ENFP - Campaigner (16Personalities Premium Profile)

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What’s in This Profile?

What’s in This Profile? This profile is designed to cover all the main aspects of Campaigners’ personality as it affects different areas of their life, including Campaigners’ key strengths and weaknesses, relationships, academic path, career and professional development, as well as their communication and friend-making skills, parenting tips and advice, and much, much more. It combines personality type theory with practical, real-world advice from other people who share the Campaigner personality type. Personality types have been the topic of many discussions, some of them dating back to ancient times. It’s wise to draw from this source of knowledge and experience, especially when unsure of how to handle a specific situation. This kind of knowledge offers the power to control and understand oneself. As Aristotle said millennia ago, “The hardest victory is the victory over self.” Consider this profile a plan for success.

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Table of Contents What’s in This Profile? ........................................................................................................ 1 Table of Contents ............................................................................................................... 2 The Puzzle of Personality .................................................................................................. 5 Five Personality Aspects ................................................................................................. 9 Mind: Introverted (I) vs. Extraverted (E) .................................................................... 9 Energy: Intuitive (N) vs. Observant (S) ..................................................................... 12 Nature: Thinking (T) vs. Feeling (F) ........................................................................... 15 Tactics: Judging (J) vs. Prospecting (P) ...................................................................... 17 Identity: Assertive (-A) vs. Turbulent (-T) ................................................................. 20 Type Groups .................................................................................................................. 21 Roles ........................................................................................................................... 22 Strategies ................................................................................................................... 30 Who Is “The Campaigner?” ........................................................................................... 39 Personal Growth .............................................................................................................. 43 Motivation and Development ...................................................................................... 44 Self-Esteem ................................................................................................................ 46 Self-Respect ............................................................................................................... 52 Self-Confidence.......................................................................................................... 58 Self-Evolution ............................................................................................................. 63 Self-Responsibility ..................................................................................................... 69

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Conclusion ..................................................................................................................... 75 Friendships ....................................................................................................................... 77 Campaigner Friends by Role ........................................................................................ 80 Campaigner–Analyst Friendships ............................................................................ 80 Campaigner–Diplomat Friendships ......................................................................... 87 Campaigner–Sentinel Friendships ........................................................................... 94 Campaigner–Explorer Friendships ........................................................................ 101 Conclusion ................................................................................................................... 107 Romantic Relationships ................................................................................................. 109 Potential Role Pairings ............................................................................................... 112 Campaigner–Analyst Relationships ....................................................................... 113 Campaigner–Diplomat Relationships .................................................................... 121 Campaigner–Sentinel Relationships ...................................................................... 128 Campaigner–Explorer Relationships ..................................................................... 135 Conclusion ................................................................................................................... 142 Parenthood ..................................................................................................................... 144 Parenting for Each Stage of Development ............................................................... 150 Building Bonds (From Birth to Approximately 1 ½ Years) ................................... 151 Testing Boundaries (From Approximately 1 ½ to 3 Years) .................................. 157 Thirst for Knowledge (From Approximately 3 to 5 Years) ................................... 163 Creating Competence (From Approximately 5 to 12 Years) ............................... 169 Find Thyself (From Approximately 12 to 18 Years) .............................................. 175

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Conclusion ................................................................................................................... 181 Academic Path ................................................................................................................ 182 How Campaigners Learn ........................................................................................... 184 Campaigners in High School...................................................................................... 190 Work or College? ......................................................................................................... 197 Campaigners in College ............................................................................................. 203 Lifelong Learning ........................................................................................................ 209 Conclusion ................................................................................................................... 214 Professional Development ............................................................................................ 216 Finding Opportunity ................................................................................................... 219 Jobs and General Skill Sets......................................................................................... 221 Challenging Career Qualities .................................................................................. 225 Career Alternatives.................................................................................................. 229 Workplace Cooperation Between Roles ................................................................... 233 Campaigner–Analyst Cooperation ......................................................................... 233 Campaigner–Diplomat Cooperation ..................................................................... 239 Campaigner–Sentinel Cooperation ....................................................................... 245 Campaigner–Explorer Cooperation ....................................................................... 250 Conclusion ................................................................................................................... 255 Final Words ..................................................................................................................... 257

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The Puzzle of Personality

When they receive their personality test results on our website, most people’s first question is, “What do these letters mean?” We are of course referring to those mysterious acronyms – INTJ-A, for example, or ENFP-T. As you may have already learned from the type descriptions or articles on the website, the five letters of these acronyms each refer to a specific trait, with certain trait combinations forming various types and type groups. But before we discuss those traits in depth, let’s explore their historical foundations. Since the dawn of time, humans have drawn up schematics to describe and categorize our personalities. From the four temperaments of the ancient civilizations to the latest advances in psychology, we have been driven to fit the variables and complexities of human personality into well-defined models. Although we are still some time away from being able to do that, the current models account for our most important personality traits and can predict our behavior with a high degree of accuracy.

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Personality is just one of many factors that guide our behavior, however. Our actions are also influenced by our environment, our experiences, and our individual goals. This profile describes how people belonging to a specific personality type are likely to behave. We will outline indicators and tendencies, however, not definitive guidelines or answers. Significant differences can exist even among people who share a personality type. The information in this profile is meant to inspire personal growth and an improved understanding of yourself and your relationships – not to be taken as gospel. Our approach has its roots in two different philosophies. One dates back to the early 20th century and was the brainchild of Carl Gustav Jung, the father of analytical psychology. Jung’s theory of psychological types is perhaps the most influential creation in personality typology, and it has inspired many different theories. One of Jung’s key contributions was the development of the concept of Introversion and Extraversion – he theorized that each of us falls into one of these two categories, either focusing on the internal world (Introvert) or the outside world (Extravert). Besides Introversion and Extraversion, Jung coined the concept of so-called cognitive functions, separated into Judging or Perceiving categories. According to Jung, each person prefers one of these cognitive functions and may most naturally rely on it in everyday situations. In the 1920s, Jung’s theory was noticed by Katharine Cook Briggs, who later coauthored one of the most popular personality indicators used today, the MyersBriggs Type Indicator® (MBTI®). Briggs was a teacher with an avid interest in personality typing, having developed her own type theory before learning of Jung’s writings. Together with her daughter, Isabel Briggs Myers, they developed a

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convenient way to describe the order of each person’s Jungian preferences – this is how four-letter acronyms were born. Of course, this is just a very simplified description of the Myers-Briggs theory. Readers interested in learning more should read Gifts Differing: Understanding Personality Type by Isabel Briggs Myers. As we define personality traits and types differently in our model, we will not go deeper into Jungian concepts or related theories in this profile. Due to its simplicity and ease of use, the four-letter naming model is now shared by a number of diverse theories and approaches, including Socionics, Keirsey Temperament Sorter®, and Linda Berens’ Interaction Styles, among many others. While the acronyms used by these theories may be identical or very similar, however, their meanings do not always overlap. As a result, if you meet five people who say, “I am an INFJ,” their understanding of what that means may vary significantly. Regardless of its structure, any type-based theory will struggle to describe or characterize people whose scores lie near the dividing line. A different way to look at personalities is through the lens of a trait-based rather than a type-based model. What do we mean by that? Instead of creating an arbitrary number of categories and attempting to fit people within them, a trait-based model simply studies the degree to which people exhibit certain traits. You may have heard the term Ambivert, which is a perfect example in this case. Ambiversion means that someone falls in the middle of the Introversion-Extraversion scale, being neither too outgoing nor too withdrawn. Trait-based theories would simply say that an Ambivert is moderately Extraverted or moderately Introverted and leave it at that, without assigning a personality type.

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A trait-based approach makes it easier to reliably measure correlations between personality traits and other characteristics – for example, political attitudes. This is why trait-based approaches dominate psychometric research, but that’s more or less the only area where these approaches are dominant. Because they don’t offer types or categorizations, trait-based theories don’t translate as well as type-based theories into specific recommendations and takeaways. Assigned categories such as Extravert or Introvert may be limiting, but they allow us to conceptualize human personality and create theories about why we do what we do – something that a more scientifically reliable but colorless statement, such as you are 37% Extraverted, simply cannot do. With our model, we’ve combined the best of both worlds. We use the acronym format introduced by Myers-Briggs for its simplicity and convenience, with an extra letter to accommodate five rather than four scales. However, unlike Myers-Briggs or other theories based on the Jungian model, we have not incorporated Jungian concepts such as cognitive functions, or their prioritization. Jungian concepts are very difficult to measure and evaluate scientifically, so we’ve instead chosen to rework and rebalance the dimensions of personality called the Big Five personality traits, a model that is very popular in psychological and social research. Our personality types are based on five independent spectrums, with all letters in the type code (e.g. INFJ-A) referring to one of the two sides of the corresponding spectrum. We’ll talk more about these concepts in the next chapter. This approach has allowed us to achieve high test accuracy while also retaining the ability to define and describe distinct personality types. During the last few years, we have conducted more than 800 studies to uncover trends and correlations between personality traits and various behaviors. Many of

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these studies will be referenced in this profile, and additional information can be found in our online Academy. Our goal is to give you access to our sources without repeating ourselves or overwhelming you with information. If you are particularly interested in a specific study or its statistical characteristics, please feel free to contact us via our website, and we will do our best to provide additional information. With that aside, let’s dig deeper into the five personality aspects!

Five Personality Aspects Mind: Introverted (I) vs. Extraverted (E) The distinction between Introverts and Extraverts may be the oldest notion in the history of personality theories. It has long been observed that some people are expressive and outgoing, while others are reserved, quiet, and more comfortable alone. The first group recharges by engaging with the external world and communicating with other people, whereas members of the second group are energized by spending time alone and connecting with their own inner world. We focus on these differences in our first scale, which we call Mind. This scale – which is based on a person’s level of expressiveness and the degree to which he or she seeks external stimulation – determines how we see and approach the outside world, including people, objects, and activities. This scale correlates with a number of other personality traits, such as willingness to volunteer, desire to engage in thrill-seeking activities, and romantic assertiveness, to name just a few.

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On one side of this scale, we have Introverted individuals (the I letter in the

type

acronym).

You

might

associate Introversion with being private or withdrawn – or even clumsy or antisocial – but our studies show a far more complex picture. Generally speaking, Introverts do not seek or require much external stimulation. As you might expect, an Introvert requires less communication with others than an Extravert would, but an Introvert’s preference for less stimulation can also influence his or her hobbies, political attitudes, and even eating or drinking habits. To give a practical example, our studies have found that Introverts are less likely than Extraverts to enjoy coffee and energy drinks. But

what

Compared

about

Extraverts?

with

Introverts,

Extraverts are more interested in engaging with the people, objects, and environment around them. This preference manifests itself in many ways: Extraverts are less sensitive than Introverts to noise, for example, and they are likelier to wear bright and colorful clothes. Extraverts not only tolerate external stimuli, however; they actually need these stimuli in order to support their own energy.

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Extraverts are often energetic and willing to take the lead, especially in social situations. They enjoy pushing themselves to the limit and challenging themselves and those around them. Unlike Introverts, who are more cautious in their approach, Extraverts are likely to feel that they can handle life’s challenges without much forethought. Whether that turns out to be true depends on many other circumstances, but overall, Extraverts tend to be more proactive in experiencing – and embracing – the world around them. Worldwide, the three most Extraverted countries are Oman (61.66%), Yemen (59.44%), and Saudi Arabia (58.95%). The most Introverted countries are Japan (59.88%), Lithuania (55.85%), and Portugal (54.25%). In the United States, New York (50.92%), Mississippi (50.87%), and Illinois (50.64%) top the list for Extraverts, while West Virginia (53.62%), Alaska (53.6%), and Maine (53.41%) report the highest percentages of Introverts. Interestingly, if the District of Columbia were included in the comparisons, it would easily top the Extraverted list. In our study, the average Extraversion score for the capital city’s 23,310 respondents was 53.06% – significantly above New York, its closest competitor. Campaigners are Extraverted – they tend feel recharged after spending time in the company of other people, and consequently often have excellent social skills. As Extraverts, Campaigners enjoy taking the lead and speaking their mind, often going ahead and voicing their opinion as they develop it. People with this personality trait tend to instinctively connect with others, regardless of their background or personality, making them popular and well-liked in many circles.

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Energy: Intuitive (N) vs. Observant (S) Energy is the second scale in our model, and in our opinion it is the most important. While the other four scales determine how you interact with the world (Mind), make decisions (Nature), schedule your activities (Tactics), or react to external feedback (Identity), the Energy scale actually determines how you see the world and what kind of information you focus on. All personality types can be divided into those that favor the Intuitive energy style and those that favor the Observant energy style. Intuitive individuals tend to be visionary, interested in ideas and abstractions, and attracted to novelty. Observant individuals, on the other hand, prefer facts, concrete and observable things, and the tried and true. It is important to stress that this scale has nothing to do with how we absorb information: Intuitive and Observant types use their five senses equally well. Instead, this scale shows whether we focus on what is possible (making connections intuitively) or what is real (observing the environment). If you are familiar with the Big Five personality traits, you might recognize this scale as a reworking of the openness to experience concept, with a focus on preference for (and tolerance of) novelty and ambiguity. Individuals with the Intuitive trait rely on their imaginations and think in terms of ideas and possibilities. They dream, fantasize, and question why things happen the way they do, always feeling slightly detached from the actual, concrete world. Although they observe other people and events, their minds remain directed both inwards and somewhere beyond – always questioning, wondering, and making

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connections. When all is said and done, Intuitive types believe in novelty, in the open mind, and in never-ending improvement. In one 16Personalities study, we asked people whether they wish they had been born in the Age of Discovery (roughly speaking, the 15th through the 18th centuries). Our results showed that Intuitive types were much more willing to give up the convenience, comfort, and predictability of modern life in exchange for the excitement of exploration, distant civilizations, and the undiscovered mysteries of the New World. In contrast, individuals with the Observant trait focus on the actual world and things happening around them. Preferring to see, touch, feel, and experience, they are happy to leave theories and possibilities to others. They keep their feet on the ground and focus on the present, instead of wondering why or when something might happen. Consequently, people with this trait tend to be better at dealing with facts, tools, and concrete objects as opposed to brainstorming, theorizing about future events, or handling abstract theories. Observant types are also significantly better at focusing on just one thing at a time instead of juggling multiple activities.

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The Energy scale influences communication style as well. Intuitive individuals talk about ideas and have no difficulties with allusions or reading between the lines, while Observant types focus on facts and practical matters. This is why Intuitive types may find it challenging to understand someone with the Observant trait, and vice versa. Intuitive types may think that Observant individuals are materialistic, unimaginative, and simplistic, and Observant types may see their Intuitive conversation partner as impractical, naïve, and absent-minded. These assumptions and biases can be quite damaging, and it takes a mature person to get past them. Geographically, the Middle East and Asia have the largest percentage of Observant individuals, with 8 countries in the top 10 list. Saudi Arabia (71.94%), Oman (71.03%), and Yemen (69.76%) have the top scores among Observant countries, while Nepal (48.92%), Albania (48.51%) and Maldives (48.44%) top the Intuitive table. In the United States, North Dakota (59.43%), Minnesota (59.23%), and Iowa (59.04%) are the most Observant states. On the opposite side of the table, we have Nevada (43.92%), Rhode Island (43.75%), and West Virginia (43.47%). Campaigners are Intuitive individuals. This is why they are so good at seeing possibilities and honoring different points of view. People with this personality type spend more time engaging in various internal discussions than observing things around them. Campaigners are not that concerned about what is happening; instead, they focus on what might happen or why something has happened. Campaigners hone this focus throughout their lives, which makes them passionate and insightful thinkers. Of course, every stick has two ends, and focus on novelty and change comes at a cost. By directing their mental resources toward possibilities and the future, Campaigners

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inevitably lose sight of what is happening around them. They may have difficulties dealing with practical matters or data. If they aren’t paying attention, they may even miss something right under their nose. Because the majority of the population has the Observant trait, Campaigners may have difficulty finding a partner and connecting with others.

Nature: Thinking (T) vs. Feeling (F) The third scale, which we call Nature, determines how we make decisions and cope with emotions. While we all have feelings, there are significant differences in how different types react to them. This scale influences a number of areas of our lives, particularly our interactions with other people. People with the Thinking trait seek logic and rational arguments, relying on their head rather than their heart. They do their best to safeguard, manage, and conceal their emotions. “Whatever

happens,

you

must

always keep a cool head” – this is the motto of Thinking individuals. These types are not cold-blooded or indifferent, however. People with the Thinking trait are often just as emotional as those with the Feeling trait, but they subdue or override their feelings with their rational logic. In several of our studies, we analyzed the attitudes of different personality types toward philanthropy and charitable causes. Thinking types are significantly less likely to engage in charitable giving or to be touched by charities’ emotional appeals. Does “The Campaigner” (ENFP, -A/-T)

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this mean that they are unwilling to help? Not necessarily. It turns out that Thinking personalities don’t believe that giving money to charity is the best way to make a difference. They may look for other ways to be of assistance – for example, investing in education for the disadvantaged. In contrast, people with the Feeling trait follow their hearts and care little about hiding their emotions. From their perspective, we should not be afraid to listen to our innermost feelings and share them with the world. These individuals tend to be compassionate, sensitive, and highly emotional. They would rather cooperate than compete, although they are not naïve or easily swayed. In fact, people with the Feeling trait are likely to fight tooth and nail for their values and beliefs. For many Feeling types, principles and ideals are much more important than, say, professional success. Although this perspective might not seem rational, Feeling types generally adhere to their own highly individualized – and perfectly valid – logic. Worldwide, Iran (51.91%), Georgia (50.74%), and Albania (48.94%) report highest scores on the Thinking side of the scale. On the Feeling side, we have Singapore (61.41%), Australia (60.1%), and New Zealand (59.98%). In the U.S., northern states tend to be slightly more Feeling, but not significantly so. One interesting example is the contrast between Utah and Nevada: two neighboring states that are each first on opposite sides of the scale. In Utah, the average score is

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61.19% on the Feeling side, well above Minnesota (59.61%) and Idaho (59.54%), which take second and third place, respectively. Nevada, on the other hand, is the most Thinker-heavy state in our study, with its 34,576 respondents getting an average score of 42.99% on the Thinking side of the spectrum. While that still means Feeling personality types outnumber Thinking types significantly, we rarely see such differences between neighboring regions. Other top Thinking states include Delaware (42.71%) and New Mexico (42.7%). Campaigners have the Feeling trait – they trust and prioritize feelings, relying on moral and ethical arguments, and doing everything they can to stay true to their deeply held principles. People with this personality type are kind and sensitive, always able to find something positive regardless of the circumstances. The Intuitive and Feeling traits form the core of the Campaigners personality, making them very insightful, idealistic and open-minded individuals, capable of amazing feats, especially in fields related to morality, philosophy or diplomacy. However, they also push Campaigners away from the majority of the population, sometimes making it difficult for them to relate to other people, especially when it comes to accepting what they see as egoism and self-interest.

Tactics: Judging (J) vs. Prospecting (P) The Tactics scale determines how we approach planning and how we handle available options. The implications reach well beyond our calendars, however. At its core, this scale determines our attitudes toward certainty and structure in our lives. People with the Judging trait do not like to keep their options open. They would rather prepare five different contingency plans than wait for challenges to arise. These individuals enjoy clarity and closure, always sticking to the plan rather than going “The Campaigner” (ENFP, -A/-T)

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with the flow. It’s as if Judging types keep a mental checklist, and once a decision is crossed off that list, it is not open to reassessment. This mentality applies as much to grocery shopping as it does to life goals, like buying a house. Individuals with the Judging trait tend to have a strong work ethic, putting

their

duties

and

responsibilities above all else. Our research indicates that Judging types are also strict when it comes to law and order. Of course, this doesn’t mean that Prospecting individuals are lawbreakers, but if you see someone go out of his or her way to use a crosswalk, that person is likely a Judging type. In contrast, Prospecting individuals are flexible and relaxed when it comes to dealing with both expected and unexpected challenges. They are always scanning for opportunities and options, willing to jump at a moment’s notice. People with this trait understand that life is full of possibilities, and they are reluctant to commit to something that might prove an inferior option in the future. They also focus more on what makes them happy than what their

parents,

employers,

or

teachers expect. If a specific task is not

particularly

important

or

interesting, a Prospecting individual will always come up with something better to do.

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Looking at the geographical data, the global Judging-Prospecting chart has interesting similarities with the Extraverted-Introverted one. While these scales do not influence each other from a statistical perspective, many of the countries topping the Extraverted-Introverted charts have correspondingly high Judging-Prospecting scores. At the top of the Judging table we have Oman (58.05%), Yemen (57.78%), and Kuwait (55.8%), while the most Prospecting countries are Japan (55.21%), Nepal (53.74%), and Lithuania (53.62%). The map of the United States, however, does not show significant overlaps between these two scales. On the Judging side of the spectrum, we have South Carolina (51.05%), Alabama (50.97%), and Tennessee (50.8%). On the other side, the most Prospecting states are Alaska (51.2%), Vermont (50.86%), and West Virginia (50.76%). Campaigners are Prospecting individuals, and look for different ways to complete tasks or accomplish goals. Campaigners’ vast range of interests may lead to unfinished projects or missed deadlines, but these types would rather risk disappointing others than lock themselves into a position where existing commitments would limit their freedom. Campaigners tend to be removed from the real world, often paying far more attention to their latest mental exercise than to clutter around the house or dishes piled in the sink. Prospecting types are relaxed about their work or studies, refusing to get stressed about deadlines, templates, or rules when they still have free time.

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Identity: Assertive (-A) vs. Turbulent (-T) The last scale, Identity, affects all others, reflecting how confident we are in our abilities and decisions. In a way, this scale acts as an internal sensor, reacting to the input we get from our environments – for instance, success or failure, feedback from others, or pressure caused by unexpected events. The Mind and Identity scales are the alpha and the omega of our model, acting as an external shell that we wear in all of our interactions with the outside world. Later, we will discuss the four possible combinations of these traits, which we call “Strategies,” but in the meantime, let’s take an in-depth look at the Identity scale. Assertive

individuals

are

assured,

even-tempered,

selfand

resistant to stress. They refuse to worry too much, and they don’t push themselves too hard when it comes to achieving goals. Similarly, they are unlikely

to

spend

much

time

thinking about past actions or choices. According to Assertive types, what’s done is done and there is little point in analyzing it. Not surprisingly, people with this trait are generally satisfied with their lives, and they feel confident in their ability to handle challenging and unexpected situations. In contrast, Turbulent individuals are self-conscious and sensitive to stress. They experience a wide range of emotions and tend to be success-driven, perfectionistic, and eager to improve. Always feeling the need to do more, have more, and be more,

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Turbulent types may forget how exhausting this dissatisfaction can be – both for themselves and for the people around them. While the Assertive variant may seem more positive on the surface, that is not necessarily the case. Turbulent

individuals

are

more

willing than Assertive types to change jobs if they feel stuck in their current roles, and they think deeply about the direction of their lives. Turbulent individuals may also outperform Assertive types in certain instances, because they may care more about the outcome. The willingness of Turbulent types to push themselves may ultimately enable them to achieve their goals. Worldwide, Japan is by far the most Turbulent country, with an average score of 57.48% on the Turbulent side. Italy (53.8%) and Brunei (52.89%) come in second and third, respectively. On the Assertive side of the spectrum, we have Uganda (57.91%), Barbados (57.11%), and Nigeria (57.01%). In the United States, there is a clear east-west divide, with the East Coast being significantly more Turbulent. West Virginia (49.3%) takes the lead on the Turbulent side, followed by Rhode Island (48.84%) and Maine (48.73%). The most Assertive states are New Mexico (54.7%), Colorado (54.66%), and Hawaii (54.28%).

Type Groups Now you know what each type consists of. But how do they fit together?

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Our system has two layers: the first (inner) one defines our Roles, the second (outer) one, our Strategies.

Roles The Role layer determines our goals, interests, and preferred activities. Each of the four Roles covers a set of personality types that are very similar, and we will use these groups later in this profile to draw contrasts and similarities between personalities. They also serve to highlight the importance we have placed on the Energy trait. Each personality type will share either the Observant or the Intuitive trait with all other members of their group, as well as one other key trait. Campaigners belong to the Diplomat Role group, along with three other personality types: Advocates, Mediators, and Protagonists.

Analysts Shared traits: Intuitive and Thinking The personality types in the Analyst Role – Architects, Logicians, Commanders, and Debaters – embrace rationality, excelling in intellectual and technological pursuits. The Thinking trait makes Analysts exacting, and the Intuitive trait lets them apply their minds to almost anything, with their imaginations aiding calculated, strategic thinking, or seeing just how far the rabbit hole goes with a crazy scheme or thought experiment. These personalities are driven to understand and create, and have no problem switching between speculative musing and frank, solutions-oriented approaches to whatever problems are at hand. Broad, intelligent vision gives Analysts an ingenious

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air, but they can become overwhelmed and scattered if they don’t learn to hone these abilities and use them to advance a worthwhile cause or project. The biggest pitfall is that their intellect can give them a false sense of accomplishment. They tend to prefer the world of ideas to the sober reality of follow-through, and by assuming the role of critic instead of participant, Analysts sometimes risk being functionally outpaced by those who simply sit down and do the work. They can earn themselves the unsavory title of “armchair analysts” while those with more real-world experience continue to create real results. Analyst personality types can lack a proper respect for those of simpler vision and expression, whatever their background, and it can hold them back. Analysts value their intellect above all else, and it can be a challenge convincing them it’s worth checking their many hypotheses with an experiment or proper evidence to be sure. To many Analysts, if something makes sense in their minds, that’s as good as proved, and a great deal faster. Analysts can be brilliant, but they’re still human; under the influence of ego, these personality types can get in the habit of advancing clever opinions instead of objective facts. Analysts’ positive self-identity stems largely from their formidable drive to learn, and their clever and sharply witty banter can make them excellent debate partners. Often insatiable readers as well, Analysts can be found stockpiling books, questioning teachers, and driving conversations in forums across the world wide web. These types prefer their own processes and pace, and are energized by exercising their minds on their own time. Analysts are also relentless self-improvers. Once they’ve recognized a flaw, they apply all of this cold rationality, honest reflection, imagination, and desire for results

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to make it right. Analysts’ forceful, imaginative vision, when trained and focused, enables these personalities to conceive and accomplish things most thought impossible.

Diplomats Shared traits: Intuitive and Feeling Diplomats – Advocates, Mediators, Protagonists, and Campaigners – tend to be warm, caring, and generous individuals, shining in diplomacy and counselling. These personality types promote cooperation and harmony, tolerating discord only as a step towards positive change. Their perceptive abilities seemingly go deeper than the traditional senses – it’s as if they have a full set of tuning forks in their hearts that can resonate with people’s emotional states, and this empathetic sensitivity creates deep connections with others. This is not as mystical as it can seem. Diplomat personalities deeply value understanding, and a lifetime of self-reflection grants them insights into others’ motivations that they might not even understand themselves. Diplomats can use this to shape the way others feel, but it would be out of character for them to use this for ill. Diplomats’ people skills nurture friendship and healing with pure, genuine empathy. Causing distress feels to them like wounding their own psyche, so they prefer to gently nudge loved ones and strangers alike in a positive direction. Diplomats find the ideals of humanism rewarding: kindness, understanding, altruism, and growth warm them like a bonfire on a chilly autumn day. These personality types envision a prismatic, kind world.

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The Intuitive trait plays a big part in this optimism, but it also makes Diplomats sensitive to injustices that would jeopardize that ideal world. They can be aggressive against forces they perceive as evil, and are capable of steely action when they feel they have moral high ground. Diplomats’ sensitive emotions may flare to outright combativeness if provoked; with self-righteous momentum and weighty ideals, these personality types can steamroll others. If they let inspiration trump rationality unchecked, they can sometimes go too far, damaging the very causes they hold dear, however justified the outrage. Tempering this passion with cold practicality is a challenge for Diplomats. They are often reluctant to make and carry out tough decisions or plans lacking in empathy, and often struggle with carrying out a plan at all. They find greater satisfaction in abstract self-exploration and understanding the issues that affect those least able to defend themselves than mundane accomplishments and day-to-day tasks. Diplomats emphasize experience and understanding rather than calculable achievement. Among friends and family, Diplomat personalities can range from quietly caring to brightly gregarious, so long as they can pursue the mutual exchange of thoughts and feelings they value so highly. But they can overextend themselves in this more personal aspect of their lives as well – emotionally, physically, or even financially. Diplomats’ open hearts make them vulnerable when others aren’t as considerate, though they wouldn’t have it any other way. Someone must trust first, and they will almost always be the volunteer. Diplomats embrace travel as readily as anyone – they like exploring other cultures and people’s colorful ways. These personality types are creatively inclined, often practicing artistic expression in diverse forms, and see magical beauty where others

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see the hum-drum of daily life. For a group with such progressive attitudes, they also appreciate seeing things as they are, a pure expression of a way of thinking and being. Diplomats can be passionately inspired by experiences: music, cuisine, theater, nature, and anything else that goes beyond the obvious can rise to divine art in their eyes. Like a gardener planting in fertile earth, Diplomats seed the world around them with progressive change and gentle beauty. Diplomats feel connected to forces they may not fully understand, a deep sense of faith that may express itself, if not always through traditional religion, as spiritual belief. Diplomats pursue things with an underlying idealism and a sense of higher purpose; activism, spirituality, healing, the arts, and charity are common interests for these personalities. They have a conviction to serve a greater good, motivated by intangible rewards felt in the heart and soul.

Sentinels Shared traits: Observant and Judging Sentinels – Logisticians, Defenders, Executives, and Consuls – are cooperative and practical. Their grounded approach helps them feel comfortable with who they are, defining themselves not by individualism, but by character and competence. These personality types seek order, security, and stability, and tend to work hard to maintain the way of things, leading to a deserved reputation as the core of any group or organization, from family to church to the office and the factory floor. These types embrace teamwork, but expect the same performance and respectability from others that they strive for themselves. Sentinels often dislike strident nonconformity because they envision progress through collaboration and hard work within a known set of rules – to let everyone do their own thing on a whim

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would be anarchy. Sentinels prefer proven methods and honest accomplishment to self-indulgent exploration and esoteric ideas. Because these personalities are deeply prudent, they also tend to be self-motivated, and rarely need external inspiration to be productive. Their grounded perspective leaves little room for random musings, but Sentinels are not unimaginative. They experiment for anticipated gain rather than intellectual thrills, and excel in making challenging situations work. Revolution does not appeal to people from this Role, who tend to learn from the past and remain loyal to the tested truths and traditions they were brought up with. Where some see fascinating philosophy, Sentinels may see preposterousness: these personality types favor practiced methodology over abstract theory. Having authority allows Sentinels to practice their virtues. Effective in leadership roles, these types motivate others by energetic example and feel satisfaction from guiding a well-functioning group – they tend to make excellent teachers, managers, and community officials, as well as parents and hosts. These personalities are meticulous and traditional, excelling in logistical and administrative fields with clear hierarchies and rules as well. Opting for successful completion whenever they can, Sentinels can be controlling, but gladly compromise when needed to get things done. Sentinels feel rewarded by shepherding others, and enjoy coordinating and sharing fun social experiences with friends and family. They believe it is their responsibility to give their families safe, happy lives that prepare them for the real world. An appreciation of strong relationships allows them to share generously with those they respect and love – these types feel bolstered by having reliable people in their lives, and will do what they can to make sure they hold up their end of the bargain.

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Birthdays, dinner parties, and camping trips are delightful events under their enthusiastic direction. These personality types are happiest without drama, though their admirably stubborn loyalty can certainly attract it if they feel they need to stand by a friend, regardless of whether they’re in the right or wrong. Inconsistent people can test Sentinels’ tolerance and provoke harsh judgement. Sentinels tend to prefer predictability over novelty and familiar pleasures more than cutting-edge excitement. It can be difficult for Sentinel personalities to accept people who lack their studious ideals, but they often respond as engaged and caring mentors to those who wish to grow in that direction.

Explorers Shared traits: Observant and Prospecting Explorers – Virtuosos, Adventurers, Entrepreneurs, and Entertainers – possess a selfreliant mix of enthusiasm, quick thinking, and ingenuity that can lead to impressive personal and professional accomplishments. Comfortable with uncertainty and minimally concerned with preparation, these personality types simply adapt and overcome as events present themselves. Explorers’ flexibility helps them make snap decisions in the moment, and they’re unlikely to dwell on the future or the past. They aren’t obsessed with precise detail (unless they’re really in the zone, in which case they can muster a level of precision and focus that would make a seasoned engineer blush). Usually, they require workability rather than perfection. Explorer personalities are utilitarian masters of diverse tools and techniques, ranging from instruments and engines to the art of persuasion, and they distinguish themselves in crises, crafts, and sales.

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This versatile decisiveness doesn’t mean commitment, however. Explorers can change their minds with minimal regret or second-guessing. People in this Role dislike monotony, and often feel tempted to stray from obligations in favor of entertaining new things. They experiment with many interests and live and breathe whatever they connect with – for a time. If these personality types sometimes leave business unfinished, let clutter build up, or misplace important things, it’s because they’ve moved on to something fresh. Explorers enjoy being free of obligations, where they can indulge themselves or their interests on their own time. An Explorer might design and build their own dream house, enthralled with the process, but end up procrastinating on simple repairs after a few years. They are highly motivated when steering themselves through something interesting, but don’t like being restrained by anything “mandatory.” Their relaxed, free-form attitude makes Explorer personalities socially dynamic as well. They often seek out people and experiences that cater to their senses, finding more pleasure in stimulation than planning. They happily approach appealing strangers and interesting experiences, and when things get in the way of a good time, they apply their ingenuity to getting around it. Explorers want to see what happens next! The same themes run through their friendships and families, though these relationships have much more staying power than most other interests. Rather than forcing relationships into or out of existence though, Explorers let things flow naturally according to their desires. Compatible people simply become a part of their lives. These personality types tend to be individualistic and freedom-loving, going their own way with little regard for naysayers, but they do enjoy knowing that the people they trust will be around in the end.

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Explorers are highly spontaneous, connecting with and adapting to their environment in a way that is almost childlike in its wonder and sheer fun. It can be a challenge for them to work for things with a distant or unexciting payoff, as they need a sense of immediacy to feel truly engaged, but when they are passionate, Explorer personalities can move heaven and earth.

Strategies The Strategy layer reflects our preferred ways of doing things and achieving our goals. There are four strategies: Confident Individualism, People Mastery, Constant Improvement, and Social Engagement. Depending on their type variant, Campaigners fall under either People Mastery (Assertive Campaigners) or Social Engagement (Turbulent Campaigners).

Confident Individualism Shared traits: Introverted and Assertive Confident Individualists typically trust in themselves, and they often embrace solitude to pursue their own interests rather than seeking out social activity. Fascinated by personal projects, people following this Strategy often have an impressive range of skills and interesting ideas. But projects are usually only pursued for their own merit – Confident Individualists tend to feel that social displays and bragging are time and energy wasted. These personality types are proud of who they are, what they know, and what they can do, but they don’t feel the need to prove themselves to others. Confident Individualists engage their internal inspiration instead of searching for motivation outside themselves. They favor privacy, and aren’t particularly fond of “The Campaigner” (ENFP, -A/-T)

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interacting with society, whether in a strictly social sense or when embracing broader societal goals. These personalities often favor substance over superficiality and personal honesty over playing along, and prefer a utilitarian approach, even when pursuing esoteric goals. This utilitarianism also means that Confident Individualists are not easily drawn into emotional drama. They hold their own opinions firmly, but tend to see little reason to try to convince others. When drama does arise, these personality types express their truth with little concern over whether they’ll cause friction or offense. Confident Individualists tend to endorse self-reliance over cooperation, and are rarely pressured into agreeing with or lending support to others unless they believe in the cause. This relaxed self-assurance means that Confident Individualists may not push their boundaries. Their live-and-let-live attitude goes both ways: they don’t need to convince others, and they tend to expect others to return the favor. While highly capable, they can miss information and opportunities that challenge their views because they simply don’t place much importance on factoring in others’ approval. They can be tolerant in disagreement though, respecting others’ individualism just as they respect their own. When these personality types form friendships, they tend to be strong and honest. Because these types don’t feel like they need other people’s approval, their loyalty and affection is a deliberate expression of affection. Impressing a Confident Individualist earns their respect and care, and these types make for dedicated, passionate friends.

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Self-reliance is central for these types, and they handle difficult situations well because they tend to be emotionally secure, bold, and resistant to stress. They rarely seek leadership or the spotlight, but when they do find themselves in these positions, these personalities lead by an example of self-determination and uncomplicated honesty – they appreciate grace, class, and form, and rarely seek to impress by appearances alone. When acting with knowledge and wisdom, Confident Individualists can be noble pillars of strength.

People Mastery Shared traits: Extraverted and Assertive People Masters are highly stress-resistant, maintaining confidence through life’s challenges, social pressures, and any questions of their capabilities. These personality types seek social contact and have solid communication skills, feeling at ease when relying on or directing other people. People Masters’ mantra is fearless engagement – to be is to do. This is not a group known for its timid opinions or idleness. People Masters feel rewarded by stimulation and challenging experiences. They like travelling to see things, people, and places, where they can experience a richer understanding of the world around them. These personalities like sampling new foods, lifestyles, and cultures; even things they don’t end up liking can be entertaining excitement for them. Sometimes, though, People Masters are too confident. Insulated against self-doubt and the need to prove themselves, they don’t always test, or even consider, their own limits or ambitions. They can slip into a pattern of endless fun and comfort-seeking, rolling their eyes at those who press themselves towards more intimidating goals. At

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the other end of the spectrum, these personality types can just as easily ignore sensible caution, putting themselves in extraordinary and dangerous situations, confident they can find their way through. Most fall somewhere in the middle, embracing healthy ambition and competition so long as they play a meaningful part in social circles and leadership. Social interaction plays a big part in People Masters’ happiness. While not dependent on people’s approval for emotional security, they appreciate acclaim for their accomplishments and bright personalities, and can be a touch showy from time to time. These types are self-confident, but they are often lost without people to lead, laugh with, and love. Their charisma, self-assurance and boisterousness can sometimes be trying qualities. People Masters prefer cooperation, but have few qualms about dominating their opposition to achieve their goals, boldly promoting themselves and using their social skills to get ahead. This Strategy understands people’s needs, but can just as easily use this as a weapon rather than a tool of compassion if they have their sights set on something big. People Masters can compromise when needed, but these personality types tend to be better talkers than listeners. They can be very demanding, criticizing people’s performance regardless of their feelings because they expect no less of themselves. That said, these types are moderate in their disagreements because their ego and confidence aren’t at stake the way they often are for Turbulent Strategies. People Masters are not fond of grudges, content to let bygones be bygones. They are more likely to be socially idealistic, with the intent of bringing people together to make things happen – petty grievances just get in the way.

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People Masters’ charismatic virtues shine in social contexts, and these types have little fear of rejection and a passion for inclusion. They prefer to take the lead, but sharing the journey through other people’s eyes enhances their own enjoyment as well. People Masters share in all aspects of people’s lives, making these personalities strong, honest friends, parents, spouses, and colleagues, serving as wellsprings of energy, joy, and mutual success.

Constant Improvement Shared traits: Introverted and Turbulent Constant Improvers are sensitive and contemplative individuals who enjoy having their own space and freedom. They are often deep and creative individuals, though often tense and more comfortable on their own than mixed up in the judgment of the real world. With the two personality traits most representative of a sensitivity to their environment – Introversion and Turbulence – they are reserved when dealing with strangers or new situations, often turning inwards or focusing on peacekeeping instead. These personalities’ caution in the face of unfamiliar challenges can sometimes look like a lack of motivation, but this is usually just self-doubt – Constant Improvers have a strong drive, but it comes paired with a strong fear of failure. They invest a great deal of their identity in their successes, and even a minor misstep or embarrassment can be crushing. The vigilance learned from a lifetime of ups and downs gives these personality types a knack for sensing trouble. This is a strategic wariness that can be quite useful in situations that need to balance risk and reward, whether a financial investment or a romantic opportunity. Though they can seem frustratingly over-cautious to others,

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Constant Improvers would rather not face calamity, so they excel at avoiding it with preventive insights. Since they aren’t always comfortable with energetic exchanges with other people, Constant Improvers often direct their attention elsewhere, striving to master hobbies, careers, bodies of knowledge, or new means of self-expression. Their restless drive, self-doubt, and solitary mentality can combine to create impressive, beautiful results. High-achieving and perfectionistic, Constant Improvers generally try to do their best in their endeavors, dedicating tremendous time and energy. These personalities can put so much pressure on themselves that they diminish their own impressive accomplishments by fixating on the slightest flaws or dismissing successes as luck rather than skill or dedication. Taken too far, this perfectionism can also drive endless rumination – an unhealthy obsession with perfection will reveal flaws in the best plans, and Constant Improvers often feel forced to abandon a course of action because something doesn’t line up right. Whether working feverishly or picking at the threads of an idea though, Constant Improvers can be intense about their goals, and progress towards internal balance can lead them to amazing personal accomplishments. Alongside their personal efforts, these personality types also care a great deal what others think of them. This can be very useful, but they can take this to a fault: fixating on others’ expectations can sour social efforts into awkwardness. Constant Improvers are easily thrown off-balance by conflict, and may communicate timidly, or not at all, for fear of hurting people’s feelings, provoking a confrontation, or looking the fool.

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Sometimes it takes peer approval and active encouragement for this Strategy group to recognize their own virtues. These personalities often benefit from friends and colleagues patient enough to get to know them and who give them a chance to speak their minds. When treated considerately, these types become devoted partners and begin to reveal their kindness, insights, heartfelt support, and the complexities of their approach to the world, from sometimes (oddly specific) plans for obscure situations to starry-eyed ambitions.

Social Engagement Shared traits: Extraverted and Turbulent Those with the Social Engagement Strategy are an interesting group. In some ways, Extraversion and Turbulence conflict with each other: Extraversion leads to risktolerance and boldness; Turbulence reflects self-doubt and sensitivity. Turbulence also contributes to impulsivity, which Extraversion makes highly visible. This means Social Engagers tend to do what comes naturally first and think about it later. In this way, they are almost an exaggeration of their underlying personality types. This isn’t a bad thing. Social Engagers enthusiastically engage the external world, not content to live in their minds, drawing emotional security from positive interactions. In business and among loved ones, these types are usually the center of attention. Social Engagers meet the needs of the crowd in social settings, but they sometimes hide their true selves to impress other people. They appreciate social status, and often portray themselves as the person they aspire to – usually a purer form of their personality type – in order to achieve it.

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Social Engagers often experience stunning highs and lows as their Extraversion pushes their Turbulent need for success into overdrive and their Turbulence creates an immediate sense of regret, warranted or not. These personality types can be surprisingly competitive, measuring themselves against peers and hoping others notice their accomplishments, then retreat, suddenly becoming averse to conflict, leading them to apologize for or avoid confrontations – even those that ended in beneficial discussions. These personalities may falter occasionally in their self-confidence, but ultimately they are driven to improve and achieve. At the end of the day, they have no trouble blowing off some steam and enjoying a much-needed break, either. Social Engagers enthusiastically pursue stimulating and exciting experiences, especially with a group of friends. They much prefer to dive into an experience than to sit down for a reserved evaluation, though many will naturally regret their hot-headed lack of planning down the road. This push and pull between ambition and alarm, impulse and caution, highs and lows can itself be quite stressful, but it’s all part of this Strategy’s charm. These personality types are often restless in pursuit of their goals to improve their circumstances, but show their passion by indulging their desires through some earned fun (and maybe shopping for something impressive). Social Engagers work hard at their personal and professional development, striving to meet all manner of stringent standards, but they lead dynamic lives as well, filled with companionship, sharing adventures and accomplishments with others whenever possible. Whatever direction they pull, they are sure to pull the crowd with them. While the Strategies are important, this series of e-books simply doesn’t have the space to explore them properly. For now, we’ll focus on the inner core: The four Roles.

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Look to future updates to the series and our Academy to see this aspect explored more fully.

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Who Is “The Campaigner?”

Campaigners possess a strong zest for living. They want to get the most they can out of it. This book can guide them toward deeper self-understanding as an essential part of striving to be all they hope to be. Throughout this book, we discuss what Campaigners’ combined traits reveal about their unique personality type. We examine their behaviors and focus on their influence on personal growth, relationships, and academic and professional development. The paragraphs in this section outline the topics we will explore more deeply in later chapters to fulfill our goal of answering the question, “Who is the Campaigner?” However, these personality types describe real humans with different depths and varieties of experience. Even though their personality styles have many features that are uncannily similar, they’re still individuals with unique concerns. However, it’s their shared characteristics that we’re exploring, so, for the rest of this profile, we’ll stick with the name “Campaigner” in recognition of these commonalities.

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Personal Growth Campaigners exude a positivity that affirms this personality type’s faith in humanity. Though they might not linger long on any singular cause, the need to help others strongly motivates them. Like all Diplomats, Campaigners carry a sense of mission that usually involves making the world a better place by helping people explore their potential for growth. Campaigners grow most when they feel they’ve been instrumental in helping others grow. Their gift for spontaneity and novel approaches can produce fresh directions. However, they can also distract these types and cause them to lose focus. They sometimes overlook mundane but important things in life. For these types, growing may mean keeping their unique perspectives alive while also learning to discipline themselves and commit to a single direction. When Campaigners connect such focus to doing good for other people, they’re likely to take it more seriously. It’s vital for this outgoing personality type to connect with people. These types are imaginative, occasionally to the point of quirkiness. Their personal development may include reconciling these two opposing characteristics by becoming part of a crowd of people from whom they may be different. Learning to express themselves genuinely, despite the valued opinions of others they respect, can be their key to personal growth. Campaigners may eventually learn that winning favor by pretending to be someone they’re not doesn’t work for them. Those who come to this understanding recognize that authenticity is worth the risk. Relating to Others Campaigners believe in the power of social networks to change the world, and only by cooperating with other people can they create outcomes that far outstrip those

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any one person might accomplish. Campaigners love nothing more than to connect with someone new, whether it’s a business partner, a friendly acquaintance, or only a name on a screen. Conflict is their kryptonite, however, and they tend to go to great lengths to avoid even the slightest uneasy tension. As friends, Campaigners can be witty, spontaneous, and loyal – almost to a fault. Their intense empathy makes them companions who listen and try to understand their chums. They care enough to be there when they’re needed. Their Extraverted and Intuitive personality traits make them the perfect guides for exciting and memorable outings with friends. Campaigners in love can be among the most romantic of all the personality types. The trappings of romance aren’t lost on their sensitive natures and their rich appreciation for the symbolic. While not always the most organized of lovers, they can make up the difference with the degree of love and compassion they bring to their relationships. When children come on the scene, Campaigners can almost match their energy and enthusiasm. Children of Campaigner parents will likely never have to question their father’s or mother’s love. The warmth and sense of wonder they bring to a household is so genuine it’s almost childlike. Right and wrong are likely to be important topics at their dinner table. Academic and Professional Development Campaigners in school are quick to pick up ideas and curious enough to stay motivated in any learning environment. They learn best if they’re in a group environment that keeps them on task and organized, and their friendly disposition is likely to make them popular on campus – even if those around them think they’re

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unusual. As students, they’re likely to shine in classrooms that promote big ideas and the humanities, and can be less impressive in subjects that demand attention to details, like math or coding. On the job, Campaigners view their work as more than just a way to earn money. It’s a place of relationships and contributing for the greater good. They tend not to do well where the work is too detailed, or they’re micromanaged; to thrive, they need a little room to express themselves creatively and in their unique ways. Working with people places them in their occupational sweet spot and helps makes their work fulfilling. On That Note… This introduction has provided only an outline of Campaigners’ potential strengths and weaknesses. In these chapters, we discuss these areas in much greater detail and provide further information, as well as suggestions and resources for improvement in each area. Understanding one’s personality type is valuable, and we hope that this information proves useful.

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Spontaneous, perceptive, and intensely emotional, Campaigners make their presence known everywhere despite being a relatively rare personality type. One of the most likable and influential types, they inspire people, make friends everywhere they go, promote harmony whenever they can, and aid victims of injustices and calamity wherever they find them. These individuals make it look easy to balance their intense inner drive with their careful approach. Campaigners strive to achieve complete harmony between body and mind, and between emotions and intellect. They’re driven by emotions more than intellectual curiosity (although they need both to grow), and their sensitivity tends to expose them to near-constant emotional stress. This can threaten their self-confidence and potentially rob them of enthusiasm, inner strength, and their willingness to explore new directions. But their sensitivity doesn’t just bring only dark results. With selfimprovement as a primary focus in their lives, they’re also likely to find their emotions are a useful tool for discovering and building their strengths. In addition, their sensitivity girds their great empathy, producing the caring people they are.

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Personal development is a primary motivator for this personality type. A scattershot approach to life rarely brings the results they want, so, to grow and develop, they may first have to master channeling their energy and passion toward specific goals. Successful Campaigners learn that instead of limiting their life experiences, choosing clear and precise targets can lift their creativity and spontaneity to more practical places.

Motivation and Development Campaigners find their incentives in life from five closely related, but distinct, motivational components of personality that relate to their development. The first three are self-assessments that Campaigners satisfy for their sense of fulfillment and integrity – the fuel that launches personal growth. The final two involve strategies that help them realize the first three. Reflective Qualities •

Self-esteem speaks to Campaigners’ sense of worth. These types find their value in their compassionate attitudes and behaviors through their social connections.

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Self-respect speaks to how much Campaigners like themselves. They’re most pleased with who they are when they act out of empathy to help others.

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Self-confidence is the energy source that moves Campaigners forward in life. This is based on how connected they feel to their values and ideals. For these types, their true selves are their confident selves.

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Self-evolution describes the process of personal growth that Campaigners use to develop their potential. These are tactical action plans for satisfying the motivations spelled out in the Reflective Qualities.

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Self-responsibility is the ability to take charge of their decisions and consequences without depending on others or merely accepting all that happens as fate. Having a healthy sense of responsibility is the bedrock that serves as the foundation for the growth in their lives. The Balanced Life

In leading a balanced existence, Campaigners approach the different components of their lives as interconnected paths in a continuing journey of growth. As trite as the saying may be, development is a journey, not a destination, and it rarely occurs overnight. Those who keep this in mind, create clear goals, and persist can become more mature versions of themselves. These individuals get the best results when they live in line with their values. For these sensitive types to achieve true fulfillment they need to be true to their ideals and embrace their true selves. Others may see personal growth as a private and introspective matter. Not so Campaigners, who aren’t likely to found among navel gazers cloistered silently away. These types are involved in their worlds, and don’t separate their personal growth from their communities. If the five elements that affect personal growth become lopsided, they can become sources of overwhelming difficulty. Most often, such imbalances occur because Campaigners fail to apply traits effectively, or allow them to overheat. For example, the difference between self-confidence and brashness is moderation and a sense of

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security. When they’re confident, it naturally shows. When they try to mimic confidence to fight off a sense of insecurity, it can come across as arrogance. In these sections, we first examine Campaigners’ characteristics in their ideal and developed form. When all work together in healthy ways, they lead fulfilling, productive, and happy lives. These are the balanced expressions of their personality traits. Next, we describe the tendencies that emerge when Campaigners over-express or under-express their traits. These represent departures from healthy, productive responses to their self-assessment needs as described in the Reflective Qualities list. These are unbalanced expressions of their personality traits. Finally, we discuss how Campaigners can develop more well-rounded approaches to their characteristics. We provide positive tips and actionable steps, to aid their personal growth and to help them regain balance in their lives when needed.

Self-Esteem Self-esteem measures Campaigners’ sense of their worth. While walking in their skins and living their lives, what makes them valuable people? This question is one all people ask, whether consciously or subconsciously. For Campaigners, the answer lies in what degree they express their altruistic urges.

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usually profound, and often even spiritual. These types find their purpose when they allow their empathy to lead them to acts of compassion. Driven by their Intuitive and Feeling traits, they look for opportunities to help others. Campaigners can focus on individuals, but these social beings embrace as many as possible, sometimes all at once. Large-scale causes and enterprises create perfect opportunities for these individuals to connect with others and express their passions. They often work in helping or teaching professions, as these are ready-made groups with common interests. There, they can express their compassion and embrace larger communities with little need for them to be part of the organizing. Wherever they can help make the lives of others better, these types can fulfill their sense of worth. Genuine Interest in Others Open-minded and ever optimistic, Campaigners thrive on discovering what makes people tick, and they zoom past small talk for deeper, more intimate conversations. Why chat about the weather when there’s new green technology that could slow down global warming to discuss? However, such chats aren’t about Campaigner dogmatism. They crave knowing what others believe. New, interesting ideas and perspectives make their eyes light up. Tolerant, egalitarian, and genuinely interested in other people, they can be excellent counselors and advisers, helping those who struggle with life or just lack confidence. Campaigners inspire and motivate those around them with ease. Their determination to help others amazes everyone they meet, and positive feedback fuels Campaigners’ motivation. Where other types might become tired boosting others, Campaigners recharge and become invigorated by the good they do –

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providing a helping hand energizes them and boosts their self-esteem simultaneously.

Unbalanced Self-Esteem Missing the Mark These types’ fondness for compassionately connecting as a way of bolstering their self-esteem may have pitfalls if allowed untethered expression. Campaigners are usually dead-on when assessing other people’s natures, but they can develop blind spots if they’re trying too hard. While they’re Empathic and Intuitive, they can take their personal insights into the motivations and behaviors of others too far. Producing lavish conclusions based on their flashes of intuition can cause them to miss the mark, leaving them entirely wrong. This can hurt both their credibility and their effectiveness. Some Campaigners lack the capacity to moderate their sense of authenticity, and may feel obligated to speak the truth in its raw form, sometimes forgoing the diplomatic approach for which they’re typically known. Although they may sometimes speak “truths” people don’t want to hear, especially when conversations touch on their listeners’ fears and insecurities, it’s not that they’re blunt or cruel. Rather, they simply want to offer their best versions of the truth as they understand them. When they present their insights as absolutes and discover they’re wrong, it can compound the problem. Because of their easy-going manner, people often expect Campaigners to reaffirm their own beliefs instead of giving honest advice or criticism. If they miss the mark with their assumed truths, others may see them as unreliable, or they may see themselves that way. This might cause them to withdraw and lose connection to the

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crux of their self-esteem – compassionate interactions with others. What was intended to build their self-esteem may, in the end, separate them from its source. The Problem with Sainthood All humans have limited capacities, and life needs balance. However, since compassion markedly affects Campaigners’ sense of worth, they may take expressions of their good-heartedness to extremes to prove they have value. When this happens, no sacrifice is too much, and they can take on an unmanageable number of opportunities to help others, ultimately overburdening themselves. Sainthood has its attractions, but striving for the heights of altruistic excellence is taxing – and risky. Burnout is a real danger for these types. Taking on other people’s problems as their own with no objective distance, and without taking breaks, can drain them. Mental, emotional, physical, or material martyrdom can limit the extent Campaigners can help others.

Rebalancing Self-Esteem Combining Heart and Mind While Campaigners lead with their feelings, it’s essential they expand their comfort zones by applying common sense and rationality, especially when dealing with others. Most would agree that there’s not enough empathy in the world, and intuitive flashes can be valuable. But there’s a place in the middle that honors their wholesome impulses, and adopting or developing logic-based strategies for their kindhearted interests can help Campaigner stay on a reasonable and sustainable course.

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While these types can be prone to giving honest counsel, they must also be strategic if they hope to help. Learning to blend their authenticity with some diplomacy and respect for concrete facts can help them find balance and preserve healthy connections that feed their sense of worth. A sensible approach, based on rationality and reasonable detachment, can help prevent the misunderstandings and complications that may arise from the assumptions Campaigners sometimes make. Learning to balance relying on instinct with taking the time to get the full details of a case takes practice and patience, but doing so can create more respectful relationships. It may also help all involved gain greater trust in Campaigners’ potentially formidable wisdom. Those in need of balance in this area can try the following exercise. •

Divide a piece of paper into three columns. Label them “Truth,” “Avoidance,” and “Diplomacy.”

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Practice the exercise until it becomes second nature. Then, concentrate on combining the first (Truth) and the third (Diplomacy) whenever delivering opinions or insights.

The truth doesn’t have to be harsh. Being genuine doesn’t mean always pouring out unedited information. If there are too many hurt feelings, or disillusioned friends and

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acquaintances, Campaigners can explore the difference between stating alienating, raw truths and tactful sharing. The Art of Self-Care Individuals with the Campaigner personality type can conserve their energy if they understand that they can both take and give in life without neglecting either. The obvious antidote to burnout from self-sacrifice is self-care. Campaigners who balance their need to be altruistic with managing their own health and well-being can fortify their personal strengths. As a bonus, such balance fosters happiness. Self-care means placing one’s own life requirements first – at least temporarily. Finding time for nurturing the body, mind, and soul is essential for everyone, but especially for benevolent Campaigners who are in danger of depleting themselves through their generosity. Self-care means getting enough sleep, eating well, cultivating personal relationships, exercising, and having fun. Campaigners can use the following exercise to start with fun. •

Take a deep breath. (Breathing is always a great way to start self-care.)

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Think back to some recreational activity relegated to the past – something that hasn’t been done in the last five or more years. It should be something that was fun, not something that was abandoned because it grew to be routine or unpleasant in any way. Perhaps it’s bowling, karaoke, water skiing, or going to a movie in the middle of the day.

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Make a date to revisit the chosen carefree pastime of yesteryear. Invite someone else if so inclined.

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Try letting the fun set the tone for a while after the activity. Use the memory to lighten up when things get heavy.

Enjoyment is just the beginning, though. It’s vital for Campaigners to find time for themselves, even if that calls for earmarking “me time” on their calendars. Eating, sleeping, loving, living, and having fun aren’t only essential to a healthy life – eventually, they can also contribute to a productive one.

Self-Respect Campaigners with positive self-respect are simply people who like themselves. When self-respect is strong, they have no fear of looking in the metaphorical mirror because they like what they see. Individuals do more for the people they like and treat them better. The same principle applies to self-respect. People who like themselves are happier and more satisfied with their lives. They’re likely to care for themselves better and make healthier choices for their lives.

Balanced Self-Respect Principles Informing Deeds Campaigners like themselves when they do good for others, but their sense of selfrespect comes from more than performing simple good deeds. These types live in a world of ideas and theories filtered through their emotional decision-making preferences. How they contribute stems more from a broader ideology than specific charitable opportunities – although, for responsive Campaigners, the two tightly intertwine. When they see someone in need, they’re likely to go with their empathy and try to help. Consequently, they boost their self-respect.

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While they express their generous impulses reflexively, this doesn’t mean they don’t base their expressions on solid principles and foundations. Helping a struggling friend by delivering much-needed groceries is more than the practical act of feeding someone for whom they care. It’s also a need to make the world a place where nobody goes without, and when they feel they’ve contributed to that principle, they like who they are. Their personal approach might seem general and vague at times, but nobody should ever confuse that with being “poorly-considered.” It’s well-founded in their values, and they glean their self-respect from expressing those values. Motivated by Empathy Campaigners’ good works involve helping those they see in need, rather than seeking out social causes. They’re more likely to respond in daily life than to create or join a crusade, and they lead from their empathy more than from their sense of duty or an organized mission. This often makes their expressions of compassion more personal and “grassroots.” Their self-respect comes from lending a helping hand more than joining a movement. Giving bread to the hungry isn’t enough, however. Discovering why the poor can’t access food for themselves is something Campaigners are likely to mull over – maybe even obsess about. Their “big picture” thinking seeks to uncover the core of social problems even as they take care of more immediate, individual concerns. However, any outrage they feel is likely to remain in the realm of ideas and value statements. While they may rail against society’s inequities, they prefer to respond to people directly from their empathy rather than to reform a system.

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In practical terms, those who like themselves may have many strong opinions and ideas about the world. Nonetheless, their self-respect isn’t likely to emerge primarily from their notions of how society should work. Instead, the source is likely to be their sense of how they respond to others.

Unbalanced Self-Respect Impossible Standards Since Campaigners’ idealism is so linked to their empathy and the compassionate acts that provide them their self-respect, disillusionment can become a disruptor in that potentially delicate balance. “Perfect” is their ideal – and yet there’s little in the world without flaws. When their pristine principles fuel behaviors that lead to their self-respect, disappointment on some level is likely to be a frequent occurrence. It’s hard for even the most optimistic Campaigners to perform tasks they need for selfrespect if life chronically disenchants them and tells them they’ve missed the impossibly perfect mark. Their dreamy idealism can also hobble the relationships they need and desire. Campaigners are certainly among the most gregarious and popular personality types, but practical people may roll their eyes at the philosophies and wishes of these dreamers. A cycle of defeat can form as their moral perfectionism pushes them to help others who just can’t connect with such intense scrupulousness – potentially rejecting their ideas as too unrealistic. Campaigners are sensitive “people who need people,” but their principles can prevent them from fulfilling that essential part of their lives. When they can’t connect in meaningful and caring ways, their self-respect suffers.

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The Burden of Empathy On the surface, being popular and empathic may seem enviable, but they can be a particularly stressful burden when combined. Empathy extends beyond sympathy and just feeling sorry or happy for someone – it dives in and shares the sadness or joy experienced by others, and it’s a core part of Campaigners’ character. There’s personal investment in empathy, and buying into one other person’s grief or misfortune can be taxing. When multiplied by the sum of people in typical Campaigners’ lives, and considering their caring and inviting natures, amassing shared emotions can become enervating. When these types carry excessive amounts of other people’s emotional baggage, the results can quickly become negative. They are sensitive and less likely than most to regulate more difficult emotions. The resulting stress can cause many difficulties by influencing mood and behavior, and if the pressure becomes too much even gregarious Campaigners may withdraw from the very interactions that bring them self-respect.

Rebalancing Self-Respect Celebrating an Imperfect World While Campaigners do reach out to others in a big way, there’s still that Intuitive pull to overthink things too much. Their closely-held ideals are foundational, and the goal is to preserve them. However, fertile imaginations sometimes arrive at unrealistic places and notions. To restore self-respect, these types need to act compassionately; to realize these compassionate intentions, they must be grounded in the real world, and tempered by common sense.

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Sometimes setting the idea of perfection aside means getting out of one’s head and back into the material world, where blemishes and reality abound. Stepping away from the theoretical and the ideal can restore Campaigners who lose themselves in fantasy. Fortunately, these types are the most observant among the Diplomats, and their curiosity supports engagement of the senses and connection to the present moment. Here is a list of suggestions that can help these types reconnect with the physical, tangible world: •

Meditation, mindful eating, and yoga all bring the gift of the here and now by dealing with “what is” rather than “what should be.” Try one of them.

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Playing a sport brings the gift of physicality, and the reality of competition and challenges.

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Dancing is a physical action that connects beautifully to the emotions.

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Gardening is a physical, creative act that can even contribute to better nutrition.

Approaching the world with something as finite as touch or smell can rebalance Campaigners’ drive for self-respect by helping them reconnect with the imperfect world to which we all belong. There’s a practical side to showing compassion, which they can lose if their focus is too broad and idealistic. Grabbing hold of the gritty, concrete world can help these dreamers restore balance. Dropping the Baggage There’s little danger of Campaigners ever becoming hard-hearted, but becoming more measured in how they give their hearts and minds to the plights of others can help balance their lives. Making wise choices helps them keep up their energy so they

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can direct it meaningfully. The Serenity prayer helps twelve-step program participants approach life in a more even manner, but its wisdom exceeds any program or religious doctrine. The prayer asks for three things: The serenity to accept the things that can’t be changed, the courage to change the things that can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Campaigners who relate to other people in similar ways tend to manage their personal energy and emotional resources better. Instead of investing in everything that pulls at their heartstrings, learning to prioritize and commit to only that which they can change can help them find balance. This can be challenging for optimistic, caring Campaigners, who want to see the potential for growth and improvement in everyone and everything. However, learning that not every problem has a solution – and not everybody can be saved – can help lift an excessive burden from their shoulders. It’s possible to care deeply about someone and still not be able to help them. When such distinctions are made, these types can wisely perform the compassionate acts that their self-respect demands while not burning out and leaving them useless to others. Here are some steps Campaigners can take to practice accepting things that cannot change: •

For this exercise, dedicate a trash basket and place it in a conspicuous place. Then, count out 12 index cards or small pieces of paper.

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On each of the cards, write something that must be accepted about the plight of someone who is close – something that can’t be changed. Take as much time as needed to come up with twelve. It doesn’t have to be completed in one session.

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Don’t assume that this act will end empathetic feelings toward even those who have problems that can’t be helped. Those feelings will remain – but, hopefully, a more practical perspective will be gained as well.

Campaigners’ primary impulse tends to be to always help anyone in need, and that’s unlikely to change. However, being more judicious in where to put their efforts can make a difference in the quality of Campaigners’ lives.

Self-Confidence Self-confidence is the internal impetus that gives people the emotional energy to move forward. When Campaigners feel self-confident, it’s due to a certainty that assures them they’re on the right side of the truth, according to their own standards.

Balanced Self-Confidence Connected to Their True Selves Campaigners’ confidence comes from feeling connected to their true selves. They hate anything they regard as phony, and always strive to be as “real” as possible. To be confident, people with this personality type must know they’re being true to who they are. In their minds, once they make that connection, they have no problem green-lighting the directions they want to pursue as correct paths. Yet even confident Campaigners can question themselves along the way. Openminded and flexible in their thinking, they open themselves to alternatives and course corrections. But this doesn’t necessarily spoil their sense of being who they believe they are and doing what they believe they should. These types develop confidence by aligning with their basic character, and that character informs the

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details of their lives. It’s not the other way around, as it for some types. Outward details may change, but their self-confidence doesn’t come from circumstances. It comes from their honest wish to match their actions with their values. They tend to still feel confident even if they don’t always get the results they want. Socially Authentic While being and working with people is another energy source for Campaigners, they aren’t willing to join with others at any cost. Such interactions must correspond closely with their values, which they place above even their exuberant social interests. When Campaigners are at their strongest, they know their social selves match their values-based selves, and they can make the two selves work together seamlessly. Confident Campaigners are people of integrity, since their values are likely to reflect the greatest good for others. It’s a safe “tell” if one is seeking to evaluate their honesty.

Unbalanced Self-Confidence Identity Confusion When people with the Campaigner personality type lack confidence, it’s because they doubt that they’re acting according to their personal values. Perhaps it’s partially because their unrealistic perfectionism provides them a faulty measure of what that means. Since their confidence hinges on staying true to their own identity, a sense of doubt about who they are and what they stand for can cause them to succumb to “identity panic.” If these types should suspect they hold flawed self-knowledge, they

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can lose confidence, which can lead to a vicious cycle of self-doubt – and self-fulfilling prophecies. When they lose touch with their core identity, Campaigners can lose the energy called for to carry out the tasks that fulfill them. They may fall into a motivational paralysis. Or, alternately, they may increase their activity, hoping that will help them restore confidence in their self-definition. They may rationalize that if one acts like a good person, one is then a good person inside. However, this reverse approach is likely to be flimsy and hard for these types to maintain. Their confidence comes from connecting to what’s within, not without. Outsider Status Since their Extraverted natures drive them so vigorously, Campaigners value the energy they get from other people – it defines them as much as anything else. Yet they still need confidence, which is the product of their authenticity, and preserving authenticity can be challenging for these rare, sensitive types, who can feel as though who they are isn’t “acceptable” or “normal.” It's difficult to blend their need for social contact with their sometimes-quirky expressions of who they are. The social Campaigner and the unorthodox Campaigner are both true expressions of the Campaigner personality, but both expressions can sometimes compete, creating a contradictory tension that leads to a crisis of confidence. When this happens, they can feel they must choose between a conventional social persona and an unconventional, creative one – think of a zany comic actor at a conservative cocktail party. There are creative ways to make it work, but not all settings allow such flexibility. Campaigners may have to forgive themselves some

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disingenuousness to navigate a specific social engagement. Unfortunately, this can damage their self-confidence in the process, at least in that setting and for that time.

Rebalancing Self-Confidence Removing Doubt by Accepting Weakness “Know thyself” includes knowing one’s weaknesses, and, unsurprisingly, most Campaigners know and understand their weaknesses, and how to address them when necessary. Some might even say that “weakness” is a loaded word and a matter of perspective – some people are better than others at certain things, but no one is good at everything. Exploring their weaknesses can help these types realistically anchor their sense of who they are. Knowing their weaknesses doesn’t mean they should dedicate all their time and energy to addressing them, however. The acceptance of imperfection can sometimes bring more results than clinging to a misguided need to be perfect (or at least appear perfect), and Campaigners often find balance when they can check their perfectionistic tendencies. The following exercise can be used as a small step toward restoring a clear perspective on perfection: •

Choose an activity that’s challenging but not overwhelming. It might involve participating in a sport or artistic activity, doing a small, affordable home repair... anything considered a challenge. (Make sure to pay attention to all safety issues, and keep in mind that a good challenge is one that’s difficult, but not impossible.)

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When finished, assess the activity. Was it perfect? Even if it wasn’t, was it a worthy effort? Celebrate the flaws with a good laugh.

On the surface, being perfect may sound like the most responsible attitude to take. However, nothing kills a sense of self-confidence faster for Campaigners than thinking perfection is essential for being the people they are meant to be. Being a Breath of Fresh Air Campaigners may need to learn to walk on the balance beam that separates the more conventional world from their imaginative one. The trick is being true to themselves while honoring their social instincts. Nobody likes to feel like an outcast – especially not Extraverts. However, Campaigners are a rare personality type, and not everyone is likely to understand their unique worldview. The best solution can be for them to accept that, if their goal is to be genuine, being true to themselves may not always win popularity contests. It’s like the saying, “If you try to please everybody, you’re likely to end up pleasing nobody.” If they compromise their sense of identity and allow their self-confidence to plummet, these types won’t be pleased at all. Discretion and judgment are valuable qualities. Everyone adapts for social reasons occasionally, it’s just a matter of degree and learning when to measure behavior against decorum or shared sensibilities. This may be something Campaigners must cover while learning their life lessons. Then again, maybe their quirkiness is what the world needs. English writer G. K. Chesterton, who is often referred to as the “prince of paradox,” wrote, “Do not free a camel from the burden of his hump; you may be freeing him from being a camel.”

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This can be helpful for Campaigners in taking the first step toward discovering and owning their uniqueness: •

List five things that make you different from most people you know.

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Choose one of them and find some way to highlight it. For example, a lefthanded person might playfully refuse to use their right hand for a meal. They may keep their right hand in their lap. They may explain it as a quirky experiment.

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Note the reactions of those involved. Are they critical? Who is laughing along with the experiment? Who is rolling their eyes benignly? Are there any bad reactions?

People who stand out for whatever reason learn that accepting themselves is a necessary element for having a fulfilling life. Campaigners who revel in their uniqueness are likely to be happier than those who are self-conscious. If they’re true to themselves, they boost their confidence and are comfortable in their own skins. Such confidence should make the reveling easier.

Self-Evolution The term “self-evolution” describes a more purposeful effort of setting up individual identity and direction. This involves tactics and strategies to fulfill self-esteem, selfconfidence, and self-respect needs. Campaigners not only enjoy the process, but find meaning in the process itself, and see it as carrying the same important as the results.

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Balanced Self-Evolution Constant Self-Improvement Campaigners, as with most Diplomats, are interested in continued self-improvement. Self-evolution goes beyond just self-improvement, however, focusing more on developing individual values, goals, and purpose. Those successfully navigating the process of self-evolution adhere to their core values, exploit their strengths and weaknesses, and develop their life goals. Campaigners define life as growth, and to achieve satisfaction, they must have some sense that growth is constantly occurring. There are two ways to approach growth: allow it to happen through a rough-and-tumble, trial-and-error course, or plan their own evolution through ambition (no matter how benign) and deliberate experiences. While everybody faces some of the first as life inevitably teaches its lessons, the second is the stuff of self-evolution. Campaigners who control their own future embrace the second through planning, training, and acting in ways that nurture their growth. Self-Development and the Community As personal and sometimes introspective as self-evolution can be, Campaigners still include other people in the process. Since they define themselves through their social context, growth outside of other people’s company is difficult for these types. They never stop being individuals with unique ways of expressing themselves, but they must share their individuality for it to mean much to them. When they grow, Campaigners involve people around them, tailoring their selfimprovement plans around their interactions with their communities. It makes sense

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to become the individuals they’re going to become within their natural habitat, the social arena. While some may go off to quiet places to find themselves, Campaigners are likely to look for themselves in the din of the crowd, and their self-evolution goals typically reflect that.

Unbalanced Self-Evolution Lack of Focus Campaigners show enthusiasm and passion when they care about something, but they can struggle with a lack of focus when they’re unable to align their passions or pursuits with their personal values and goals. There’s always so much personal growth they can accomplish that it may be hard to concentrate on just one thing. This personality type is notorious for their attention to potentials and possibilities. While this is an asset when forming ideas, it offers little help in forming commitments – and deliberate personal development needs commitment. An underlying lack of direction is likely to influence Campaigners to go with the flow, making no effort to control their desires and ideas. Those who don’t manage their own destiny can experience commitment issues in relationships, jobs, education, and even fitting in among friends. Overlooking Details and Strategies Passionate and idealistic, Campaigners often direct all their attention toward larger ideas, and they frequently missing small but significant details as a result. A great and noble project can fail if no one checks the legal details, handles administrative tasks, or manages the workload. The same principle can apply throughout the lives of Campaigners when they fail to make grocery shopping lists or pay the bills. Self-

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improvement can easily become a fool’s errand if they neglect details critical to success. To guarantee they’ll successfully complete a project or goal, Campaigners need to manage their tendency to be distracted. These types must make sure that their minds always stay on track, especially if a phase of the process is relatively dull, or else they risk losing sight of their goals. It’s not enough to assess a problem and to empathize with its victims. Strategic solutions are also needed. Similarly, it’s not enough to imagine how they might grow as individuals. Creating a detailed roadmap to growth can make accomplishing it a lot more likely.

Rebalancing Self-Evolution Maintaining Focus Self-evolution needs self-control, and learning self-control takes practice. To keep their focus, Campaigners must intentionally and purposefully figure out how to direct their attention to a specific task without losing themselves to internal and external distractions. Campaigners are creative and almost constantly inspired, which can make focusing on one task for an extended period difficult. To help, people with this personality type can address the weaknesses described in the “Lack of Focus” section above, especially their tendency to avoid commitments. Building plenty of time into the day to let the mind wander can help them be more attentive when it’s needed. After all, some of the greatest insights in human history came from wandering minds. Knowing when to let the mind drift and when to focus is an important part of fostering results in life. Setting breaks as priorities makes longer periods of focus

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easier to achieve. Developing the ability to think creatively, and to make detailed plans from those creative ideas, ensures plenty of opportunities for Campaigners. A good exercise to explore the balance between a productive wandering mind and productive focus involves brainstorming and goal-setting as a two-step process. To try this, Campaigners can follow these steps to plan their next day off in the following fashion: •

Write down no fewer than 15 things that can be done with the free hours ahead. Don’t worry about how plausible they are at this stage, so long as they are at least close to realistic. Fifteen is a lot, but brainstorming is all about pushing the limits of the imagination.

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From the 15, pick three that can be done during the next few hours. Choose by any preferred criteria: Urgently needed, enjoyable activity, will make a friend or partner happy, etc.

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Gather the supplies, manpower, or whatever is needed. Work through the steps. Measure the results.

Campaigners who explore this exercise can experience two things: an opportunity to enjoy their native imaginative and creative side, and the opportunity to develop a detailed plan and see it through. The more these types adopt this rhythm, the more likely they are to keep their balance when working through their self-evolution.

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Committing to Well-Considered Plans Practical problems often require specific, detailed solutions. Campaigners interested in personal development often recognize the need for making rational, logical decisions, but treat rationality and a details-oriented approach as the opposite of creativity and imagination. This thinking, although common, underrepresents the capabilities of Campaigners. Rather than thinking of rationality as the opposite of the way Campaigners think, it can be more useful to think that adding strategic ideas can expand and extend their imaginative, unique notions. Why squander a strength that they can use? Instead of changing how they think to make them more like other types, developing their imagination to widen its scope can be the key. Here are some exercises that can be used for expanding imaginative thinking in this way. •

First, imagine each of the following scenarios as deeply and completely as possible. Closing the eyes may help. Respond to the following four scenarios in as imaginatively practical and detailed terms as possible. There’s no right answer. Have fun with them. o You’re on a beach. A tidal wave is visible on the horizon to the south. To the north is a sheer cliff that extends for more than a mile in each direction. How do you escape? You have only minutes to decide. o A time traveler from the future appears and seems to know a lot about you. He can’t give you advice or directions, but he can tell you one predetermined fact about your life that can lead you on a path to an outstanding future. It’s got to be just one fact. No opinions. No

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impressions. No advice. Just a concrete fact. How do you decide what to ask? o List five ways that you can affect the world by simply getting up tomorrow. o Think of three ways that the smartphone could bring about world peace. These are difficult scenarios – a couple of them border on impossible, and clearly don’t provide enough information. Yet critical and strategic thinking aren’t just about learning a technique that magically connects all the dots and leads to one right solution. Such methods are unlikely to work with Campaigners, who like to create their own paths, anyway. For them, critical thinking is about expanding what they already own – their imaginations – to construct practical, specific solutions that can contribute to their growth and creative goals.

Self-Responsibility Self-responsibility is Campaigners’ ability to take charge of their decisions and results without depending on others or accepting all that happens as fate. When they assign their actions honestly, they can take credit and blame with integrity. They know what they can control and what they can’t.

Balanced Self-Responsibility Independent, but Not Alone Self-responsibility sounds simplistic, but many people struggle to achieve this ideal. Campaigners can develop healthy degrees of self-responsibility by functioning independently, and following interests without relying on others’ opinions. Those “The Campaigner” (ENFP, -A/-T)

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who are responsible act on their values or conscience without feeling guilty or probing to discover what others think before making their own decision. Taking responsibility in these areas is essential because many of their self-esteem, selfrespect, and self-confidence issues depend on how they handle their values. This doesn’t mean these social individuals prefer solitude; they can happily go with the consensus of groups who honor their ethics. But part of Campaigners’ selfresponsibility is seeing how far they can go with others and still uphold their own principles. When everything is in perspective, they understand that they alone are responsible for their actions and attitudes. Morally Proactive Campaigners who practice self-responsibility know their core values and use them to achieve their personal goals. Self-responsibility goes beyond self-understanding, however – it means fulfilling their hopes and taking responsibility for their results, both good and bad. For Campaigners to fulfill their other growth needs, it’s essential that they take an active role in expressing their values and ideals. It's not responsible to allow priorities to slide. It’s also not responsible to wander aimlessly through life ignoring personally important issues. Campaigners see faithfulness to their own concerns as a moral issue, and are likely to proactively fulfill anything they regard as an obligation. These types consider it unacceptable to let themselves and other people down, so they often step up to support the needs of others.

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Unbalanced Self-Responsibility Independence Lost No matter what the personality type, self-responsibility demands some measure of independence; it’s almost part of the definition. When Campaigners cling to their values, they’re likely to take responsibility for living them independent of the view of other people. However, the social parts of their lives are also important, and there lies the potential for conflict. Should their convictions run counter to the opinions of those they care about, hard choices can be necessary. These choices can be weighty for this sensitive type, who depends so heavily on their connections to others. Those Campaigners who question themselves and have difficulty with their selfesteem, self-confidence, or self-respect might rely on another source of energy and approval: other people. Extraverts sometimes struggle with giving their intrinsic motivations – motivations that come from within – proper weight against the demands of extrinsic motivations that come from outside. It’s no different for Campaigners, even with their focus on morals and values. Sometimes the urging of the crowd is more compelling than the call of the conscience, especially when these types are weakened or in a state of uncertainty. Becoming Helpless With all the effort they put in, the disconnect Campaigners experience between their aspirations and their accomplishments can feel like failure. They can acquire a sense that no matter what they do, they never gain traction. People in this dilemma may soon ask, “Why bother?” Since Campaigners are so idealistic, their failures may not even feel real – instead, they can come across as examples of the imperfection common to all people. No matter the source of these frustrations, they can strip

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Campaigners of their sense of control – without which it’s reasonable for them to conclude they also hold no responsibility. If these types believe they have no control and nothing changes, they can conclude there’s no point in trying to do anything. Because of the moral overtones of their lives and their sensitivity, such abdication of responsibility, as they define it, may result in full-blown moral crises for them. They may start to think of themselves as not just helpless people but as bad helpless people, and negative self-talk can once again gain a foothold.

Rebalancing Self-Responsibility Forming Consensus While independent decision-making is inextricably a part of accepting responsibility, nothing is wrong with agreeing with others. However, sometimes others apply pressure, or people lack the confidence to stand up for their own opinions. This can be especially true for Campaigners who strongly need to connect with others, perhaps even to where they need their approval. Giving in to ideas they disagree with can lessen their sense of responsibility, and sometimes it’s necessary to stand up for what they believe. Sometimes, however, there’s a third choice between defiantly opposing others and giving in to them that involves compromise and building a consensus. When people are given a difficult choice, there are often ways to please everyone without surrendering what is important. It may be possible that Campaigners in such situations can act responsibly and give others what they want. Here are some steps Campaigners can take toward forming this consensus:

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First, determine how decisions will be made. Will there be a single individual, a group vote, or even drawing the choice out of hat filled with acceptable choices? Laying this groundwork in the beginning is important.

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Develop the list of potential choices, their implications, and their consequences. Campaigners are likely to want a discussion of values included in this step. Discuss the aspects that are acceptable and unacceptable.

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There’s always a potential stalemate in any negotiation. At that point, consider an arbiter or facilitator to help resolve it.

While this is a formal method of building a consensus and finding compromise, Campaigners can apply the same principles informally. The important point to remember is that, when they disagree with someone, it’s not always a binary choice between “this way” and “that way.” Sometimes there’s a third way, and everybody is pleased. Helpless to Helpful Abdicating self-responsibility because of a sense of helplessness can only be resolved by regaining a sense of effectiveness. The best and most obvious way to beat helplessness is to succeed. There are many ways in life to set individuals up for success, but most combine a dedicated intent and an action plan. The intent can come easily to Campaigners, and developing an action plan is a skill they can gain with a little effort. While they learn, it may help if they partner with someone who has developed action plans already or has a natural knack for getting things done. Such people are likely to be in their vast network of friends and acquaintances. One of the

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best ways to learn is by doing, and such partnerships are likely to encourage participation and lead to picking up helpful habits. The following exercise can help, and will require some thought, a little planning, and a measure of action. •

Set a two-minute timer. Think of the nicest thing you can do for a specific person. Stick to the timer and don’t overthink it. At the end of two minutes, there should be a specific person and a specific nice thing to do for them.

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Campaigners who are discouraged can find that even the smallest success mitigates a sense of helplessness – and small successes often lead to larger ones. Getting help from someone who is good at organizing and motivating others is helpful, but, ultimately, success comes through planning and action.

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Conclusion The Adaptive Self Campaigners are unique, open people who are most at home around others. Those who exploit their strengths while expanding their comfort zones can discover that personal growth is a balance of being true to themselves while adapting to the world around them – and adapt they must, if they’re to keep social connections strong. The balance is in not adapting so much that they lose their sense of self. Campaigners all have their own spin on life, having adapted to their unique circumstances. Some skillfully navigate personal growth most of the time; others, some of the time; and still others may struggle. Like all people, they all waver between those days filled with wonderful growth and those that lack, or even undo, such experiences. None go through life in any perfect way, but growth and learning are always choices for those who are willing. Hopefully, this section has provided guidance or inspiration to bolster that willingness. Spontaneity and Hard Work Simultaneously While their values demand diligence and hard work, their natural impulses aren’t always that disciplined. Growth for Campaigners means escaping the comfort zone of instinct and stretching to include a sharper focus. With their imaginations, creating or adopting techniques for more productive lives is well within their reach, but it does take some commitment. Personal growth can be a shared activity for this gregarious personality type, who is energized by interacting with others. Networking with growth in mind can help them reinforce the ideas discussed in this chapter while keeping them in the social

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environments they enjoy. Each step of growth can be a new area of exploration for the rare, highly Extraverted Campaigner.

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Friendships

Though their dreams and ideas can be as lofty as the clouds, genuine friendship is one of the most incredibly satisfying experiences Campaigners can experience. Sharing their energy with treasured friends gives these types a chance to express the core of their being, whether it’s imagination or action, and in a great friendship, they find delight in unexpected reflections of their own potential. Friends reinforce Campaigners’ direction in life, and may open new and amazing possibilities. Open Minds Campaigners may be the most adaptive personality type when it comes to friendship. Their outgoing energy, matched with the open and curious Prospecting trait, helps them reach out to all manner of people. Like all Diplomats, they have a core filled with idealistic visions, but they’re more likely to enthusiastically embrace a wider range of people than their Introverted or Judging cousins. These types are often able to “speak the language” of other personality types when needed. Their curiosity often has them seeking out new friends who are very different from themselves.

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Campaigners are also a bit more flexible in their style of relating to their friends. These types can shift deftly from small talk to discussing grand ideas and find something of value in both. They enjoy in-depth talks and exploring inventive concepts, but embrace the social value of fun and lighthearted conversations as well. There are some preferred criteria by which Campaigners choose their close friends, however, and not all make it to their inner circle. Seeking Deep Friendships Friendship is an area where Campaigners are especially heartfelt. These types greatly value trust, support, and authenticity. With their sense of idealism added to this combination, the depth of their friendships becomes quite profound. Campaigners are good at reading people, naturally making distance between themselves and insincere individuals while investing in the lives of those they deem friends. Being good at recognizing the feelings of others allows them to be very sensitive and insightful. Not all personality types can sustain the dynamic flow of concepts, topics, and highenergy banter that comes with Campaigner friendships. This doesn’t mean Campaigners avoid anyone who doesn’t meet a specific standard; still, they’re more at home with those who can keep up. They need friends in their lives who understand their vision, and can perhaps go a little deeper into intellectual explorations. When Campaigners Hang Out with Friends Adventures of both the imagination and of the physical world draw these types. Outgoing and active, they may base friendships on shared activities like hiking or cultural interests. Whether this kind of comradeship also involves deep conversation

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depends entirely on the friends involved. A day hanging out with Campaigners could mean many things – these types are highly flexible. Experiences filled with warmth, connection, and discovery are likely to have Campaigners’ full attention – at least for a time. People with this personality type typically shift their attention without missing a beat, and can sit in the corner of a club and talk about their beliefs, only to jump up and dance when the right song plays – and as soon as the mood strikes them they’re ready to leave, whether it’s for another club or for another experience altogether. Friends can call on Campaigners’ flexibility and grace to help them keep up with such potential pivots in interest. The fun and excitement can be well worth everyone involved working to stay in sync. Potential Pitfalls for Campaigners and Their Friends Every friendship comes with challenges, and though Campaigners try to maintain harmony and smooth over any wrinkles, there are no perfect relationships, and everybody has something to learn. Problems within their friendships usually occur when people are too insistent on their own way of doing things, especially when that insistence turns into criticism of others. Few are as willing to act out what their imaginations conjure up as Campaigners, and their dreams and ideas can seem unrealistic to their friends. Other types might find It hard to watch their Campaigner friends pursue a line of thinking or an activity that seems to go nowhere, or to engage in risky behavior. When Campaigners indulge their passion for novelty, excitement, and the intangible, more sedate thinkers may find themselves extremely perplexed. Campaigners are open individuals, but also tend to be vigorously true to themselves, and they may disregard their friends’ concern nonchalantly. In fact, they can be quite

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condescending or even argumentative when friends don’t support their ideas. Consequently, their friends might feel devalued, and Campaigners might miss out on the balancing influence of outside perspectives.

Campaigner Friends by Role Making Friendships Work – With Anyone Compromise is a gift that says friendship is valuable enough to make sacrifices for. With their adaptable energy and fertile imaginations, Campaigners can find ways to mindfully give to their friends without diminishing their sense of authenticity. Their flexibility and awareness allow them to form and sustain good friendships with anyone they choose, regardless of personality type. The following sections examine how Campaigners and those of each Role tend to relate to each other, and offer some ideas for making these relationships shine even brighter.

Campaigner–Analyst Friendships

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through some mutual spark of mental agility. While they may argue, it’s often the inspired creative sparring of innovators, where the two blend their ideas and play off each other. If their friendship has a weakness, it’s that their stimulating disagreements and glee in exploring the realm of possibility together may consume them to distraction – or occasionally get out of hand. Despite this potential, these friends benefit from challenging each other to expand their thinking, and they often have fun in the process.

Balanced Campaigner–Analyst Friendships Showing Each Other Truths from Different Angles Campaigners and Analysts both share a fondness for abstract ideas, though they tend to see them through very different lenses. Campaigners love to rhapsodize in free verse about their hopes, while Analysts try to understand and explain things with their unrelenting logic. They approach ideas from different perspectives, and where Analysts put a practical and efficient spin on them, Campaigners add heart and soul. If these friends stay open to each other’s views, they can complement each other wonderfully. Campaigners have grand visions for the future, but sometimes have trouble finding a realistic direction, or may be unable to decide which one of the many paths holds the most interest for them. Analysts can help Campaigners better connect their dreams to reality by offering a rational examination of plausibility and helping them see more detail – they’re all about deconstructing things and finding ways to make them work better. They can be a valuable reference point that helps Campaigners make their goals and dreams more feasible.

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In return, Campaigners can offer a connection to the less tangible – but fundamental – human side of things that Analysts often lose sight of in their zeal to dissect everything. Analysts aren’t as able to understand the emotions of others, and this can easily make them feel disconnected on everything but an intellectual level. Through their exemplary counsel, Campaigner friends can help them achieve a better understanding of themselves and others. They see a humanistic side to every potential, and happily open doors to help Analyst friends walk on that side of life. When they respect and learn from each other, both these personality types’ approaches to life become more balanced. Witty Fun Serious matters aside, Campaigners’ and Analysts’ differences also serve as vast and unending sources of enjoyment when these friends have fun together. Nearly any experience, even modern culture itself, can be a playground for the banter of Campaigners and Analysts as they tease out different aspects of their subject. These two types joyfully embrace their mutual interests, and their conversations sparkle with insight and opinions. Friends like these can turn a conversation about what movie to watch into an exploratory debate on human morality, so profuse are their views – neither can resist sharing what they think about every little thing. When either of these friends delve into a subject or activity loved by the other, leaving their own sphere of experience to walk new ground, true excitement begins. For Campaigners, this may mean sharing something subtle or personal, such as music, art, or even a metaphysical interest like meditation or reiki, with their more cynical Analyst companions. It can also mean serving as social ambassadors who

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assist overly-intellectual Analysts in expanding their circle of friends. Campaigners can make something as simple as a night out on the town into a scintillating, joyful experience for more socially reticent Analysts. For Analysts, it can mean showing their ever-curious and adventurous Campaigner friends the inner workings of one of their beloved hobbies, be it a favorite game, book series, or project they’re developing. Campaigners have diverse, wandering interests, and while they might not fully share Analysts’ chosen passions, they certainly marvel at them – they’re thrilled to discover anything fun and new. For Campaigner and Analyst pals, sharing everyday recreational experiences together can be just as enjoyable as cavorting in the realm of the theoretical.

Unbalanced Campaigner–Analyst Friendships Cutting Communication Starkly rational Analysts and dreamy, compassionate Campaigners can balance each other’s traits, but they can also experience some clashes. Analysts tend to be blunt with their facts and opinions, and they frequently come across as harsh when they logically dissect other people’s precious notions. For them, facts are straightforward and best taken that way, and they rarely sugarcoat their truths. Campaigners don’t always understand this raw rationality; when they perceive meanness from friends – correctly or not – they’re sharply disappointed. Cutting words can go both ways, though. Expressively attuned to feelings, Campaigners can be easily dismayed if they feel their Analyst friends lack understanding – they can even angrily lash out at perceived cynicism. Analysts may be open to challenges from logic-based arguments, but they rarely respond well to character criticism, emotional rationales, or heated outbursts. In fact, they can be

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deeply offended by such charged moments. When either of these types lets their criticism or reactions go too far, they can easily hurt each other’s feelings. Differences of the Heart Campaigners crave heartfelt bonds with their friends, and want to freely exchange understanding and care. They can be disappointed when Analyst friends offer tons of advice to fix problems, yet seem resistant to discussing feelings – and are awkwardly reluctant when such a need arises. Analysts often shy away from troubling emotions to avoid feeling out of their depth. While this seeming lack of support may be unintentional, it’s likely to be very hurtful and confusing for Campaigners, as though their good friends are backing away in times of need. Analysts’ tendency to be closed off to “softer” forms of connection can also limit the experiences these friends share. Campaigners want to feel a significant, unspoken connection. As things like music, art, and the beauty of the world itself speak to them on a spiritual level, they want the Analyst friends by their side to hear it as well. Analysts, for all their creative imagination, may simply not be as open to such mystical intuition. Campaigners seek friends who can tread wild paths with them, and Analysts may not be willing to suspend their disbelief enough to join in such dalliances.

Rebalancing Campaigner–Analyst Friendships Listening Fairly Intuitive types’ mental flexibility equips them well to rebalance problems within their friendships. If they’re willing to try to understand each other, these two types can temper their thinking to appreciate the distinct ways they express themselves.

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Friendship should make participants feel larger, not smaller, and these friends must give each other room to be who they are, including respecting their very different communication styles. Analysts talk and think in straightforward ways, and Campaigners like to connect warmly, but there’s no reason that these different styles of interaction should cause offense or interfere with honest communication. The key for both these mentally active types is to focus on the intent of each other’s words more than the style. Their deeper meanings form the basis of their friendship, and their very different manners shouldn’t change this. When Analysts are bluntly dispassionate, Campaigners can look past the surface to find the real messages they’re expressing. Analysts may seem cynical, but they’re likely chasing insightful ideas that are important to them – and can ultimately make sense to Campaigners. To help move past differences in communication styles, these friends can employ some helpful techniques: •

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Both Campaigners and Analysts tend to get carried away by their own imaginations, but when they take time to truly listen to and explore the thoughts that matter to each other, their different ways of saying things don’t seem to matter as much. Investing in Friendship These friends can rebalance how they share their emotions by allowing for each other’s differences and clearly stating their needs. Analysts might not always shine when Campaigners are seeking emotional connection, but they can nonetheless be worthy companions in extraordinary experiences. Campaigners can put the emotional and mystical into detailed terms, instead of expecting Analysts to empathically know where they’re coming from. “I just felt like… you know?” likely makes no sense to Analysts. Campaigners can also be clear when they’re just seeking basic sympathy, as Analysts rarely pick up on such needs without prompting. Campaigners may need to bluntly ask Analysts to put effort into the intangible aspects of their friendships, explaining how deeply they matter and how to do so. Being sympathetic, understanding, and open to abstract experiences goes a long way toward making Campaigners happy – and Analysts can understand the value of such efforts in their friendships. Campaigners can also be respectful when Analysts approach their limits; time together doesn’t always have to be profound. Realistic balance requires that both these types not demand too much from each other. They can both use these steps: •

Communicate needs clearly; there’s no shame in directly asking a friend for support, guidance, or comforting company.

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Specifically describe the point of upset, and ask for a response to it – “What do you think?”

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Hand-holding may not be Analysts’ specialty, but recognizing logical priorities is, and good friendships are something they’re happy to invest in. Campaigners, in turn, can take a moderate approach to emotional interactions with their Analyst friends, recognizing that it’s not always fair to expect deep intimacy from their friendship.

Campaigner–Diplomat Friendships

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For Campaigners, having close friendships with fellow Diplomats can be like gazing into a mirror, as their common approaches and temperament can be powerful bonds. Diplomats exercise their imaginations and feelings extravagantly, enabling these friends to share far more than mere words together. However, when they do talk, they’re unlikely to run out of things to say. As their friendships progress, they may even become so deep as to approach that of family, as these types tend to welcome compatible people sincerely into their hearts and lives.

Balanced Campaigner–Diplomat Friendship A Mental and Emotional Extension Campaigners who befriend other Diplomats have the wonderful experience of gaining a kind of extension of themselves. These friends share relatable experiences and the benefit and wisdom of each other’s triumphs and tests. “I had the most amazing thought the other day…” is often heard in Campaigner–Diplomat friendships. In some sense, their honest, sincere friendships offer them a chance to live two lives at once. As curious and adventure-seeking as they are, Campaigners often take the lead in such friendships, opening exciting doors for their friends. Likewise, Campaigner–Diplomat friends are ideally suited to care for each other in times of trouble. Knowledge of each other’s temperament, combined with their caring nature, make them each other’s ideal confidants, nurses, and emotional rescuers, as the Rolling Stones put it. Each knows what the other needs and when they need it. Sometimes they offer comfort, advice, and sympathy. At other times, they may provide pointed yet loving feedback, pushing for growth even as they offer support. When their friendships stay honest, they can easily last a lifetime.

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A Creative Bond When it comes to pursuing creativity and fun together, Campaigners find that other Diplomats make enthusiastic and inspiring friends. In fact, mutual interests may very likely be the reason they meet in the first place, acting as the initial conduit to a more encompassing relationship. Diplomats don’t merely “hang out,” they connect. Campaigners strive to express insights in creative ways and explore the world around them, and other Diplomats make ideal partners in such endeavors. Campaigners also inspire Diplomat friends with their endless curiosity and love of novelty. This potential comes from sharing core similarities that drive both types in related, but not necessarily identical, directions. Such differences aren’t to be feared. In fact, they can hold special benefits. By weaving together harmonious but separate paths, Diplomat friends occasionally glimpse different points of view through each other, stirring up profound insights because they’re so unique. Diplomat friends with the Judging trait may bring a special gift to their friendship with Campaigners to help deepen their creative endeavors. Campaigners live a lot more off-the-cuff than many types, and while their flexibility and lack of conformity undoubtedly pay off when the creative juices are flowing, it can also offer some instability. Judging Diplomats who reach a trusted level of influence with Campaigners can help them stay better aligned with their goals – and perhaps help them meet them.

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Unbalanced Campaigner–Diplomat Friendships Wrapped Up in Each Other A key challenge for Campaigners and their Diplomat friends is likely to come from the same source that fuels their bond – their similarity and their shared empathy. Having friends who think the same way is reassuring and comfortable, but it can also create a bubble that isolates them from useful feedback, contrasting opinions, and unexpected knowledge. Campaigners, for all their social vigor and openness, aren’t immune to this; they seek emotional harmony, and may decry anything that seems to threaten their beliefs. Campaigner–Diplomat friends sometimes build mental barriers around their friendships, waving aside unpleasant realities in favor of bolstering one another’s feelings. Such protective bubbles can block the corrective effects of fresh perspectives, causing stagnation or even perpetuating harmful habits, even when the intention is positive. By staunchly defending their friends’ every thought and feeling, these types can unintentionally do each other a great disservice. Such friendships are like having “yes men” (or women) as constant companions when sometimes the right answer is “no.” The lure of having someone in their lives who thinks everything they do, say, and feel is wonderful can dull even the famously open minds of Campaigners. Unconscious Influence Their intense emotional connection might also lead Campaigner and Diplomat pals to unconsciously influence each other, though they’re not likely to pull the wool over each other’s eyes in a calculated way. Nonetheless, if either of these types has an agenda that doesn’t quite match the other’s, they may subtly guide them, innately understanding exactly what kind of influence resonates with such friends. Just

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because this manipulation is unintended doesn’t mean it can’t be damaging, especially when it’s in the guise of fun – the lure of which Campaigners are particularly vulnerable. Furthermore, Diplomats often accept influence from people they care about because they trust them implicitly. In the extreme, they can even lapse into becoming “people pleasers” in the face of pressure. With their bold energy, Campaigner friends can easily fall into powerful positions, influencing their friends without even meaning to. None of the parties involved may be aware of this unhealthy behavior existing in their relationships. It’s just that both types are sincerely trying to do what they feel is best without due consideration to the other’s interests.

Rebalancing Campaigner–Diplomat Friendships Engaging Diversity in the Real World Balancing their imaginative bubbles together with some shared real-world experiences can make friendships between Campaigners and other Diplomats more complete, and Campaigners are perfectly suited to take the lead in this. Expanding their comfort zones leads these friends to discover fresh ideas and new activities, something Campaigners thirst for. In closed systems, it can be hard to grow not only as individuals but as friends. Learning to open their friendships to outside ideas and perspectives can be enlightening. One of the quickest ways to bring diversity into their shared social lives is for these friends to mingle with very different types of people from diverse backgrounds who challenge their views. Campaigners are immensely social, but they don’t necessarily seek out those who can bring a dose of contrast into their lives. Pushing that boundary with the company of trusted Diplomat friends can be an eye – and mind –

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opening experience. Exploring different ideas and points of view is meat and drink to Campaigners, and while they don’t have to accept everything they discover, they can certainly find grains of truth even in the most unlikely places. Here are some steps these friends can take to freshen their social perspective: •

Identify a social event around something unfamiliar, challenging, or even slightly dubious – a strange bar, a class or seminar on a weird subject, or a gathering for an unfamiliar cause are just a few bold ideas.

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There’s nothing wrong with supporting each other with reassurance and agreement, but if that’s the entire friendship, Campaigners and fellow Diplomats can’t reach their full potential. Sometimes, coming closer requires shaking things up; Campaigners are glad to do so if it’ll help a good friend. Open Impetus Campaigners don’t want to be manipulated, nor do their values allow them to feel comfortable with manipulating other people. There’s a difference between

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persuading friends and pressuring them, and respecting feedback makes most of the difference. Campaigners and other Diplomats can work on saying “no” to each other in gentle but clear ways, and truly honoring each other’s best interests. These types have great internal compasses, but their directions may not always align. Before pushing for or agreeing to an agenda, they can ask themselves what feels right in their hearts, and respect each other’s answers to that question. It’s vital for these friends to be direct, rather than trying to guide each other through subtle emotional engineering. When communication is heartfelt, it flows freely, and any unconscious tendency to manipulate each other evaporates. Instead of pressure or cajoling, true needs and concerns can shine through with simple, fair language. There’s nothing wrong with trying to infect each other with motivation, energy, and ideas, or even making requests, if both types are honest. Here are some steps that can keep such communication above-board: •

Before putting pressure on each other, consider whose interests will be served.

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Rebalancing unconscious manipulation doesn’t require Campaigners or their Diplomat friends to sublimate their own desires and motivations. They just need to work on sharing them in clear, open ways rather than through subtle strategies. Both types can appreciate a sense of relief when instinctive emotional pressure is replaced with honest give and take.

Campaigner–Sentinel Friendships

Campaigners and Sentinels as friends are a study in contrasts that can create growth for both. One thing they do have in common is a sense of responsibility to others. For Campaigners, this comes from a sense of social idealism. For Sentinels, it originates from a more practical place: these types focus on creating structure. Sentinels are custodians of responsibilities who take their social and moral values seriously. Campaigners respect this. While their impassioned diatribes and imaginative ideas might make their Sentinel friends roll their eyes, both types nonetheless share a desire to improve the world.

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Balanced Campaigner–Sentinel Friendships Stabilizing Each Other Campaigners benefit from the sense of stability Sentinels offer. While Sentinel friends may not be able to make sure Campaigners pay their bills or renew their drivers’ licenses on time, they can offer a responsible influence by way of example. Campaigners are sometimes blown about by a steady procession of dreams and ideas they have yet to realize, and their boisterous, poetic lack of focus can be frustrating for themselves and the people who depend on them. Sentinel friends – whose steadfastness can weather chaos with great forgiveness – can be grounding, reassuring, and helpful. When the dust clears, Sentinels provide a steady hand to help pick up the pieces and move forward when needed. Considering how stable Sentinels are, it may seem counterintuitive, but Campaigners can also provide a much-needed kind of support for such friends when trouble strikes. Sentinels are easily distressed by sudden changes. Their comfortable rules are easily upset when chaos intrudes into their lives. Campaigners offer the perfect support in such situations – their confidence and empathy help Sentinels persevere through unexpected challenges. Moreover, Campaigners are quick to step in and lend their active imaginations and vigorous assistance to set things right. By respectively being good at establishing order and good at adapting when that order breaks down, these two types of friends prop each other up, no matter what happens. Cutting Loose Without Losing Control Campaigners often seem like party animals compared to Sentinels, who tend to hold rigid views and a need for predictability. Holding tight to such standards can be

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exhausting, and Campaigners can bring some needed fun into Sentinels’ lives by showing them that dreaming beyond known boundaries can enhance life by revealing possibilities. Campaigners have a way of drawing Sentinels into adventures that allow them to loosen their inhibitions a little without losing who they are. They protect their Sentinel friends’ feelings with immense compassion while also encouraging them to step out of their rigid limits. If Campaigners get carried away by their own enthusiasm for living – and they often do – they can be sure that their Sentinel friends will let them know it. Having such an outgoing and vigorous thirst for fun, discovery, and life itself, it’s easy for Campaigners to get caught up in questionable pursuits that may end up being riskier than they’re worth. Sentinel friends likely see this a mile away, and can suggest a few prudent adjustments to their headlong trajectory. As these friendships deepen, these two types learn to appreciate each other’s pace and way of engaging life enough to let them influence their own, at least some of the time.

Unbalanced Campaigner–Sentinel Friendships Differences in Engaging Activities Often, these two types simply don’t understand each other’s attitudes, which can seem foreign to the point of being unworkable. Even when these friends share strong common interests, the different ways they pursue those interests are likely to be tough to reconcile when spending time together. Campaigners’ spontaneous, energetic approach to fun can seem like pure chaos to more reserved Sentinels, and in turn, Campaigners might not understand their friends’ reluctance to dive impulsively into every new idea and experience. If these pals can’t maintain cheerful patience, the result is often frustration.

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Arguments over how to spend time and energy together are likely if either type becomes too determined that they’re right and the other is wrong – and both tend to be strong-willed in such matters. Campaigners can be passionate, and Sentinels can be stubborn, neither wanting to give up their preferred style of doing things. Sentinels can chidingly insist on Campaigners accepting timely and sensible planning, while Campaigners can patronize Sentinels by insisting they “relax.” Such urgings can go nowhere fast when these friends are unwilling to compromise. Lack of Respect For people of both types, their core differences can also become a problem when they judge each other beyond simple disagreement. In ways they’d never say outright, each of these types can fall into a habit of mentally devaluing the other in disrespectful, and ultimately hurtful, ways. Whether it’s subtle sniping, joking comments, or silently indicting each other with a pitying headshake, an inability or unwillingness to understand each other damages their friendships. Triggers for this kind of judgement may be as distinct as the friends themselves, and can come from either side. Campaigners care deeply about their friends, but their feelings and opinions run hot, and they can get as easily fired up with outrage as they do joyful enthusiasm. If they feel that Sentinels disapprove of them in any way, they’re easily offended and may not let it go. Campaigners are all about engagement; respectful distance isn’t easy for them, so they’ll pursue disagreements with vigor. Sentinels, however, are extremely difficult to pry out of their point of view. They have solid reasons for their convictions, and they can resent anyone who tries to change their mind. When they feel justified in their judgement, they can be immovable.

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Disapproval and disrespect between these friends often center around the way they live their own lives. At the extreme, Campaigners can see Sentinels as limited beings who accept the mundane and resist change at every turn. Sentinels can, in turn, unfairly see Campaigners as childishly deluded and unable to accept fundamental priorities. When either of these types lets their judgement get out of control, it can get ugly.

Rebalancing Campaigner–Sentinel Friendships Mutual Engagement Rebalancing these friends’ different approaches to activities requires a little compromise and tolerance. Sentinel partners can learn to be more flexible when their Campaigner friends want them to join in an inspired idea, and Campaigners, in turn, can make sure Sentinels have an equal say in how they engage in the activity together. Sometimes, Sentinels just need a moment to get their heads around an idea before they proceed, and if they’re given that time, they’ll gladly follow Campaigner friends toward fun. Highly adaptable, Campaigners can use their go-with-the-flow energy to give Sentinels leeway in planning out such activities together, or even helpfully dive in ahead of time to get more information. It’s also appropriate for these friends to spend time together sometimes without a schedule, adapting as they go with respectful communication. Patience doesn’t always come easily to Campaigners, but they can have better results with lightheartedness. They can lead with instant energy and ideas and keep pace with their Sentinel friends. Some steps to keep in mind that can help enable workable compromises include:

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Engage the experience together. o Intentionally check in with each other occasionally: “How are we doing? Are we having fun?”

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Communicate about what’s fun and what isn’t. There’s usually overlap somewhere, and finding it can be a fun adventure where both friends can voice their needs.

Both types of friends can take a step into each other’s timeframes now and then – they each have a good approach, for certain things. When it comes to recreation, Sentinels may find it an unexpected relief to let go of rigid control, and Campaigners can appreciate the benefits of staying on schedule when it comes to important matters. Respecting Sovereignty When judgement arises between Campaigners and Sentinels, restoring warmth and camaraderie may require acknowledging the boundaries between their individual lives and what they share together. Each type has the right to live as they see fit, and need only be concerned with compromise when it comes to time together. What seems like a limited existence to Campaigners may, in fact, bring great joy, prosperity, and personal growth to Sentinels. What looks like idealistic chaos to Sentinels may

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be a life of satisfying accomplishment for Campaigners. Arguing over who’s right is a fruitless endeavor when each type finds happiness differently. Neither needs to accept the other’s ways for themselves, but it’s important that they respect their friends’ preferences and avoid imposing their own choices onto others. Conflicting styles only clash when they meet, and reasons for friction disappear when these friends take care to bring positive aspects to each other’s lives. It’s also important for Campaigner–Sentinel friends to quash any judgement with honest communication before things get heated. There’s a big difference between expressing critical concern for each other and ladling out judgement, and both types should feel empowered to say when they feel that line has been crossed. A simple exercise for Campaigners and Sentinels to ease judgement over their differences is to overlay them with positives that recognize each other’s virtues, even if they’re dissimilar. These helpful steps can help them to do this: •

Independently, write 5–10 beneficial things that each friend brings to the friendship (i.e., a great sense of humor, is always willing to drive, creates a sense of caring, thinks of fun ideas for activities, is always reliable, keeps shared secrets, gives good advice, buys coffee, cooks great food, solves problems).

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Mention the feeling created by each positive act; keep it brief and casual.

These types each have some inescapable, marked core differences, but unless they’re trying to live each other’s lives, there’s no reason they can’t enjoy deep and happy friendship together where they share the positives and work through the rest.

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Caring for each other gives them a reason to compromise and to respect their need to be themselves.

Campaigner–Explorer Friendships

Campaigners have some spontaneous, unrestrained instincts in common with Explorers, so theirs are likely to be very enjoyable friendships, especially if they meet through mutual interests or activities. Like Explorers, Campaigners love to go in nonconformist directions and are always flexible in their approach to life. They both enjoy novelty and introducing new things to their worlds. They share a great desire for personal freedom, although they may express it in different ways with different motivations. These types are both free spirits with a lot to share and learn from each other.

Balanced Campaigner–Explorer Friendships Running Down a Dream Both these types possess a kind of impulsivity that’s similar in some ways. Campaigners can consider different paths in rapid-fire succession without needing

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to establish a single direction in which to go. Always opportunistic, Explorers are looking for the next new and exciting thing. While their motivations may be uniquely their own, each type’s dynamic may feel familiar to the other, and they’ll likely think nothing of dropping what they’re doing to chase something exciting together. “Whim” and “indulgence” may be the words of the day when these friends get together, with their inspired ideas and down-to-earth curiosity blending into endless fun. If Campaigners and Explorers have a lot in common, they can also tap into each other’s preferred kinds of adventures to discover things they may not have otherwise found. Campaigners think big, with grand dreams and ideas that tend to include other people, and even society in general. Their idea of adventure may be eyeopening to Explorers more attuned to their personal interests and practices. In turn, such intent personal goals can be like a microcosmic universe unto themselves, and Campaigners marvel when Explorers enter those worlds with them. Exploring New Perspectives Mutual activities are just the beginning of discovery for these friends, as they likely have fundamentally different ways of looking at things. Campaigners may find that Explorer friends are good at pulling them out of their dream worlds to experience a no less wonderous earthy side of reality. Where Campaigners might be fascinated with art technique and history, Explorer friends might hand them a chainsaw and invite them to carve a figure in a log, moving them from theory into a thrilling experience. Explorers, on the other hand, may benefit from Campaigners’ lofty attempts to understand everything; such future-oriented vision is often the first step to finding a new passion in life.

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Campaigners also love to share their enthusiasm for social progress and engagement. Explorer friends often focus on their own path, but the idealistic vigor of Campaigners can help them connect to other people, opening new doors of friendship and fun. Shared experiences can also reveal a deeper meaning, such as the satisfaction gained from positive activism. While Explorers won’t want to have lengthy discussions about ethics and morals, they can appreciate – and directly benefit from – the compassionate example of Campaigners’ positive intent in the world.

Unbalanced Campaigner–Explorer Friendships Running Amok Every coin has a flip side, and the flip side of unrestrained, enthusiastic liberty is often a lack of responsibility. One of the dangers baked into Campaigner–Explorer friendships is that neither type is likely to play the role of the grown-up in the room when it comes to soberly attending to everyday necessities. Campaigners are intent on doing the right thing but may be unable to muster much concern for mundane practicalities (even if they fall into that category). Explorers likewise have a hard time caring about something if it doesn’t feed their immediate interests. As friends, these types may enable each other to pursue things that grab their attention, and mutually ignore those that don’t. Irresponsible behavior can also get between these friends. In their pursuit of good times, things appointments and commitments to each other can fall by the wayside, or simply be forgotten. While adaptability might make them cheerful partners in crime, neither one appreciates it when the other’s carefree inconsistency turns around to bite them. Whether it’s changing arrangements at the last minute, arriving

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late, or bungling preparations for mutual activities, even these flexible types struggle to tolerate derailed plans when they happen so frequently. They’re likely to be forgiving most of the time, but eventually, a letdown will come, and that one won’t end easily. Contrasting Personal Priorities Campaigners often have high hopes, reflecting their own idea of what’s right and all the amazing things they want to bring about in the world. Explorers tend to be more enthused by tangible experiences that relate directly to their own lives, perhaps even seeing Campaigners as absurdly idealistic. While Explorers tend to have a “to each their own” attitude, Campaigners like to inspire everyone around them with the same passion they have for the same things. When Explorers are pushed too hard to care about things that seem distant and unimportant to them, they can respond with disdain, having little love for pressure or being told how they should think and act. Campaigners don’t fully understand the extent of Explorers’ individualism, themselves believing strongly in universal human ideals, and can take such disapproval as a rejection of their principles. Whether it’s about moral codes, emotional connection, or broad idealism regarding society, Campaigners can be hurt when Explorers don’t join in their enthusiasm. They can even view such friends as being base or selfish for not sharing their ideals, even if those friends simply want to maintain their own freedom. Campaigners want to be a part of positive social progress, but challenging Explorers’ personal inclinations with arguments of principle only leads to frustration for both.

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Rebalancing Campaigner–Explorer Friendships A Scrupulous Respect These two types may never be a highly moderating influence, but if they truly care for one another, they can make sure they don’t enable harmful behavior. Neither type wants to see the other’s life in shambles, and while they might lack the skills to regulate each other, they can be a positive influence by offering their perspective and caring oversight. These types can see consequences, but they usually don’t care to rein in their fun long enough to talk about them soberly. However, learning to look beyond the excitement of the moment can safeguard their friendship for years to come. Respect between these friends is partly a concern about each other’s risky choices, but also a scrupulous way of treating each other. If there’s ever a good reason to tighten up on self-discipline and consistency, it’s for the sake of good friends who are sources of joy. It starts with communication: making a bold commitment to each other, speaking when something seems dubious or troublesome, and discussing conflicts between each other. Each type must find their own source of willpower, and the following steps can help: •

Think about each other’s choices and decisions as if from a parent’s or older sibling’s perspective – imagine friends as loved ones to be cared for.

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Make statements mutual: “I wonder if we should be more careful…”

An inexhaustible well of care helps Campaigners’ muster maturity and moderation, and once they view responsibility in the context of caring for their friends, they take it seriously. When Explorers see that irresponsibility is interfering with their fun, they’ll quickly adapt and do what’s needed to preserve their freedom and happiness. Knowing When to Be Permissive Campaigners often try to inspire people toward high-minded principles, while even the most social of Explorers tend to focus on creating tangible benefits – personal or mutual – as they enjoy and care for their friends. Neither should be made to feel judged for this difference. It’s important for Campaigners to realize that not everyone shares their lofty idealism, and it’s not fair to make their personal ideals seem obligatory. Campaigners can use their empathy to see when Explorer friends simply don’t share their interests, or may have something of a different nature to contribute to the common good. In turn, Explorers can tap into their famous curiosity and try something new. Sometimes, the answer to, “Why would I bother doing that?” is the realization that good friends are worth a little energy, and that fun is often a state of mind. Explorers often have great success once they set their sights on something, and they can tune into Campaigners’ enthusiasm and pitch in with their company. Such efforts can be very meaningful to Campaigners and affirm their friendship. Allowing each other their own direction in life, especially when it comes to perceived societal obligations vs. personal priorities, is a necessary and fair manifestation of respect in Campaigner–Explorer friendships. Ultimately, having a good time together

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is more important than doing everything together, so time apart is sometimes a good option. To help preserve a balance, both friends can use these tips: •

Invite each other into personal priorities with cheerful enthusiasm – highlight the possible fun and benefits with “we could” instead of “you should.”

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These two types often become friends through a mutual love of excitement and exploration, and trying to push personal agendas can simply kill their fun. Instead, their combined energy is better spent in areas of common interest, reveling in what can be happily shared together as often as possible.

Conclusion Social Nobility We’ve discussed some pitfalls Campaigners may face in their friendships, but in truth, this personality type is incredibly adept at creating and maintaining social relationships when they choose to be. They can find something to appreciate in any type, valuing people as individuals and reflexively extending them kindness and warmth. When Campaigners meet worthy people and invest in deeper friendships, “The Campaigner” (ENFP, -A/-T)

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their bright, active imaginations, outgoing nature, and uninhibited inclinations give them substantial charm which they share freely and honestly. Given their highly adaptable and empathetic social abilities, any difficulties that Campaigners face in friendships are likely of their own creation, at least partly. Like all Intuitive types, they may become so blinded by their own expansive visions that they lose touch with basic everyday factors, including other people’s perfectly natural limits and differences. These types are so good at sharing their inspiration and energy with others that when someone isn’t so easily caught up or influenced, they may view it as a failure, or as if that person needs some caring cure for being who they are. However, when Campaigners grow enough to accept others as the unique kinds of friend they are, they find themselves spending more time having fun with people – and learning from them. When these types project the underlying tone of fun and excitement that comes so naturally to them, they can enjoy the company of anyone: studious, logical thinkers, reserved traditionalists, and self-assured gadabouts are all equally charmed. Indeed, Campaigners have the potential to create fulfilling social relationships that are limited only by their own choices.

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Romantic Relationships

Seeking a Deep Connection Campaigner lovers have stars in their eyes. They’re romantic idealists who often daydream about perfect relationships full of warmth and joy, where souls unite to communicate their most profound truths. For people with this personality type, looking for romantic partners or nurturing their existing relationships is often an essential part of their lives –and one of their most appealing qualities – but it can set them up for disappointment if other people can’t match their energetic love. These Extraverted lovers offer their partners bright enthusiasm and joy, using their vivid imaginations to come up with insightful ways to keep their romantic relationships lively – a particularly useful quality when trying to make early dating fun. Some of the other personality types may struggle a little to keep up with Campaigners’ brilliant whimsy and spontaneity, especially when such potential partners don’t know each other very well yet, but the novelty’s often thrilling. These types engage deeply with ideals and beliefs, which can make things somewhat challenging in relationships with personality types who think mainly in terms of nuts“The Campaigner” (ENFP, -A/-T)

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and-bolts living. If romantic candidates don’t share their fondness for fantastical, abstract dimensions, Campaigners may lose interest – they want someone who will at least listen happily. People with this type want to share in their partners’ dreams with strong encouragement and excitement, and it’s only natural that they want their lovers to reciprocate. However, because of Campaigners’ prominent Intuitive trait, even perceived slights could create burdensome doubts in their relationships. Yet the combination of the Intuition trait with the Feeling and Prospecting traits also creates an unrivaled capacity for reconciliation. Wide-Eyed Romantics Campaigners possess a buoyancy of spirit; they can be very optimistic and accepting, even in the face of unforeseen or tumultuous events. They appreciate new experiences. They’re never afraid to embrace such transitions, and those in love with them are also in for a lot of unexpected changes. Campaigners’ views on romantic relationships may often be poetic, but they aren’t always realistic, as their tendency to idealize their lovers can sometimes create confusion between them and their partners. However, if Campaigners are mature enough to recognize and address these tendencies, they can reap great rewards in any relationship with their efforts toward personal growth. Even if their imaginations get carried away now and then, these types treat their romantic partners to intimacy that can transcend their problems. A Need for Attention Although they adapt wonderfully to many aspects of love, Campaigners desire ample attention. This need can be rooted in many things – insecurity in their relationships, unobtainable ideas of what relationships should be in their minds, oversensitivity,

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and more – any of which can leave them tossing and turning in their beds at night, wondering, “Are my needs being met?” or, conversely, “Am I being too needy?” When Campaigners love someone, they may find it hard to give that partner space, often allowing neediness to blur healthy boundaries. Re-establishing those boundaries can be a struggle. When their partners request some alone time, Campaigners might view it as a personal affront. Because of their need for attention, they find themselves, at best, harmlessly fishing for compliments, and at worst, seeking attention as validation of their worth. They risk smothering their partners or creating codependency, either of which can leave these types feeling frustrated and cold when they’re warm and loving at heart. Adapting to Love Even though Campaigners sometimes lose perspective in their devotion to romantic partners, they also find great joy in adapting to their significant others’ unique presence in their lives. Love gives them a chance to experience a new perspective, and a balanced version of “losing themselves” in their partner can be magical, as Campaigners enter another world by engaging their beloved’s desires. When Campaigners maintain their own perceptions and preferences as well, such discovery together can be exciting and healthy. Another wonderful facet of their ability to explore and adapt is that they open the minds of stubborn or tradition-bound partners. Highly empathetic, Campaigners aren’t likely to judge their loved ones, but through understanding and coaxing, they can easily make people think twice about their habits, opening them to new ideas. Campaigners’ imaginative curiosity can be inspiring, and partners immersed in daily routine can find these types’ vibrant influence as freeing as a vacation.

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Potential Role Pairings Unique Opportunities Every personality type brings different things into romantic relationships, and knowing a little about what to expect from the various Role groups can help Campaigners get to know potential partners and build solid relationships. However, it’s important to remember that people are infinitely unique regardless of their type, and there are no perfect romantic matches, even on paper. Any two people who fall in love may get along wonderfully or have a few problems – in a healthy relationship, likely some of both. In the following section, we’ll provide guidance on how Campaigners and other types can better understand each other, as well as some of the more likely areas of conflict between them. Warm, encouraging, and adaptable, Campaigners can find balanced love with any other type. Campaigners can also keep in mind how the issues raised in the Personal Growth chapter may relate to their approach to love. A romantic relationship is an excellent context to recognize unproductive or destructive habits and make improvements. A balanced approach to self-love and self-respect helps Campaigners be happier romantic partners.

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Campaigner–Analyst Relationships

Love between Campaigners and Analysts often grows from the way they balance each other’s weaknesses and learn from each other’s strengths. Linked by the Intuitive trait, both types can recognize the wonderful possibilities that the other brings into their shared lives, and the potential intrigues them. Campaigners think in terms of human connection, and Analysts in terms of rational processes. In each other, these imaginative types find not only a whole new way of thinking, but also new dimensions of themselves.

Balanced Campaigner–Analyst Relationships Shared Imagination Campaigners are known for inspired thinking, and it creates a great way to get to know their Analyst partners. Both types thrive on creative discussions, from sharing ideas about a product they’re developing to explaining the intricacies of a book they’re writing. Analyst partners find imaginative processes thought-provoking yet approachable, and they delight in assisting with brainstorming. Complex and abstract ideas enthrall this pair, and as couples, they can spend endless hours discussing philosophical topics or coming up with ideas. “The Campaigner” (ENFP, -A/-T)

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Relationships between Campaigners and Analysts can be incredibly rewarding, as these individuals look at things from different yet somehow familiar perspectives. When Campaigners explore topics in depth, they spend a significant amount of time learning about them, through traditional resources as well as contemplation of the intangible and potential parts of the subject. Analysts are often impressed by the depth of perspective that their Campaigner partners gain by understanding with their hearts as well as their minds. Campaigners also have a capacity for treating everything as original. Whether its people, ideas, or a math puzzle, they can approach it as though they’ve never seen it before and dedicate a fresh look to things others would just make assumptions about. This can easily earn the respect of Analysts, who sees flaws in their own tendency to try to predict everything (a form of cynicism that can give mixed and unsatisfying results). Campaigners are no less impressed by Analysts’ ability to make decisions through rational processes. Those who keep an open mind see the value in Analysts’ ability to remain objective and critical, a detachment that Campaigners often find personally challenging. They appreciate Analyst partners who anchor them by balancing their fantastical take on life with a dose of blunt intellectuality. In turn, their Analyst partners value Campaigners’ ability to take any subject to the next level of inspired imagination. Discovering New Abilities Campaigners are likely to become lost in emotion, especially during upsetting events. There are many moments in life when these types would be wise to step back, detach, and think about what’s happening instead of being swept along by their

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feelings. Observing their thoughtful Analyst partners’ cool-headed example helps them practice such skills during moments of heightened emotion. Having an Analyst by their side as an example is a powerful reminder to Campaigners of the self-control they can develop if they choose. Besides learning emotional stability and openness from one another, these couples can be profoundly helpful to each other’s growth in very real ways. One difference between the two is the way they express emotions – and they can learn a lot from each other here. Analysts have plenty of emotion, but they rarely place emphasis on expression or developing understanding of their feelings, even deriding such efforts. They often seem distant and clumsy with emotional matters. Campaigners are perfectly suited to helping Analysts understand this side of themselves, providing an example of being in touch with themselves. The balance that these two types can bring each other translates directly into daily life, not just abstract concepts of growth. Campaigners are pulled to share wonderous personal expressions of creativity with the world, but the logistics of how to successfully do so may be hard for them to master. Analyst partners can help them fit all the little logical pieces together to reach those goals. Likewise, Analysts are likely to struggle with friction in the social world, their tact and sensitivity often lacking. When they bring their social problems to Campaigner companions, they receive invaluable human insights that enable them to improve their other relationships.

Unbalanced Campaigner–Analyst Relationships Silent Damage Romantic gestures typically send messages of interest, but differences in how these two types express themselves can lead to hurt feelings and missed connections.

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Unaccustomed to an emotional approach, Analysts may not understand the importance of sweet little romantic tokens, or perform them with forced sincerity as they try to match expectations. Campaigners are easily disappointed by inauthentic efforts, reading much depth into even minor actions. The clumsiness or absence of effort represents an obvious signal of disinterest in Campaigners’ minds, even if the true explanation is Analysts’ emotional ignorance at work. Campaigners tend to miss the unexpected ways Analysts do show their affection, like contributing alternate explanations in conversation. Initial connections can be tough when these lovers don’t take a balanced, understanding approach (like explaining

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Out-of-Sync Priorities When Campaigners and Analysts don’t respect each other’s priorities, ongoing and increasing friction can result. The two don’t differ on any specific subject; it’s more a matter of different criteria for decision-making and preferences about where they put their energy. It’s likely that neither of these partner types are “wrong,” but this can still become a problem when they don’t fairly balance their right to their own pursuits with responsibility to mutual needs and concern for each other’s goals. Campaigners often model their priorities in life around emotional connections and indefinitely exploring the intangible, and they love to share these explorations with their romantic partners. Just as important as exploring is having partners who validate and support such explorations. As creative as they can be, though, Analysts focus on systems, tactics, and rational processes. When they take this perspective too far, they may dismiss all else, shutting down Campaigners’ lofty ideas and missing the opportunity to expand their imaginations. Campaigners may not understand why Analysts don’t place the same value on those things, and they can easily become hurt, and even resentful. What Campaigners may not understand is that Analysts’ critical analyses may not be mere dismissiveness. When Analysts say, “That’s not realistic,” or, “How would you do that?” their intent is to lend credence to their partners’ ideas and explore them in their own way, which Campaigners can take badly. Constricting “the possible” into a “system” can feel oppressive to Campaigners, even though both are open to an honest exploration of the subject at hand. These types may not understand Analysts’ starkly different perspective – their seemingly critical reactions are usually signs of interest and curiosity. Campaigners’ frustrations may be entirely misplaced, seeing action and creating reaction but missing all-important intent.

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In romantic relationships, partners work toward shared goals. When couples made up of these types sharply disagree on how to proceed, it’s hard to get anything done. Over time, they both may lose their sense of balance and start to resent each other for spending time, energy, and money on things that don’t seem “important.”

Rebalancing Campaigner–Analyst Relationships Improving Communication Campaigner–Analyst couples can smooth over potential conflicts, especially early in their relationships, by working to understand their emotional differences. It takes time and effort, but there’s little adequate substitute for this kind of understanding. When both companions are respectful and encouraging, this process brings them closer together. Campaigners can help the Analysts they love to be more open with their feelings by setting a positive example of openness, asking them to share, and being encouraging when they do. Though Analysts may express some cynical thoughts, discussing feelings together is a huge step toward balance. Campaigners can also avoid asking for too much, too fast – Analysts have a right to privacy in their own heads, just like anyone else. An essential step for both types of partner is simply taking in what each other is saying without immediate comment. Since Analysts are unlikely to naturally respond with empathy, deliberate reflection allows them to develop appropriate responses that support their partners’ needs and feelings. In turn, Campaigners can use such contemplation to moderate the emotionality of their responses. When these couples practice being emotionally perceptive toward not only themselves but each other, they achieve a more complete form of intelligence that enhances their relationships.

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These partners can use the following reminders to help them navigate this area of personal growth together: •

Ask about each other’s thoughts and feelings daily, sharing honestly, but simply – don’t overload each other with words.

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Campaigners can see how their Analyst partners feel about spontaneously events, like fancier-than-normal dinners or walks outside during sunset. Use the time to talk about the highlights of each other’s week, including emotional difficulties and personal triumphs.

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Validate each other’s feelings by showing approval while listening quietly.

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When together, focus on each other’s company and create an aura of relaxation and interest. Keep this time as a free space where both types of partner are comfortable and respected; plan to discuss complaints about each other at another time.

In balanced romantic relationships, both partner types need verbal affirmations of understanding and appreciation. Campaigners can take the lead by demonstrating and encouraging non-judgmental emotional openness with their Analyst lovers. Even if one type chooses not to share everything all the time, they’ll love knowing that the other is always ready to listen with love. Accepting Each Other’s Priorities Campaigners and Analysts don’t need to fully understand or agree with each other’s priorities in life, but in balanced romantic relationships, they do respect and actively

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support those distinct pursuits. However, for their lives together to be functional and enjoyable, they must also agree on certain realities that affect them daily, such as household chores, shared bills, and social or work obligations. It’s important that these couples can handle these priorities before they pour their hearts into more personal pursuits. Otherwise, they may find their freedom threatened by unfinished, mounting responsibilities. Cooperation can quickly resolve that kind of dilemma – these couples just need to work together. When Campaigner–Analyst couples see their mutual priorities accomplished, they can find it a lot easier to support each other’s personal pursuits. It’s also a wonderful demonstration of love to participate in each other’s interests if they want the company. Experiencing each other’s passions directly goes a long way toward rebalancing differences – and there’s always the chance of discovering they share one type of partners’ passion. If Analysts are obsessed with some technology, they tend to be thrilled at the chance to explain it to Campaigners, who, in turn, may appreciate seeing its inner workings more clearly, tapping into their natural curiosity. Likewise, Campaigners may have personal hobbies to share that Analysts may find interesting – from art, literature, and music to their favorite games. Neither partner type should feel obligated or pressured to spend their personal time on the other’s interests, but they benefit greatly by at least trying them out. These couples can: •

Discuss daily priorities with each other.

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Identify and agree on matters that are of mutual benefit, and share the work.

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Make things interesting by trying out different, new ideas to see what works best.

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Jump in if they have an inspiration for how to get something done best.

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Complete routine matters that are mutually important before moving on to individual pursuits.

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accomplishment. The core appreciation that Campaigners and Analysts feel for each other as individuals can be a source of motivation to balance their perspectives. Analysts may not care about musicals and Campaigners might find engines boring, but if that’s their partners’ taste, they can cheerfully support them.

Campaigner–Diplomat Relationships

Campaigners find a natural sense of connection with fellow Diplomats, often growing close with them quickly. Even though they have some notable differences within their Role group, Diplomats together as romantic couples have core commonalities that form the basis of both strengths and weaknesses. If they have a fault, it can be caring too much, along with the emotional drama that may sometimes bring. However, “The Campaigner” (ENFP, -A/-T)

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because they connect so well at the heart, Campaigners and other Diplomats in love have an unsurpassed capacity to sustain each other for a lifetime.

Balanced Campaigner–Diplomat Relationships Emotional Resonance Because of their similar emotional filters for viewing life, harmony develops between these types, with both partner types expressing their thoughts and feelings in open and empathetic ways. This dynamic doesn’t always contribute to objective thought, but these lovers do become deeply attuned to each other’s desires and needs, and they’re usually quite enthusiastic about making each other happy. When partners feel each other’s emotions so strongly, it’s only natural that they want to share as much joy together as possible. In love matches with other Diplomats, Campaigners may feel that someone finally understands them – their intense emotional connection acts as a foundation to enable other forms of communication. Both these partner types can share ideas, opinions, and problems together, counting on those underlying bonds to help them navigate differences and difficulties in their relationships. Sensitive, emotional people may indeed be prone to some fiery fights, but when real love is present, they can make it up to each other and be stronger for it. Despite perfectly normal rocky spots now and then, Campaigner–Diplomat couples who invest in long-term relationships find that they become essential parts of each other’s happiness. A Pair of Dreamers These companions form a bond that can support more than just their happiness when they’re together – it also strengthens them as individuals following their own

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paths. People of similar or even identical personality types might have different interests, passions, and goals for their lives, but something Campaigners and their fellow Diplomats do share are highly active imaginations. They can marvel together at ideas they come up with, and although these sweethearts might not always share equal interest in everything, they support each other’s dreams. Having supportive romantic partners is an excellent way for Campaigners to realize their own goals – people with this personality type often struggle to follow projects through to completion, even when they’re inspired. Diplomat partners chiming in with happy energy can give them the push they need to move forward. These two might even end up sharing some goals together, and when they decide to balance their dreaming with a dose of realistic effort, they become partners in achievement as well as love. Whether it’s saving up to go on a trip, founding a charity, or redesigning their apartment, these couples can do anything they conceive when they muster cooperative action together.

Unbalanced Campaigner–Diplomat Relationships Emotional Burnout As wonderful as strong, bonded emotions can be, maintaining such a deep connection and constantly catering to each other’s feelings can become exhausting. Campaigner–Diplomat couples who become too interdependent may lose their individual emotional stability, and this lost sense of self can lead to Campaigners feeling as though they’re not themselves when their lovers are gone, a dangerous precipice to be on, indeed. These couplings risk stifling each other with too many expectations. Passionate desire for each other’s attention, reassurance, and company becomes unbalanced

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when it approaches addictive need – and that may grow overwhelming to overburdened

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interconnected companions take their emotional exchanges too far, they can become codependent in all the wrong ways. One of the biggest problems with codependency is that it assumes too much – and everyone has limits. When Campaigners or other Diplomats take their adoration too far and idealistically view their partners as their prime source of emotional validation, even minor flaws or missteps on their beloved’s part may seem shockingly disappointing. Idolization of each other may be hard to avoid, especially when new love is forming with a truly remarkable person, but if not balanced with a little realism, it can set up an overreaction. Campaigners and fellow Diplomats tend to be vulnerable to having their high hopes dashed by reality, but when the source of that disappointment is the people they love, the damage is likely to be more unpleasant than mere disappointment. Even healthy relationships show their weaknesses at times, and blame is often the unfortunate result. Lofty Distractions Campaigner–Diplomat couples have a troubling tendency to distract each other from everyday realities. They often get lost in their worlds of ideas and possibilities, drifting from one grand concept to another while ignoring immediate concerns. This can produce wonderful creativity and insight, but it might not result in a stable life. If they don’t take the time to live in the present and focus on simple realities, their relationships can lack practical sensibility.

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Setting unrealistic goals isn’t always conducive to success, and lofty ambition often comes at the expense of more basic, but necessary, duties. These couples can suffer very unpleasant consequences when they get distracted and neglect practical matters. By ignoring more basic aspects of life, they ultimately undermine their future capacity to achieve their broader goals; after all, generosity implies having something to give. A little planning can avoid all the little mishaps and mistakes that otherwise add up, forcing these couples to spend hard-earned savings on late fees, interest, and parking tickets instead their dreams. Campaigner–Diplomat relationships risk more than just daily upkeep though; they may develop grandiose plans that continually drain their resources, never quite work out how they wanted, and eclipse much-needed pragmatic planning. The mere striving may be satisfying, but at some point, couples can feel their lack of pragmatism in very basic ways. Lives spent fighting injustice or painting portraits may have tremendous moral and spiritual payoffs, but even the most idealistic couples need a roof over their heads and enough money to take care of themselves in retirement.

Rebalancing Campaigner–Diplomat Relationships Individual Emotional Strength When these couples seek emotional fulfillment in each other in unbalanced ways, one way to rebalance is by working to develop their independence. One excellent way to cultivate independence is to plan fun activities apart from each other, in addition to the time they spend together. Whether it’s solitude or time spent with friends and family, these romantic partners become better sources of strength for each other when they’re strong on their own.

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Stepping back now and then doesn’t in any way diminish their powerful connection, but it can ensure that they stay in touch with themselves. Space is essential for authentic, personal thoughts and feelings to be affirmed without anyone else’s energy in the mix. In balanced relationships, both partner types respect the need for this space. Once codependent relationships form, any measure of independence on the part of their romantic partners can bring these types a crippling sense of abandonment. That’s a challenging issue for Campaigners to navigate, but the best approach may be to encourage their lovers to do things independently, lending all their natural enthusiasm and encouragement to get them out the door while opting to stay behind. This helps forestall their partners’ issues, minimizing unintended damage there, while also helping Campaigners to normalize the idea of their partners doing things without them. Here are some steps that can help: •

Find areas where you have different interests.

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Take time to indulge your different interests, and allow partners to do the same without interference.

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Understand that a partner’s non-participation makes sense. If one person loves to deep-sea fish, but the activity bores the other, it makes perfect sense for the latter to sit the activity out.

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Take time alone to focus on personal thoughts and emotions.

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Balance time spent together and time socializing with others.

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Gently decline to participate in each other’s negative emotions.

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There’s no magic bullet to prevent or resolve strong negative emotions, but underlying care for each other can see these couples through conflicts. Practicing emotional individuality when times are good can give these companions some valuable strength to maintain their senses of self when times get rough. Balancing Dreams with Responsibility To achieve balance between grand hopes and necessary realities, Campaigner– Diplomat couples must learn to engage in the present moment while still honoring their expansive, creative tendencies. One way to do this is to find time to participate in hands-on activities on a regular basis together. Working on a home improvement project, shopping for groceries, and being social with others are great ways for these lovers to enjoy the moment yet still enjoy each other’s inspired company. Having grand dreams is good, but putting energy into practical activities together ensures that they don’t end up living with their heads always in the clouds. This balance helps prepare them to deal realistically with more serious matters. When less-pleasant responsibilities come knocking, Campaigners and their beloved Diplomats can roll up their sleeves, put on some music, and try to make the work as fun as possible. Whether it’s fixing a leak, cleaning a room, or saving enough money for bills, both benefit from companionship and help – working together with a cheerful attitude creates momentum. The will to accomplish responsibilities takes more than just instructions, but these steps can bolster these couples’ commitment to getting things done: •

Make time every week to complete minor, in-the-moment pursuits together.

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Have a verbal brainstorming session to discuss daily chores that are being overlooked, and agree to cooperate on getting them done.

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Pick a chore a day and make it a permanent part of your weekly schedule.

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Keep a list of necessary chores and errands, then share execution of the listed items.

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Don’t put anything off. Do the chores as soon as possible, together or independently.

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Keep track of completed tasks to boost morale.

For types so likely to get lost in their own imaginations, it’s very important to take action. Whether planning a simple camping trip, designing and building a garden, or sweeping the floors, Campaigner–Diplomat couples can push themselves to move past the hoping and dreaming phase and get to work on their goals.

Campaigner–Sentinel Relationships

Campaigner–Sentinel relationships often bring about a kind of consistent support that makes both types feel secure and very well cared for. Campaigners’ closely-held value of harmony with those close to them combines with Sentinels’ sense of stability, creating a love that fulfills both partners’ needs very well. They may have radically different approaches to life and internal motivations, but both types place

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tremendous emphasis on having deep and trusting love in their lives, and this appreciation opens them up to learning from each other’s differences.

Balanced Campaigner–Sentinel Relationships A Foundation of Mutual Benefit Sentinels and Campaigners share outlooks that can enable great relationships. Both types sincerely want what’s best for people – Sentinels create stability and continuity, and Campaigners foster kindness and emotional support. These couples place great emphasis on their values, and although they may have different approaches when promoting their ideals, their underlying desire for harmony is a lifelong practice. Balanced Sentinel–Campaigner romantic partnerships combine their somewhat distinct values and are based on mutual support, something that love easily brings out in both types. One of the best things in balanced Campaigner–Sentinel relationships is how they compensate for each other’s behaviors. Sentinels can be an enormously grounding influence on sometimes flighty, unrealistic Campaigners, providing them with a stable perspective that helps them focus. Campaigners provide their Sentinel lovers with deep understanding and empathy, as well as a needed dose of inspiration and excitement. Campaigners’ rich sense of fantasy and exuberant adventurousness can help Sentinels break out of their reserved shells and realize their own potential. When willing to appreciate each other’s strengths, these two types can learn much about who they are and who they can become.

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Building a Rich Life Together Campaigners aren’t known for pursuing stability, but as they grow and experience life, they realize the difference between freedom and chaos. Just as a painter needs an easel and a musician needs an instrument, Campaigners need the necessary tools, knowledge, and resources to achieve their idealistic, creative visions. Sentinel partners are perfectly suited to helping them establish the underlying structures necessary to pursue their ideas and goals. Sentinels are usually practical, industrious, and sensible, and Campaigners need this kind of influence to move their lives forward. Sentinels thrive on predictability, but even the most sensible goals can feel hollow without warmth and companionship – Campaigners offer their romantic partners lush, heartfelt devotion. Sentinels’ efforts to keep their lives in order attain deeper meaning when the love of Campaigners enters their lives like a ray of sunshine; they can depend on having love at their side. Though they don’t bring the same things to a shared life, these two types build a more complete life by embracing each other’s differences and giving generously of their own virtues.

Unbalanced Campaigner–Sentinel Relationships Frustration with Follow-Through Romantic relationships don’t always go as planned with these two types. At first, Campaigners may impress Sentinels with their idealism, as their focus on social values likely appeals to Sentinels’ sense of what is right and fair. However, Campaigners may find themselves at a loss once Sentinel partners begin to tire of their seeming inability to complete a project. They can become frustrated once Sentinels begin to question how practical their ideas are, and whether they’ll ever be

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able to finish anything. Campaigners who don’t balance their imaginations with pragmatism may find their Sentinel companions dismissing their flexible, optimistic visions as impractical. When Sentinels let their frustration get out of hand, they may very likely hurt Campaigners with their criticism, especially because there may be some truth in it. Frustration goes both ways, though. As Sentinels become weary of Campaigners “jumping around” from idea to idea, Campaigners’ patience wears thin with Sentinels’ risk aversion. The word “boring” may even come to mind. Sentinels can appear rigid to Campaigners, as though they suffer from a lack of vision or ability to change. When Sentinels cling to desire for predictability, Campaigners may tire of the nuts and bolts of always mapping out the future with little room for spontaneity or opportunity. Even worse, Sentinels who place too much emphasis on consistency can make their Campaigner lovers feel trapped or suppressed, as though they cannot fully exercise their curiosity and creativity – things that are essential to their joy. Different Timetables for Living Campaigners and Sentinels have potentially incompatible ways of engaging experiences. Typical Sentinels come up with a detailed schedule that they stick to dutifully, with everything in its place and on time. In contrast, Campaigners prefer making things up as they go along, comfortable abandoning something once their interest wanes, and taking a very relaxed and flexible approach to engagement in the first place – things can happen “whenever.” These two types can get on each other’s nerves, especially because their different approaches affect so many common aspects of life, like meeting for dates.

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Misunderstandings and irritation abound when these partner types feel their needs or perspectives are being overlooked. Campaigners may feel controlled when their Sentinel partners pressure them to solidify or stick to their timetables, and Sentinels may assume that Campaigners are unreliable when they refuse to do so. However, both types may be unaware that Campaigners’ impulsiveness comes from a willingness to embrace the risk of the unknown, whereas Sentinels’ need for stability and predictability comes from a genuine fear of the unknown. There’s obviously great value in balancing planning with adapting, but when these types refuse to move toward such a combination, disagreements about which approach is correct can turn toxic.

Rebalancing Campaigner–Sentinel Relationships Accomplishing Things Together With a sense of appreciation in mind, Campaigners can apply themselves to accomplishing things that matter to both them and their loved ones – acting with the same creative spirit that drives their imaginations. Sentinels can keep an eye on practical matters that Campaigners might normally let slide, while also being more flexible and open to trying fresh ideas and pursuits together. This doesn’t mean that Campaigners expect Sentinels to keep things in order by themselves, but rather that they both balance unconventional ideas with sensible action. Sentinels respect those who follow through on their intentions, and they’re impressed when Campaigners show a willingness to roll up their sleeves and get to work. This respect extends beyond practical or routine matters and into personal interests as well. Just as Sentinels appreciate their Campaigner sweethearts’ participation in everyday responsibilities, they also see the value in working on their

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creative dreams – and they offer their help. Laundry and finances are important, but for Campaigners, life is pointless without being able to dream their dreams. However, they can rebalance this point of view with pragmatism to support and compromise with their Sentinel partners. Some basic steps can help: •

Propose an action.

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With the action in mind, work together to establish a goal (creating a weekly budget, for example).

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Campaigners can seek out ways to improve a task, whereas Sentinels can gently remind Campaigners about the main purpose of said task. This way, the task can be completed both innovatively and efficiently, giving both types peace of mind and mutual satisfaction.

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Both types should work at communicating to manage any frustration or impatience that may occur.

A strong commitment to each other can serve as an underlying reason for each of these romantic partners to be supportive. Creative imagination and stable convention need not be at odds if Campaigner–Sentinel partners are willing to share their time and energy on that which matters to the other. The Best of Both Rebalancing everyday scheduling means both partner types should have their way some of the time. Campaigners can learn to be more pragmatic, recognizing that their partners’ risk aversion comes from a fear of the what-if rather than personal distaste toward the Campaigner personality itself. Sentinel partners can learn to be more spontaneous, even if that means occasionally relaxing a schedule –or even going without a schedule. They can also recognize the importance of respecting their

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beloved Campaigners’ freedom and their right to change their minds. Experiencing love and joy together gives Sentinels motivation to be patient and accepting, and given how concerned Campaigners are, they’re unlikely to push their Sentinel partners too far out of their comfort zones. In fact, Campaigners can use their go-with-the-flow attitude to their romantic partners’ benefit, letting Sentinels organize and direct the plans and activities that are important to them, especially those that are time-sensitive. There’s nothing wrong with keeping a tidy schedule much of the time, and Campaigners benefit from increased structure in their lives. They can simply relax and let Sentinels handle the schedule, ensuring that they’re ready to participate when needed and knowing that just as they revel in – and deserve – their wild and free moments, so do Sentinels deserve the satisfaction of things being on time. Some steps to keep in mind that can help enable workable compromises: •

Campaigners can come up with fun ideas, and their Sentinel partners can plan the experiences, so that both types can find enjoyment.

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If Campaigners want to propose “wild” activities like scuba diving or rock climbing, they can gradually ease their Sentinel lovers in with more tame activities like scuba classes or an hour at the local bouldering gym.

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Engage in unscheduled time together to explore in a moment-to-moment context – perhaps fairs or other free-form events of mutual interest.

The trick is to allow the time to be free-flowing, with very loose plans. Consider two hours on a Sunday dedicated to doing whatever the couple may please – planting in the garden, going to a friend’s house for tea, or simply sitting together and watching a movie.

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Both partner types can take a step into each other’s timeframes now and then – they each have a good approach for certain things. When it comes to recreation, Sentinels may find unexpected relief when they let go of rigid control, and Campaigners can appreciate the benefits of staying on schedule when it comes to important matters.

Campaigner–Explorer Relationships

The Campaigner–Explorer pairing offers both partner types many adventures, and their differences combine in interesting and exciting ways. Campaigners have heads full of creative dreams, and Explorers tend to like hands-on ideas and activities; they may alternate between baffling or inspiring each other. Campaigners’ imaginations might not leap at the more material challenges that appeal to Explorers, who, in turn, may become bored by imaginative talk of the intangible, but love itself expands the horizons of both partner types as they introduce each other to new things.

Balanced Campaigner–Explorer Relationships Exploring Reality Together On their own, Campaigners tend to get lost in their imagination, but with Explorers by their sides, they quickly find themselves drawn out of their heads and into the “The Campaigner” (ENFP, -A/-T)

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world. Unusual concepts appeal to both types, and when deep imagination becomes the launchpad for engagement, both can uncover new dimensions. When it comes to creativity and ingenuity, these significant others serve as unique sources of inspiration for each other – Campaigners providing a principled, highly imaginative perspective, and Explorers getting excited to put ideas into a real-world context to see how they work. Together, these types take an interest in exploring everything: they’re always looking for what’s new and exciting, and they appreciate each other’s way of engaging the world. Explorer partners tend to share Campaigners’ wonderful sense of curiosity, and they also carry that curiosity forward into action, trying to understand new things in their minds and through practice. It’s very likely that this pairing will result in lots of fun and adventure together, not only making initial dating easier, but keeping things fresh as they progress deeper into loving relationships. Freedom Together Another quality that Campaigners and Explorers share is a love of freedom. To be happy, Campaigners need to feel as though they can dream and create without restraint; likewise, Explorers want to walk their own paths by engaging pursuits that are important to them. Although they may have different targets and approaches, these couples share an essential desire to follow their hearts and minds wherever they may lead. When love grows between them, they support each other’s liberty and passion. They know the importance of their own freedom, so it makes sense to both types that their romantic partners also want the freedom to explore; it’s normal to them. Whereas some types might feel compelled to impose structure or restrictions, these lovers likely just say, “Go for it, babe!”

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If loving something means setting it free, then Campaigner–Explorer couples can truly find empowering love together, cheering each other on as they embrace their dreams and goals. When a connection built from mutual respect for their differences ties them together, Campaigners can happily grant their Explorer companions the time and space they need to master whatever they set their sights on. In turn, Explorers are unlikely to deny Campaigners their grandest hopes and ideas – though they might encourage them to act rather than just dream. These couples don’t hold each other to rigid standards or convention by any means. Both are willing to adapt to new things all the time, even seeking them out by preference. When balanced in their support of each other’s interests, Campaigners and Explorers in love can find endless happy adventures together.

Unbalanced Campaigner–Explorer Relationships Why Don’t You Understand Me? Despite their shared curiosity and adaptability, Campaigners and Explorers have some significant differences when it comes to imagination versus practicality. Campaigners who take their imagination too far can essentially end up living in a world of self-affirmed realities, where what’s correct is based mainly on their own internal vision, unendingly obsessing over concepts without ever bringing them into the real world. This can make even the most flexible and permissive Explorer lovers shake their heads in vexed wonderment. Explorers may lose patience with Campaigners who often wax too poetically for their liking; in turn, Campaigners may see Explorers as limited in their ability to accept intangible truths. Explorers specialize in real-world experimentation – they actively practice fitting things together, their ingenuity based heavily on adapting to feedback

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from their environment. When something doesn’t turn out the way they had hoped, they let go and try a different approach. Campaigners, on the other hand, look to the infinite to see how intangible things might fit together, and they can become blinded by possibility despite contrary feedback from the outside world. When something doesn’t go as they’d hoped, they adapt their perceptions to maintain the vision in their heads, fixing the discrepancy in the realm of the unactionable to avoid having to test it in the real world. When these approaches interact, they’re likely to cause friction. Campaigners may wonder why Explorers are so dismissive of the things that are important to them, whereas Explorers might worry that Campaigners just take things too seriously. These beliefs are likely to cause great hurt in each partner type, leading to arguments, dislike, and eventual apathy. The fundamental communication issue between them requires these significant others learn how each other thinks, and then decide to understand each other during disagreements. Shifting Sands These sweethearts usually share enthusiasm for all that’s new and unknown, but their willingness to dive headlong into change may result in shared risk. Although they share abundant love and joy, even those things can be threatened if their lives become too chaotic or fail to meet their basic needs. Prosperity, long-term success, and the achievement of dreams often require steady commitment and efforts that don’t immediately pay off. These couples’ love of newness and change may distract them from less thrilling (but no less important and rewarding) investments in themselves and their future. They’re often gleefully willing to shirk responsibilities.

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Whether failing to decide on an area of study, switching jobs too often, or simply frittering away their time and money on passing pleasures together, Campaigners and Explorers are by their very nature in danger of building a future on shifting sands rather than a solid foundation. For most people, who don’t possess great wealth, this can be a pernicious problem. If these types let their novelty-seeking get out of hand, they may not stick to the same goals for very long. This may be fine in discretionary personal pursuits, but it can set them back in matters of long-term development which are important to creating happy, successfully shared lives.

Rebalancing Campaigner–Explorer Relationships Being Flexible With Each Other Reconciling differences between airy, conceptual idealism and hands-on practicality is a needed step for these couples to achieve balance. Luckily for Campaigners and Explorers, their mutual willingness to try new things offers them a clear path to accepting – if not always understanding – each other’s styles. With a little tolerance, these two types can see the value in their different methods: Campaigners can see how well Explorers figure things out by direct engagement, and Explorers can see how deeply insightful Campaigners are using only their minds. A combination of unbounded imagination and practical experimentation is probably a superior approach to either method alone; therefore, with open minds, these couples can find a balance that allows them to operate together with amazing results. One of the biggest steps for these lovers is to realize that they each have priorities, and none is necessarily wrong. Campaigners can work to respect Explorers’ focus on tangible accomplishments – they have every right to work on what matters to them.

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For their part in rebalancing, Explorers might consider applying their masterful abilities to helping their Campaigner partners evolve some of their high-minded ideas into reality – at least, the ones that can be translated into reality. Of course, Explorers can’t be expected to merely occupy an intangible realm, so when Campaigners ask their partners to join in, they must also be ready for action. Here are some ideas to create balance in this area: •

Show each other how you make your own methods work.

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Try out the other’s approach, preferably during an activity that’s of interest to both types and can be done together; shared experiences create understanding.

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Campaigners: o Identify your own thought processes. o Communicate them in a bare-bones fashion to your partner (no philosophical waxing).

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Together, do a joint activity that directly translates Campaigners’ idealistic beliefs into something tangible that Explorers can see. Take volunteering, for example. Campaigners can talk about the idea of helping others and why it’s important, then both types can volunteer together. The gratitude of those who receive that help will resonate with Explorers.

These types can tap into their love of novelty and explore each other’s methods. The simplest way is just to join each other in personal pursuits with an open heart and mind – neither partner type needs to convert, but they can both experiment with different perspectives and methods.

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Building a Foundation Communication and cooperation are vital to rebalancing these couples’ potential to meander through life. Matters of responsibility must be taken care of together willingly if they want to achieve meaningful long-term goals. Learning to regularly communicate about topics that are difficult or uninteresting is a sign of both personal maturity and a mature relationship. Even if these romantic partners are happily tolerant of disorder or prefer keeping their options open, talking through a budget, housekeeping, and meal planning are essential steps to keep their homes and relationships running smoothly. Campaigner–Explorer couples tend to especially dislike boring responsibilities, which poses a great challenge. Although they can find happiness living outside convention, they do need to be responsible enough to recognize what will make them happy and secure in the long run. If this means more attention and effort toward work, saving, or daily chores, then they need to get serious about those things. In realistic terms, this means agreeing to dedicate some time every week working on their responsible goals together. They can find it easier to practice being disciplined when they view it as an expansion of their desires – these goals are for their own benefit. To help with goal-setting and engagement, these couples can: •

Discuss and decide on a few long-term goals that are important to both. What is the goal? Why is it important? What resources will it require?

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Define to each other what success would look like. Define how completion will be measured.

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Consider whether the goal is achievable – don’t be afraid to ask trustworthy people with related experience for their opinions and advice.

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Decide on and commit to a schedule of when to work on the goal together.

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Work on the goal together with positive attitudes and encouragement toward each other.

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Stick to the plan as much as possible, and adjust only if necessary.

With a little shared focus and effort, Campaigner–Explorer couples can translate their desires into real-world results that keep them happy far into the future, not just in the moment. By working together, there’s no reason they can’t create some stability as well as live spontaneous, light-hearted lives together.

Conclusion Staying True to Their Hearts Campaigners have a sensitive core that often makes it challenging for them to uphold their boundaries, especially when it comes to critical social endeavors like romance. No other type is more sweet, thoughtful, and responsive to other people’s influence, and that very receptiveness grants them many advantages in love. People with this personality type are deeply empathetic and open-hearted, and when they love someone, they not only welcome them into their lives, but also are willing to accept and revere them as they are. Campaigners can forge rewarding romantic relationships with any type, and when they meet someone who truly appreciates and respects them in return, balanced love knows no limits. If there’s any cautionary theme for Campaigners in love, it’s not to lose themselves unreservedly in their adoration of their partners. These types so readily give of themselves that they may forgo their happiness as individuals while they’re in relationships. Loving partners will give Campaigners what they need, either

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supporting them actively or just giving them time for themselves, but these types must do their part by communicating their needs. Conforming to their partners can create great closeness, but love only grows so much in an echo chamber – those who truly love Campaigners want to see them honestly, experience all that they are, and revel in their uniqueness. Campaigners can contribute by making their needs clear to their lovers, and by describing how to meet those needs. When Campaigners share themselves without shame, they may be surprised at how attractive they are to other people. Their ability to care for others on an emotional level, their insightful imaginations, and their love of novelty and spontaneity make them very appealing to all types of potential partners. Accepting themselves and their own wonderful qualities is a powerful step toward meeting their own goals of personal growth, as well as finding true love.

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Inspirational Attitudes Campaigners approach life with boundless energy and enthusiasm, an attitude that young children often share. Parents with this personality type wear their hearts on their sleeves and their emotions on their faces, making it easy for their children to understand whether their latest actions have won them favor or earned disapproval. Though the latter might pain a child, even obvious disappointment is perhaps preferable to figuring out the more inscrutable emotions presented by other personality types. The rose-tinted world in which Campaigners live and thrive may strike some as only a matter of perception, but their eternal enthusiasm and ebullience often find reciprocation in even the stoniest of hearts. These types don’t dwell on the negative, and disputes between parents and children are resolved as quickly as possible, becoming distant memories as soon as some new activity has seized their imagination.

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Always Accessible Though Campaigner parents often have extremely involved social schedules, they likely always have time to listen to their children on matters great and small. With a direct yet comforting tone, Campaigners get to the source of their kids’ troubles with speed and thoroughness that make them the envy of those who find their progeny to be less than forthcoming. These parents can establish a rapport with their children that’s enjoyable yet profound, a bond that puts their offspring at ease even when discussing life’s most sensitive problems. Indeed, it’s this very openness – a marked lack of calculation and guile – that facilitates free and easy communication between Campaigner parents and their children. By trusting their parents’ emotional transparency, their children can learn to be more emotionally available as well. Campaigners rarely act as mere sounding boards, however, and can provide compassionate yet appropriate guidance, shepherding their children through hardships. Fun-Loving and Connected Having fun, cutting loose, and enjoying time with others – especially their children – is something Campaigner parents embrace. Where many mothers and fathers may feel pressured to perform their parenting duties in a particular way, confident Campaigners have little fear bucking the system. Having fun as a family is more important than a pristinely organized pantry, and meaningful conversations take precedence over parent-teacher association meetings. These types find happiness only when others can share in it, and it's perhaps this trait more than any other that children of Campaigner parents benefit from most. Campaigners are expansive, not exclusionary, and search for ways to ensure that

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everyone can take part in activities. Children with similarly excitable demeanors are quick to embrace their Campaigner parents’ most outlandish ideas. These types are careful not to ignore shy kids, either, and find ways to connect with them that won’t spook their more Introverted children’s spirits. Their connected ebullience can become impulsivity, however, and that skill can take a back seat to Campaigners’ desire for flexibility instead of structure. Unstructured Campaigner parents who view structure as an unnecessary restraint often have a hard time understanding the value of consistency and routine, as they instead prize openness and adaptability. However, for youngsters who are only beginning to grasp the complexities of the world around them, rules and schedules provide a comforting predictability to the otherwise unfamiliar chaos of life. Inexperienced Campaigner parents are especially prone to believing that “whenever” bedtimes for toddlers – and a lack of set curfews for teens – are ways of freeing their children from the artificial restrictions they tend to rebel against. However, these types quickly learn that where they see freedom, children see chaos that breeds frustration and confusion. As they become older and more accustomed to a lack of structure and accountability, kids quickly learn they can use this inconsistency to their advantage. Children can become adept at out-arguing and manipulating their Campaigner parents into letting them have their way, which can prove especially dangerous as they get older. No Time for Downtime Though not exactly hedonistic, Campaigners can certainly act as though life were one big party, a characteristic that, while often endearing, can sometimes grow tiresome

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for both themselves and those around them. This is particularly true for Campaigner parents who have children with more Introverted dispositions. Though these moms and dads shine when chaperoning field trips, coaching soccer games, or orchestrating mass sleep-overs (where little sleep is to be had), they often fail to make time for everyone to rest and recharge. Those who tend to equate serenity with boredom struggle with those aspects of parenthood that demand a lower-key approach. New Campaigner moms or dads, so excited to show off their bundles of joy to friends, family, and even strangers passing by on the street, might feel uncomfortably tethered to their home by their infants’ need for a peaceful place to nap. When unable to reign in their impulsive desire for busyness, Campaigner parents can have as much difficulty as their children with homework or other tasks that call more for silence than celebration. Overly Sensitive Their sensitivity and focus on morality mean that things other personality types would shrug off may hurt Campaigners deeply. Few things could be more hurtful to this exceptionally sensitive personality type than seeing their sincere beliefs about what is noble challenged by their children. In such circumstances, these parents might blame themselves for being unable to instill the right values in their children, and they may try to fix that by resorting to emotional pleas and even unintentional manipulation. Parents with this personality type should be especially careful during their children’s adolescent years. Teenagers often rebel against their parents’ authority, and Campaigners shouldn’t immediately assume that their kids are actively fighting their beliefs or ignoring all their teachings. Otherwise, these types can feel deeply hurt,

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and try to focus all their efforts on mitigating damage and strengthening their relationship with their children – which may provoke even stronger pushback. Creating Structure and Rhythm Perhaps one of the most beneficial things Campaigner parents can do to build meaningful balance in their parenting style is to incorporate structure and rhythm in their kids’ daily lives. Such creative types may balk at the idea of structure, equating that word with boredom and conformity. But the truth is, when used correctly, structure can provide more freedom to create and connect with their children. The adage, “In limits, there is freedom,” holds true for children of all personality types who rely on their parents to set safe boundaries they can count on as they explore their world. A daily rhythm is structured yet flexible, providing the consistency that children of all ages need while also allowing for spontaneity and time to stop and smell the proverbial roses. Unlike a strict schedule where every activity is planned down to the minute, a rhythm helps to create a natural routine that adjusts as needed. Kids benefit from this type of structure because it helps them to feel safe – to know that their needs are met, and they’re adequately being cared for. For Campaigner parents, a daily rhythm can help them carve out time to get things done and have some time to engage in their own meaningful activities. Often, just knowing that there’s flexibility built into their daily rhythm can stave off any fears of feeling too constricted and confined by their responsibilities – a win-win for both parents and children! Enjoying the Silence Every day need not be extraordinary – or, at least, not in the sense of parades and fireworks. Campaigner parents who attempt to pack in as many activities as humanly

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possible may find less fulfillment than those who give themselves and their children some time to relax and reflect. After all, fun is an experience best understood through contrast. A day at the beach becomes more exceptional after spending the rest of the week in a windowless office. Even these Extraverted parents need time to process the flood of precious memories that they’ve spent every waking moment attempting to make. Parenting imposes new demands on time, and Campaigners who become parents should realize that a “night out” or a “weekend away” may not always be the remedy for a harried life. A quiet family dinner, followed by an evening where everyone curls up with a book, can be as refreshing and necessary as the post-race breather a runner takes. Being Emotionally Honest Those with this personality type may have a hard time employing some of the punitive measures other parents rely on – even listening to a toddler wail through a three-minute-long time-out can be as much a punishment for Campaigner parents as their children. But these types have their own method of discipline, though they employ it with such subtlety that they may not even realize they’re using it. When Campaigners are genuinely hurt by their kids’ misbehavior, they may find themselves failing to discipline their children at all, shrugging off their behavior as something that they can’t (or won’t) attempt to control. “Love withdrawal” is a powerful tool that especially frustrated Campaigners may employ for correcting behavior, but it can have the terrible consequence of making children feel as though their parents’ love is conditional, even transactional. Instead of love being something that just exists as an eternal bond between parents and

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children, love becomes a reward for being “good.” Campaigner parents should, of course, be honest about their feelings with their children. If they’re disappointed, sad, or angry, they should be free to say so. But kids must also be reassured that these moments of tension are transient, while their parents’ love is forever.

Parenting for Each Stage of Development Each stage of a child’s growth presents both unique challenges and exciting milestones. Learning how to navigate these stages can seem daunting, but the opportunity to build healthy attachments and create meaningful memories makes it worth the struggle. Renowned psychologist Erik Erikson proposed a theory of psychosocial development that identified eight stages, five of which take place between birth and 18 years of age. It’s important to remember that these stages aren’t set in stone, and the ages listed for each stage are approximate. Children develop at their own pace and meet each milestone in their own time. Whatever the stage of development, growth never stops. The following paragraphs discuss what to expect at each stage of development, as well as how the strengths and weaknesses of the Campaigner personality type can affect their parenting at each stage. Suggestions are also offered on how to help Campaigners turn an unbalanced approach around.

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Building Bonds (From Birth to Approximately 1 ½ Years) According to Erikson, the stages of infancy and early childhood last from birth until approximately three years of age. Children in these stages are very dependent on their parents to meet their needs. This is also when the bonds of attachment are created by meeting their babies’ needs, developing trusting relationships, and promoting autonomy. The priority for infants in the journey to attachment is having their basic needs met. Attentive and affectionate parents – especially those who engage in consistent physical contact such as snuggling or transporting their children in baby carriers on their bodies – develop trusting, hopeful relationships with their infants and are likely to have very little difficulty building comfortable attachments. When their needs are met, babies learn to trust that their Campaigner parents provide for them. If parents are inconsistent in providing for their infants’ needs, they likely have difficulty creating positive, trusting parent-child attachment.

Balanced Infant Bonding Building Loving Bonds From the moment their children are born, Campaigners throw all their energy into making sure their babies’ needs are met, physically, spiritually, and emotionally. Building trusting, loving bonds with their infants comes naturally to individuals with this personality type. Infants need affection that goes beyond just daily care. They crave the physical connection that their parents provide through cuddling, rocking, speaking softly, and making eye contact. Their parents’ loving smiles do more than

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just entertain their infants – they create primal connections that inspire the trust they need to foster positive relationships. In addition to affection and compassion, dedication is necessary for building trusting relationships with infants. Campaigner parents are quite possibly the most passionate of all the personality types, and there’s very little that they’re more passionate about than their children. The infancy stage is a marathon, not a sprint, and working through the ups and downs of caring for babies utterly dependent upon their parents is daunting. Passion breeds the dedication Campaigners need to build bonds with their children during this overwhelming yet magical stage. Open to Anything While structure and schedules are important during the infancy stage, flexibility and the ability to quickly adapt to their changing needs are just as important. Midnight feedings, spontaneous crying fits, and unexpected diaper disasters are just a few of the ways babies refuse to adhere to a schedule. Thankfully, Campaigners tend to be exceptionally flexible, thrive in unpredictability, and find it relatively easy to readjust their expectations when situations change. Caring for infants is exhausting. However, Campaigner parents certainly appreciate the many new experiences this stage provides – and they’re more than energetic enough to keep up with their infants’ often-changing needs. Nothing bores them more than a strict, redundant schedule day in and day out, and they certainly won’t have to worry about that with new babies. While not all interruptions to their schedules are pleasant, they’re enough to keep Campaigner parents on their toes and prevent boredom.

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Unbalanced Infant Bonding Taking On Too Much Many new parents experience a great deal of pressure to maintain their pre-infant lifestyle after their children are born. When Campaigners parents become too focused on living up to the unrealistic expectations placed by either themselves or others, they can find themselves taking on more than they can handle. These types are often used to a full plate of activities and obligations even before children come into the picture, and both newbies and veterans alike can attempt to play the role of “super parents” by jumping back into work right away, or obsessing about keeping up with a busy social calendar. When Campaigners cave in to pressure to be everything to everyone, they end up overtaxing themselves physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. Being parents who can “do it all” may feel gratifying, initially, but it can have some significant consequences for those with very young children. When Campaigner parents are overly focused on attending every social gathering (“Sure, I can host Friendsgiving this year! I can totally fit that in between work, book club, and my intramural hockey team practice!”) and maintaining every other aspect of their busy lifestyles, they can sacrifice opportunities to bond with their infants. Babies are only babies for a short time, so cutting back on external obligations may be necessary for Campaigners to build the strongest attachments possible with their children. From Daydreams to Diaper Detail Many Campaigners have a very idealized vision of what it’s like to parent infants. Visions of baby-and-me yoga classes and cooing over a smiling infant splashing in the tub are inevitably doused by the reality of all-night crying sessions and mountains

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of dirty diapers. This wakeup call can be especially shocking to those dreamy Campaigners who were unprepared for the enormity of the responsibility now before them. Their dreams of basking in the magical moments of infancy are eventually met with the reality that they aren’t only responsible for emotionally providing for their children, but that they must be able to meet their practical needs as well. This level of security and stability can seem like elusive concepts to any new parent, but inexperienced Campaigner parents can find this adjustment especially tricky.

Rebalancing Infant Bonding Lightening the Load As mentioned above, the infant stage is short-lived, making the window for building strong bonds between parents and children relatively small. Rather than trying to maintain a stressfully hectic lifestyle, Campaigner parents can use this stage to focus on attachment between themselves and their infants, laying a strong foundation for their future relationships with their children. Parties and play dates will always be there, but special moments like those magical first smiles when playing peek-a-boo, or watching their babies crawl for the first time, only happen once. Missing those meaningful moments to attend an office party or to host a public forum on city park amenities can ultimately lead to regret for both parents and children. It may be a challenge for Campaigners to switch modes from “always-on-the-go” to prioritizing their parent-child relationship, but this dramatic change doesn’t have to be permanent. The extra time spent bonding with their infants leads to healthy, happy parent-child attachments where children trust their parents love and support them. Once they build that trust, Campaigners can work to find a new balance

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between meeting external obligations, personal needs, and their children’s needs as well. One method Campaigner parents can use to ensure that they’re focusing on their primary needs (taking care of themselves and their children) is to ask themselves the following questions: •

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Answering these questions honestly can allow Campaigner parents to determine whether the activity or event in question is worth sacrificing time with their children during this stage. These types need connection with others and to feel as though they’re helping to make the world a better place – and they can still have those things while being parents. Finding a balance between bonding with their babies and continuing to engage in meaningful activities in their lives can take some trial and error, but the long-term results of striking that balance are well worth it for these parents and their children. Finding Beauty in the Midst of Frustration It’s easy to see the beauty in those moments where a baby is sleeping peacefully or smiling lovingly at their parent. However, beauty can seem absent in those moments where that infant won’t stop crying, or when the laundry is piled up so high, it resembles a geological formation. Most people would advise Campaigners to just

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“deal with it,” because parenthood is hard and not always lovely and magical. These types of reality check can only further frustrate already disenchanted Campaigners. A more effective (and enjoyable) approach to this particular problem is to purposely look for the beauty in even the most tedious moments. Wabi-sabi is a Japanese concept that can be summarized as “finding beauty in imperfection.” Think of a handmade coffee mug, with its lack of symmetry and minor faults – part of the appeal of this item is that it is imperfect and has its own character and uniqueness. By adopting this approach, rather than focusing on the stresses of keeping their homes clean or dealing with crabby babies, Campaigners can embrace these difficult moments and find the beauty within them. The following steps can help develop a meditation or gratitude practice when dealing with the less exciting parts of parenthood: •

Choose a mantra that promotes peace or gratitude, such as, “I am thankful for this day,” or, “Today I choose happiness.”

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Repeat this mantra when doing any tasks that seem tedious or frustrating, like rocking the baby back to sleep in the middle of the night… for the third time.

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Parenting is really hard – often the hardest thing that any person can possibly do. And it’s often discouraging, especially during those years where children are unable (and sometimes unwilling) to express gratitude or reciprocate affection. Rather than succumbing to disappointment when their dreams of parenthood don’t match

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reality, Campaigners can embrace this opportunity for what it is – a chance to experience an incredibly beautiful and fulfilling relationship.

Testing Boundaries (From Approximately 1 ½ to 3 Years) Once they’re mobile, young children become very interested in exploring their environment with their senses. Crawling, walking, grabbing items, putting things in their mouths, and verbal communication are just a few of the ways that toddlers learn about the world around them. During this stage, Campaigner parents must provide a safe harbor for their children while still allowing them to experience and explore their surroundings. Toddlers who can test boundaries while still receiving parental support and encouragement develop a sense of autonomy. Those who are overly restricted, criticized, or made to feel guilty for their desire to test boundaries ultimately experience a sense of shame, and may suffer from feelings of incompetence or low self-worth. These feelings can last throughout their lives and may ultimately jeopardize their ability to achieve goals and develop positive character traits such as reliability or confidence.

Balanced Toddler Bonding Trustworthy and Compassionate Extremely supportive, Campaigners are a compassionate “home base” for their children during this stage. Their engagement and determination to meet their toddlers’ needs ensure their children never feel abandoned, ignored, or unloved.

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Even though children at this age are incredibly independent, they still want trustworthy caregivers, and Campaigners don’t disappoint. Their energetic compassion is especially useful during the trying toddler stage. While these years can certainly be challenging, confident Campaigner parents take great joy in promoting their children’s curiosity and independence while still maintaining a safe environment. They take pleasure in helping their little ones learn how to pick out their own clothes and dress themselves, and eagerly support their children’s natural creativity and self-expression. Helping their kids learn to become creative, compassionate, and self-reliant is one of the Campaigner parents’ greatest joys. Empathetically Understanding If Campaigners relate with greater ease than most to children – toddlers included – it’s because they see the world through the same fresh eyes, and appreciate how sincerely and authentically children interact with the world around them. Few parents are as playful and energetic as these types, and this certainly comes in handy when dealing with the boundless energy that accompanies children at this stage. This ability to understand their toddlers’ intentions is especially beneficial when dealing with less-than-desirable behaviors. Toddlers have a natural desire to test boundaries, and this can be incredibly frustrating when parents take their seemingly negative

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room for shaming or guilt-inducing reactions when these parents can tap into their inherent empathy.

Unbalanced Toddler Bonding Highly Reactive As much as they want to encourage their children’s growth and independence, Campaigner parents who fall victim to their fears (“Am I ruining my child? Is he/she hurt? Does this temper tantrum at the grocery store mean my child is going to become a psychopath?”) can find themselves constantly overreacting. Campaigners are a naturally emotional personality type – they feel every feeling deeply – and when their emotions take charge, it can be difficult to bring them under control. When parenting toddlers (who are also known to let their emotions rule the show, but for very different reasons), reactive or emotional responses can cause confusion and prevent healthy exploration. Hovering parents who panic every time their children put rocks near their mouths or waves hello at strangers are more likely to instill fear and co-dependency than to provide protection.

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independence, and fearful or reactive parents can create an unstable foundation for the exploration necessary to achieve this independence. Campaigner parents can often shroud their less-than-effective behaviors in the cloak of being involved or engaged, but if they fail to acknowledge the consequences of their reactivity, they can do both their children and themselves a great disservice.

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Too Permissive Toddlers are professional boundary pushers, and Campaigners just want everyone to get along and have fun. If their emotions run high, like when they’re enduring constant battles and temper tantrums, they may find themselves caving into their toddlers’ demands for screen time or extra snacks. Even the mere idea of their children’s unhappiness can cause existential crises for overwhelmed Campaigner parents. Less experienced parents of this personality type are prone to a lack of structure, which risks depriving their children of the support and consistency they need to truly thrive at this stage. Having fun is certainly a noble goal, but when permissive parents consistently give in to their children’s demands, they’re telling their toddlers that holding out long enough eventually gets them whatever they want. Beyond giving into their demands, permissive parents often fail to consistently enforce rules or consequences for unacceptable behavior. While they may believe they’re giving their children freedom and friendship rather than restrictive rules, Campaigner parents who fail to uphold necessary boundaries can set their children up for potential behavior issues, a lack of follow-through, and poor decision-making skills.

Rebalancing Toddler Bonding Practicing Loving Redirection Pushing boundaries and defiant behavior are hallmarks of this stage, and while they can be extraordinarily frustrating and even fear-inducing, they’re a necessary part of developing autonomy. It’s easy to respond irrationally in these trying circumstances, but it’s not only unproductive – it can often exacerbate the situation. Campaigner parents must take time to understand that their toddlers are establishing autonomy,

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not becoming pint-sized criminals. Once they change their mindset and embrace understanding instead of fear, these parents will have an easier time providing the guidance and support that their toddlers truly need. Approaching the toddler stage as one of learning and exploration can help Campaigner parents put their needs into a more balanced perspective and help to prevent negative or irrational, reactionary responses. The following is an example of how to approach a potentially frustrating experience (leaving the park) in a proactive rather than reactive way: •

When arriving at the park, Campaigners should let their toddlers know how long they will be there.

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Start the countdown at least 15 minutes before leaving. o Announce the time left in five-minute increments. (“We are leaving in 15 minutes.” “Ten minutes left before we leave.” “Ok, five minutes left.”) o Make sure that toddlers hear the warnings – make eye contact with them when possible.

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Start walking calmly toward the toddlers when there’s about one minute left. o Avoid the temptation to rush or leave quickly if at all possible – the more positive the experience, the more likely toddlers are to leave willingly in the future. (“Okay, kiddo, one more time down the slide! Go, go! Yay!”)

This process allows children to complete any activities they want and ensures that they understand their parents’ expectations. It also provides Campaigners with a way to prevent temper tantrums before they happen, rather than reacting to these outbursts emotionally.

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Supporting with Structure and Discipline There’s nothing inherently wrong with Campaigners wanting their children to like them, or in promoting freedom and independence from a young age. When harmony and independence take priority over their children’s need for structure and discipline, however, it can cause problems for the whole family. Toddlers are incapable of fully understanding the consequences of their behavior, especially when their parents fail to explain or enforce household rules. Thankfully, it’s possible for these types to maintain loving bonds with their children while still providing the boundaries necessary to make sure they’re safe and well-behaved. Perhaps the most important thing for Campaigner parents to understand is that restricting their children’s freedom when they’re young teaches them how to be responsible handling the freedoms that come with growing older. Kids who have never had to regulate their behavior or be accountable for their actions are more likely to engage in risky behaviors and take advantage of their freedom in dangerous ways. Those who gradually earn their independence, on the other hand, tend to develop greater self-control and a much better understanding of the potential consequences of their behavior, since they’ve been disciplined in the past. The following are several steps that Campaigner parents can take to provide the structure and discipline that their toddlers both need and desire to set them up for the most successful future possible: •

Make sure household expectations and rules are well known to all members of the family.

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Reward positive behaviors with special privileges or treats of some kind.

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overwhelming. Children who are aware of what is expected from them at a young age are less likely to struggle with temper tantrums than children who receive conflicting information or inconsistent discipline. Making an effort to set up clear, consistent guidelines with them up front can pay off exponentially in the long run.

Thirst for Knowledge (From Approximately 3 to 5 Years) The preschool years, from approximately three to five years of age, are a prime time for brain development, and children at this stage accumulate knowledge at an extraordinary rate. Kids absorb information like sponges through constant activity and a seemingly infinite range of questions. Learning at this stage takes place through play, especially the unstructured kind, and lots of social interaction with family and peers. Creativity is also exercised extensively through imaginary play and make-believe games and stories. To master this stage, children must be given the opportunity to not only make some of their own decisions, but also be allowed to initiate activities, ask questions – and

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receive answers – and lead others in exploration play. Those who aren’t given these opportunities, or are made to feel as though their constant questions or childish make-believe games are annoying, can experience feelings of guilt, frustration, and a lack of competence. Consequently, they may suffer from poor self-control or a lack of initiative.

Balanced Preschool Relationships Natural Teachers As promoters of lifelong learning themselves, Campaigner parents tend to genuinely look forward to inspiring their children to enjoy learning as well. They happily answer their preschoolers’ seemingly ceaseless stream of questions, and take great pleasure in finding creative ways to engage their children in learning opportunities. From trips to the library to impromptu nature “classes” while walking in the park, these parents tend to take any chance they can to engage with and inspire their preschoolers. Seeking out educational opportunities isn’t the only form of teaching that Campaigners engage in – modeling morals and values for their children from a young age is just as important to them as any other form of learning. These parents teach their children to not only respect others, but also appreciate their differences. Compassion is a defining characteristic of Campaigners, and they go out of their way, quite literally, to model this behavior for their kids – these types would pull their car over to help a wounded animal, even while running late to school. Preschoolers can not only witness their parents’ actions, but can also be involved in helping in ageappropriate ways with caring for any living thing that needs their help.

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Emotionally Engaged Life with their preschoolers isn’t only about learning or “teachable moments.” Emotional engagement is both one of Campaigners’ greatest strengths and their number one priority as parents, both in terms of building strong bonds with their children and in teaching them how to develop their emotional intelligence. Selfcontrol, empathy, and interpersonal relationships (especially with peers) are all beginning to develop, and children at this stage must have guidance to develop these skills properly. Emotional intelligence is best learned through modeling, and this is where Campaigner parents can truly shine. Few types engage with others as quickly and authentically as Campaigners. They’re full of love and compassion for others and instinctually model these concepts to their children. Imaginary play is an especially useful outlet for practicing these skills. Something as simple as playing a game of “house” with their children can be a perfect opportunity for these parents to both model healthy relationships and lovingly redirect less-than-desirable behaviors. Not only do they pass on their emotional wisdom, parents who engage in this type of play with their preschoolers enhance their emotional bonds as well.

Unbalanced Preschool Relationships Exceedingly Ambitious The preschool years bring a new level of energy as children become more interested in making sense of the world around them. Kids at this stage are more mobile and opinionated than ever, which can try the patience of even the most devoted parents. Parenting is an exhausting endeavor for even the most energetic individuals, and this stage can be especially draining with constant questions and unceasing motion.

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Campaigners rarely struggle to maintain the energy necessary to keep up with their children. However, they tend to overestimate how much they’re able to do in addition to caring for their preschoolers. Parents who fall into the trap of busyness are especially likely to become overworked and overwhelmed during this stage. Just keeping up with housework, jobs, and the multiple needs of everyone in the household can be exhausting. Life at this stage becomes even more challenging when moms and dads also run their children from preschool to play dates to swimming lessons and karate class. Parents in today’s society may also feel burdened by the need to make every birthday party and family vacation worthy of posting on social media. Perfect parenting in the digital age can quickly take a toll on Campaigners, who would much prefer to focus on the meaningful aspects of life over the marketable content. Struggling with Schedules The same issues that can lead to stress for Campaigner parents are often the root cause of the schedule-anxiety that they’re apt to succumb to during this stage. The preschool years often bring with them an exponential increase in activities and external expectations. Preschool classes, play dates, birthday parties, and community events geared toward children appear in excess as parents are expected to become more interested in educating and entertaining their children outside of the home. For Campaigners, who abhor schedules and struggle with making plans and being on time, this stage can truly test their limits. As Prospecting types, Campaigners prefer freedom over itineraries. This laid-back mentality can spiral into irresponsible behaviors, especially for less mature Campaigners, resulting in late arrivals when bringing the kids to classes or play dates.

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Running behind schedule, forgetting appointments and playdates, and always trying to squeeze in “one more errand” can cause constant stress and frustration. These parents shouldn’t assume that frequent unreliability is sustainable: failing to organize their lives, for the sake of both their sanity and their children’s upbringing, can lead to constant chaos.

Rebalancing Preschool Relationships Adjusting Expectations Rather than letting their ambition drive them to the brink of burnout, Campaigner parents must learn to say “no” to endless play dates and nature classes, and say “yes” to taking much-needed breaks whenever necessary. Children benefit more from healthy, happy parents than Internet-inspired birthday parties, pony rides, or goody bags worthy of the Oscars. While Campaigner parents may initially feel some guilt for not living up to societal expectations – or even their own perfectionism – they can ultimately feel liberated from unnecessary obligations. Their natural tendency is to live their lives based on their values, not society’s expectations, and they must find their way back to what is truly important to them and how they want to raise their children. It’s also important for these types to find ways to take care of themselves while parenting their preschoolers. Some ideas for bringing balance into this busy stage can include: •

Limiting activities such as play dates, sports, art classes, etc., to just a couple of days a week rather than every day.

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Scheduling regular breaks – parent date nights, drinks with friends, or solo walks in nature – anything that’s recharging and refreshing.

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Spending quality time with their preschoolers with no agenda or expectations. Striving for Sanity

There’s nothing quite like parenthood to make Campaigners aware of some of their own flaws. Scheduling, organization, and details, in general, can elude many parents with this personality type, and it’s important for their sanity (and the sanity of those around them) to figure out how to deal with these issues once children enter the picture. While words like “structure” and “planning” can sound like torture to those who thrive on flexibility, they can find that building a daily rhythm into their lives provides them with more freedom. Many Campaigners, especially those who are parents, fail to take the time they need to recharge their own batteries. Even with their boundless energy, these types can easily become overwhelmed, especially when shuttling ever-more-energetic preschoolers around all day. A daily rhythm can provide the structure necessary to meet everyone’s needs and accomplish tasks. It can also create a sense of control, providing Campaigner parents with a reprieve from feelings of chaos that are a source of stress and distraction. The following tips can help Campaigners create a daily rhythm that helps them to find sanity in the bedlam of parenthood: •

First, and most importantly, determine daily priorities that must be accommodated every day – such as alone time, family time, exercise, or time for engaging in hobbies.

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Utilize scheduling tools to help organize these priorities – an online calendar, a bullet journal, a day planner, or even a large family calendar hanging in the kitchen or family room.

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Figure out a schedule or rhythm that works best for the family, and commit to following that rhythm for at least 28 days so that it evolves into a habit.

Creating Competence (From Approximately 5 to 12 Years) The early school years are an important period of skill development for young children. Not only are they still constantly absorbing new information, but they’re also working on becoming proficient in increasingly complex areas, from relationships to mathematics to athletics. Children who are both challenged and supported in these areas flourish in both their abilities as well as their selfconfidence. If they don’t receive consistent support, kids at this stage can begin to feel inferior to their peers, and are less likely to develop long-term goals or work toward achieving them. On the other hand, if they aren’t sufficiently challenged, children in this stage can begin to feel overly-confident in themselves and their abilities. Those who are treated as “overly precious” may end up lacking modesty and compassion toward others and can have difficulty coping with the inevitable failures that they will face throughout their lives.

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Balanced School-Age Relationships Passionate and Encouraging Often avid learners themselves, Campaigners tend to encourage their children to pursue their education with energy and curiosity. But passing spelling tests and memorizing multiplication tables aren’t as important to these parents as having children who are creative and compassionate. If they feel their kids aren’t receiving a truly holistic education, Campaigner parents tend to explore as many alternative options as possible to help them achieve their full potential. These options can range from meeting with teachers, setting up tutors, filling in their curriculum with extracurricular activities like volunteering or Boy or Girls Scout meetings, or even considering options like charter schools or homeschooling. Their empathic nature helps Campaigners to quickly realize when their children may be struggling, allowing them to step in and offer their support before the situation gets too serious. Encouragement, one of their greatest strengths, extends beyond academics, with support for their sons’ and daughters’ social and personal development as well. Knowing the challenges that their children face, these parents provide them with the necessary tools, such as determination and creative problemsolving skills, to help them deal with difficult peers or frustrating fights with friends. Humanistic Mentors The school-age years are a time of intense learning, not just academically but emotionally, spiritually, and socially as well. Mature Campaigners excel at modeling the skills needed to be compassionate, considerate, and motivated individuals. Yes, children need to learn mathematics and writing, but if their education fails to incorporate human elements like spiritual and emotional needs, they can ultimately

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end up confused and unfulfilled. Campaigners tend to go out of their way to ensure that their kids find meaning in everything they do. They often encourage them to pursue passions that focus on innovation and creativity over the rote memorization that’s often expected at this stage. At a stage in life when children are constantly being told what to do and are conforming to strict schedules, innovation and creativity often become neglected or viewed as unnecessary. Imaginative Campaigner parents encourage their children to incorporate their unique ideas and perspectives into both their academic and personal lives. They try to inspire them to integrate their passions and causes into these areas as well – from science projects focused on solving global warming issues, to participating in community volunteer days. When it comes to supporting their kids’ passions at this stage, few types are as effective as Campaigners.

Unbalanced School-Age Relationships Unorganized and Unfocused While they’re often very motivated to assist their children with their educational pursuits, Campaigner parents who have yet to master their own “study skills” are likely to have trouble helping their sons and daughters to develop theirs. These parents’ amiable, go-with-the-flow nature runs counter to the structure and responsibility needed to succeed in an educational setting. They may throw the best birthday parties, but when it comes to helping their children sit down and work on long, complicated lessons, Campaigners often find themselves struggling. The school years lay the foundation for developing both competence and personal responsibility. Teachers and classmates may have a significant amount of interaction and influence on children during the school day, but if these skills aren’t modeled in

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the home as well, they won’t stick. Campaigner parents who are continuously running late, are always trying to squeeze in an additional errand, and never seem to know how much money is in the checking account are only modeling disorganization and chaos. Inappropriately Optimistic Campaigners’ unbridled optimism can cause issues for their children at this stage if it isn’t properly balanced with their kids’ needs and abilities. School-aged children certainly benefit from being concerned about protecting the environment and practicing compassion toward all living things. However, they also need parents who can help them address some of the daily practical issues they may face. From a school crush that isn’t reciprocated to the trauma of a friend’s betrayal – children at this age need parents who can help them deal with personal issues. When they constantly focus on the bigger picture, Campaigner parents can fail to validate their children’s feelings on “smaller” issues, and their children can become less likely to seek their help or support in the future. They’re also failing to teach children to cope with inevitable defeats or struggles by avoiding them and directing their attention to something else instead. Sure, the world isn’t going to end if their children don’t make the basketball team, but that can feel catastrophic to kids at this stage. To them, everything that happens to them is a big deal. Campaigner parents who don’t recognize this, and don’t help their children put things into perspective in a realistic way, can struggle to maintain a close relationship with them.

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Rebalancing School-Age Relationships Finding Focus Campaigners have difficulties with organization and structure due to a lack of focus, mostly because they’re busy All. Of. The. Time. It’s difficult to focus on any one thing when their attention is being pulled in a multitude of directions – which is basically the definition of parenthood. All hope isn’t lost, however, because even the most distracted Campaigners can improve their focus and help their children to develop the skills necessary to be organized and productive individuals. Many techniques can be used to improve focus, but it’s often the simple ones that are the most effective. Specifically, a regular mindful breathing practice can be used to help Campaigners achieve a calm, centered state of mind that helps to improve their focus. Practicing this skill not only improves their ability to assist their children with school work, but they also model the skills that their children need to be successful in school and life. The following simple steps can help Campaigners and their children (it’s never too early to start!) to improve their mental focus: •

Begin by focusing on breathing – slow, deep breaths.

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Repeat twice per day or whenever the mind is feeling especially distracted.

Focus is a valuable skill, especially with the incessant distractions posed by today’s pocket-sized technologies. Meeting goals and self-improvement require focus,

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whether it’s concentrating while studying for an exam or avoiding distractions while finishing a presentation for work. Proficiency in anything during any stage of life takes concentration. Campaigner parents who help their children develop this skill during this stage can set them up for successful and productive futures. Meeting Them Where They Are Attentive and compassionate, Campaigners really do excel at supporting their children and providing them with copious amounts of affection. When they become too caught up in the big picture, however, these parents may find themselves ignoring the details of their children’s experiences. Kids at this stage want to be heard and understood, and to have their experiences validated. Campaigners are more than capable of providing the unconditional love and acceptance their children need, and can use these skills to hone in on what they truly need to feel understood. Campaigners who are prone to fixating on the “big picture” can benefit from focusing on what their children are dealing with right now. Here are some ideas for engaging with their children in the “here and now” these parents can try: •

Acknowledge their frustrations, fears, or disappointments by using phrasing such as, “I really see how frustrated you get when…” or, “I understand your fear of…”

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Have a parent/child date once every week with the intention of spending time listening to their trials and tribulations without trying to redirect them to consider a more positive potential. Sometimes the situations suck, so let kids acknowledge that they suck without trying to sugar-coat them.

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daydream or stare at a screen.

Find Thyself (From Approximately 12 to 18 Years) Adolescence is the transition from childhood to adulthood, where teens focus on developing their own distinct sense of identity. This transitional period centers around their sense of what their roles are in their relationships with themselves, others, and society in general. To determine their roles, children in this stage begin the all-important process of identifying their personal values and beliefs. Future educational and career goals are made, and relationships are developed based on how they align with these values and beliefs, making this a pivotal, foundational stage for the rest of their lives.

Balanced Adolescent Relationships Promoting Positive Values During this stage of identity development, adolescents need the support and understanding of their parents more than ever. Campaigner parents tend to encourage their adolescent children’s growth by promoting such positive values as responsibility, compassion, and honesty, while providing them with the freedom to explore these values in their own way. Campaigners have been through this period of growth themselves, and understand the importance of encouraging their children in their personal development without attempting to take over this process for them. Regardless of the struggles that both parents and teens may face during this tumultuous time, Campaigners likely undoubtedly remain steadfast in their devotion to their children. Their dedication to the promotion of their positive values, as well as their compassion toward their children, provide a solid foundation for both “The Campaigner” (ENFP, -A/-T)

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themselves and their adolescents. This foundation allows identity-seeking children to venture further into self-discovery while still feeling a sense of support and love. Authentic and Committed Adolescence is a tumultuous stage for most children, as they attempt to determine who they are and who they want to be. These discoveries are often made through trial and error, which means that many mistakes are made. Campaigner parents are extraordinarily authentic, and their honesty and unwavering commitment are indispensable during this stage. Honesty is necessary to help children learn from their mistakes – adolescents who skip class needs to know the potential consequences of this behavior before it’s too late. Campaigner parents’ steadfast commitment can provide their teenagers with the confidence to communicate with them, even when the topics are uncomfortable. If these parents can maintain their kind, understanding, minimal judgment, and authentic communication when their adolescents come to them with something truly serious – getting pregnant, getting suspended or expelled, or milder stuff like a rough breakup – they can establish themselves as true sources of stability and wisdom for life when their children need them most. Perhaps more importantly, Campaigner parents who embody these traits are more likely to have children who are competent in these areas as well. Authentic communication and commitment amid difficulties may not be skills an employer asks for, but they are some of the most meaningful and useful skills adolescents can learn for their future relationships.

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Unbalanced Adolescent Relationships Failing to Create Boundaries The process of personal discovery is a favorite topic for many Campaigners, who gladly pass their passion for growth on to their adolescent children. This is all fine and good, until they prioritize the promotion of independence over establishing or enforcing healthy boundaries for their teens. Permitting inappropriate behavior for the sake of “finding themselves” isn’t only unwise, it’s downright dangerous. Campaigner parents who avoid setting and enforcing boundaries because they’re afraid of infringing on their children’s autonomy can be setting them up for failure. Forgoing curfews for their teenagers because they want to respect their independence is essentially encouraging nefarious activities such as drinking, doing drugs, participating in vandalism, or having sex. Even the most mature adolescents inevitably make poor choices if they’re consistently exposed to tempting situations. Further, teenagers who are never given proper boundaries or consistent expectations can lack the skills to create such boundaries or expectations for themselves or their own children in the future – further perpetuating this damaging cycle. Difficulty Detaching The adolescent stage requires that children become more independent from their parents, making critical life choices on their own and relying less on Mom or Dad for basic support. Campaigner parents can struggle with feelings of rejection if they believe their kids no longer need them or desire their affection. They may also find themselves mourning the end of childhood, remembering that sweet kindergartener they walked into class on the first day of school.

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If they become too absorbed by a sense of loss at this stage, Campaigners can slip into existential crises of sorts, pining for days gone by rather than looking forward to the opportunities that lie ahead for both themselves and their kids. Conversely, they may find themselves holding on too tight to their growing children, becoming overlyinvolved in their lives, and stunting their development by creating co-dependence or causing them to push away with even greater force. Additionally, for some Campaigners, parenthood is their “purpose,” and being parents is the most important part of their identities. If they fail to maintain or nurture other parts of their identities throughout their children’s younger years, these parents may fervently hold on to their roles as primary caregivers. If parenting has prevented them from maintaining friendships, pursuing meaningful hobbies, or engaging in work that they enjoy, they may feel lost and lonely as their children inevitably begin to spend more time away from home. They may begin to experience bitterness, a deep sense of loss, and even a sense of panic about the uncertainty of their own futures.

Rebalancing Adolescent Relationships Creating Responsible Boundaries Boundaries are necessary for children of all ages to gain skills and confidence in a safe and understanding environment. Campaigner parents aren’t doing their adolescent children any favors by allowing them to explore the world without guidelines or discipline. The dangers of this permissive approach are much more prominent than any potential benefits. While enforcing rules and restricting behaviors goes against their live-and-let-live nature, it’s important that they learn to appreciate and value these skills for the safety and security that they provide.

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At this stage, the adolescent brain–specifically the pre-frontal cortex, which is responsible for future planning – isn’t fully developed, so teens are unable to fully realize the potential consequences of their actions. Fortunately, parents are there to fill the role of precautionary planner for their teenagers. Campaigner parents are responsible for creating necessary boundaries for their children, from curfews to consequences for inappropriate behaviors. Teens who are failing one of their classes may need to be restricted from certain activities or screen time until their behavior or grades improve. Likewise, adolescents who have been spending time with troublesome peers may need strictly enforced curfews. Campaigners may chafe at these types of restrictions, but they’re ultimately responsible for providing the structure and security their adolescent children are unable to provide for themselves. The following “four Cs” can be used to help Campaigner parents enforce effective boundaries with their children: •

First and foremost, make sure that boundaries and expectations are clear – there’s much less confusion or room for interpretation when they’re spoken about frequently, or even written down somewhere prominent.

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Be consistent. Address all issues immediately and, for the love of all things holy, follow through with any consequences that have been previously threatened.

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when feelings are raw is more likely to escalate the situation than improve it. Take a few minutes to engage in deep breathing or punch a pillow, whatever is necessary to diffuse angry emotions before discussing punishments. Learning to Let Go Learning to let go as parents doesn’t mean no longer being parents. Rather, it means re-evaluating and readjusting what their parental roles are for this particular stage of life. Instead of feeling rejected when their children exert their newfound independence, Campaigner parents can learn to celebrate the progress and new milestones that their adolescents have achieved. The “parent-as-primary-identity” stance can be especially strong for individuals with this personality type, making the “letting go” process trickier to navigate. Not only are their children attempting to develop their own personal identity, but Campaigner parents are completely redefining what their “parent-of-an-older-child identity” will look like. Maintaining a strong bond without being overly involved in their teens’ growth requires walking a fine line, but Campaigners who work toward achieving this balance can find this stage richly rewarding. As with other stages, modeling is often the best form of “teaching” their children, and, in this instance, this approach will help both form (or re-form) their unique identities. The following practices can help Campaigner parents to model personal growth techniques for their adolescent children in a healthy, independent way: •

Discover (or rediscover) a spiritual or meditative practice that encourages finding meaning or purpose.

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inspiration. •

Take this opportunity to engage in some self-reflection through journaling or even guided counseling, to better understand who you are, and whom you’d like to become.

Conclusion Campaigners have their own unique strengths – enthusiasm, friendliness, and curiosity – and weaknesses that they need to leverage to build positive, proactive relationships with their children. There’s tremendous potential for personal development that takes place when they become parents, and Campaigners can gain a much deeper understanding of themselves and others if they use this opportunity to do so. Keep in mind that the advice provided above is based on general growth stages for children, and basic strengths and weaknesses that many Campaigners share. All children are different, and parents are the best judges of what their children need. The advice above should be used in a way that works best for each family without adding additional stress, frustration, or burden. For special situations, such as behavioral or medical issues, it’s best to consult with a professional pediatrician or pediatric psychologist to come up with a plan that works best for everyone involved.

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Campaigners’ academic experiences can alter the course of their lives. As with any other personality type, their schooling positively or negatively affects their selfesteem, steers their career choices, and influences the development of their personalities. By understanding how their gifts and weaknesses translate into a classroom setting, Campaigners can equip themselves to gain not only deep learning but also personal enrichment and growth from their time in school. Although these types are relatively rare, their genuine openness offers teachers and classmates insight into their inner lives – often sparing them the “outsider” status that other uncommon types may endure. Adaptable and optimistic, Campaigners can make themselves at home even in one-size-fits-all academic programs. They easily find their place in the classroom dynamic, connecting with kindred spirits and delighting in the subjects that interest them. Of course, smooth integration into the classroom doesn’t guarantee academic success or fulfillment. As they navigate their schooling, Campaigners do well to watch out for common pitfalls and look for opportunities to expand their strengths.

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Individuals with this personality type who embrace their unique style while learning to work within structured educational programs can enjoy academic careers that aren’t only intellectually gratifying, but also personally meaningful. Intuitive Learners Thanks to their Intuitive and Feeling traits, Campaigners absorb ideas like sponges. Learning can feel almost automatic to them, as they don’t need to fixate on details or agonize over course material to grasp concepts. At times, they may seem several steps ahead of their classmates when it comes to absorbing new material and understanding its significance. In their active, imaginative minds, connections and insights arise almost spontaneously. This can present a problem if teachers expect them to “show their work” and document every step of their thought process. Big-picture ideas and areas for exploration tend to fascinate Campaigners – from art therapy to Zeno’s paradox – leaving comparatively less room for details and discrete information. For them, memorizing dates, chemical equations, or aspects of human anatomy can’t compare to the thrill of encountering a masterwork or the satisfaction of creating something new. As a result, they may neglect or deride learning that requires them to memorize cut-and-dried facts and figures. They may even forget the material as soon as the teacher no longer expects them to repeat it for a test or quiz. Alas, nearly every endeavor requires some attention to the nitty-gritty. No one wants a doctor who doesn’t know the difference between the pancreas and the patella. The Human Element Campaigners, like all Diplomats, look for the human angle in what they study. Given their emotional attunement and delight in human connection, this interest in people

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and interpersonal dynamics is hardly surprising. These types enjoy the humanities – philosophy, literature, religion, art, music, history, and language – and the social sciences. They can also find meaning in the sciences, mathematics, and engineering, provided they recognize how these pursuits can help humankind. This drive for human connection extends to their extracurricular interests as well. In their free time, Campaigners might feel compelled to volunteer at a food bank, join a writing club, form a band, or explore a range of activities that allow for meaningful interactions with others. Whatever they do, they find fulfillment in forging friendships, collaborations, and relationships. These students may wonder how important it is to learn material that seems irrelevant to their interests and the human experience at large. They take issue with benchmarks set for the sake of standardization, and can become annoyed when required to take numerous tests that detract from the joy of spontaneous learning. Their aversion to the mundane may lead Campaigners to avoid, and perhaps discount, topics that don’t fall within their current realm of interest.

How Campaigners Learn Students with this personality type can shine academically, leveraging their natural enthusiasm and curiosity alongside their interpersonal savvy. Given too much leeway, however, these abilities can lead Campaigners away from a well-rounded academic path.

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Balanced Learning Habits Skirting the Comfort Zone Even more than some other types, Campaigners have their favorite subjects. They might lose themselves in poetry or dive into philosophy. Music or art might make their hearts beat a little faster. The potential of the sciences to help humanity can inspire grand dreams. This is natural, and these types shouldn’t neglect or secondguess their passions, whatever they may be. However, well-rounded Campaigners recognize that a balanced curriculum draws them beyond their comfort zone. They apply their trademark curiosity even toward subjects that don’t come naturally to them, realizing that inspiration often lurks in unexpected places. Those who care about social justice may find that learning chemistry enhances their understanding of environmental issues, for example, and artistically-inclined Campaigners may find inspiration in images of the solar system, fractals, or even engineering diagrams. Without discounting their natural inclinations, Campaigners who keep their minds open to a range of subjects can glean insight and inspiration in every classroom. Along the way, they can cultivate new skills and solid study habits, as well as the willingness to stick with pursuits that don’t feel fun or easy – an essential life skill. Deconstructing the Intuitive Creativity, emotional attunement, and spontaneity form the basis of Campaigners’ learning style, not nitty-gritty details. As a result, academic environments that reward rote memorization or adherence to structure can frustrate them or make them feel inadequate. When watching other classmates easily memorize the stages of cell

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division or nail the format of the five-paragraph essay, they may wonder why their brains just don’t seem wired to excel in that way. Fortunately, Campaigners who take a balanced approach to learning can thrive even in detail-oriented, highly structured academic environments. For these types, the secret is to integrate structure and awareness of details into their Intuitive, bigpicture learning style. On a fundamental level, this entails allowing themselves extra study time (and perhaps devising some handy mnemonics) to prepare for memorization-heavy tests.

Unbalanced Learning Habits Skipping the Fundamentals Creativity and discovery – Campaigners’ lifeblood – may be outweighed by rote memorization or seemingly boring basics when they’re learning the fundamentals of a subject. Just as someone needs to learn their times tables before they can revolutionize space travel, nearly every worthwhile academic pursuit entails some form of “dues paying.” Campaigners may find these fundamentals tedious, and without sufficient self-restraint, they often skip forward to what they consider the good stuff. Who wants to practice scales when you can start tinkering away at “Rhapsody in Blue,” right? Alas, this mindset can stall Campaigners well short of their full potential. If they pursue their grand interests before mastering the essentials, they inevitably reach a stage where their skills don’t support their visions. Imagine an aspiring portrait artist who hasn’t practiced perspective, or a photographer who doesn’t understand white balance. Despite their natural talents, people who put in the mundane daily work of

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honing their skills and mastering these elemental principles can inevitably overtake these Campaigners. Relying on Intuition Thanks to their strong communication skills and Intuitive insights, Campaigners may get through their early years of schooling without having to push themselves. Eventually, however, they find that natural precociousness doesn’t guarantee success. Long-term academic growth takes diligence and consistency – two skills they must work to develop. If they don’t develop these skills and their grades drop, they might blame their innate ability, faulting themselves for not being creative or quick-minded enough. However, the culprit is often their study habits, such as last-minute cramming, procrastination, or neglecting to study altogether. Another pitfall that can hold back Campaigners is an unconscious desire not to outperform (or “leave behind”) their friends or fellow classmates. Unless they address these patterns, they can prevent these types from bringing their natural motivation and enthusiasm to the table.

Rebalancing Learning Habits Learning to Love Campaigners can find something nice to say about nearly anyone – and genuinely believe it. They consider everyone inherently interesting and worthwhile, which is one reason they can find delight in just about any social setting. With practice, these individuals can harness this inherent positivity and curiosity in their academic pursuits and develop an appreciation for just about any subject or course of study.

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To do this, they may need to pull back the lens and consider the broader context of what they’re learning. For these types, memorizing the geography of a region may be a drag – until they learn about the history of that region and how those boundaries were formed, disputed, and reshaped over time. Perhaps learning calculus seems pointless, but an appreciation of its profound resonance – specifically, that calculus is the mathematics of measuring change – infuses the subject with new meaning. This often involves going beyond what they learn in the classroom, but ever-curious Campaigners are well suited to this type of extracurricular exploration. To help with this, they can try the following: •

Write a list of questions that can be used to appreciate a (hypothetical) new acquaintance and see that person’s intrinsic value. For example, “What has this person been through? What contributions do they make to the world? What matters to them and why?”

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Do some self-motivated research to answer these questions, with the goal of cultivating curiosity about the subject and better grasping its relevance as a field.

By seeking out the broader context of what they’re studying, Campaigners can connect to the true significance of what they’re learning. This mindset can provide them with both motivation and inspiration – even as they tackle material that doesn’t come easily to them.

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Developing a Growth Mindset As Oprah Winfrey said, “Failing is another stepping stone to greatness.” Alas, many individuals become disheartened by failure and assume that either they’re naturally adept at something, or they’re not. In place of this “fixed mindset,” psychologist Carol Dweck suggests that we adopt a “growth mindset,” one that focuses on improvement and effort. Many Campaigners fall prey to a fixed mindset. If their Intuitive trait doesn’t enable them to excel at something quickly, they can label themselves as not “gifted” in that area. This can lead to an aversion to taking risks and a reluctance to put in a strong effort. Campaigners may feel anxiety at the mere idea of trying their hardest, fearing that it still won’t be good enough, and don’t put as much effort into their schoolwork – or even their interests – as they could. They might also fall into black-or-white thinking, believing that doing their “best” would mean something unsustainable and unrealistic, such as studying instead of sleeping for days on end. Here are some steps Campaigners can take to break this self-defeating pattern: •

Consider a skill they resign themselves to being “bad” at. To start, this can be something relatively minor, such as juggling or memorizing poetry.

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Write out a realistic description of what their “best efforts” would entail in this endeavor. Could they dedicate an extra half hour per day to developing this skill?

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If they learn to focus on efforts rather than outcomes, Campaigners can grow exponentially within their academic careers – and discover their true potential.

Campaigners in High School In high school, Campaigners begin to see the world as a place that holds meaning and takes dreams seriously. Their curiosity energizes them, particularly in subjects that they find personally meaningful. Also, their desire to maintain harmony motivates them to please their parents and teachers by doing well. That said, these types may lose interest when faced with a course that seems mundane or too dependent on minute details. All bets are off if they can’t connect personally with a “dry” subject – or if their social lives dominate their free time at the expense of studying.

Balanced High School Learning High Concept Campaigner students love to find deeper meaning, and they push themselves to advance their understanding of abstract concepts – from ethical dilemmas to Freud’s model of the psyche. As a result, when a curriculum requires abstract thought or intellectual creativity, they’re in their element. This type of curriculum first emerges at the high school level, where the ability to conduct independent analyses and think critically becomes as crucial as finding the correct answer to a question.

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Developmentally speaking, conceptualization is a new and novel tool in Campaigners’ high school backpacks, and they’re thrilled when this intellectual toy finally clicks on. Although they may have been making Intuitive connections since childhood, it now feels as though such thoughts are set free. For Campaigners, the ability to evaluate and engage with concepts isn’t only a skill they value, but also a treasured aspect of their identity. They take pride in the way big ideas from philosophy, the arts, or history speak directly to their hearts. When Campaigners falter in a subject that seems too prosaic or fact-laden, their capacity for grasping big ideas can help them catch up with their peers. They may understand where a lesson is going, or even pick up on subtle connections between different subjects – for example, the influence of 19th- and 20th-century American history on the development of jazz. As a result, conceptual thinking allows these types to appreciate big ideas and enjoy a sense of cosmic interconnectedness – perhaps their two favorite aspects of learning. Their Own Way Campaigners need not fear their curiosity. In fact, their enthusiasm and natural wonder are strengths. In environments where structure and standardization are preferred, Campaigners who take a balanced approach find a way to guide their curiosity in practical ways – channeling it into essays, extra-credit project, or independent studies, for example – rather than letting it be squashed. In high school, Campaigners do well to develop points that they can look forward to amid a long day of subjects that may not be their favorites. They can eat their lunch with friends in the art room, for example. Or, they might spend their after-school hours on extracurricular activities that combine their love of socializing with their

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favorite topics, whether that means orchestra, French club, a modern dance class, or something else entirely. If they follow their curiosity and incorporate their personal interests into their daily lives, Campaigners can find the necessities of required coursework more bearable.

Unbalanced High School Learning Uneven Attention to Subjects When a subject truly appeals to them, these types lose their hearts to it. They dive right in, at times becoming so absorbed that they leave little time and attention for subjects they find less interesting. They might devote hours to a filmmaking project – recruiting actors, running scenes, reworking the lighting, shooting and editing the video, creating music, perhaps even reading interview after interview with contemporary directors – only to realize that they’ve completely forgotten to study for tomorrow’s chemistry test. There’s something beautiful about losing track of time as individuals do something they enjoy and excel at – a state that psychologists call flow. That said, Campaigners can sell themselves short when they neglect subjects that don’t especially appeal to them. Beyond risking lower grades, they can lose opportunities to develop healthy self-discipline, enhance their self-esteem, and grow into well-rounded individuals. Everyone has their favorite and least favorite subjects (as well as subjects they find difficult), but unless these students manage distractions and work toward their full potential across a range of courses, they can miss out on key chances to grow and develop.

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Underperforming Given their preference for the big picture over the nitty-gritty, Campaigners can engage deeply with a subject but still not develop a command of the details and basics that show up on tests. These types might understand the social forces and international alliances that led up to World War I, but struggle to remember whose assassination triggered the start of combat. Even though they’ve studied and interacted with the subject in their way, it can prove difficult for them to do well on tests that prioritize memorization, or assignments that require adherence to a predetermined structure, such as a five-paragraph essay. Alternatively, some Campaigners may underperform in school because they – whether unconsciously or consciously – don’t feel comfortable doing better than others. With their empathy in overdrive, these Campaigners might put all their effort into helping friends with coursework, or the examples of friends who don’t study may sway them. In the process, Campaigners can inevitably compromise their academic growth. Although these types might not fret too much about external markers of success like grades, Campaigners who underperform can miss out on opportunities that they would otherwise enjoy. For example, they may lose the opportunity to take advanced courses in a field they love, collaborate with mentors whom they admire, communicate their ideas to a broader audience, or subsequently pursue avenues of higher education that appeal to them.

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Rebalancing High School Learning Hocus Focus Campaigner students’ passion for certain subjects can be wonderful, but problems arise when they neglect other topics entirely. High school requires students to study a range of courses, and Campaigners risk limiting their future options – such as certain careers or areas of higher education – if they don’t cultivate focus and direct it toward courses that don’t feel immediately rewarding. When they struggle to maintain this focus, they can find it helpful to have a conversation with teachers, tutors, or loved ones about ways to connect their coursework to the things they love. For example, musically inclined Campaigners may find themselves more motivated in math class if they’ve taken time outside of school to read about the mathematics of music and sound. It’s worth noting that the high school “learning experience” includes extracurricular activities as well. For these Extraverts, joining after-school clubs – particularly in areas that don’t come easily to them – can make a huge difference, creating social connections that help them appreciate and connect with these subjects. Whether they join such clubs or not, Campaigners often find outside help to be especially useful. Counselors and trusted adults can help these types figure out how to allocate their study time, follow through on their ideas, set realistic goals, and stick with assignments that they find tedious or difficult. Meanwhile, peers and friends can help them find ways to enjoy working on their least favorite subjects, whether this means going to the library together to get work done, or going out for pizza after a big study session. To assess their current habits, Campaigners can do the following exercise:

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Make each spoke’s length proportionate to how good they feel about their performance in that subject. Note that “performance” shouldn’t only reflect grades, but also intellectual engagement, timely completion of assignments (rather than procrastination or cramming), and full use of individual talents. If an individual performs better in math than in literature, they can make the math spoke longer than the literature spoke.

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All individuals come with unique strengths and interests, so the goal isn’t a perfectly balanced wheel. That said, short spokes need to be addressed. Campaigners should bring this exercise to a mentor, parent, or peer and discuss specific strategies for lengthening these spokes. These strategies might include working with a tutor or committing a certain block of time each week to studying for a given subject.

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We only get to do high school once (thank goodness). By evaluating their academic path with clear eyes and enlisting the help they need, Campaigners can use these four years to create balanced, uniquely enriching experiences.

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Demonstrating Knowledge Campaigners want to innovate and create. That said, they often need to operate within academic frameworks that don’t cater to their interests or learning styles. As a result, they may wonder why their classmates seem to have an easier time with memorization, multiple-choice exams, timed tests, or highly structured assignments. To improve in a healthy, positive manner, Campaigner students can reserve extra time and effort in studying for subjects and styles of testing that don’t come naturally to them. They can also find ways to make pre-determined academic structures work for them. When it comes to structures like the five-paragraph essay, well-rounded Campaigners can still allow their imagination and intuition to run wild – why waste one of their greatest assets? – but they don’t stop there. Instead, they return to their initial output and backtrack, deconstructing it into details, facts, and fundamentals. To do so, Campaigners can try the following exercise: •

Write the essay as they naturally would, even if this means dashing it off with little or no planning. They can indulge their creativity, delight in making unexpected connections, and have fun with it.

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Go back and note the anatomy of the essay, reverse-engineering an outline. Assess this outline for inconsistencies, imbalances, or any need for rearrangement. Check the assignment or essay prompt to ensure that the specifications are met.

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By deconstructing their spontaneous answers, Campaigners can clarify their own process and better retain knowledge. This awareness provides them invaluable information for learning more efficiently and thoroughly in the future.

Work or College? The question of whether to attend college is important. For some, higher education is a natural move that requires little forethought. For many others, the decision is decidedly less automatic. The prohibitively high cost of higher education in some places can cause people to question whether it’s a worthwhile investment. So-called “gap years” are becoming a popular option, allowing students time to earn money, gain life experience, or attend to family needs before attending university. While all students must examine their motives for going to college, Campaigners especially benefit from deep reflection on this issue. Seeking meaning and authenticity in all they do, they can experience regret and dissatisfaction if they feel they’ve veered from the path that’s best for them.

Balanced Decision-Making Spotting Alternatives Campaigners won’t settle for a higher education experience that’s merely a steppingstone to a steady job. Whether they attend college or go directly into the workforce, their goal is to choose a path that enhances their lives and helps them grow into their best selves. That said, those who take a balanced approach to choosing college or work take practicality into consideration. Good intentions, after all, won’t pay the bills.

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With their unconventional thinking, options that break the stereotypical college-orworkplace binary can hold an appeal. They might travel the world, apprentice with a skilled craftsperson or laborer to learn a trade, work in a quasi-academic setting, join a foreign aid organization, or try a slew of different part-time jobs. Campaigners can make their own path, rather than settling for the status quo or going along with what everyone else seems to be doing. Understanding Their Reasons Although they’re acutely sensitive to pressure from friends and family, these selfaware individuals recognize that whether to attend college is a decision only they can make. Other types might be happy to go along with others’ expectations – whether that means getting a degree or following in the career footsteps of their parents – but Campaigners need to follow their hearts to feel fulfilled. Even if they move straight to the workforce, they won’t be happy unless they feel a sense of purpose. Whatever their position, these types yearn to connect with people and make a difference. If they can’t find this sense of purpose, they may decide to pursue a degree after all, as college can be a chance to explore ideas and discover new vistas while hunting for a career trajectory that truly fits. These Campaigners choose higher education or work with their eyes open, rather than doing it by default.

Unbalanced Decision-Making On a Whim Campaigners’ Prospecting trait enables them to enjoy a plethora of diverse passions, and their Intuitive trait constantly reminds them that the world is even bigger and more fascinating than they realize. They may hardly be able to keep track of the

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things they find interesting – art, music, environmentalism, social justice, travel, world cuisine, meditation, yoga, health, and so on. As a result, it can be difficult for these types to choose a path. Should they go to college to study counseling, or live and work on an organic farm? Or, maybe they’d be better off working in a coffee shop by day and playing with a jazz band by night. These competing ideas can ping-pong back and forth in their minds, leading to confusion rather than clarity. When Campaigners become scattered rather than empowered by their many dreams and desires, they may abdicate their decisions to the wishes of others or to fleeting feelings that they interpret as signs from fate. Rather than collecting facts, asking questions of people who have pursued various paths, or reflecting on their options in an organized, proactive way, these types may put an end to the exhausting range of options by deciding almost on a whim. Although they may luck out and make decisions that serve them well in the long run, there’s also the risk that they’ll regret their choices, having dived in too hastily to avoid feelings of true responsibility. Taking Other Opinions To some extent, everyone cares about the opinions of parents, friends, loved ones, or other admired mentors, but this is especially true of Campaigners. Social energy and human connection soothe their souls, and they may feel heartbroken at the mere idea of displeasing a loved one or alienating themselves from someone who matters to them. Although they aren’t afraid to forge their own paths, their decision to attend college or work can be determined by the opinions of others – whether in the form of a parent with strong expectations, or a group of friends who want to stick together.

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In the short term, these types might feel good about pleasing their loved ones by going along with their wishes, but in the long run, they can set themselves up for an unfulfilling, passive way of life. “To thine own self be true” is more than a cliché for Campaigners; it’s a necessity. If they don’t take responsibility for their decisions and listen to the longings of their own hearts, their sense of self-esteem and self-efficacy can erode.

Rebalancing Decision-Making Due Diligence Decision-making can be overwhelming to Campaigners, who see the value in many possible options when it comes to choosing work, college, or an alternative to these choices. As a result, they may make decisions impulsively or accede to others’ wishes. To move past the discomfort of personal responsibility for their choices, they may even be tempted to entrust their futures to a coin toss, imagined signs from the universe, or – in cases of true extremity – a Magic 8-Ball. However, they may be surprised at how much fun it is to thoroughly and responsibly investigate their options. After all, finding out more about potential paths involves many of these types’ favorite things: exploration, imagination, and conversations with new and interesting people. To find the fun in balanced decision-making, Campaigners can try the following: •

Look for socially engaging ways to learn about potential options. Ask college admissions offices for the opportunity to stay overnight with a current student and attend classes with them. Set up shadowing opportunities or informational interviews with people whose jobs seem fascinating. Reach out

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to college professors in areas of interest and ask for a brief phone call or a chat over a cup of coffee. These efforts can illuminate the day-to-day reality of these paths and whether they’re a good fit for what Campaigners want in their lives. •

Before meeting or speaking with these people, prepare a list of thoughtful questions. These questions should cover how these people got to where they are, what they consider rewarding or frustrating about their daily lives, and what someone needs to do to succeed in their area.

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By doing their due diligence in this way, Campaigners can get a realistic sense of their options, forge new connections, and set themselves up for a more balanced decisionmaking process. Going Their Own Way To escape the pernicious influence of people-pleasing, these types must take enough alone time to distinguish between what they want and what others want. Making the decisions that suit them best is the highest form of authenticity in this matter. This insight alone can motivate Campaigners to break past others’ expectations and make their own choices. If they go against their loved ones’ wishes, Campaigners should prepare to support themselves emotionally. They can achieve this by spending time with kindred spirits – for example, friends who offer unconditional support and acceptance. It also requires establishing kind but clear boundaries with people who aren’t

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unconditionally supportive. Although it can feel painful, it may be necessary to say, “I hear you, but I need to make this decision for myself.” To decide on their own terms, Campaigners can consider the following questions: “What would give my life the most meaning now? Am I aiming to make someone else happy, or am I truly seeking the right thing for myself?” The answers may be complex, requiring significant reflection and perhaps even some grief. After all, letting go of other people’s dreams is a kind of loss. That said, the objective is to avoid doing something simply as an act of pleasing others. This doesn’t entail blind rebellion, but it does require Campaigners to be faithful to their values and aspirations. Otherwise, they’re unlikely to benefit from college, work, or whichever alternative they choose. Here’s an exercise that can help: •

Answer the following questions with one- to two-sentence responses, remaining as clear and concise as possible. o When have you felt most engaged and enthusiastic – whether regarding work, academics, or a passion project? o Which people in your life do you worry about disappointing or letting down if you don’t listen to their advice or accede to their wishes?

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When Campaigners learn to distinguish their own hopes and dreams from the expectations of their loved ones, the decision between college and full-time employment – or some alternative – can become much clearer.

Campaigners in College Many Campaigners feel at home in the halls of higher education. College can be replete with opportunities for these students to exercise their creativity and powerful imaginations, as many institutions actively welcome the “What if?” perspective that all Diplomats cherish. Moreover, the college experience often enables these Extraverts to socialize with a more diverse group of people than they encountered at home. As a result, the shift from high school to college ratchets up many Campaigners’ excitement about school and learning. Because universities generally have broader course offerings than high schools do, Campaigner college students can finally embark on subjects of interest that weren’t offered in high school. That said, they may need to work hard to develop critical thinking skills, rigor regarding details, and consistent study habits. College is more than learning things: it’s learning how to learn.

Balanced Approach to College Beyond the Comfort Zone Campaigners love fresh starts, and they can embrace college as an opportunity to chart untested waters. They tend to relish the opportunity to join new social groups, try different extracurricular activities, and explore new academic tracks. Given their passion and enthusiasm, they can generally find plenty to enjoy about these novel experiences. “The Campaigner” (ENFP, -A/-T)

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Universities offer electives and opportunities for specialization, which means that these types can delve more deeply into the subjects that fascinate them. Those who take full advantage of their universities’ offerings also venture beyond their comfort zones and try a full array of courses. They can approach these subjects with their trademark openness and curiosity, searching for insights into human nature in even the unlikeliest places. The Full Experience Some people view college as a straightforward investment, aiming only for a “payoff” in the form of a high-paying job after graduation. Like anyone, Campaigners must figure out how to support themselves, but they recognize that college is about much more than increasing their employability. Gregarious and openhearted, they view their college years as a time to build relationships, explore new passions, and grow and mature in every respect. These types tend to thoroughly enjoy what their schools have to offer, both inside and outside the classroom. From the outside, they may seem to inhabit a whirlwind of activity: club meetings, rehearsals, parties, open-mic nights, lively dinners with friends – and, of course, classes. At the same time, they’re likely to take on only what they can manage without compromising their health, their mental well-being, or their academic performance. The result is that they leave college with not only a degree, but also a broadened worldview, deep relationships, and meaningful life experiences.

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Unbalanced Approach to College Oops… I Did It Again Campaigners might look to college as an escape from the things they disliked about high school. Alas, the same issues that Campaigners faced in high school can arise even in the ivory towers of academia. As in high school, these types might be tempted to shortchange their efforts whenever they feel internal resistance to courses, assignments, or instructors. When they do this, however, they’re only shortchanging themselves. Half-heartedness is rarely comfortable or sustainable for Campaigner students. Even if their minimal efforts get them a “good enough” grade, they have the self-awareness to recognize that they could have done more. They may even feel a bit like phonies for not putting their best feet forward, and the idea that they’ve wasted their time (not to mention their tuition money) may haunt them. Yet this awareness might not be enough to change their behavior. Guilt and shame can have a stultifying effect on these types, locking them into unproductive patterns because it’s too painful for them to look at their behavior in the clear-eyed way that’s necessary to make changes. Unless they accept that they haven’t been doing their best, they won’t be able to reframe their approach and muster the motivation needed to get the most from their college experience. Running from Conflict Principled and idealistic, Campaigners live by their values. Sure, they might not push their worldview on others, but they tend to hold fast to opinions that make sense to their Intuition. These opinions include the importance of harmony, agreement, and

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finding common ground. Although admirable, this mindset can conflict with their desire for authentic self-expression. So, what do Campaigner college students do when they disagree with a professor, or even feel offended by something said by an instructor or classmate? To stave off internal anxiety and unease, Campaigners can shy away from facing these situations head-on. They can retreat into their own headspace, never fully engaging with (or opposing) ideas or opinions that challenge their worldviews. Alternatively, they might quietly harbor resentment that eventually erupts in unhelpful ways – for example, an impassioned but poorly thought-out argument with a professor.

Rebalancing Their Approach to College Learning from Everything As in high school, Campaigners may need to set aside time to reflect on the value inherent even to subjects that seem dull or difficult. Given the increased maturity they bring to college, these types can take this way of thinking one step further, seeking opportunities for personal development and growth in these courses and assignments. For example, the detail-orientation and memorization that a more strictly defined course requires can help Campaigners become better at tolerating and dealing with the mundane – a key component of mindfulness. With this mindset, many worthwhile things can happen. First, Campaigner students can gain the discipline that provides much-needed balance to their free-form way of thinking. They can learn the value of being stricter with themselves when it comes to life’s more insistent details. Moreover, they can view the hours spent in such classes as valuable rather than a useless and artificial waste of time. With time, their

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perception of the class may chance from tragically hollow to authentically worthwhile. To enhance this process, Campaigners can try the following exercise: •

Identify a subject that doesn’t feel particularly interesting or worthwhile. Meet with someone who is majoring in that subject or pursuing a related career.

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Through this investigation and inquiry, Campaigners might just discover new passions of their own. Healthy Disagreement As part of their college experience, Campaigners must learn that the diversity of their classmates and instructors – which, in their heart of hearts, these types cherish – comes with the potential for disagreement or even offense. In collegiate settings, professors and students may voice controversial opinions or clash over hot-button topics. This is inherently uncomfortable for students with this personality type, as it brings their values of personal authenticity and communal harmony into conflict.

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Learning to productively and proactively cope with these situations is an important step in Campaigners’ personal growth. By acknowledging that differences of opinion exist – and that these differences matter – these types can open themselves to healthy curiosity about other viewpoints without abandoning their own personal values, or creating a time-bomb of unvoiced resentment. Fortunately, Campaigners’ empathy and consideration tend to equip them to facilitate productive dialogues around controversial or divisive issues. Here’s how they can put these traits to productive use: •

Initiate conversations with people whose viewpoints differ. Begin by listening and asking questions, and aim to find out how they arrived at this perspective, why it matters to them, and why they think the world needs to hear this opinion.

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By opening the door for reciprocal, respectful conversation, Campaigners can do a world of good in their universities. In addition, they can open their own minds and increase their skills when it comes to managing conflict in healthy ways.

Lifelong Learning Lifelong learning – just those words can set Campaigners’ minds ablaze. These types are likely to delight in uncovering new terrain, turning the entire world into their classroom. Something as simple as a nature walk or a dance class can spark a new passion in Campaigners. Whether or not they return to a formal academic setting, people with this personality type keep their minds – and their hearts – open for their entire lives, finding opportunities to learn wherever they look.

Balanced Lifelong Learning Beginner’s Mind The prospect of learning something new excites Campaigners. They tend to embody the Zen attitude of the “beginner’s mind,” tackling pursuits with a sense of openness and wonder. Like anyone, they enjoy being good at what they do, but they’re relatively comfortable with venturing into the unknown, whether that means planting their first organic garden or training to become a hotline volunteer. Campaigners’ idealism can lead them to underestimate the difficulty of their ideas, and they can be discouraged to find that their new endeavor requires significantly more effort and time than they’d expected. That said, Campaigners who take a balanced approach can recognize failure and drudgery as intrinsic to the learning process. They might wish they could speak fluent Japanese after their first lesson, but

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trial and error are what create the messy, untidy substrate in which true learning grows. As Buddhist teacher Thich Nhat Hahn said, “No mud, no lotus.” Listen to Your Heart Other personality types might take a strictly utilitarian approach to lifelong learning, only bothering to study subjects that will earn them a raise or a promotion at work. Campaigners, on the other hand, are likely to follow their hearts. Their multitude of interests, whether beekeeping or badminton or bass guitar, might seem like “wastes of time” to some people, but these types know that learning experiences enrich their lives and provide opportunities for personal development. Plus, they’re just fun! Moreover, Campaigners often apply their studies in ways that help others. They might sign up for a yoga teacher training program with the goal of offering stress relief and serenity to their community, or they might take night classes in Arabic in the hopes of becoming an interpreter for refugees. Although these experiences might not offer significant financial gain, these individuals can seize the opportunity to enrich their inner landscape, improve others’ lives, and enjoy themselves – all at the same time.

Unbalanced Lifelong Learning This and That… and That… and That… When asked what they’d most like to learn, Campaigners often have a slew of replies at the ready: “Organic gardening!” “Bartending!” “Russian!” “How to play the harp!” This enthusiasm is among their greatest strengths, but if not matched by consistency, healthy self-discipline, and the willingness to stick with difficult pursuits, it won’t get

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them anywhere. Even worse, a series of “failed” experiences can cause these sensitive types to lose their enthusiasm for learning. Most Campaigners find it easier to start something than finish it. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this trait – in fact, it’s what makes them such creative visionaries in the first place. However, if they don’t push past the internal resistance that arises whenever projects become difficult, they can flit from one area of learning to another, embracing a succession of expensive, short-lived hobbies. After years or decades, they may look back and realize that they’ve learned very little. Hobby or Profession? Falling in love with new subjects and pursuits tends to give Campaigners an intellectual head rush. In the throes of their newfound passion, they might decide to go all in –

buying professional-grade equipment, signing up for lessons with

expensive teachers, registering for conferences and retreats, and so on. On the most impulsive end of the spectrum, they might decide that “following their hearts” means leaving their jobs to practice these new endeavors professionally. As they say in the equestrian world, “Whoa, there.” Falling in love may feel good, but it clouds objectivity, a stodgy but necessary consideration. If Campaigners don’t take time to ensure that they truly love new subjects before making big decisions, they can set themselves up for disappointment. Moreover, they can be quite hard on themselves if they don’t follow through, making this a recipe for damaged selfesteem as well as lightened wallets.

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Rebalancing Lifelong Learning A Fair Shot Campaigners may fear that a dose of realism will kill all their dreams – including their learning goals. As a result, they can avoid overthinking opportunities before they jump in. On the plus side, this attitude generates a tremendous willingness to try new things and take on initiatives with intangible benefits. For example, learning American Sign Language won’t yield a pay increase for most Campaigners, but it can enable them to communicate with a new group of people. Alas, if these types don’t stick with what they start, they can set themselves up for short-lived and potentially frustrating experiments rather than sustainable endeavors. From graduate school to tuba lessons, many ventures become difficult or challenging once the initial excitement wears off. At this point, Campaigners may experience inner resistance. However, by tackling and working through these challenges, Campaigners can deepen their enjoyment and find more gratification in their learning experiences. To stick with these new pursuits even when they don’t come easily, Campaigners can try the following: •

Set up an informal “support network” of friends, classmates, or peers. Establish a regular time to hang out and discuss challenges and personal progress. For example, a group of aspiring writers might meet at a coffee shop every week to share how their work is going, talk through issues, and bask in the inspiration that comes from one another’s company.

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If appropriate, develop meaningful relationships with mentors and instructors. Chat with them after class, take them out for lunch or coffee, and ask for their advice, support, and guidance on issues that arise.

By building social support into their learning experiences, Campaigners can equip themselves to stick with the activities they love even when the going gets hard. In many cases, this results in more meaningful – and pleasurable – experiences. Harnessing Enthusiasm For many Campaigners, new learning experiences can trigger a “honeymoon phase,” during which they can’t imagine doing anything but their newfound passions. By contrast, the workaday world may seem especially lackluster – especially if what they’re learning has nothing to do with their professions. These types love to live wholeheartedly, and during this phase, the grand gestures of buying expensive equipment, committing to pricey instruction, or even quitting their jobs to “pursue their dreams” may be especially tempting. Sure, it can be liberating to leave a job in favor of something that feels more exciting, and sometimes an aspiring photographer really does need to invest in a better camera. At other times, however, grand gestures can lead to grand regrets. Campaigners can make empowering rather than irresponsible decisions by noticing when their natural exuberance veers into impulsiveness. Do they think they can’t write their novel unless they get an advanced degree, buy the best computer and software, and sign up for a writing retreat on a Greek island? Do they believe they won’t be a “real” jazz pianist, a painter, or a motivational speaker unless they give up their jobs to pursue these passions? By questioning these assumptions, Campaigners

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can open their minds to realistic, sustainable ideas for incorporating learning into their lives. Here are some steps they can take to keep their impulsiveness in check: •

Brainstorm ways to reduce the financial costs of a learning experience. Is it possible to borrow gear from a friend instead of buying everything new? Are there volunteer positions that offer hands-on experience and instruction?

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If it’s necessary to work with an instructor, school, or institution, call and ask whether they offer work-study options. For example, many yoga studios offer free classes to people who are willing to check in other students and sweep the room after class.

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If considering a new profession or side-gig, ask instructors or mentors for advice on the marketability of this activity. Is it realistic to expect this endeavor to pay the bills?

If they sidestep all-or-nothing thinking, Campaigners can harness their enthusiasm and enjoy the honeymoon phase – and all the phases that come after it – rather than letting their initial excitement drag them off course.

Conclusion Oh, The Places You’ll Go! Campaigners don’t need classrooms to learn. They can gain insights into history from conversations with elderly relatives, find inspiration in interactions with creative friends, or pick up the fundamentals of existential philosophy over cups of tea with

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a neighbor. That said, we all find ourselves in formal academic settings at some point during our lives. Through awareness of their strengths as well as their counterproductive tendencies, Campaigner students can set themselves up for learning experiences that enrich their minds, open their hearts, strengthen their resolve, and bolster their self-esteem. To venture beyond their intellectual comfort zones, these types can seek out the good in seemingly unglamorous subjects with the same curiosity and openness they bring to new acquaintances. To revive their motivation, they can cultivate relationships with mentors or instructors who provide accountability and coach them on sustainable, consistent study habits. And, to move past their preconceptions about what they’re “good” or “bad” at, they can develop a growth mindset, priding themselves not on their grades but on their willingness to do their best. If they manage these objectives, these types bring creativity and positive energy to their assignments, inspiring their classmates (and perhaps even their instructors) without even realizing it. Even better, they can set themselves up for a lifetime of learning and personal growth. By using their learning experiences to develop their intellects and expand their spirits, Campaigners can find ever more delight in the people and places around them – and envision ever-brighter futures.

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Professional Development

This chapter explores what can help make Campaigners successful in professional arenas, and give some guidance on potential career paths. Considering how outwardly-focused their energy is and how much emphasis these types places on the importance of humanity, work for them is likely to become more than just a way to put food on the table. At the very least, they’ll adapt to the workplace with charm, practicing their highest beliefs and virtues within the confines of any job role. They may even find a job that is itself an extension of their heartfelt ideals, allowing their inner qualities to shine. We’ll first start by looking at the various ways Campaigners approach their working life, including both their strengths and their occasional challenges. Next, we’ll see how these types can turn their bright energy toward getting the job they want, followed by a look at just some of the fields that may be a good match for them. To help them make wise decisions as they explore their professional potential, we’ll also talk about some facets of the Campaigner personality that make certain work avenues challenging for these types. We’ll even touch on some potential alternative career opportunities Campaigners may find exciting. “The Campaigner” (ENFP, -A/-T)

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The final sections offer a detailed look at how Campaigners relate to each of the four personality type Role groups on the job, including specific advice on dealing with some likely issues arising from their differences and similarities. We hope such insight into everyday work interactions, troubleshooting, correcting blind spots, and creating dynamic partnerships helps make any job a successful pleasure. Engaged Careers Campaigners have strong beliefs and are devoted to causes they hold dear, and these traits support them in their careers. Their keen awareness allows them to understand complex events and other people’s feelings, making for secure professional relationships. These types excel at diplomacy, striving for harmony by helping people cooperate through innovative ideas. They’re fascinated by ethical matters, hidden meanings, and newness, and express these qualities with a bright touch. Soaring ideas and lively engagement make them wells of inspiration and creativity on the job. While capable of great zeal when inspired, Campaigners dislike routine tasks, impersonal work, and analyzing and organizing details. To be happy, these types need creative and social roles where they can pursue personal inspiration and interaction with others. This isn’t to say they can’t master detailed, technical abilities, but that they prefer to connect such efforts to humanistic goals. Inspired Vision Campaigners can achieve great happiness in anything that allows them to combine their values, creative interests, and social relationships. Teaching and social work are prominent examples, but individuals with this personality type shine in surprisingly diverse professional roles. Campaigners make excellent salespeople, offering

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customers unparalleled trustworthiness and care. However, they’re often unhappy with rote jobs they feel don’t provide enough moral and intellectual stimulation – their thirst for progress, understanding, and exploration can verge on unquenchable. Unfortunately, these qualities aren’t often the currency of the business world. Plenty of roles underutilize their skills, leaving them feeling isolated, restless, and hungry for change. To find their greatest professional happiness, these types are more comfortable exploring their interests rather than settling for an early career decision. They advance quickly when motivated by desire, so following their instincts – while being mindful not to toss aside opportunities that require a more in-depth look in the process – can ultimately lead to a profession to which they’re willing to commit. Distracting Imagination Campaigners sometimes have a tough time when things go slowly, predictably, or when tight restrictions are necessary. They’re excited to see what comes next, but may not enjoy waiting for outcomes they’ve set in motion. These types struggle with job tasks or roles requiring long-term composure rather than sheer imagination and energy. In cases where such drive can gain traction, Campaigners can achieve stunning results, but otherwise, they may just spin their wheels. Campaigners also fare poorly in situations where a strict procedure is the norm, as they thrive through flexible experimentation and may overthink things while trying to make the right decision. Add some pressure from superiors, and Campaigners may find themselves making rushed decisions that lack precision or realism. For a type so capable of clever innovation when allowed a loose rein, any such constraints are frustrating and can interfere with their success.

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Empathy and Energy in the Workplace Regardless of their challenges, Campaigners’ friendly concern makes them seem like a soothing balm to coworkers. Always offering support, understanding, and a cooperative attitude, they like to set everyone up for success. While these types might not always shine in detail management, they can contribute their understanding of diverse elements to the big picture. No matter what business they’re in, Campaigners add cheerful inspiration into otherwise sterile workday processes. Their warmth strengthens more than the mood in the workplace – it increases productivity as well. Rather than seeking acclaim as competitive individuals, Campaigners want to elevate and energize people to stride forward together. They often act as inspiring examples by boldly engaging challenges. These types can trust themselves when making career decisions – when Campaigners feel able to connect and share inspiration with others in their work environment, they’re usually in the right place.

Finding Opportunity Making the Connection Campaigners can embrace their strengths in the job-hunting stage as well as on the job. Since they’re able to network with friends and acquaintances, they usually have little difficulty finding prospective employers and getting their feet in the door, as their passion is visible and persuasive on its own. Campaigners can be very convincing, whether crafting introductory e-mails; making those first phone calls; or visiting employers in person, where they can get a close read on companies and their needs.

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Even when applying for jobs without customer or colleague-facing duties, “excellent people skills” have become such an inseparable part of job requirements that displaying such abilities in an interview is a must. Luckily, Campaigners can demonstrate these skills in word and deed to distinguish themselves from other candidates. It’s essential that they recognize that all good things come to those who wait, and some careful, patient diplomacy is often required to make those first significant steps to start their careers. Relating Outside Interests Campaigners can turn their beloved interests into real-life projects that appeal to employers, sharing their accomplishments as self-promotion. Whether through innovative competitions or volunteer projects, building an online presence through creative media, or taking part in local social issues –letting their private passions shine through on their resumes makes Campaigners more attractive as candidates. Outside interests also give a lot of bonding room in interviews. Answering a question like, “Describe a situation where you used your problem-solving skills,” is much, much easier when chatting about vibrant, compelling personal experiences. Campaigners can confidently use their interests to the full extent when promoting themselves in interviews – after all, skills are worth more when people know about them. Preparing for the Interview Charismatic enthusiasm alone won’t suffice when convincing companies that they’re the right candidates. These types sometimes overlook detailed facts, focusing instead on expressing their ideas and values. While this approach may work in some situations, it’s also important to clearly communicate to employers, directly or indirectly, the concrete benefits of hiring them. Campaigners should also expect to

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answer many templated questions, and clever answers aren’t always what these checklists seek. Another consideration for this highly idealistic personality type is how much their personal opinions harmonize with a prospective company’s needs and goals – Campaigners can speak with that in mind. While passions that relate specifically to the job are assets to be shared, other personal stances can be kept private, especially on controversial issues. Not every worthy employer is trying to change the world – or is comfortable hiring revolutionary truth-seekers.

Jobs and General Skill Sets

The fields discussed below are favorable options for Campaigners, but by no means should they limit their decision to what we cover – these suggestions are meant to get thoughtful wheels turning. This personality type can find inspiration in unlikely places, and always keep an open mind about their future. The careers mentioned below relate to their strengths, but it’s important for Campaigners to consider, “What job will engage my heart and allow me to build on my ideas for myself and the world?” as well as how their strengths can help them get hired in the first place.

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Healthcare Whether it’s traditional medicine, psychology, chiropractic therapy, or something more mystical, healthcare speaks to Campaigners’ empathy toward others and desire to make a difference in the world. These types gravitate toward healthy living and self-discovery, both of which are hallmarks of such jobs. They enjoy helping others gain insight into, and control over, their lives, and work toward a better future. Healthcare jobs have the additional benefit of allowing these highly social and upbeat individuals to work with clients or patients directly, brightening days and spreading smiles. Campaigners also excel in healthcare-related administrative jobs and leadership roles when those positions leave room for human connection, and not just paperwork. Education Teaching and working with students suits Campaigners well, as do higher faculty positions where they can fight for progress and lead by example. With younger students, they’re imaginative and connected, using their Intuitive trait and creativity to share in their youthful excitement. They get the attention of older students with their irreverence and appreciation for loose structure, especially with their flexibility and willingness and find what’s effective in the classroom. With adult learners, they have a sense of empathy for each person’s story, and the camaraderie they foster in their classrooms makes education the personal experience that it should be. Campaigners intuitively treat their students as individuals with unique needs, advocating for their success from the heart. They find constant contact with students and colleagues throughout the day invigorating, and enjoy the interaction as well as the sense that they’re changing lives for the better. Campaigners also make

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wonderful religious or spiritual instructors, encouraging compassion and love for humanity within their belief systems. Such roles allow Campaigners to combine their desire for personal connections with making a positive difference. Public / Social Work Campaigners’ idealism and fondness for social engagement make them well-suited to public service in general, particularly social work. Human need is a powerful motivator for this emotionally attuned personality type, and opportunities to lend a helping hand come in such roles as social worker, non-profit worker, or community organizer. Even library positions offer chances to directly interact with people in educational, progressive ways. The boldest of Campaigners may find that their vision and sincerity make them compelling, effective political leaders in the public sector. While their staffs handle technical details, Campaigners can turn their social appeal and personal zeal toward positively changing the world. Or, Campaigners could consider serving humanity in front-line roles with private social aid organizations. Their desire to be personally involved in making the world better knows few boundaries. Service Work Making a positive difference in others’ lives, or even just their day, is fun for these types, so workplaces that allow them to practice their charms on the public can lead them to success. Campaigners are assets to retail and service businesses, creating loyal, appreciative client bases. In fact, lower-pressure service jobs are a good fit for Campaigners while they’re searching for a career, continuing their education, or simply dedicating time to personal pursuits. For example, serving coffee can pay the

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bills and leave room for writing novels, earning degrees, or spending time with their friends and families. Service professionals who genuinely connect with customers bring about smiles and profits, so jobs like retail clerk, bartender, or tour guide allow Campaigners to earn good money while enjoying rewarding relationships. The hospitality industry also gives them a straightforward way to build careers that brighten the lives of others. If they pursue their passion fully, Campaigner chefs can become radiant, creative centerpieces to restaurants small and large. The luxury hotel industry pays people very well to ensure that guests receive a personal touch, making these positions potentially very satisfying for Campaigners. Creative / Arts It can be challenging to turn artistic talent into a paycheck, but this shouldn’t discourage Campaigners from pursuing careers related to their artistic talents. To the contrary, they can aggressively dive into their art and rely on their social energy to draw attention to their creations. When seeking a primary career in art, Campaigners may find greater success with specific training or education. Having credentials on paper can open many doors and give these types the chance to show what they can do creatively. Campaigners can also consider taking on second jobs to supplement their artistic careers. Many artistic roles can be pursued as side/evening/weekend endeavors, giving these types a chance to share their work and chase opportunities. Joining a local acting company or performing music at local fairs are tried-and-true ways for Campaigners to share their artistic gifts. Connecting with other professional or

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amateur artists in their community, and sharing their expansive, natural excitement and charisma, can lead to many golden opportunities. Social Activism Campaigners thrive when they feel they’re telling some larger truth or helping society progress. As an example, while others might pursue a career in law for the thrill of argument or the challenge of problem-solving, Campaigners are more likely to use the law to give support rather than punishment and find great satisfaction in protecting those in need. Defense attorney or consumer advocate lawyer are examples of inspiring paths for Campaigners interested in a law career. However, any position where personal inspiration and interpersonal skill can be used to achieve social justice might appeal to Campaigners. Careers that allow Campaigners to share truths and bring people together make them happy, and social activism through any job role is highly suited to this personality type. Government or nongovernmental organizations (NGO) positions, diplomacy work, working on political campaigns, and journalism are also excellent ways for Campaigners to foster harmony and understanding in the world professionally. Whether publishing exposés on corruption, bringing conflicting parties to a negotiating table, or spreading awareness of important political issues, Campaigners are never bored when they take the world’s problems into their caring hands.

Challenging Career Qualities Some professional situations may be less suitable or comfortable for Campaigners, forming potential roadblocks to success and happiness. Of course, they shouldn’t

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discount any career merely on its face value, as when these adaptable individuals put their minds to it, they can do anything. They can, however, objectively evaluate specific jobs against their own needs, values, and limits. Questions are essential to good decision-making. To aid this investigation, let’s look at some career aspects and circumstances that are unlikely to suit Campaigners. Idealistic Frustration Campaigners prefer harmony over conflict, and progress over stagnation. However, they can lose their patience when people don’t share their idealistic values, and can become upset by what they perceive as ignorance, malfeasance, or the violation of important principles. Seemingly immoral practices by management can turn Campaigners into rebels who tend to reject any profit-minded rationalizations that corporations present for such acts. Their outspoken revolutionary spirit, however noble, can cause problems in any modern workplace that prizes conformity and obedience. This isn’t to say that these types should stifle their morals and vision, but finding roles that offer adequate compensation and support their values and freedom of expression may be a lengthy pursuit – and the pursuit is no guarantee of a job. Forcing themselves to tolerate unhappiness at length isn’t a good solution, either, as such repression saps Campaigners’ objectivity, creativity, and energy, leaving them disaffected on the job. Even in respectable workplaces, these individuals often have dreams and ambitions so grand that they may be difficult for others to understand. In their battle to assert ideals over reality’s roadblocks, they may find little support from a majority more grounded in convention. Many others may view them as unrealistic dreamers,

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questioning the way they spend their energy. In workplaces that rebuke their inspiration with conventional thinking, the sense of being an outsider can be unbearable for Campaigners. Repetitive or Impersonal Work People with this personality type love their work to have a personal touch, and they see most problems in terms of their human elements and social benefits. Any job revolving around something rather than someone, such as assembly-line style work, data entry jobs, and purely technical tasks can leave Campaigners unfulfilled, so it’s essential that these positions feel purposeful and personal. This doesn’t mean that they can’t excel at highly technical or data-intensive jobs that feature creative goals. Engineering is a case in point, as Campaigners can handle complex data involved in creative, unique expressions, such as the chance to design or craft things. Driving any intensive, repetitive, or detailed work with a grand goal makes Campaigners blossom. Likewise, if a purposeful connection to positive outcomes exists, they can find fulfillment in otherwise unattractive work, no matter how boring. Campaigners might not make the happiest ditch-diggers, but they might gladly dig endless tree-planting holes to help restore the environment. It’s all about context and meaning for this idealistic personality type. Loose Principles or Cold Values Campaigners struggle in industries without social responsibility, or if they sense their work might be taking advantage of others. Businesses revolving around vices or opportunism, such as casinos, may leave these types feeling guilty. Even work like investing and money management may strike them as disreputable if the institutions aren’t completely honest. For example, Campaigners might comfortably sell products

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that make people healthier or happier, such as cruelty-free cosmetics or herbal supplements, but might feel conflicted over selling used cars with unknown service records. Even in lucrative roles in large companies, Campaigners need to believe that corporate values align with their integrity and generosity to feel totally comfortable in their work. Unfortunately, this makes it unlikely that Campaigners can devote their hearts and souls fully to many profit-driven companies, though they may still find acceptable careers in them. Isolation on the Job Like many Extraverts, Campaigners can become bored or lonely in isolated job roles. Such social types need the opportunity to share ideas and cooperation, and if it doesn’t happen at work, they can become dissatisfied. They may perform reasonably well on their own, but are far more energized by some degree of social integration, especially working in teams. Some jobs may require extended periods of solitude, and if Campaigners find themselves drawn to such roles for some higher purpose, they can balance the unpleasant isolation of these positions with appropriate social engagement during their personal time. Socializing with coworkers outside of work creates a sense of mutual energy, even if the work itself doesn’t bring them together.

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Career Alternatives

Self-Employment Independent Minds People don’t need typical jobs to live comfortably if they can handle the unknown as well as Campaigners. Many find the notion of self-employment quite scary, but we live in an age of possibilities, and Campaigners know this as well as any other personality type. As imaginative individuals, their ability to innovate, dream, and connect with people can open many doors. Working independently may be a satisfying and viable option for them, as they have no trouble promoting what they love. These types enjoy freedom, creativity, and active days, and being self-employed gives them excellent opportunities to find these things while still earning a living. Unfortunately, trying to start a business without a solid plan can lead to frustration, heartache, and an empty wallet. Campaigners may have some aversion to the rules of the corporate world, and become frustrated with regulatory tedium and restriction. However, finding a worthwhile cause and turning it into an ethical business idea can be incredibly rewarding for these types, enough to justify a little

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stress. The keys to success include a good idea that speaks to others and strong relationships with vendors and clients. Campaigners’ empathy and enthusiasm serve them well in these areas. Joining Forces When considering any self-employed path, these individuals must be willing to experiment and fail along the way. Because of their ability to work well with others, one excellent way for Campaigners to go into business for themselves with less risk is a small partnership with one or more compatible individuals. Campaigners can share liabilities and benefits, parleying their social skills and creativity into trusting relationships with their partners as well as clients/customers. It’s important for them to keep a close eye on details, however, as business associates appreciate charm and ingenuity, but they expect punctuality and effective followthrough. Campaigners should consider getting help from other personality types to handle tedious but critical details such as accounting, planning, and organization. Outsourcing those duties allows Campaigners to focus on the social and creative side of their work. Anything is Possible Once they’re organized and prepared, anything that combines Campaigners’ passion with their skill or knowledge could become a small business. Always creative, they might find profit from any number of diverse talents – tailor, woodworker, stylist, or design consultant are just a few examples. Building on another primary trait, Campaigners could heal others while selfemployed in roles such as chiropractors, marriage counselors, and psychological or

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physical therapists – all necessary positions that mix their gifts for empathy with healing skills. Nutritionist, massage therapist, and personal trainer are also related job roles that offer self-employed Campaigners opportunities to help others work toward health and healing. Hobbies: Creative Refuge, Future Potential One possible way for Campaigners to find satisfaction apart from their work life is to transform personal hobbies into paying work. An outlet for creative energy can help them deal with job frustration until they can make a career change. While this is an excellent idea for any personality type, it’s especially satisfying for Campaigners, and may ultimately lead toward self-employment, as discussed above. When they find themselves in mentally unrewarding jobs, the chance to do something exciting and inspiring without the constraint of authority feels wonderful. Others quickly notice the products of personal passions, and Campaigners’ hobbies may garner them unexpected acclaim. The benefits of developing their hobbies may be personal at first, but considering the social skills that Campaigners possess, sharing their work can quickly become profitable.

Professional Volunteer Living a Dream A daring and inspiring para-career option for Campaigners is that of professional volunteer – making income second to loftier goals of changing the world. While financial prosperity is usually off the table, unparalleled personal satisfaction and growth can take their place. If supported by income from other endeavors, or even willing partners, Campaigners who devote themselves entirely to conscientious

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social progress can move mountains. This is also a role that these types can transition into later in life, bringing skill sets from previous occupations into the non-profit world with expertise and vigor. Experienced or educated Campaigners can find a need for their abilities and knowledge regardless of their background, especially if they’re willing to travel – anyone from welders and carpenters to teachers and gardeners can make a difference. The least developed countries are deeply hungry for compassion, dedication, and boots on the ground. Any skills and knowledge can be of use when driven by a desire to help. Resumes of abilities with passionate cover letters can allow them to enter many different organizations as volunteers, and if they can accept potentially austere material lives, the rewards to their souls can be endless. Act Locally There are many volunteer opportunities for Campaigners at home as well, in promotion or fundraising roles with idealistic organizations ranging from grassroots political groups to charities. Distinguishing themselves with their dedication and proficiency may even lead to long-term, paying positions for Campaigners. If large organizations are unappealing, small groups, or even individual action, can be very meaningful. Something as basic as tutoring young children in reading and math can be done by almost anyone with warmth, patience, and a high school education, and can make an incredible difference. Campaigners can find a path of volunteerism as dramatic as spending a year abroad as volunteer aid workers, or as simple as sitting in their kitchens making phone calls to grocery stores to organize food bank donations. Regardless of the scale or complexity, a commitment to volunteerism may be one of the best ways for

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Campaigners to satisfy their desire to create harmony and healing in the world. They can do this while keeping their day jobs, or plunge into the deep end and devote their time entirely to helping others.

Workplace Cooperation Between Roles It’s useful to have something in common when forming relationships in the workplace, but Campaigners can achieve a connection even when they don’t share similar backgrounds or traits with coworkers. Their tool is empathy, as conversations that include mutual understanding tend to be much more productive than those that proceed only with assumptions and personal perspectives. This section covers workplace pairings between Campaigners and all four Roles, including brief overviews of potential synergies and obstacles.

Campaigner–Analyst Cooperation

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things in profound ways. This similarity in style and shared love for creative thought give these types ample opportunity to combine their talents.

Balanced Campaigner–Analyst Cooperation Complementary Counterpoints Campaigners live in a world of values and empathy. Analysts are more comfortable with systems and logic, but they often include ethical rules. Campaigners can broaden Analyst coworkers’ perspectives by offering them a foundation of human connection. Analysts sometimes allow efficiency to trump empathy, but Campaigners provide “soul” to any systems that Analysts devise, and help bring out their humanity in the workplace. However, an organization founded only on the values of creativity and harmony has the potential to lose sight of the unpleasant factors and considerations necessary to any business. Rational analysis is an essential ingredient needed for any organization to grow and prosper, and Campaigners can rely on Analysts to provide a critical counterpoint to their potentially fatal optimism. If running an organization together is like captaining a ship, then Campaigners can chart optimistic courses – while Analysts spot hidden icebergs. Brain Storms As Intuitive types, Campaigners and Analysts can both get a little “windy,” always talking about their ideas for the future. Put them together in a work environment, especially one where they share tasks and duties, and they’ll brew a veritable storm of creativity together. While both are prone to playing in the realm of theory, job

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requirements can prompt them to try out their ideas together in the real world, leading to discovery and accomplishment. What makes this duo so exciting is that they don’t think the same – Analysts process any shared ideas through a rational filter that looks at possible functionality, and Campaigners are extremely perceptive of how ideas can relate to and affect people. Evaluating these unique areas is invaluable, as functionality is crucial for any plan, and ensuring compatibility with its human components is necessary for its implementation. Whether it’s revising a customer service policy, designing a website, or creating a sales presentation, the Campaigner–Analyst a visionary team can take the world by storm.

Unbalanced Campaigner–Analyst Cooperation Frustrated Collaborations While Campaigners and Analysts can work together in complementary ways, their differing traits also create points of contention when they lose patience or refuse to compromise. Both are creative, but they may not have equal fondness for engineering the technical aspects of plans, methods, and practices. Analysts can see Campaigners’ focus as emphasizing hope rather than mechanics. In turn, Campaigners can regard Analysts as cynical and pedantic. Analysts tend to search for optimized approaches, while Campaigners focus on idealistic outcomes. Campaigners may point excitedly to the expected success on the horizon, while Analysts point to endless potential pitfalls or relentlessly explore details. This isn’t to say that Analysts are the more responsible parties – they can become so obsessed with a plan’s intricacies that they stall any progress

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Campaigners create with their energy. Habit, and lack of cooperation, can turn this potentially dynamic duo into a frustrated odd couple. Appalled These types also go about negotiation, argument, and reconciliation in different ways. Campaigners value friendly relations as much as anything else, but may be disappointed by Analysts’ unabashedly blunt, dispassionate relationship style. Facts can often sway and compel Analysts to change their behavior toward others, but feelings rarely can. Campaigners’ approach from the opposite direction, with their concern for relationships shaping their behavior, sometimes regardless of logic. Analysts might criticize an underperforming coworker, pointing out their flaws in a rational manner but completely disregarding their feelings. Campaigners are far more likely to put that person’s feelings first, avoiding direct criticism and instead offering support to help them improve. Analysts are often brusque with people, and Campaigners can easily become combative if such attitudes strike them as mean. When communication devolves into mutual criticism and irritation, these coworkers might never understand each other’s great value.

Rebalancing Campaigner–Analyst Cooperation Offering an Open Mind Campaigners can create mutually beneficial cooperation with Analysts by asking them for their input and perhaps even using it when appropriate. Analysts love to share their witty opinions and ideas, and appreciate that someone cares what they think. Campaigners can explore Analysts’ logical view of work processes, and practice incorporating a little of that type’s mechanical insights into their methods.

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This questioning approach can also be useful when Campaigners perceive a block in progress or a misunderstanding. They can ask Analysts where the disconnect lies, and how they might prevent similar problems together in the future. An empathetic attempt at compromise is natural for Campaigners, and adding direct, clear communication appeals to Analysts. When working with Analysts, Campaigners can use these tips: •

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Analysts often brace for conflict, so when they find friendly tolerance and interest instead, they’ll reflect Campaigners’ open, positive example, which helps foster a more productive and pleasant workplace. Communicating Effects Campaigners can keep in mind that Analysts are often unintentionally chilly: these types might ignore friendly gestures out of concern for efficiency. Once Campaigners realize this, they can forgive obtuseness and work with that tendency to create good relations. One way to engage Analysts’ logic is by discussing how social investment affects other people, and how that, in turn, boosts productivity, efficiency, and even standing among peers. Analysts who feel great regard for coworkers, but are blind to emotional issues, appreciate an informed perspective.

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Campaigners should not chastise or condescend (either can irritate Analysts), but can offer friendly insight into how words and deeds provoke emotional responses in others. Analysts may decry such things as “silly,” but Campaigners can nonetheless show that they’re an undeniable reality that can be “optimized.” It’s up to Analysts whether they’ll try, but Campaigners can certainly share their wise example – and, of course, clarity about how they wish Analysts to treat them. Here are some steps to ease interpersonal friction with Analysts: •

Any time an Analyst acts inconsiderately: o Ask to speak to them privately for a moment. o State that feelings are a fact in the workplace. o Calmly explain how their words or actions “could be” objectionable. o Offer to help resolve any underlying frustration or discontent on their part. o Respectfully point out how a shift in tone might be more efficient for everyone. Strike a friendly and supportive tone, without accusation: “It might be easier if…” o Know when to back off if Analysts aren’t interested in help.

Campaigners can become valued social links between Analysts and other employees – translators who add to workplace harmony. With their insight and care, they can easily bring out the best in Analysts, especially when they start by expressing concern and care for their happiness and well-being.

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Campaigner–Diplomat Cooperation

Campaigners and other Diplomats have the advantage of speaking the same language; they’re visionaries focused on growth, humanity, and exploring experiences. When working together, their discussions may sometimes wander in ways that strike other types as impractical, but they can be the first steps to marvelous creative progress.

Balanced Campaigner–Diplomat Cooperation Meaningful Inspirations Campaigners often find delightful work partners among other Diplomats who enjoy discussing more abstract matters. Others may talk about the nuts and bolts of an organization, but Diplomats speak to one another about creating harmony and growth within the workday. These types each focus on details only when they help them make a point about a larger principle or ideal. While they may appear overly idealistic to other types, Campaigners and other Diplomats agree among themselves that there’s always a better way and a better world possible.

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Conversations between these types lean toward the future or creative ideas, as convention holds no interest for either of them. In fact, they may find one another a relief from the tedium they experience at work – or with some other personality types. They each discuss ideas as something purposeful and relevant. Metaphors and symbolic language serve as shorthand for Campaigners, and they appreciate other Diplomats’ understanding of their use. On a day-to-day basis, they can boost each other’s energy on the job. Progress in the Workplace Campaigners and other Diplomats quickly target any injustice or unfairness in business and may form strong alliances around such matters. Positive change inspires these types, and they understand each other when such problems arise. Campaigners and other Diplomats agree that a cold, calculating business willing to sacrifice or mistreat people to meet its goals needs to be fixed, and are fast partners in such efforts. This can not only help these types create a better workplace for themselves and others, but it can also drive progress for the entire company if they make their ideas heard together. When Campaigners and other Diplomats feel compelled to push for change within the workplace, they can not only reinforce each other, but also offer their unique views to help balance each other’s personal motivations. Passion and objectivity rarely align, so coworkers with similar spirit and values can become valuable checks and balances.

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Unbalanced Campaigner–Diplomat Cooperation Echo Chamber Aspirations Campaigners and other Diplomats have no trouble understanding each other. However, without the benefit of insight from those who think differently, they may become too immersed in their style of thinking, habits, and shared perspectives. Two such idealistic, creative types may counterproductively focus on grand ideas instead of practical action. Frankly, these two types may never bring each other down to earth even in crucial moments. To prevent this in business and life, it’s vital to have diverse people around to provide different viewpoints and skill sets. Too many Diplomats brainstorming in one room may produce too many guiding principles and too little tactical planning. All this idealistic discussion can lead to gridlock, especially as Campaigners and other Diplomats struggle to make hard, practical decisions. Even when every rational argument justifies something unpleasant, Diplomats may sidestep rationality to reach a potentially ineffective plan with which they’re more comfortable. This also complicates matters when these idealistic types disagree – they can find it very hard to reach pragmatic compromises. Getting Off Track Campaigners working alongside other Diplomats may let distraction set in when the job calls for focused action. Endless inspired discussions can do as much harm as good, and both personality types can struggle to stay in the reality of the situation, especially when work becomes repetitious or routine. They see each other’s company as a refuge of imagination, and this can take their attention away from tasks and responsibilities that don’t offer as much enjoyment.

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Even if Campaigners and fellow Diplomats don’t lose sight of their work objectives, they can lead each other off course, as they’re both more eager to infuse responsibilities and duties with meaning and joy than simply complete them. In their desire to breathe inspiration into everything they do, these types may raise the eyebrows of management, especially if their innovations are spontaneous rather than requested. It can be hard enough for Campaigners to buckle down efficiently when called for, but with other bright, imaginative Diplomats nearby, it can become almost impossible.

Rebalancing Campaigner–Diplomat Cooperation Grounding Together Campaigners working with other Diplomats can diversify and ground their thinking by tapping into other people’s fresh perspectives and creativity. Sharing ideas back and forth inspires all parties, and these Intuitive types can then take time together to mull over what they’ve learned from other sources. Campaigners and other Diplomats can both benefit from some considered reflection to balance out their fevered speculation, especially when they’re searching for a realistic perspective or method. Campaigners and other Diplomat types can also take care to maintain hands-on efforts when working together toward any goal, and remind each other to set and meet achievable steps along the way. Instead of mentally leaping forward to an assumed outcome, they can talk and walk these steps together, taking the time to complete each stage and contribute thoughtful review. The following steps can help ground Campaigners and other Diplomats as they work together:

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When devising a goal or method, include outside sources of input (colleagues, Internet research).

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Keep each other on track until it’s done.

The key for these types is to set goals they can achieve by incorporating the realistic views of others, and then prove their capability by finishing them. As they master this process together, their shared goals can grow larger and more imaginative. Supporting Each Other’s Focus Being supportive is deeply important to Campaigners, and other Diplomats know this perhaps better than anybody. With their fine-tuned emotional awareness, Diplomats can be fonts of morale for each other in the workplace, giving each other the energy to tackle the most challenging projects. However, sometimes the best form of support is to allow each other to focus on a task without interruption, as social interaction can easily distract either type. Campaigners and other Diplomats can actively focus each other on their obligations. In realistic terms, this means recognizing when their attention has wandered, and gently reminding each other of the intended effort in the moment. Resisting the urge

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to jump into different subjects in the middle of a task is a great start, as either of these types can avoid being the seed of distraction for their coworkers. Support at work means enabling work to get done – they can leave anything else for personal time. Here are some tips Campaigners and other Diplomats can use to help avoid distracting each other: •

If the impulse to interact surfaces, consider these questions before taking coworkers’ attention away from their current tasks: o Are they busy? o Will the interruption distract them? o Is the interruption necessary? o Is the interruption even work-related?

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when it comes to respecting Diplomat coworkers’ focus. Once they meet the deadline, there’s plenty of time to celebrate ideas and accomplishments.

Campaigner–Sentinel Cooperation

Both Campaigners and Sentinels like to see ideal outcomes, and have much to talk about when it comes to the usefulness of the human element in the workplace. While Campaigners focus more on ideological matters involving compassion, Sentinels’ interests lie in sensible efficiency and taking care of others on a practical level. Both these personality types find satisfaction and self-respect in creating smooth social environments, so there’s common ground for them to bond – and get things done.

Balanced Campaigner–Sentinel Cooperation Adding Different Essentials When these two personality types communicate and cooperate fully, they complement each other’s skills nicely. Campaigners’ empathetic understanding of people helps Sentinels negotiate the human maze of the workplace, minimizing conflict and rallying coworkers around a common cause or goal to create social

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organization. In turn, Sentinels help Campaigners stay on target when it comes to work precision, productivity, and tough but necessary decisions. Sentinels are great examples when practical focus is needed, helping Campaigners keep their feet on the ground and striding in the right direction. In addition to helping each other, Campaigners and Sentinels provide different kinds of support for an organization. For Campaigners, it’s the larger picture and the big ideas that are important because they look to the future. Anything that comes across as “picky” or “strict” may feel unimportant to them, so they sometimes miss small but essential details. Sentinels rarely do, and their diligence supports Campaigners’ creativity to ensure that work goes smoothly, and the organization prospers. Planning with Energy Counterbalance can also become harmony when these types team up and put their best qualities at each other’s disposal. When they cooperate, Campaigners provide endless energy and vision to accomplish a task, while Sentinels back that energy up with practical tactics. Sentinels may have significant goals of their own, and Campaigners infuse those objectives with an adaptable, can-do spirit that rapidly moves projects and ideas forward. In turn, Campaigners may have goals and ideas that could use a little focus, and they can rely on Sentinels to be such considered voices, helping craft the wildest of their ideas into workable plans. Campaigners can also find a staunch core of support in Sentinels, who tend to be attentive to duty and responsibility. When Campaigners get them on their side, they have reliable backup they can count on for their creative energy.

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Unbalanced Campaigner–Sentinel Cooperation Unworkable Rules Campaigners can feel disconnected from Sentinel coworkers who place procedure and professional responsibility above warmth, idealistic human values, and broader vision and inspiration. They just don’t want the same things out of the workday. These types can also easily be at odds over workplace issues such as tardiness, productivity, policy adherence, and follow-through. Campaigners can place creativity above rules, while Sentinels firmly emphasize an orderly system. Campaigners can always imagine something better, while Sentinels want to protect efficiency and order by using proven standards and methods. Their desire to experiment can exasperate Sentinels, who tend to be reluctant to fix things that aren’t broken – especially when the bottom line is already being adequately served. Campaigners can focus more on ideas than productivity, and the issue between these types is often what they each consider to be obvious, unspoken priorities. Without a fair discussion of the value of both approaches, these two types can grow to resent each other. Different Human Resources These types differ in social workplace approaches as well. Campaigners connect with other employees on a personal level by using their emotional instincts, while Sentinels prefer a practical evaluation, focusing on how someone does their job. While these two styles may not necessarily conflict, Sentinels may think Campaigners have their heads in the clouds, and Campaigners may feel that Sentinels care less about people than tasks.

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What one person appreciates about a coworker may grate on another – and they may not fully understand each other’s perspectives. Sentinels can revel in a firm social order and structured hierarchy that makes Campaigners chafe, and a climate of egalitarian friendliness that thrills Campaigners can feel like chaos to Sentinels. Each may find the other’s preference detracting from their own, especially when it comes to social structures at work, where the “butterfly” and “worker bee” may collide.

Rebalancing Campaigner–Sentinel Cooperation Open to Mentorship Campaigners can recognize that it’s wise for someone to keep an eye on the bottom line and that, in many cases, details matter immensely. Instead of resenting Sentinels for being procedure-oriented, they can appreciate having help with things that aren’t necessarily their strongest qualities. Sentinels are ready allies to anyone willing to pitch in and get the work done, and Campaigners can certainly contribute much enthusiasm, insight, and tireless vigor, if not always precise focus. Campaigners can also appreciate the ways that Sentinels safeguard institutions for the benefit of people – after all, a failing business leads to layoffs. While some of Sentinels’ behavior might seem closed-minded, Campaigners can keep in mind that they’re trying to protect everyone’s future by keeping the structure strong. Ever adaptive and experimental, Campaigners can appreciate how rules and structure may be useful by mirroring Sentinels’ skills. Here are some tips that can help them: •

Ask to work alongside an effective Sentinel when duties allow.

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Explore their approach to tasks with cheerful questions.

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Campaigners have a lot to teach Sentinels as well, but it’s unlikely they’ll need instructions as to how – they naturally share their unique energy. However, shaping that energy through the procedures that make Sentinels so effective on the job is a practice with a worthy payoff. Making Brighter Days Stability and precision are important, but Campaigners’ social energy also strengthens the most important assets of any organization: its people. Demonstrations of useful cooperative action impress Sentinels more than discussions about feelings, as they serve both cohesion and productivity. Good relationships with Sentinels can help Campaigners appreciate structure, and Sentinels can gladly help them find a path to express their energy on the job appropriately. Likewise, Sentinels can discover Campaigners’ kind support gives them needed stability to be their best. Campaigners can show Sentinels the usefulness of human connection in the workplace by offering it to them directly in the following ways: •

Keep an eye on their attitude.

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o Ask if they’re feeling all right. o Ask if they’d like to talk. o Ask if there’s anything you can do to help. o Give emotional support and reassurance. o Make an offer of ongoing support: “If you ever want to talk…” Simply being kind and helpful goes a long way toward appreciating each other’s presence in the workday, even if one of these types is more focused on crafting relationships than the other.

Campaigner–Explorer Cooperation

The common ground between Campaigners and Explorers is one where fascination with newness and discovery drives personal achievement. They both enjoy a sense of moving forward in life and finding ways to improve what matters to them. These types also possess ready adaptability and an openness to change that allows them to engage experiences boldly and creatively, on the job and in life.

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Balanced Campaigner–Explorer Cooperation Supple Savvy Campaigners often connect with challenges in abstract ways, and Explorers easily find solutions to practical problems. Both enjoy learning and accomplishing new things, and when it comes to the workplace, these types approach from different but highly complementary angles. Explorers look at a tangled mess and see how to fix it and keep it working, often in unique and exciting ways. Campaigners can see a whole new perspective on the problem itself that enables solutions, as well as immediate ideas for improvement. Despite their differences, both types respect flexibility and active engagement. Rules don’t bind them tightly, and they freely share innovative ideas together. While Explorers are much more hands-on and utilitarian compared to Campaigners’ idealistic pursuit of values, their common comfort with change helps them cooperate. Creative vision is realized through down-to-earth proficiency when Campaigners and Explorers communicate and work together. A Relaxed Approach The ways these coworkers might inspire each other are uncountable, but one certainty is that they aren’t likely to stress each other out. Neither appreciates pressure or external constraints, and while they may freely offer each other their views and ideas, they’re unlikely to be controlling or try to push each other to do things in a certain way. Their shared permissive tendencies come from different motivations, but are equally appreciated by both. Campaigners may even develop a sense of respect and wonderment for the almost carefree yet effective way that Explorers get their work done.

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Campaigners can learn a lot from the way Explorers exercise their potential. It’s not the planned practicality of Sentinels, but is equally attuned to realism in the present, resulting in efficiency without hyperbole or stress about unlikely possibilities. Experienced Explorers can be fantastic examples for Campaigners to follow, their loose style comfortably compatible, yet their grasp of the feasible artfully adept.

Unbalanced Campaigner–Explorer Cooperation Disinterest Campaigners may focus too much on conceiving “big picture” ideas, while Explorers tend to focus on immediate tasks, thinking on their feet and improvising solutions from day to day without much thought for the future. These two approaches, with their differences of scope and timeline, can create issues on the job. Discussions about future possibilities drive Campaigners, while Explorers want to dive into what’s in front of them. These types can easily butt heads over which is the more appropriate focus if they can’t learn to appreciate that both are useful, and can be quite complementary. Unfortunately, Campaigners may find that Explorers are unimpressed with even their most beautiful ideas if talk doesn’t quickly lead to action, and they can be bluntly impatient about it. Campaigners struggle with follow-through and actualization of their thoughts, and while Explorers are no strangers to wandering or variable focus, they have little respect for pure theory. Their preference for practice over conceptualization can create friction when Campaigners are trying to turn things over in their minds.

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Moral Questions While established standards don’t bind either type, Campaigners connect deeply to their idealism and compassion. Explorers aren’t amoral, but idealism is rarely as prominent as practicality and expediency in the way they handle business. In discussing workplace plans and practices, it may concern Campaigners if Explorers place goal achievement over human costs. If Campaigners don’t resolve their negative judgments, they may build resentment toward Explorer coworkers. In extremes, Campaigners may see Explorers as shallow for their focus on the moment, while Explorers strongly resent even implied moral accusations, especially from a type that may themselves practice radical individualism. If either type settles on judgment instead of communication, they may treat each other with disapproval, and assume that there’s little point in engaging.

Rebalancing Campaigner–Explorer Cooperation Working Together A great way to rebalance differences is to express appreciation for what other types bring to the table, rather than perceptions of what they lack. Campaigners can recognize and appreciate how Explorers deliver practical solutions to the workplace, and Explorers can learn to value how Campaigners’ grand ideas are inspiring and energetic starting points for accomplishment together. When talking with Explorers, Campaigners can avoid wandering too far into lofty discussions made up mainly of theoretical ideas. While Explorers probably understand the concepts, they most likely prefer to focus on how to implement them

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on a practical level. Vigorously stepping into action together can unify these two types into a creative force to be reckoned with. Campaigners can use these tips to help them successfully join forces with Explorer coworkers: •

Share ideas in a framework of how a task might be done.

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The key to keeping Explorers interested in lofty, esoteric goals is to get them involved in the “how-to” activities that lead to those goals. This leads to enthusiastic cooperation that feeds the passions and intellect of both types, as well as generates useful progress in the workplace. Respecting the Positive If Campaigners find themselves in judgement of Explorer coworkers, they may need to separate their own opinions from the goals of the workplace. They can recognize that Explorers aren’t necessarily their responsibility, nor is it their right to try to change them, especially when they’re going about sanctioned work tasks. If something genuinely wrong is afoot with coworkers of any type, Campaigners can step in or get management involved, but otherwise, tolerance is a must.

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It’s not necessary for coworkers to always see eye to eye or work in heartfelt harmony, but being respectful, cooperative, and open-minded always leads to better working relationships. Campaigners know better than anyone the effectiveness of positive thinking, and if they cannot fully support everything about Explorers, they can certainly find something positive and magnify it. People are multi-faceted, and accepting some flaws is a wise way to quickly move past judgement and find the core of what makes any coworker truly unique and valuable. To rebalance any discontent with Explorers, Campaigners can take the following steps: •

Observe Explorer coworkers throughout their day.

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It’s tough to get past what may feel like upsetting intrinsic differences, but when Campaigners go out of their way to recognize and focus on the positive things Explorers bring to the workplace, hope can replace judgement. Encouraging positive behavior with warm approval also makes it more likely to become the norm.

Conclusion Creating the Future Campaigners bring creativity, energy, and forward-thinking openness to their position, qualities that can easily serve any organization’s goals. These types are likely to be on the cutting edge of experimentation and imagining ways to make the world, “The Campaigner” (ENFP, -A/-T)

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and the workplace, a better environment for all. The key for Campaigners is to mature into job roles with dedication, and prove that they’re as capable of crafting their visions into reality as they are of conceiving them in the first place. Fortunately, Campaigners possess attractive enthusiasm that energizes everyone around them toward accomplishment, creating excellent team dynamics, social bonds, and mutual prosperity. They create success for themselves mainly through the relationships they establish, making friends out of coworkers and allies out of superiors and subordinates alike. Their social strength allows them to draw on elements from others that balance out their tendencies and prejudices – if they’re wise enough to accept those differing perspectives. Most of all, Campaigners succeed by refusing to let go of their vision for their lives, seeking opportunities to pursue work that inspires and inflames their creative passion. With charismatic charm, hard work, and respectful insistence, they can find a fertile place to seed their professional dreams, and the opportunity and support to make them grow. These types’ biggest challenge may only be editing down all those wonderful ideas and focusing realistically on building the framework for their future. Campaigners have all the tools they need for success.

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Freely Building Bonds In the Campaigners’ world, living life to the fullest means building strong bonds with others as conduits for creating better lives. It’s a place where energy comes from other people, and dreams involve human potential. While Campaigners aren’t always organized or predictable individuals, their openness and enthusiasm help them connect with others in significant ways. Their caring spontaneity is a warm gift to a society that’s too frequently frozen in cold convention. This doesn’t mean Campaigners don’t have challenges to meet. On the contrary, growth often comes from overcoming difficulties and blind spots. But these types have the privilege of enough imagination and vision to help them see the routes through such challenges. Where they experience weakness, they’re likely to know someone who can help them: their social network is likely to be large and filled with talented people who can lend a hand.

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The Road Ahead We’ve covered many different topics in this profile, and we hope that the chapters have offered insight and answered questions about the Campaigner personality type. We hope that readers will now find it easier to understand other people and their perspectives. This profile isn’t meant to be read just once. When trying to understand another person better, or struggling to understand oneself, another read-through can offer fresh insight. Furthermore, spend some time on our website – for example, in our articles section, research zone, or the Academy. There is a wealth of inspiring advice and information on the website, and we strongly recommend that you take a look. If you have some spare time, consider lending us a helping hand by contributing to the translation project, taking additional surveys, or simply sending us a message and sharing your thoughts about this profile or the website in general. We would love to hear from you. We wish the best of luck to all Campaigners. What matters most in Campaigners’ lives is that their paths through life reflect who they are, deep within. Reflecting on values, dreams, and ideals often reveals the right path through life by clearing out superficial distractions. Our lives are often too full of troubles, conflicts, and worries. By working to better understand each other, we can make our relationships, communities, and world more aware, more genuine, and more peaceful. Until next time.

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