makes an impact on your because it adds to your own awareness.

Why do Some People Remain Ill Despite All Efforts? Sometimes a person does not want to be healed. A person wants to hold on to a condition because that is their life purpose. Some people have a life purpose of not being well. With healing you can only help a person to help themselves. Often the person that is in the partnership with the person who has the disease is part of the problem.

Emotions and Feelings When you focus on having feelings as opposed to emotions, you offer something of real value to the world as opposed to knee-jerk emotions. You want to make a list of feelings? describe the single drop of water in the middle of a stream, or the exact nature of a snowflake that has just melted, or the exact state of a bride who has just said "I do" or a mother looking for the first time at her first child. But you must describe them in such a way that you can replicate them at will and there must be no doubt about their nature. It is impossible to have a list of feelings. A list of emotions you want to experience is a good idea - because you can have positive as well as negative feelings. All those lists are emotions. A feeling is impossible to put it into words the closest you can get is qualia, but that still does not describe the uniqueness Think back to when you first fell in love. How did you feel at the time? Can you put that into one word? Did you feel happy? Did you feel glad? How would you describe your state of being when your first child was born? Would it make sense to say it took you to a place which is beyond time and space? That is a feeling - something very difficult to put into words, and it is just about impossible to experience it twice, even in a lifetime. If I say to you “how do you look when you get angry?”, get a mental picture of yourself being angry, is that easy? Now get a mental picture of

you feeling immensely sad about something. That is an emotion. An emotion is triggered by situations and how you choose to interpret the situation. You have no control over a feeling. It is there and you know what it is, and it is incredibly difficult to put it into words and it never gets repeated in your lifetime. You might have different situations where you have a feeling, but even then, the feeling you had when your child was born was different from the feeling you had when you decided to marry your partner. Neither of those two feelings can you ever imagine or enact again. You know when you have experienced a feeling, because it is different. For a split second you leave your body and you are somewhere where there is no time or space, just eternal bliss and gratitude. When you have experienced a feeling with a person, nothing will stop you from being with that person. When you have experienced an emotion with a person, you will continue to have that emotion until you get so sick and tired of being so blissfully happy with the person that you will find something to sabotage the relationship with. Emotions require a hell of a lot of energy to keep up, whereas a feeling is like an infinite, eternal moment that determines the rest of your life. It is very difficult to move from emotions to feelings when you don’t even recognize your emotions. And there are too many people who do not even recognize their emotions. For most men, recognizing your emotions is a weakness. For women in business, recognizing your emotions means you are a woman, and you are not supposed to be a woman in business, you are supposed to be a female in a male business suit. Therefore, get rid of those emotions. Put them away somewhere where you can’t find them. Emotional intelligence, i.e. recognizing your emotions is a massive step. People who are more integrated as individuals, are much clearer on what it

is that they can offer. They no longer suppress their emotions. They recognize their emotions. They understand what role it plays in their lives, where they can actually use their emotions to their advantage, they can learn to control their emotions, so they are no longer on automatic pilot like they were in slumber. They have woken up and they can now use what they took for granted before. When you use something rather than just accept it, it becomes completely different. It becomes really powerful.

The Quantum Vacuum The quantum vacuum is nothing, which is everything. It is somewhere beyond myself. It is outside of myself. It is somewhere that I can go with questions, with absolutely no expectation and I can come back with a very, very clear answer because there is nothing in there. Therefore, whatever expectation I have will not be met. But there is also everything in there, which means that I will get an answer. I might not always like the answer, but I will get it.

Knowing is Sharing When you completely understand something, you have mastered something, that is the point where you can share something. That is where you become a master, teaching other people. The knowing is about showing your mastery.

Spirituality and Spiritualism There is a massive difference between spirituality and spiritualism. Spiritualism is another religion – it is the kind of stuff that you get at the Arthur Findlay college and at the spiritualist churches where, if you don’t fit into the box, you are not welcome, even if everyone is welcome when they are spiritual. Spirituality is a lot more freedom. It gets back to semantics when you try to explain that to people. Metaphysics is about a different dimension, a different reality, a reality which reflects the one that I am in right here, right now, but at the same time completely different. A reality that can actually be explained from science, but it is also above and beyond science.

Dedication and Commitment Do you know the difference between dedication and commitment? It is like eggs and bacon. Eggs are dedication, and bacon is commitment.

What is a Fair Price for Your Product? How would you determine a fair price for your product? Let’s try this. I am going to give you some amounts and you just tell me how they feel. Would you be willing to accept £700? Don’t think about it. Just give your first answer I don’t know. £17 000? Yes. £7 300? Yes. £10 800? Yes. £11 000? Yes. £1 100? Possibly £3 300? Yes. £ 1 750? Yes. £1 600? Possibly. £1 700?

Yes, possibly. £1 720? Yes, possibly. £1 730? Yes, possibly. £1 740? Yes, possibly. The first amount where you said yes without any hesitation was £1 750. That is the absolute minimum that you would charge for your product. This was purely based on your gut feel.

Technology or Gut Feel? Technology is fantastic but it only works very well when you step away from the technology and trust your intuition. Without your intuition you will have a one-dimensional contact with a person on any technological forum that could be very damaging. It is actually using technology for a real trust business relationship or a love relationship like on internet dating. The only way that can work is when you trust what you cannot see. Technology is in fact a very spiritual tool.

Prayer and Meditation Prayer is about asking for guidance. Meditation is about receiving the guidance. Prayer does not mean go on your knees and ask and hope for the best. Prayer means put the question out there and wait. You will get the answer. Prayer is not about assuming a physical position, saying some words and hoping for the best. Prayer is about putting your thoughts out there. In fact, we do that all the time. Prayer is more about saying “I would like to have an answer to this specific question.” Meditation is about receiving with no expectation, no preconceived ideas, even if the answer is not rational or logical, just receive it and trust.

You Are a Creator We do creative thinking all the time but we don’t understand it. We do it naturally. Because we don’t understand it we think “well, I create the good things, somebody else creates the bad things”. We don’t understand that we are actually creating both our good and our bad experiences. We just add the judgement to it. We label our own thoughts good and bad. We decide what to think and what not to think. This is about taking full ownership for everything you think’ say and do.

Be Selfish We tend to grow up believing that it is wrong to be selfish and you must always share everything with everyone else. Because of that, when you really need a lot of energy, you tend to not have that energy because you have given it all away. The way to deal with it is to be selfish at times – to cut yourself off from people at times and to look after yourself. Only when you are in a good condition in every sense can you share with others.

ABOUT THE AUTHORS Elsabe Smit is a well-known international coach, facilitator, author, and public speaker who uses her clairvoyant and intuitive skills to assist those that she encounters in her professional life. She has an MBA (Master Business Administration), an MA in Industrial Psychology, and extensive experience in the business world.

Using all her knowledge, skills and

competencies, Elsabe helps people to understand the mysteries of life and Love, so that they can regain control of their lives. To connect with Elsabe, visit www.elsabesmit.com

For over 10 years Fraser Hay has helped small business owners from 44 countries to identify and address over 2000 common marketing issues, challenges and obstacles that have held them back and prevented them from achieving their entrepreneurial goals and objectives. Founder of Grow Your Business®, Fraser offers help, guidance and support to individuals wanting to grow their business from idea to exit, one objective at a time. To connect with Fraser, visit www.gybtv.net