Table of contents : Cover Title Page Copyright Dedication Epigraph Contents Foreword Preface Acknowledgments Introduction Part One: Understanding Emotional Conditioning Chapter 1. How We Learn About Relationships Chapter 2. Emotional Conditioning Chapter 3. Seven Effects of Emotional Conditioning Chapter 4. The Omnipotent Personality Chapter 5. The Impotent Personality Part Two: Relationship Struggles: Miscommunications and Marriages Chapter 6. Why We Miscommunicate Chapter 7. Roles within Marriages Chapter 8. Conflicts in Marriage Chapter 9. Getting Divorced and Single Again Part Three: Solutions: Psychotherapy and Deconditioning Chapter 10. Emotional Illness and Therapy: The Deconditioning Process Chapter 11. What You Can Do to Decrease Living on Automatic Notes Suggested Reading and Viewing Index