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“Shogun Method™ should be required reading for all men.” - FHM “Derek Rake is part Freud, part Hefner, all results… this man holds the most potent weapon of seduction you’ve never heard of.” - P.G. Forbes “A disturbing look into the world of attraction through the lens of an amoral seducer.” - Circus “The material in Derek Rake’s Shogun Method™ is a gold mine.” - Malcolm Henry, author of “Live Fearless” “Insightful, provocative and edgy. Rake… has a tone that veers between a benevolent sage and a cold-hearted manipulator.” - Clutch Review
CONTENTS FOREWORD 1: THREE PRECONDITIONS 2: FLAWS IN THE FEMALE MIND 3: THE IRAE MODEL 4: INTRIGUE 5: RAPPORT 6: ATTRACTION 7: ENSLAVEMENT 8: WHAT NEXT? APPENDIX: FRACTIONATION ABOUT DEREK RAKE RESOURCES
For DNM, the love of my life
Foreword As a professional hypnotist, scientist and tenured professor for the last 25-odd years, there is one rule that I always abide by with absolutely no exceptions: Everything that I teach or vouch for must be validated scientifically and backed by rigorous, peerreviewed research. So, in kicking off Derek Rake’s Shogun Method™, I’d like to preface this course with this statement: The Shogun Method™ is fully validated scientifically and its theories are completely backed by scientifically robust research and methodologies. This is important because there is high chance that you have been duped, especially if you’ve bought a dating product or two in the last few years. I can almost guarantee you that you’ve been reading about techniques or tricks which are not rooted in hard science. Some experts or teachers of “Pickup Artist” trickery may want you to believe that their techniques are based on the study of human psychology, but their claims are likely to be untrue. This is how I know. About 16 months ago, Dr Nicholas Hudson-Green of University College (who was then working as a researcher under my supervision) took a sample of 34 most popular dating advice programs and did a comprehensive peer review with our in-house research validation framework. The results had us completely startled – not one of the 34 programs that we sampled pass our stringent peer review criteria. None. I am happy to report that the Shogun Method™ is different. One of the many things that Derek Rake and I share in common is the conviction that dating advice for
men must have its roots in the “hard” science of psychology, persuasion and hypnosis. The concepts that you will learn inside this book (Fractionation, Attraction Buttons, Emotional Roller Coasters, Dual Polarity) are tried-and-true psychology concepts. Derek Rake can legitimately make the claim to be the pioneer in adapting these scientifically validated theories in the field of dating and attraction. As a lifelong humanist and a trained scientist, I don’t go for gimmicks. In the case of the Shogun Method™, it may well be the least gimmicky dating advice program for men you will ever find. In the end, if you go through the entire program and you follow the recommended exercises and strategies, I am confident that you can attain the power to attract women beyond your imagination. I know this for a fact as I have devoted a lifetime researching the same principles and theories in the academia. I wish you everlasting happiness from a lifelong mastery of dating and attraction made possible by this book.
Professor J. P. Fairweather, PhD, HypD, MIHypA Vanderbilt Fellow, Institute of Hypnotherapy, America (IHA)
1 Three Preconditions
The limits of the probable can only be defined by going beyond them into the improbable. The Shogun
Is it possible to approach a stranger and make her fall head over heels in love with you in just a couple of minutes? The answer is a definitive yes, and I am about to prove it. Before that, however, let me first tell you why I’ve gone to this extreme. I know of no topic matter that is more engrossing, more liberating, more rewarding, and alas, more puzzling. By its very own nature, seduction can be a bewildering subject. And to make things worse, it has also been made deliberately confusing by some people for reasons that I shall explain later on in this chapter. Studying seduction is my number one passion, and those who know me well say that my pursuit of knowledge in the art of seducing women borders on fanaticism. Indeed, I am completely gripped by the obsession to consume the power of winning over any woman I lay my eyes on in a matter of minutes – it’s now a lifelong preoccupation that I am almost powerless to resist. Here’s some good news, however. Today, it has never been easier to be powerfully seductive – especially when you have access to the knowledge that you are going to
find in this book. Even better, there’s no requirement to have good looks, lots of money, or the IQ of a Mensa member. You also don’t need to have boatloads of confidence, charisma or what’s commonly known as “inner game” – in fact, I will even show you that the idea of “inner game” is pretty much hogwash anyway. Seduction can be simple once you look beyond the smokescreen. I want you to realize that if you have yet to develop your seductive powers to the level that you desire, it’s not your fault. Given the amount of misinformation out there on this subject, it’s too easy to be duped by fake tricks dreamed up by “Pickup Artist” (PUA) charlatans in their scams. If you’ve read any of these “Pickup Artist” ebooks you would’ve realized that they are nothing but a sham. They are filled with fairy tale trickery rooted in pseudoscience that never works in real life, high-pressure situations. If the barrage of “Pickup Artist” related jargon has left you more bewildered than empowered: relax. Sit back and take a deep breath. Let me first purge you from the confusion, knock down the smokescreen and simplify things as much as possible. We are going to do what seems to be improbable: to make a woman fall helplessly in love over just a couple of short minutes, not more. And we are going to do this with Mind Control, not some “Pickup Artist” tomfoolery.
Yet Before You Proceed, I Want You To Understand This Completely You may find the material in this book shocking, somewhat frightful, or even downright distressing. In fact, when I began my study{1}, I felt increasingly disturbed as I progressed in my work, increasingly unable to fathom the bleakness stemming from the vulnerability of the female mind. Indeed, some of the Mind Control techniques I learned seemed so wicked and unscrupulous that after sixteen months of hardcore research I had decided to disown the
project. I kept all my notes, recordings and materials in a sealed box and kept it hidden in the attic, vowing not to expose the material to anyone. Then, something happened that turned everything around. I had wanted to “forget” everything I learned, but the new knowledge that I had discovered earlier started to creep up, manifesting in everything I did. While I wasn’t deliberately trying to use any of the Mind Control tactics that I had learned on the women I met, they turned up effortlessly and naturally. It was as if I had been newly endowed with superpowers to make any woman yield to my influence, control and authority. Your relationships with women will improve by leaps and bounds if you know how to get inside a woman’s mind When I looked back to find out what changed, and I came to the following conclusion: My relationships with women had improved by leaps and bounds because I knew how to get inside a woman’s mind, and manipulate her thoughts so that they are favorable to me. Upon this realization, I slowly considered to move forward and revive this project. The results of this intensive, no-holds-barred and painstaking research into the female psychology using Mind Control is now in your hands in the form of the Shogun Method™.
You Will Only Succeed If You Obey These Three Preconditions Now before I hand you the keys to the kingdom, I shall first set the stage for everything that I am going to teach you. There are three essential Preconditions for you to acquire this knowledge successfully from me, and they are as follows. Precondition #1: You Must Accept Your True Nature As A Manipulator “When it comes to controlling human beings there is no better instrument than lies. Because, you see, humans
live by beliefs. And beliefs can be manipulated. The power to manipulate beliefs is the only thing that counts.” - Michael Ende (1929-1995) Every single human being is a manipulator. There are no exceptions: young, old, men, women. Your neighbor, family doctor, barber, random people you meet on the street, rabbi, the President of the United States. Every single one of them. Why? Simple, really – it’s because manipulation is the core of our survival as humans, and by extension, our continued existence. We manipulate our surroundings, the people around us and our life situations so that we survive and thrive. Of course, nobody likes to think of himself as a manipulator. Nevertheless, whether we manipulate with good or bad intentions, consciously or unconsciously, is entirely irrelevant - we manipulate all the same. As you are going to be a fully-fledged Shogun Method™ practitioner, I want you to be conscious about (and accepting of) your true nature as a manipulator. Whenever you try to alter a woman’s thoughts and behavior, you are manipulating her. Manipulation is the core of our survival as humans, and by extension, our continued existence I want you to understand that it’s completely natural to feel somewhat disgusted about this fundamental truth about human nature, and yet accepting it will be your first and most important step you can take to be better with women. The following may sound somewhat wicked but it is entirely true: if you want women to fall in love with you, you must manipulate them. And by surrendering to your true nature, you will be doing it deliberately and in a calm, controlled and predictable manner. Every technique that we will find within the Shogun
Method™ is amoral by nature – in other words, the Method can be used for good or evil. I will put my trust in you that you will not use the Method for evil. A word of caution: once you have acquired this knowledge, in your eagerness to use it on every woman you lay your eyes on, you will be tempted to abandon your ethics. Don’t do it. Karma is a real bitch, and you can count on the fact that every bad deed always gets paid back in spades. Precondition #2: You Must Conceal Your Intentions Until The Manipulation Is Complete “Conceal your purpose and hide your progress; do not disclose the extent of your designs until they cannot be opposed, until the combat is over.” - Ninon de Lenclos, 1623-1706 Know this: whether it’s Mind Control, covert persuasion or hypnosis, there’s one underlying Precondition that makes them so frighteningly effective - the Concealing of Intentions. What this means is that you must hide your true intentions if you want to successfully persuade a woman to think or do anything you want her to. On the contrary, conventional thinking has it that honesty is the best policy. If you want something from a woman, you must say it outright. She will appreciate your honesty and respect you for it. She will then evaluate your request rationally, and come at a logical answer derived from a sensible and rational thought process. If this is what you believe in, then I’d like you to try what I am about to suggest to you next. Next time you meet a woman that you want to attract, tell her upfront that you are attracted to her. Tell her that you’re looking for a relationship with her, and what you’re expecting from her from the relationship. If you want to have sex with her any time in the future, tell her that also. See how she responds. You will have to hide your true intentions if you want to
persuade a woman to think or do anything you want her to. Would you approach women like this? Obviously not if you want to be successful! As much as I’d like to believe that we are all rational beings living in a rational world, we are not, and we don’t. You simply can’t persuade (and subsequently seduce) a woman directly - because she is biologically wired to reject direct proposals or solicitations. It then logically follows that you must conceal your intentions until the persuasion is complete{2}. One of my mentors inside MKDELTA, a retired psychology professor attached to Yale in the 1980’s has got this to share with me: “The human is hard-wired with the natural instinct to despise direct commands issued to the brain. If you want someone to do your bidding, this tendency to reject direct commands must therefore be overcome. As such, you must present the command subconsciously so that it is accepted without resistance before the brain has time to process the command and reject it.” The key here is the phrase “before the brain has time to process the command”. If the woman has the time to ponder over your command, she will be likely to reject it. Therefore, to seduce a woman, you will need to execute quickly within the small window of opportunity well before her defense mechanisms come up. In summary: the Shogun Method™ requires you to be covert about your intention until the manipulation is complete. Your attempts to seduce her must be done stealthily and completely under the radar. Remember: a woman cannot resist what she cannot detect. Precondition #3: You Must Protect The Secrecy & Sanctity Of The Shogun Method™ A woman cannot resist what she cannot detect Men have been looking for the keys to the female mind
since the start of human civilization. And with the birth of the field of modern psychology (circa the 1830’s), this search has since intensified, but progress have been markedly slow, and new findings scarce. Why is this so? Here is the best explanation that I can offer you. Among those lucky few who would stumble upon this knowledge about the female mind on their own, most of them would wisely try to keep this knowledge to themselves (usually for selfish reasons). Other times, their intention is altruistic – since the threat of abusing this knowledge to inflict harm on women is very real. And because of this, sharing of this forbidden knowledge has been restricted to underground discussion groups{3} where members have sworn to protect its secrecy. This body of knowledge points the way to a secret door into the female mind, that when vulnerable, leaves her open to do things that she wouldn’t even consider doing if she is in full control of her own thoughts. You can imagine just how dangerous this knowledge is if it falls into the hands of unscrupulous men. I realize that I am treading dangerous grounds as I hand this knowledge to you, but I have my own reasons for doing this - mainly to build and enlarge my own circle of influence and power. Also, for added precautions, I am doing this under controlled circumstances, with access to this exhaustive work on Mind Control seduction confined to the private membership of ShogunMethod.net. So here’s the third (and final) Precondition: you must promise to protect the secrecy and sanctity of the knowledge that I am about to hand to you. What I am about to reveal to you is the most effective and potent “bag of seduction weaponry” any man has ever had at his disposal. With this knowledge, how far you’ll go is limited only by how greedy you are. Use it any way you wish - to seduce and sleep with as many females you want, or to captivate that one special
woman and keep her for a lifetime - as long as you obey this final Precondition… …that you should never talk about the Shogun Method™ with anyone outside the community that you’re now part of. You must promise to protect the secrecy and sanctity of the Shogun Method™ Do it. Say it out loud. Make the promise
2 Flaws In The Female Mind
All warfare is based on deception. Sun Tzu (544-496 BC)
The Shogun Method™ is by nature manipulative, and for you to understand and use it effectively, you will have to embrace your true, natural human instincts as a manipulator. That’s the Precondition #2 that you have seen in the preceding chapter. Before we delve further into the inner workings of the Method, I would like you to do the following thought experiment with me. Imagine going to watch a magic show in Las Vegas. At the show, picture yourself going backstage and meeting the magician himself who would then show you how his magic tricks work. If you will do this, I can predict accurately what will happen to you next. You will feel underwhelmed. The truth is that every magic trick - no matter how astounding it may seem to be - is usually so unremarkable that one cannot help but feel underwhelmed upon seeing how the trick works. You might feel a little foolish for being “taken in” by such a simple trick. You might even think to yourself, “This is crazy simple. How can anyone be fooled by this?”
Then, at a moment of enlightenment, you will realize one very fundamental fact of life: most things that seem to be magical are usually the result of the simple principles and ideas executed correctly. Most things that seem to be magical are usually the result of the simple principles and ideas executed correctly As you will see, this maxim is especially true in attracting women. I realize that you may well have been led to believe that seduction is a comprehensive subject which requires days of study, if not years. And looking at the volumes of new material getting published virtually every week (mostly in the form of “Pickup Artist” ebooks), it’s only going to be worse. Indeed, it has never been easier for a guy to get completely overwhelmed by seduction literature and end up getting more confused than when he started. If you can look past the “Pickup Artist” ebooks, you’ll be able to find a lot of great material out there. Unfortunately, for every one legitimate idea, there are dozens more which only serve to mislead and confuse. But here’s the good news: I’ve done the work for you so that you don’t have to spend years (like me) sifting through and uncovering this body of knowledge which has been deliberately hidden from the public by those in the know. And as you will discover, just like master magicians working the Las Vegas circuit with their magic tricks using mundane principles, powerful seducers work their magic pretty much the same way. We are therefore interested in the basics, stripping away the jargon and perplexity of the body of knowledge that I am going to hand to you. So what I’m going to do next is to present to you the Grounding Principle of the Shogun Method™ - a guidepost that helps you direct your efforts from the start until the end as you explore the Method and use it in real life to seduce the woman
(or women) of your dreams. And here it is in its full glory: A woman’s mind is flawed. The fastest way to seduce a woman is by directly manipulating these flaws. Read that again:A woman’s mind is flawed. The fastest way to seduce a woman is by directly manipulating these flaws. The Shogun Method™ is a methodology that gives structure to a set of Mind Control techniques that are designed to directly manipulate those flaws in the female mind. These techniques are designed using forbidden persuasion and Mind Control knowledge previously found only within places like the MKDELTA - the same knowledge used by master persuaders, politicians, seducers and cult leaders to advance their own agenda, benevolent or otherwise. A woman’s mind is flawed. The fastest way to seduce a woman is by directly manipulating these flaws Before we go into the Shogun methodology proper, let’s go a little deeper into these flaws in the female mind what they are, and how they make women particularly susceptible to manipulation and Mind Control.
Deep Flaws Inside The Female Mind “Despite my thirty years of research into the woman soul, I have not yet been able to answer the great question that has never been answered: What does a woman want?” - Sigmund Freud Of the following options, which do you think is the best method to know what a woman wants? A. Find out about her sign and read the astrology charts. B. Get her to a palm reader and get her palm read.
C. Ask her directly. This is not a trick question. Out of these three options, I truly don’t know which one is the best to discover what a woman truly wants. However, I do know which is the worst, and that is option C - ask her directly. I’m not kidding. In fact, more often than not a woman is least likely to know what she herself truly wants. Of course, this may sound preposterous to some people, and yet you will arrive at the same conclusion when you start noticing the abundance of evidence around you every single day. ”The Damsel” was a reality TV show about a beautiful brunette in London dating many guys at once, with the goal of selecting a boyfriend. At the start of the show, she was asked what type of a man she was looking for. This was what she said, “Frankly, I’m tired of guys who are deadbeats with little to no aspirations in their lives. I’m kinda beyond dating just for fun… I am looking to settle down with a man with a strong direction in his life and a good career. He must have clear ambitions on what he wants to achieve in the next 5-10 years of his life.” In the season finale, she was to choose between the final two guys. The first was a tall and handsome young man who had graduated from Cambridge University with a double First and was working to earn his CPA credentials while he interned at one of the Big Four professional accounting firms. The second was a blonde surfer dude from Gold Coast, Australia, who said that he was “taking a breather” from working as a record store clerk to travel the world, party and to “live the YOLO life”. Given that the “Damsel” had wanted an ambitious man with a strong direction in life and a good career path, which of the two do you think she eventually selected? Yes, she chose the surfer dude. This is hardly an isolated example. The “Damsel” was certainly not lying - like other women, she just didn’t
have the slightest clue what her real desires were.
A Woman’s Illusion Of Choice And Control When it comes to dating and love, women’s unconscious desires always overpower her conscious ones. This is a “bug” which has been wired into a woman’s psyche for reasons which had baffled even the most famous psychologists who had invested a lifetime in understanding women, like Freud. Of course, ask any woman about this “bug” and chances are that she will disagree with you. The typical woman thinks that she knows clearly what she wants in a man. In her mind, she is in a position to choose a partner rationally according to a lucidly defined set of criteria. But as you already know, the opposite is in fact true - a woman does not know what she wants, and her control over the matters of the heart is purely and entirely imaginary. Or, to put this in simpler terms… A woman can’t choose who to fall in love with. To put this in another way, a woman doesn’t get attracted to a man just because she consciously decides to feel it. In her mind, it seems to just happen naturally. Ask your female friends what made them attracted to the last guys they were with, and they will tell you the same thing… that “it just happened.” Of course, you already know that nothing “just happens” without reason.
Pushing Her Red Hot Attraction Buttons When it comes to love, every woman has the illusion of choice and control The good news is that a woman’s unconscious desires are not undetectable. In the course of my research inside the MKDELTA, I have identified an exhaustive list of what these desires are. For the sake of brevity, these seemingly complicated desires can be simplified into the concept of “Attraction Buttons”.
Because a woman can’t choose who to feel attracted to, it follows logically that we can force her to feel attraction as long as we are able to push these Attraction Buttons that are hard-wired into her mind, one by one. And the Shogun Method™ will show you how to do this. Interestingly, guys are also wired with Attraction Buttons. We get attracted to a woman almost automatically as long as we “detect” certain traits in her. The process is almost instantaneous, and certainly automatic. Let’s try a fun thought experiment. Look at Figure 1 below.
Figure 1 Imagine the woman in the picture above stepping into your room, smiling, sitting on your lap and wrapping her arms around your neck. Picture this in your mind for a couple of seconds. I’ll wait. How do you feel?
Figure 2 Now imagine this elderly woman (shown in Figure 2 above) coming into your room and sitting on your lap. How do you feel now? Of course, if you are a healthy, red-blooded male, then you’ll be turned on more by that sexy model than that old woman. For us guys, it’s pretty straightforward. Here’s the explanation. Our Attraction Buttons are pushed when we see specific physical qualities in a woman like body and facial symmetry, breast size and shape, and waist-to-hip ratio for example. For women, however, it’s completely different. She is driven more by her emotions than by physical attributes or anything else. This means that if you have the ability to evoke a certain “hot” emotion inside a woman (and the Shogun Method™ will give you this ability) then she will feel immediate attraction for you without the need for her to consciously think about it. With the right approach, you can exploit this women
psychology loophole to your advantage. Specifically, with the Mind Control tactics inside the Shogun Method™ which you will have access to, you will have the power to hack into her mind, push her Attraction Buttons and “brute-force” her to develop affections for you. And when that happens, she will fall in love with you, and she won’t even have a choice about it. A woman is driven more by her emotions than by physical attributes in a man The contrary is also true, however - if you mistakenly push her Repulsion Buttons then she will lose attraction to you, or even feel repulsed by you. And when that happens, she won’t have a choice about that either. Interestingly, this also means that the fact that she is attracted to you or not has got nothing to do with you as a person. Rather, it’s a response which is automatically triggered by two things only: (1) what you do, and (2) what you say. The implication of this is that as long as you know what exactly to do and say, you can make any woman fall in love with you - irrespective of who you are as a person. As such, factors like looks and money become merely secondary drivers of attraction – they are not important if you know the right things to do and say.
How To Access Her Attraction Buttons (With Emotional Manipulation) So far in this chapter we have discussed the existence of a particular flaw in the female mind - the fact that women are unable to consciously (and rationally) decide who to fall in love with. In other words, a woman is a “moist robot” which can be programmed to respond to you the way you want her to as long as you know exactly what to do and say. Metaphorically speaking, you can push a woman’s Attraction Buttons and she will fall in love with you automatically with little resistance if any.
A woman is a “moist robot” which can be programmed to respond based on what you do and say Now let’s switch gears a little and talk about how you can access these Attraction Buttons. We all like to think that we are rational humans, and whenever we needed to make a decision or to take an action, we would rely on logic and reason to come up with conclusions. As you have already learned, this is simply not true. Rather, our decisions are usually derived from our emotions, and then we would back-rationalize our actions. This is especially true for women since to them, emotions are a more powerful motivator compared to logic and reason. Engaging a woman in a coherent and logical manner is therefore futile. What you need to do to persuade (and to access her Attraction Buttons) is to instead manipulate her emotionally. You want a woman to feel that you are right for her, and not think that you are. If you can invoke the right emotions about you inside her, then she will backrationalize into thinking that she has chosen you as a partner logically and rationally. As you will see in the next chapter, you don’t only want to give her positive emotions and avoid the negative ones. What you want to do is to evoke a wide range of emotions, both good and bad, by putting her on an emotional roller coaster filled with drama and excitement. As you will discover later, the more roller coaster-y the experience for her, the more emotionally attached to you she will become. This is, of course, the basis for a unique Shogun Method™ technique called Fractionation. If you have not learned about this technique yet, go to the Appendix and study it. Fractionation remains the fastest way to get a woman
under your thumb, and is the best example of a covert Mind Control sequence applied in dating and seduction. Learn it, and then proceed to the next chapter where you will discover the gut of the Shogun Method™ - the IRAE Model.
3 The IRAE Model
Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend. Bruce Lee
I am prefacing this chapter with this Bruce Lee quote because it’s important to know this: Unlike Bruce Lee’s flexible, “be like water” philosophy, the Shogun Method™ is as rigid as they come. There is a fixed structure to follow, built upon hardcore psychology principles which are unchanged over time. The Shogun Method™ is inflexible by design. Trying to alter it will only dilute its effectiveness In other words, the Shogun Method™ is inflexible by design. While being “shapeless like water” is great for learning martial arts, alas, we are in the business of attracting women, not fighting them. Understand that you are fighting a completely different war here. Remember this: just like 1+1=2, the principles behind the Shogun Method™ are fundamental truths that never change. The Method will work as long as human nature stays as it has been for the last 200,000 years of our
collective existence. As such, understand that attempting to adapt the Shogun Method™ to your situation will only dilute its effectiveness.
Three Core Elements Of Influence One of the aspects that make the Shogun Method™ different from every other seduction school of thought is that it is Endpoint oriented. This means that there is a specific Endpoint in mind, and we work backward from that Endpoint to where we are currently by asking ourselves this question: What are the things that must line up for us to reach that Endpoint? Or, specifically within the context of seducing a woman: What are all the things that must happen for a woman to eventually fall in love with a man? The answer, it turns out, is that there are three core elements or levers of human influence that must be present in a relationship for a woman to fall in love: 1. Intrigue 2. Rapport 3. Attraction (There is also a fourth core element, Enslavement, which is the essential ingredient for a woman to stay in love. We’ll talk more about Enslavement in the IRAE Model which we will describe next in this chapter). Here’s the analogy that I always use to describe how these core elements must line up in order to close the deal with a woman: the metaphor of a safe cracker. What a safe cracker does to crack a safe is that he spins the dial while he puts his ear on the wall of the safe. He hears a click and he gets the first number. However, the safe is still locked. What he does next is to spin the dial in the other
direction and he hears the second click. He pulls the lever and the safe still does not open. He then spins the dial again in the other direction alternately until finally he hears the third click. He finally gets all the three numbers all lined up, and the safe door swings open. This is exactly what goes on when you seduce a woman: you’re pulling these core levers inside her mind that shifts her perception of you from low (or neutral) Desirability to high Desirability. Next, we’ll describe what Desirability is exactly and its importance.
The Desirability Scale At the heart of the Shogun Method™ is what we call the Desirability Scale, which measures how desirable you are perceived to be in her eyes at any given time. When she meets you for the first time, within the first minute or so, she already decides if she likes you. It’s more of a “gut” feel, and she may or may not know this consciously. Now imagine a continuum of Desirability measured from 1 to 10, where 1 represents theoretically the lowest level of Desirability to 10 on the other end, which represents maximum Desirability. Your goal is to move from the low levels of Desirability (although you usually don’t have to start at 1 – unless she completely despises you) to 10. In the Shogun Method™, the process of seduction is a transfer of emotion, and that emotion is Desirability. The process of seduction is essentially a transfer of emotion, and that emotion is Desirability Closely related to Desirability are the Mind Control concepts of “Action Limit” and “Pain Limit”. Simply put, the Action Limit is the level of Desirability that you’ve got to be at for her to say “yes” to your request (i.e. to give you her phone number, or to agree
to date you, or to kiss you, or to sleep with you, or to be your girlfriend, or to marry you). Every woman has got different Action Limits which depends on how “committal” your requests are. For example, you may not have to be as exceedingly desirable as, say, Brad Pitt for a woman to give you her phone number. On the other hand, a hot supermodel may have impossibly high Action Limits that merely getting her email address deserves a victory lap around Arc De Triomphe. Pain Limit refers to the distress or discomfort that a woman feels related to her interaction with you. Note that this is not a negative thing: in fact, you can easily seduce her if you are seen to hold the key to relieving her of pain and agony. Humans are motivated more by pain than by pleasure The truth is that humans (both men and women) are motivated more by pain than by pleasure. As such, many of the most effective Mind Control techniques inside the Shogun Method™ are designed around inducing emotional discomfort inside a woman. The interesting thing about Action and Pain Limits is that they have strong influence on each other. For example, if a woman reaches her Pain Limit, her Action Limit is lowered temporarily. For example, if a woman is getting dumped (i.e. she reaches the threshold of her Pain Limit), then she might be more open to being seduced by any guy that she could find (i.e. her Action Limit is temporarily lowered). Don’t worry if this sounds complicated at this point because it’s really super easy once you go through the many examples which I will share throughout this book. You will see that everything unfolds logically and soon you will have the power to make any woman fall in love with you simply by using these powerful Mind Control strategies.
The IRAE Model No matter where you start on the Desirability Scale (remember that you usually don’t start at 1), you want to get to 10. And the fastest way to do this is to follow what we call the IRAE (pronounced as eye-ray) Model (see Figure 3):
Figure 3 The IRAE Model describes the seduction process inside the Shogun Method™ which consists of four distinct
stages: Stage 1: Generate Intrigue Stage 2: Develop Rapport Stage 3: Build Attraction Stage 4: Create Enslavement Very important: these stages or steps are to be taken sequentially. This means that each stage must precede the next{4}. Each step inside the IRAE Model is to be taken sequentially, in strict order Intrigue generation is always the first step to take with no exceptions. It serves for you to capture her attention and interest for you to build rapport with her (second stage). And once you have laid the foundational amount of rapport with her, you can then start to attract her to you (third stage). Finally, by continually intensifying attraction you get her enslaved to you emotionally, forever if you choose so (fourth stage). Everything is done strictly in that order. Skipping any of the steps in the sequence will usually result in failure. For example: 1. Trying to build rapport without intrigue: the woman loses interest in talking to you, looks over your shoulder, finds an excuse to leave, etc. 2. Trying to build attraction without rapport: the woman finds you creepy, feeling uncomfortable around you 3. Staying too long in the rapport stage: you get “friend-zoned” 4. Trying to enslave her without attraction: this is the stuff that psychopaths are made of! One of the advantages of the IRAE Model is that for each woman or interaction, you only focus on one step at a time - giving you a clear head on what exactly to do
and say. This also prevents you from feeling overwhelmed by the truckloads of routines, techniques and theory. With the IRAE Model’s straight line, one-step-at-a-time approach, you can quickly identify which of the four stages you are with a woman, and then use the specific Shogun Method™ techniques relevant only for that stage to move you forward. You can ignore everything else. IRAE Model’s straight-line, one-step-at-a-time approach gives you a clear head on what to do next, avoiding overwhelm So far, so good. Next, let’s go through an overview of what each of these stages is. Stage 1: Generate Intrigue Your goal in the Intrigue phase is simple - to capture and hold the target’s attention. Upon approaching a woman, you will have all but ten seconds to make an impact, and within this short period of time she would have already decided if she would sleep with you (often without her knowing it consciously herself). This is how “female intuition” works - relying on her quick emotional responses to situations she meets in life. You will use the Mind Control techniques inside the Shogun Method™ to help you turn her “intuition” into your ally right under her nose. Stage 2: Develop Rapport Past the Intrigue stage, you will have sufficient face time to build and deepen rapport with your target before you start attracting her. Building rapport can take minutes or stretch up to days or weeks - it all depends on what you want (remember that different commitment levels correspond to different Action Limits). Different commitment levels correspond to different Action Limits The danger of spending too much time in the Rapport
stage is that you get stuck inside the dreaded “friend zone”. Stage 3: Build Attraction Once you have developed enough rapport with the target in Stage 2, you can start to attract her. Inside the Shogun Method™, this is where heavy duty Mind Control techniques are used to “bridge” from passing interest to deep attraction. Most “Pickup Artist” ebooks preach at jumping headlong into building attraction first. This, as you have already seen, is a mistake. You should now know better to never attempt to build attraction without sufficient rapport. Stage 4: Create Enslavement The Enslavement phase is what makes the Shogun Method™ different from other styles of seduction. You will have the ability to control a woman’s mind and manipulate her emotions for as long as you wish - even for a lifetime if you so desire. It is important to know that there is no “undo” action you can take to reverse the Enslavement effect. Unlike the other steps in the Shogun Method™, this step is entirely optional. Before using Enslavement techniques on a woman, I recommend that you carefully consider if you want to subjugate her and turn her into your emotional slave, possibly for a lifetime (since the effect is impossible to undo). The choice is entirely yours.
4 Intrigue
Capture my interest and you won’t need to worry about my attention span. Kushan Proverb
In the Shogun Method™, capturing attention (by creating intrigue) is the first step of seduction. If you’re choosing to do just one thing well inside the Shogun Method™, then you should aim to be exceptionally good at attention capture. Its importance simply cannot be overstated. Why? The reason is simple. You can violate every single principle inside the Shogun Method™ and still emerge victorious in the end - if you can hold a woman’s attention long enough. You see, no matter how bad you are with women, if you can retain a woman’s attention for a sufficiently long period of time, she will eventually fall in love with you. This is because when a woman’s attention is captured, her self-awareness fades, and her emotions take over. Know this: seduction begins and ends with the mental engagement of a woman. Engage a woman long enough, and she will eventually yield to you. We have already talked at length about the flaws in the female mind (Chapter 2), and how the Shogun Method™ is created to manipulate these flaws so that their minds
and emotions can be controlled (Chapter 3). The first step in the IRAE Model involves exploiting one specific flaw in a woman’s psychology which makes her especially vulnerable to Mind Control, and it is this: The female brain tends to like or dislike things and people (especially men) before she knows much about them. Seduction begins and ends with the mental engagement of a woman A woman does not become bosom buddies with other women, change jobs or choose which facial spa to go based on a rational, pros & cons analysis of each situation. In fact, most decisions made by a woman are not made through rational analysis, but through her “female intuition” or the “gut”. For a woman, most (if not all) of the time, cold, hard facts are not used to make a decision (especially when it relates to love and relationships). However, the facts are often used later to back-rationalize the decision that has already been made. In short, at least as far as dating and men are concerned, women almost exclusively rely on their “intuition” to make their decisions. This means that if you are able to subtly (and covertly) guide and influence her intuition, you will ultimately be able to control her mind. If you are able to covertly guide and influence a woman’s intuition, you will be able to control her emotions
The Female Brain Can’t Get “Hot” And “Cold” At The Same Time Whenever the female brain relies on its gut or intuition to make decisions, it is said to be in “Hot” mode. Correspondingly, when she makes calculated decisions (for example, when she is doing mental math when grocery shopping), her brain is said to be in “Cold” mode. The female brain can’t get “Hot” and “Cold”
simultaneously. It’s psychologically impossible. The woman’s mind is hard-wired such that it is in only one of those modes at any one given time. A woman makes decisions not through rational analysis, but her “gut” or female intuition How is this useful to you as the seducer? Simple, really. It means that you can quite easily influence a woman and put her under your control covertly by “forcing” her brain to constantly be in “Hot” mode. You want to do this so that she doesn’t revert to the “Cold” mode where her rational, analytical brain takes over. By keeping her brain continuously in the “Hot” mode, she will continue to be overrun by her emotions with her analytical brain disengaged. And this is exactly what you want in order to put her under your control during the entire seduction process from start to finish. What’s important here is your ability to properly detect when she changes state from “Hot” to “Cold” or vice versa. You’ll discover how to do this using the Social Calibration System that you will learn in Chapter 5 as part of up building up your Rapport development capabilities.
The Female Brain Is On Constant Lookout For Novelty And Amusement Women take pleasure in encountering something which looks fresh, novel and amusing{5}. Finding out about new things, situations and challenges is what gets her into the “Hot” mode. When you meet a woman for the first time (and especially when you’re doing a cold approach), you instantly activate the “Hot” part of her brain. During the first few seconds of the approach, her brain tells her “Who is this guy, and what does he want?” During these few seconds, you have her attention. This is a fleeting moment, and she continues to be fixated on you while her brain tries to answer this question –
“Is this guy the same like the others who tried to hit on me, or is he different?” As soon as her brain “decides” that you no different than the other boring guys who tried to hit on her that night, she will mentally check out on you. At this point, you would have lost her attention, and the seduction game would be over. She disengages when she feels that she has learned enough about you to understand you and your motivations. It’s pointless to engage you further because she would not gain anything more from you. When the female brain “solves” the puzzle in front of her, she loses interest and will start to look for the next puzzle to tackle. She disengages when she feels that she has learned enough about you to understand your motivations
How To Develop Your Own Intrigue Story You have already learned that she can’t process both “Hot” (narrative) and “Cold” (analytical) information simultaneously. And since rejection decisions are made “Cold”, you want to break her from that mode by telling her an Intrigue Story. Advanced Shogun Method™ practitioners make up Intrigue Stories on-the-spot, but that’s not absolutely necessary. In fact, you’ll do well with one personal story which you already prepare in advance which you can take to every approach or interaction you have with women. If your Intrigue Story works on one woman, it works on another As females everywhere are pretty much wired the same way psychology, you will not need more than one Intrigue Story - if it works on one woman, it works on another. This is also why the Shogun Method™ (or, in general, Mind Control) works universally.
Because you are the main protagonist of your personal story, you become the focal point of her attention. When you deliver your story, you are going to create intrigue by only revealing part of the story in order to incorporate an element of suspense in the storyline. The next section of this chapter (The Structure of Intrigue) will show you how to do this exactly. To recap what we’ve covered so far: you first capture her attention by telling her a provocative, personal story (with you as the central character). You keep her attention by inserting cliffhangers in the story, and by not revealing the end until the moment comes (i.e. when you’re escalating to the Rapport phase). Before you continue, I want you to find the Companion Guide to this book on the Rollercoastering technique. You can download a digital copy at the ShogunMethod.net membership site{6} which comes as part of your Shogun Method™ package. The Rollercoaster guide will build up your storytelling skill which is crucial to your success as a Shogun Method™ practitioner. When you’re done, come back and continue with the following section where you will learn how to craft your very own Intrigue Story.
The Structure Of Intrigue Here are the five elements of a good Intrigue Story:1. Element of Brevity: it has got to be simple to narrate 2. Element of Focus: you must be central to the story 3. Element of Danger: there must be risk and uncertainty in the story 4. Element of Time Constraint: you need to perform a task before the time is up, or there are dire consequences 5. Element of Conflict: you are being impeded by
your
enemy or by an unfavorable situation
The best Intrigue Stories have all five elements, but even a story with two or three will work - as long as they are delivered in the manner that I am going to describe to you. You will find out more about story delivery later, but here’s the one thing that you must know if you want to make your story intriguing: When you approach the most interesting part of the story, stop and pull away. This will keep her fixated on your story until you are ready to reveal the climax. Until then, you keep her captivated by introducing twists and turns in the story with the use of the Cliffhanger technique which you are going to learn next.
How To Capture Her Attention With The Cliffhanger Technique In the classic fable One Thousand And One Nights, Shahryar is the King of Arabia who discovers that his wife has been unfaithful to him. He kills her, and out of grief and bitterness he decides that all women are cheaters. Since then, he marries a succession of virgins only to kill each one of them the next morning before she gets a chance to cheat on him. The Chief Vizier who was providing Shahryar with women soon ran out of virgins. The Vizier’s daughter Shahrazad volunteered to marry the king to which the Vizier reluctantly agrees. On the night of their marriage, Shahrazad starts to tell Shahryar a story, and as it reaches the climax, she stops and tells the king that she will continue the story later. Shahryar, intrigued by the story, decides not to kill her that day. And when she tells him the ending of the story on the following night, she then begins a new story. This continues for 1,001 more nights until she convinces Shahryar that she is a faithful wife to him, and her life is thus spared.
The principle that Shahrazad uses is one known as the Cliffhanger i.e. leaving a story unfinished just about when it reaches its climax. The best Hollywood movies and TV shows employ the Cliffhanger as an intrigue device. People get addicted to the show Game of Thrones because of its cliffhangers. It’s one of the most successful TV series because every week, the show employs more and more Cliffhangers in the plot - intriguing the viewer with the untimely death of its characters, heartless betrayals and open loops which take a long time to resolve themselves. Calden, one of the earliest adopters of the Shogun Method™ (and a member of the MKDELTA community) had this great Cliffhanger routine which he used on women. He would say to a female: “You haven’t passed all three of my tests, not yet!” She would then play right into his hands by asking back: “What tests? And which ones have I passed?” “The first test was that you attracted me although I don’t know why. So you passed that test. And the second one was that you’re not a boring slob. You passed that, too.” “What’s the third test?” she would then ask. “Nope, not going to tell you now,” would then be his reply. “I’ll tell you when you pass that test.” The truth was that there was no third test, but this was enough to drive a woman crazy trying to figure out what it could be. In this case, Calden used a variant of the Cliffhanger technique not in a story, but in the form of an unanswered question in the woman’s mind.
How To Captivate Her Imagination With Multiple Sub Plots A good Intrigue Story, like life, is never a straight line from start till the end. For a story to be both realistic and interesting, you will need sub plots – these are minor storylines that progress over time alongside the main plot. Sub plots serve to add conflict and color to the main
story. Sub plots are everywhere. We see them in every novel we read, and in the TV shows and movies that we watch. Instinctively, you already know what they are. In seduction, keeping a series of sub plots in a conversation will create the illusion that you and the woman you met have lots to talk about{7}. It’s rarely a good idea to dwell on a single topic of conversation until it is dry. Within about ten minutes, any (single) conversation thread will inevitably turn stale. Eventually, it will be painfully obvious to her that you’re trying in vain to keep the interaction alive only because you’re hitting on her. To avoid this, within the first five minutes of interaction, you want to create as many sub plots as you can. This is so that when the initial conversation topic dries up, you can then latch to another “fresh” thread to keep the conversation going. Within the first five minutes of interaction, create as many sub plots as you can Just like Shahrazad, you want to keep your audience wanting more. You do this by opening and pursuing multiple sub plots to generate enough interest for her to continually invest her attention in you. So this is how you create multiple sub plots: whenever she speaks, de-construct her sentences to find opportunities to start new conversational threads. Here’s an example: If she says, “I’ve been working as a trainee nurse for three months”, here are some possible sub plots you can pursue:1. What’s the difference between a “trainee” nurse and a “proper” nurse? 2. Any interesting hospital stories? (Think ER) 3. What was she doing before that? 4. What she loves and hates being a nurse?
5. Does she get hit on by the doctors? Caution: you don’t want to fire up a barrage of questions immediately to risk overwhelming her. Overwhelm is frequently a trigger for a woman to turn from “Hot” to “Cold”. The general rule of thumb is to go for the most interesting sub plot which is also the least obvious. The biggest pitfall when you are creating multiple sub plots is that it may become too obvious. The way to avoid this is to properly sense which of the sub plots that she is most interested in pursuing. Transition into an unrelated topic spontaneously for opportunities to create fresh sub plots Of course, the more spontaneous you get, the better the results would be. If you are spontaneous enough, you can also transition into an unrelated topic to give you even more opportunities to create fresh sub plots and new conversational threads. For example, you can say, “Before we get to that, I have to ask you, why are you carrying these hats?” or something contextual, like what she is wearing, etc.
The Approach: The Magic Of Intrigue Pings As you should know by now, the Shogun Method™ places a lot of importance on the approach or the first impression - this is where you should focus most of your attention in the Intrigue phase. During the approach, your goal is to make the conversation “take off”. The following is a typical interaction which falls flat instead of “taking off” Him: “Hello.” Her: “Hey.” Him: “What’s your name?” Her: “Cherry.” Him: “Nice to meet you. I’m Johnny.”
Her: “Hi Johnny.” Him: “Hi Cherry.” Her: (faint smile) Him: “So how are you?” Her: “I’m fine. And you?” Him: “Fine.” Her: “So what are you having?” Him: “Coke.” Her: “Nice.” Bland, bland, bland. Here’s an interaction which takes off quickly (with the use of the Intrigue Ping technique which I am going to describe to you right after the example below): Him: “Maybe I shouldn’t ask you because I might just regret it…” Her: “What?” Him: “OK, since you’re so insisting! What’s your name?” Her: “Haha! I’m Cherry.” Him: “As in, the fruit?” Her: “I hear that all day, every day.” Him: “Congratulations, Cherry, you’ve just passed an important test. I can confirm that you’re a friendly person, well done! As a reward, you can now shake my hand.” Her: “Haha!” (we shake hands) Him: “Cherry, please meet my best friend and eternal soulmate… myself! Cherry, this is Johnny. Johnny, this is Cherry. Have fun, kids!” Notice the difference? The approach often forms a huge part of the Intrigue phase, and the success of any approach usually lies within the first three to four seconds - when you utter the
first sentence. This is where the Intrigue Ping technique is useful. In the above example, the first sentence (“Maybe I shouldn’t ask you because I might just regret it”) is an Intrigue Ping. When you approach a woman, the very first sentence that you say must be an Intrigue Ping. Here are some sample Intrigue Pings: • “I shouldn’t ask you this, but…” • “I think I am going to regret asking you this, but…” • “Try this top and this scarf together…” (in a boutique) • “I think you’ll like this book…” (in a bookstore) You want her to carry the weight of the conversation as much as you do… and let her seduce herself for you After you have delivered the Intrigue Ping, you can then let the conversation flow naturally. This comes easy because once you get her talking, the ball is in her court. You want her to carry the weight of the conversation as much as you do. You want to let her seduce herself for you. There is no specific verbal structure to follow (unlike some “Pickup Artist”-style routines that you may have seen). When you attempt to deliver a line which sounds rigid and rehearsed, she may find you weird and robotic. The typical conversation which falls flat is usually structured as: “question / answer / question / answer / question / answer”. On the other hand, great rapportbuilding interactions are usually quite random, often in the form of: “Intrigue Ping /question / statement / interjection / statement / question / command / statement / interjection”. From our years of coaching at DerekRakeHQ.com, we found that a majority of novices who enroll to learn the Shogun Method™ usually have problems coping due to the bad habits that they have acquired elsewhere
(usually from “Pickup Artist” type training programs). For example, they have learned rigid, structure-heavy openers which make them look and sound like “social robots” with zero likeability. Also, they usually attempt to relate to women as much as possible - which is something that seasoned Shogun Method™ practitioners know to avoid in particular. Rigid, structure-heavy openers will make you look and sound like “social robots” with zero likeability.
Stop Making This One Mistake: Especially If You’ve Been Using Pickup Artist (PUA) Style Openers Here’s a conversation in which the guy makes the mistake of trying to fake familiarity in order to build rapport Her: “I’m a gym trainer, but I’m thinking of starting my own business.” Him: “I think you should absolutely go for it, because when I started my own business, I felt really happy, but it was a struggle at first and I was really discouraged. Finally, the business got better and I’m proud to have done it.” Her: “Cool” (eyes glaze over) You should see why any attempt to relate to a woman’s thoughts and feelings is usually seen as lame and disingenuous. Here’s something I want you to consider: instead of looking for things that you might have in common, you want to look for things that make both of you different from each other. With this in mind, let’s look at the previous conversation again and see if it can be done better. Her: “I’m a gym trainer, but I’m thinking of starting my own business.” Him: “Don’t lie. You should instead move to Hollywood
and chase your secret desire to be a porn star. Who knows, you may even star in a scene where you’ll be a dominant gym trainer whipping your lash on obedient, muscular men.” Or, this Her: “I’m a gym trainer, but I’m thinking of starting my own business.” Him: “I am fascinated by your very fruitful imagination! Let’s talk about what’s real for now. What do you do for fun?” Or Her: “I’m a gym trainer, but I’m thinking of starting my own business.” Him: “OK, lady, I’m here to have fun, not to talk about work. Let’s talk about sex, drugs or rock and roll. Pick one!” Notice how the Shogun Method™ is different from bog standard “Pickup Artist” literature – there’s absolutely no need for the recitation of fake stories like the “opinion opener” or the “jealous girlfriend opener” to capture a woman’s attention. Fake, “Pickup Artist” style stories are hard to deliver congruently. There is also that risk that she has heard it used (and regurgitated) many times in the field that you may well come across as deceitful. Contrary to what some may believe, a guy doesn’t have to be spectacular when he approaches a woman. In fact, approaching a woman with your guns blazing with “Pickup Artist”-style routines and fake openers is counterproductive - it makes a woman’s guard go up automatically against you. “Pickup Artist” style stories and openers are hard to deliver congruently Remember that with the Shogun Method™, you want to be as covert as possible, and you want to conceal your
intentions until the seduction is over, or never at all (Precondition #3 in the first chapter). Using “Pickup Artist” openers could well violate this Precondition.
Sequences: The Secret Sauce Of The Shogun Method™ A Shogun Sequence is a pattern or series of steps which is delivered verbally which you will use inside a specific Shogun Method™ stage to move you along to the next stage. Shogun Sequences are verbal scripts used to invoke certain emotions inside a woman, linking them to you subconsciously Sequences are the central component of the Shogun Method™. In essence, sequences are verbal scripts used to invoke certain emotions inside a woman. Subconsciously, you are linking those emotions to you. The most famous Sequence in the seduction world is probably the October Man Sequence - invented and popularized by one of the most pre-eminent seductionists in the world in the 2000’s{8}. In Mind Control and hypnosis, sequences are used to put subjects under trance. Sequences inside the Shogun Method™, on the other hand, are designed to work on the target’s subconscious, which means that the script is delivered with the target in awake state. In addition, Shogun Sequences are different from other seduction or regular Mind Control routines in these following ways: 1. It may invoke both positive and negative feelings in a woman (i.e. you don’t just want to incite happy emotions), often in succession (like Fractionation). 2. It may be delivered directly (i.e. you ask her to relive past experiences) or covertly (i.e. you describe things which are seemingly irrelevant like eating chocolate, getting massaged, or riding a rollercoaster).
By adopting storytelling techniques inside your Sequences (in particular, the Rollercoaster technique which described in length in the Companion Guide to this book), you get her to subconsciously lower down her defenses and comply with your implanted commands{9}. In the Shogun Method™, you never issue a command directly (i.e. you don’t say something like “feel the arousal in your groin area right now”). Direct commands trigger off a major red flag and will immediately make your target’s defenses go up.
How To Deliver Shogun Sequences The effectiveness of a Shogun Sequence lies in two things: (1) its content, and (2) its delivery. In this section, you’re going to learn about the latter. Learning how to deliver these Sequences effectively requires the Shogun Method™ student to go through three distinct phases: • Phase 1: Memorizing the Sequences and delivering them word for word. • Phase 2: Altering the Sequences to embed stories which are relevant to the woman’s personal experiences. • Phase 3: Coming up with original Sequences on the fly, incorporating Shogun Method™ principles. It’s a mistake to think that these Sequences must be presented in its original form, word for word or they don’t work. Remember that these Sequences are only examples, and not cast-in-stone rules. Learning the principle behind them is more important. This way, when you’re a black belt Shogun Method™ practitioner, you will be able to come up with your own original Sequences. Ambiguity in the female mind is associated with romance and the thrill of the unknown Here’s the biggest tip that will help your delivery
tremendously: be as ambiguous as possible. Again, you’re exploiting a flaw inside the female mind here being vague means that you’re compelling her to come up with her own fantasies. These will be far better than anything that you will suggest to her. Ambiguity in the female mind is associated with romance and the thrill of the unknown. The more ambiguous you are the more intriguing you become – which, as you already know, is exactly what you are trying to achieve in the Intrigue stage. Below is a collection of Shogun Sequences that has been built, developed and tested to achieve two goals: (1) to generate deep intrigue and capture attention, and (2) to develop an initial spark of attraction which you can then use to bridge to the Rapport stage (“R” in the IRAE Model). If you’re new to using Sequences in your interactions with women, use these word-for-word mainly for learning purposes (although you’ll be surprised how effective they can be immediately even when delivered verbatim). Once you’re comfortable, you should tweak the sequences with your own stories and patterns which are more relevant and contextual. Remember that as long as you are a DerekRakeHQ client, you are entitled to a lifetime supply of new Shogun Sequences which we continually develop inside the Derek Rake Insider Labs. Login to http://shogunmethod.net/insider/ to access this knowledge vault.
Magic Locket Sequence Shogun Stage: (1) Intrigue Flaws To Exploit: Imagination Is Reality, Submerged Needs Description: This is one of the lengthiest Shogun Sequences ever developed inside the MKDELTA group and the Derek
Rake Insider Labs. Given its length, you do not need to deliver this Sequence word for word for it to work - just remember the story line and fill in the details as you go along. Knowing basics of storytelling (which is a basic Shogun Method™ skill which you must master) is essential for you to deliver this sequence effectively. Refer to the Companion Guide for the Rollercoaster technique if you have not learned it - the Magic Locket Sequence draws heavily from this technique which you shall see. Below is the complete Magic Locket story as well as the rationale in italics right below each paragraph. “I’ve been noticing your locket and wondered why it kinda reminded me of something. Now I remember what it was.” You use the locket that she’s wearing as the story lead-in (you can change the locket to a pendant or a necklace or whatever she is wearing around her neck). “Once I read this story about a woman who was feeling detached from her lover, and she was starting to lose her faith in love.” Notice that if she is attached to another man, then this will make her reflect back on herself on her dissatisfaction with her boyfriend. Every woman has needs that are unfulfilled by her boyfriend or husband, and this line will bring those unmet needs to the forefront of her consciousness{10}. “One evening she went walking outside, and into the woods at the back of her home. As she sat upon the rocks on the river bed, she looked at the bright, full moon and a clear sky full of stars. She closed her eyes and made a wish that her ideal man will come to her life, and save her from an empty, meaningless existence.” Here, you are transporting her to an imaginary location where it is safe to let her imagination go wild without real world repercussions (similar to the Shared Universe
Sequence which is covered in Chapter 5). Also, you are making her fractionate “spatially” which will serve to deepen the trance in a matter of minutes. “All of a sudden, there is a ray of light around her, which at first astonished her. Strangely, she then felt a warm sensation filling her up slowly which made her at ease. She immediately felt very relaxed by this warm, soothing feeling. Then, a picture flashed into her mind.” You are building up to a climax in your story. Here you will also introduce a minor cliffhanger - what’s this picture inside her mind? “This picture is so vivid that it felt so real. The warm feeling slowly spread all over her body. At first, she was afraid to feel so good, but slowly she let herself to completely lose herself in that warm, happy sensation.” “Then, she started to hear this voice whispering in her ear. She began to hear this voice more clearly, and it started to sound like her own. She listened intently, and this was what the voice said to her:” “What you desire is already in front of you.” Here, you are covertly presenting yourself as her object of desire (because you’re positioned right in front of her). This is a variation of the Emptiness Sequence{11} which is stacked on top of the Magic Locket Sequence for maximum effect. “Then, the voice was silent, and she opened her eyes, snapping her back into reality.” Again, spatial fractionation is at play here. “She touched her chest and felt something around her neck. She was not wearing anything before, but there was now a beautiful locket with a beautiful red ruby.” Change “red ruby” with anything that she is wearing, i.e. any relevant colored stone. “She was first confused by what happened, and then she remembered what the voice told her: what you desire is
already in front of you. It all then becomes clear.” “She now has the ruby locket, and it was giving the feeling of warmth and love that she had desired all her life. She didn’t understand what happened, but she didn’t have to. She then told herself that no matter what anyone tells her, this is what you want because this is what you deserve.” At this point, subtly point to yourself to subconsciously reinforce that you’re her object of emotional (and sexual) desire. “The next morning she went to town to buy breakfast, she was amazed when she saw this man (again, subtly point to yourself) which sent chills down her spine.” At this moment, extend your hand, and she will naturally extend hers. Gently touch her, and say, “This is how it feels.” “This soft tingle spreads all over her body, from her face to her breasts and stomach, and then down to her thighs, legs and toes.” “Their eyes meet, and they couldn’t look anywhere else apart from each other.” Pause, and maintain strong eye contact with her. You’re re-enacting the moment with her in real life, so enjoy it! “That soft tingle quickly turned into the deep warmth that she had felt the night before, and it began to feel stronger and stronger as he approached her. It seemed like a bubble of energy had formed between both of them, isolating them from the rest of the world. At that moment, there were only two people who existed in their shared universe.” Here, you are stacking the Shared Universe Sequence inside the Magic Locket! “She whispered softly, hello. He gave her a warm smile, and instead of saying anything, he kissed her softly on the lips. She closed her eyes and let out a soft moan. What can I do to make you mine just for today, he asked
her.” Introduce some physical action to prime her up for the next step. “She then asked herself, what’s missing in my life now, and what do I want from this man? She followed her gut feeling and took the man’s hand, and they walked back to her home.” “They then spent hours talking, sharing their dreams, desires and fantasies… making strong emotional connection with each other. They were like soul mates who found each other after years and years of searching. Then, it happened naturally… they just fell into each other’s arms and made passionate, passionate love. And it was exactly what she imagined it would be… he made love to her exactly how she wanted to be made love to.” You are now creating the physical (and explicit!) imagery inside her mind which involves both you and her. “And all this because of a magic locket, and a moment of serendipity. As they cuddled together, he noticed her locket, and told her how pretty it looked on her. She then told him what happened by the river the night before, and how the locket magically appeared on her neck. He kissed her, and told her this: every time you see and touch this locket, think of me. I will feel your touch, and I will be happy.” You are creating the link between her own locket and you (i.e. you are anchoring the locket to you). Now every time she wears the locket she will think of you and the experiences that you have shared with her.
Higher Powers - Three Mini Sequences Shogun Stage: (1) Intrigue Flaw To Exploit: Esoteric Beliefs Description: This is a collection of three mini Shogun Sequences
which you can use to quickly generate Intrigue before you go into full-blown Rapport building: “I believe in a guardian angel, you know, a higher power which looks after your wellbeing and makes sure you’ll only meet with good people that will love and take care of you. After all, you are destined to meet some who treasure you for who you are and what you do.” “Things happen for a reason. Out of the billions of people we have found each other, right here, right now, and this will work out to something really great for both of us.” “You can feel the vibe coming from people you meet, and I can sense the strong and fun energy coming from you. I can feel that you’re a social person who is comfortable interacting with people you meet everywhere, and you can connect with people on a deep level beyond the casual hello.”
Passion Binding Shogun Stage: (1) Intrigue Flaw To Exploit: Passion Transfer Description: The beauty of this Shogun Sequence is that it is delivered by her, not you. All you need to do is to (1) identify her passion for something, (2) intensify her emotions, and (3) transfer that passion to you. This Sequence works exceptionally well because you’re manipulating her “ready” passions - i.e. you’re using her existing feelings about something that she is already passionate about. This is different from other Shogun Sequences where you usually trying to elicit feelings which are external to her. There is, however, one caveat to this Sequence: it works only on females who have strong passions in something: diving, mountain climbing, volunteering, etc. As such, it fails with women who lead mundane lives: i.e. those who tell you that their hobbies are sleeping and bingeing on
Netflix. Finally, you will also need to use some anchoring and conditioning (i.e. point to yourself when describing positive feelings) - use the guide inside the Derek Rake Insider Labs{12} to help you. Here are the steps in this Shogun Sequence in full: Step 1: Ask if she has any hobby or activity that she is particularly passionate about. Step 2: Elicit her feelings{13} when she is performing that activity. Here, you want to get her to imagine vividly the act of performing that activity so that you can get her to experience the (positive) feelings when she is engrossed in her passion. You want to listen out for verbalization of feelings like: “excitement”, “love”, “rush”, “satisfaction”, “exhilaration”, “accomplishment” and so on. Step 3: Transfer those descriptions of feelings to you. For example, you can say: “Hmm, here’s an interesting thought. What if you just find yourself feeling (insert verbalization of feeling) you have for (activity or passion) for a person instead (subtly point at yourself)?” Here’s an example: You: What do you really love doing? Tell me something you do that excites you. Her: Well… I go rock climbing with a couple of friends once a year at the Yosemite National Park. You: Wow, rock climbing. Tell me, what is it about rock climbing that makes you like it? If you’re there in the Yosemite Valley now, how do you feel? Her: EXCITED, of course! Rock climbing is really hard… and can be DANGEROUS at the same time, which makes it super EXCITING. Every step and grip you take brings you closer to the top, and once you reach the top, you feel FREE… and there is a sense of ACHIEVEMENT and FULFILLMENT. I just LOVE rock
climbing…. You: Hmm, here’s an interesting thought. I’m just wondering… what it would be like if you feel those same feelings in a human being (point to yourself). Just IMAGINE, meeting a guy (point to yourself) who can make you FEEL the same EXCITEMENT, and at the same time there’s some DANGER because you don’t know how the relationship is going to turn out. But you’ve found this guy who you can LOVE which gives you a sense of ACHIEVEMENT and FULFILLMENT. How would that FEEL? Her: Wow, I’d like to go rock climbing with him… and share with him my passion… my everything!
Jekyll & Hyde Shogun Stage: (1) Intrigue Flaws To Exploit: Hidden Desires / Character Duality Description: Here’s a foolproof way to generate intrigue in a woman: ask her a question about love and relationships. Incidentally, the biggest question on relationships (which was one asked by the great psychologist Sigmund Freud) is this “Do you think guys know what women want?” Ask her this, and wait for her response. She will either laugh, or say “no” in amusement. Then, reply: “I think most guys think they know, but they don’t. In fact, most men make this one deadly mistake when it comes to women…” This should get her intrigued. At this point, you launch the “Jekyll & Hyde” sequence: “Here’s the mistake that most guys make about women. They don’t realize that inside each woman there are actually two different people… the Free-Spirited Female, and the Straight-Laced Woman.” “The Straight-Laced Woman is one who has been programmed by the society with all the rules and
restrictions… with all the things that she should or she shouldn’t do in order to be accepted by the society…” “…but the Free-Spirited Woman is the real, authentic woman inside your soul… where you keep your happiest memories and dreams about all the amazing possibilities and the exciting things that you want to do if there’s nobody is watching or judging you…” “The problem with most guys think that every woman is the Straight-Laced Woman… but when you meet the special man (point to yourself subtly) he treats you like the authentic Free-Spirited Woman that you always have been… and he touches you where you yearn to be touched … in places even you won’t admit to yourself. You start to feel new sensations you’ve never even felt before, and only with this special guy that you’ve met.”
Skin Deep Shogun Stage: (1) Intrigue Flaws To Exploit: Hidden Desires / Character Duality Description: This Shogun Sequence works best on beautiful women who frequently get complimented on their looks. You create intrigue by appearing to see beyond her good looks, and into who she really is on the inside. Remember: every beautiful woman wants to be appreciated for things other than their looks. Here’s your opener: “Has any guy ever told you that you’ve got the most interesting pair of eyes?” (Note that you say INTERESTING, and not BEAUTIFUL or SEXY.) “They seem to tell me that there’s more to this woman that I might think I know at first sight.” The following is optional, but works like a charm if your target is a great looker of supermodel proportions: “Any guy can look at you and tell you that you’re pretty but it takes someone observant (point to yourself subtly) to see that there’s more to you than just good looks.”
This Intrigue Ping will make her sit up and pay attention, and she may well ask: “So what do you think you know about me?” Your answer: “Have you ever met a guy (subtly point to yourself) and know that there’s just something underneath this person that is intriguing and exciting? You feel that you just need to know this person just a little more. You can just look deep in their eyes and you immediately feel fascinated by what you’re going to find out. For me, I just need to follow my heart when there’s someone like that in front of me (point to yourself) now.” An ideal follow-up to this sequence is the Jekyll & Hyde pattern (i.e. you can bridge to the new sequence by asking her – “Do you know guys know what women want?”) before going into the Rapport stage.
Shogun Sequences: Commonly Asked Questions Here are some of the most commonly asked questions about Shogun Sequences and their delivery: Question: Which stages of the IRAE Model are Shogun Sequences used at? All four: Intrigue, Rapport, Attraction and Enslavement. Each Sequence is usually stage-specific, but there are also those which can be used universally across all stages (Fractionation is an obvious example). Question: Will I sound like a weirdo? I want you to understand that being awkward the first few times you deliver a sequence is entirely normal. You’re in Phase 1 in the learning plan, and you’re supposed to practice delivering sequences word for word. When you have a firm grip on a Sequence structure and you’re ready to incorporate personal stories into the sequence (Phase 2), your delivery will become progressively natural. Once you have reached Phase 2 and beyond, the Sequences will cease to be a rigid, memorized line. You
can then mutually explore with your target a topic with common interest, and at the same time invoke her emotions and link them to you. When this happens, you just let the conversation flow naturally while connecting with the woman emotionally on a deep level. Question: What if she interrupts me? How do I recover? It’s likely that your target will just want to immerse in your story (like she would in a movie or when she is reading a book) and let you finish your routine. If she interrupts, however, let her (you don’t want to risk breaking rapport with her at this stage). Even better, you should use this opportunity to capture her personal hypnotic words (everybody has got their own words and phrases which they use to hypnotize themselves) and reuse these back at them. Question: How long does it take for it to work? While every woman is psychologically hard-wired to respond to Mind Control techniques, there is, however, one factor which we find hard to predict: how long it takes for a Sequence to take effect in the woman’s mind. In Shogun Method™, this is known as the Dither Effect, and has been discussed extensively inside the Derek Rake Insider Labs private area. For whatever reason, for some females, the Sequences might not appear to be effective immediately. However, it’s not uncommon that after some time (an hour, a day or a month later), she will call you out of the blue with heightened interest. One of our DerekRakeHQ coaches Colin T. Simone (creator of the ConversationalSeduction program) related this story when he was first starting out as a student of the Shogun Method™: “So there was this woman who I thought was immune to the Shogun Sequences. Funnily, after a week I used the Deep Love Sequence on her she called me and acted as
though she was completely infatuated with me, and continued talking about the same topic that I had even forgotten that we talked about.” Question: She stares at me blankly. What should I do next? If she is not responsive then here’s the most common reason: she has never been exposed to Shogun Sequences before, and therefore is having a hard time following you. This is not necessarily a bad thing because it also means that if you’re the first to use the Shogun Method™ on her. It will be easier to involve her in the experience if she doesn’t feel pressured to understand your story. The first thing to do, therefore, is to slow down your delivery. You’ll need to pace your story according to her level of comprehension. It will take some time for her to absorb everything. If she is still unresponsive, then chances are that you are encountering an insecure woman who is fearful of going through an emotional trip with you - she is already getting her defenses up against your advances, with her brain switching from “Hot” (narrative) to “Cold” (analytical) mode. When your target is a timid female, then you should use the Quoting technique. To make her more receptive to your story, you should therefore “quote” someone else, i.e. as if you are not talking about her, but instead a “friend” of hers. This will then create an emotional distance to feel more at ease with the subject - since then she is not directly involved in the story. The Quoting technique is a workaround which does not dilute the original Sequence’s effectiveness. This is because in order to understand what you are saying, she will have to imagine what you’re saying on herself, regardless of what her “friend” is experiencing. Another method to make her reduce her inhibitions is to ask hypothetical questions starting with “If you were
to…” - this way you can make her imagination run wild without having to deal with any real world consequences. Unresponsiveness be a strong sticking point especially in cases where you are attempting to use a Shogun Sequence on a woman whose English is not her first language. Question: OK, I’ve successfully completed a Sequence. What do I do next? Start another Sequence! If it works well, then you want to pile ‘em up (the Multiple Sub Plot theory). There are some bridging phrases which you can use to transition from one sequence to another - these will be covered in detail inside the Rapport and Attraction chapters later. Remember that you don’t need to logically connect the Sequences – since the female mind is anything but logical. You can bridge your sequences with phrases like: “Oh, here’s something else which is fun…” or “Here’s another thing…”. Stack up your sequences like what you do with Multiple Sub Plots that we have discussed above. Question: I’ve delivered the Sequences verbatim a couple of times, and am ready to move to Phase 2. What do I do to create my own Sequences? Read romance novels. There’s a reason women eat up romance novels and erotica (think Fifty Shades of Grey) like chocolate. That’s because these storybooks are filled with hypnotic sequences that are specially designed to exploit the female mind’s weakness and perpetual hunger for intrigue and excitement. In fact, you can steal the lines from the male leads inside a romance novel and recite them verbatim to a woman in order to seduce her. However, that’s not what I want you to do. Instead, as you progress, you should utilize techniques like Multiple Sub Plots and Rollercoastering that you have already learned to create your own original
Intrigue Stories.
5 Rapport
Lure the target deep into your seduction by creating the proper temptation: a glimpse of the pleasures to come. You must awaken a desire in your targets that they cannot control. Robert Greene
Erik, a long time stalwart of the MKDELTA group, was once a mechanical engineer who had worked for the F1 Ferrari team for some 15 odd years before he retired. He once told me, “You know what, Derek, there’s nothing in the entire world which is as overrated as an F1 driver.” Curious, I asked him why. He said, “You see, it’s all in the machine. A good car virtually wins races by itself. A lot of F1 races are lost because the driver messed up. A self-driving F1 car would have been better!” “How so?” “If the driver did nothing, the car would’ve been on its best performance, because it has been optimized by the team engineers. Most of the time, only a small bit of control from the driver is necessary. A bad driver overcontrols the car.” I nodded. “Makes sense.” Erik smiled and leaned forward. “And guess what. This is also true for women and love.”
It took me some time before Erik’s points sank into my brain. And then, the aha moment came - like an F1 car which is created to be driven to win races, a woman is “created” to love, and be loved. And like a good F1 car which is designed to go fast with minimal intervention from the driver, a woman is designed to “seduce” herself with minimal intervention or inducement externally. This serves as the basis for the “Self-Seducing Woman” hypothesis: that an emotionally balanced woman is a self-seducing human. Leave a woman inside a room with only a man with her for two hours and she will end up seducing herself for him… as long as he does not actively interfere. This is the mindset that I want you to have as you move beyond Intrigue and into the Rapport territory. You will also realize that this is different from the typical “Pickup Artist” mindset which requires guys to be the aggressor and active pursuer of women at all times. The “Self-Seducing Woman” hypothesis: an emotionally balanced woman is a self-seducing human At this point, you already know how to capture a woman’s undivided attention by planting seeds of Intrigue in her mind (with storytelling techniques, Rollercoastering, Intrigue Pings and Shogun Sequences). Beyond Intrigue, you’ll learn the next natural step that you’re going to take in the Shogun Method™: to let a woman seduce herself for you.
Rapport Is 100% Within Your Control I was extremely shy as a teenager. A lifetime socialite, my mother used to throw cocktail parties at our house every Saturday evening. And because I was her only child, I was expected to mingle with her friends and their children. I used to really dread going to those parties. Over time, I noticed something really strange at these
cocktail parties. Sometimes I felt that I was ‘on fire’, and everyone I met would totally be bowled over by my charms, wit and charisma. I could talk about anything and the crowd would love me for it. Other times, however, I would be as charmless as a week-old cheesesteak. During my “charmless” periods, even the act of greeting some guests were excruciating. These are the people who I found to be more reserved and aloof than the rest. With them, I could never go further than the plain “how are you” and “what do you do”. As hard as I had tried, I could never maintain a conversation for longer than five minutes with these folks… they seemed so dull and spiritless. So for a long time, I wondered if there was something wrong with me. In fact, I suspected if I had some kind of bipolar disorder: sometimes witty and charismatic, and socially inept and clumsy at other times. Then I had a lightbulb moment - I realized that it all had nothing to do with me: instead, it had everything to do with the people that I had interacted with. Here’s the explanation: the people I felt at ease with were those who were at ease with themselves, and they had projected a sense of self-confidence, comfort and trust that was then reflected on myself. On the other hand, the people I had problems talking to were the opposite: they communicated to me (both consciously and subconsciously) that they were anxious, restless and uncomfortable. As such, I felt the same anxiety, restlessness and discomfort, impeding my own abilities to communicate with charm and ease. The aha moment got me to ask myself if I could use this insight to quickly generate rapport with a complete stranger. You see, it had then dawned on me that rapport building with a woman should start within me - since the response that I would get would essentially be a reflection of what I would project to my target.
The response you will get with a woman is the reflection of what you project on her In other words: rapport is 100% within my control since I am able to control my own emotions which I will then project to the woman I want to seduce.
The Shogun Method™ Rapport Development Model The Rapport Development Model is built on this insight that the seducer (i.e. you) can exert full control over rapport building. Here it is illustrated in Figure 4 below:
Figure 4 As you will notice in the figure above, like the IRAE Model, the process of building rapport is sequential, or linear. Remember that in the Shogun Method™, everything you do requires you to clearly envision the Endpoint that you want to get to. In this case, you want to build strong Rapport so that you can start to attract her (Shogun Method™ Phase 3) and amp up your own Desirability levels. You do this by going directly from low Rapport to high Rapport, following these two simple axioms: Axiom #1: You must be in control. If she is the one controlling the rapport building and interaction, then you have already lost. In the diagram above, notice
the dotted lines which represent the boundaries inside which you retain control. You must stay inside the boundaries where she is in “Hot” cognitive mode instead of “Cold”. Axiom #2: You must elicit her values. Once you truly understand what a woman’s core needs (and pain points) are, making her fall in love with you is like taking candy from a toddler. Knowing her inside out will set you up for success once you hit the third stage of the Shogun Method™ - generating Attraction. You must be in control, and you must elicit her values The beauty of the rapport building model inside the Shogun Method™ is that the process is the same for every woman. You can use it on the leggy beauty you meet at the bar, or the hot colleague that has been making passes at you, or the sweetie who has just moved in next door - and they will all respond to you similarly in a predictable way. The beauty of the Shogun Method™’s rapport building model is that the process is exactly the same for every woman Apart from being elegantly simple to use, this also means that you just need to learn the process once and you can use and reuse it on every single woman you will meet for the rest of your life with the same, great results.
Rapport: From The Shogun Method™’s Perspective Let’s start by looking closely at what Rapport really means. Here’s a standard dictionary definition of Rapport according to Google: “A close and harmonious relationship in which the people or groups concerned understand each other’s feelings or ideas and communicate well.” This definition is accurate, but alas, not very useful. A better definition at least in the eyes of the Shogun
Method™ practitioner is the following: “A close and harmonious relationship with a woman with which a man can leverage to elicit her values, and at the same time, increase his own Desirability.” You don’t want to get friendly with a woman so that she likes you. You want to give your Desirability level a boost, and equally importantly, you want to gather valuable intelligence about her which you can then use in the Attraction phase of the Shogun Method™. So here’s Rapport 101 according to “Pickup Artists”: people like people who are like themselves. Birds of the same feather, after all, flock together. As the theory goes, if you’re able to come across as somewhat familiar to your target, then she will feel comfortable and safe around you. Here’s the flaw associated with the “Pickup Artist” approach to rapport building: you may be forced to make the mistake that we have talked about in the last chapter - forced familiarity. Trying too hard to be “familiar” will make you come across as needy and undesirable. Forced familiarity is a common “Pickup Artist” mistake As a Shogun Method™ practitioner, you already know that being direct in your seduction is a mistake (Precondition #2). You, therefore, want to “imply” familiarity indirectly on a subconscious level. To help you learn how to do this, let’s investigate a Mind Control concept called Mirroring.
Mirroring Mirroring is the single most powerful body language technique inside the Mind Control seducer’s arsenal. It is a tactic which exploits one particular flaw inside the female mind: a woman’s brain cannot consciously filter out non-verbal information which suggests familiarity. You “mirror” your target by copying her behavior - hand gestures, facial expressions and body movements. By
replicating your target’s non-verbal signals{14}, you’re sending familiarity signals to her subconscious. Now here’s something which is very important because this is where our newer Shogun Method™ apprentices always go wrong – so pay close attention. Be aware of the danger of getting “found out” – she may think that you’re mocking her Mirroring works well as a rapport building technique because it is perceived outside the boundaries of conscious awareness. When newbies do it incorrectly, the target becomes aware that they are deliberately parroting her, and she could well feel insulted. You must always be aware of the danger of getting “found out” she may think that you are mocking her. Here’s how you can avoid this particularly deadly pitfall of getting found out: by following the Three Seconds Rule. You should mimic a particular behavior or gesture that you notice only three seconds after you have first noticed that behavior. This will make what you are doing less obvious to her. Here are some Mirroring “hacks” that you can use to give you a head start: 1. Don’t overcomplicate things: just act out shamelessly what your target is doing. Observe the Three Seconds Rule and you’re golden. 2. Be genuinely interested in her story. Remember your Endpoint: to elicit her values and gather as much intelligence as you can to use against her in the Attraction stage. 3. You want to match her inner views, thoughts, and feelings - your body language is only means to that end. Put yourself in her shoes. Be her. 4. The first (and easiest) thing to do: match her breathing rhythm. 5. Then, match her posture, gestures and facial expressions. Also, take notice of minute details like
blinking or chin scratching. When she adjusts her bra strap, adjust your shirt… three seconds later. 6. Finally, match her verbal ticks, like “oh yeah”, “mmm hmm”, etc as well as her speech patterns. You should also mirror her mood: for example, if she seems to be a little down, don’t say, “What are you worrying about? Let’s go have a drink and forget all your problems!” If she is in a foul mood, she expects you to empathize with her. Match her mood, and then say with a sympathetic smile, “I feel terrible. If there’s anything I can do to make you feel better, let me know, okay?”
Social Calibration System So how do you know when you’ve successfully built Rapport with your target? Again, Mirroring principles are at play here. Mirror your target by matching her behavior and speech patterns. After awhile, cross your legs or touch your chin. If she does the same thing, then congratulations! You’ve already built enough Rapport with her for you to generate Attraction (the next step in IRAE Model). What I’ve just shared with you is a technique which you can use to gauge your progress (in this case, if you’ve generated sufficient Rapport with your target or not). Knowing where you stand and how far you’ve gone (especially in terms of Desirability) is a skill that you must develop if you want to do well as a seducer. In the Shogun Method™, this skill is known as Calibration. Many guys go through a lot of relationships, and all they see are things that they want (and expect) to be there. To be good at seduction, however, it’s very important that you see the world as it is, not as you want it to be. You must see the world as it it, not as you want it to be In other words, you must first realize what is truthfully out there, and learn to identify the signals that you’re making progress at what you’re attempting to do. And our
proprietary Social Calibration System will help you do just that. Fellow MKDELTA member and professional hypnotist J.P. Fairweather (who had also graciously written the Foreword for this book) had probably the most acute Calibration abilities of anyone I know. He could tell if a client had cheated on her husband simply by observing the way she walked and sat on the couch in his office. He was that good! He once told me the story of how one woman walked into his office in Knightsbridge one day and told him, “Dr Fairweather, to be honest with you, I’ve seen so many psychiatrists for this problem I have, and none of them could help me. Frankly, I don’t think you can help me either.” Dr Fairweather then said to her, “Well, I think I can help you. I’ll tell you what your problem is right now.” He then leaned closer to her, and asked, “When did you perform the sex change?” What had happened was that the female who walked into Dr Fairweather’s office was not a woman, but a man. He had identified a certain signal which alerted him that this was not a “natural” woman. During puberty, when a girl starts to grow breasts, she will naturally be conditioned to move her arms and hands around the breasts (which become painful as they grow bigger). This man, on the other hand, kept bumping his hands on his own breasts that it could only mean one thing: that his breasts were newly implanted. I want you to appreciate how important this is: a small signal can indeed give out so much information. Throughout your Rapport stage, you must hone your Calibration skills so acutely that you pick up as much information as possible about your target. And as you will see in the Attraction stage later, the more information you have gathered about your target, the easier it is for you to seduce her.
A small signal can give out a lot of information which you can use to seduce her Next, we are going to work on creating your own Social Calibration System so that you can chart your own progress. The following is a list of ten signals that will tell you if the rapport that you’re building with your target is deepening, and if she is falling into trance. Signal #1: Change in breathing pattern Whenever your target falls into a hypnotic trance induced by you, her breathing patterns will change. For some women, they will start breathing heavily. For others, they will breathe at a somewhat slower rate. An increase in rapport will result in a change in her breathing pattern Breathing is directly linked to a woman’s psyche. An increase in rapport will result in her breathing change. If she continues to breathe normally then it’s a sign that your progress has stalled. Change in breathing pattern can be the easiest thing to notice, but I want you to practice detecting it without looking somewhat obvious that you’re doing it. Looking for a change in breathing pattern by staring at your target’s chest directly will make you look like a sex maniac. You will therefore want to do this as discreetly as you can. A non-obvious way to calibrate if there is a change in breathing pattern is to look at her shoulders. As she breathes in, her rib cage will lift, and at the same time, her shoulders will also rise. When you run a Shogun Sequence, there will be times when her pulse rate speeds up especially when you are communicating danger and excitement Signal #2: Slowing down of the heart beat When your Rapport (and Desirability) has increased significantly with your target, her heart beat will slow
down (due to the corresponding increase in comfort). How do you then check her heart beat without, well, putting your ears on her chest? It’s quite simple actually - you can run a Shogun Sequence on checking her pulse on her wrist, for example. Alternatively, you can find an excuse to touch the side of her neck. When you run through a Shogun Sequence in which you may be using the Rollercoaster technique, naturally there will be times when her pulse rate speeds up especially when you are communicating thrill and danger. You will want to take her pulse ideally when you have completed a Sequence. Calibration via touching (or kinesthetics in seduction lexicon) has the added benefits of, well, the touch, which again, should be part of your Rapport building arsenal. Signal #3: Relaxing of facial muscles When your target is uncomfortable, notice that her face becomes somewhat asymmetrical - the left side will hardly match the right side. When she goes into a hypnotic trance, on the other hand, her facial muscles will relax, resulting in a more symmetrical face. Signal #4: Change in swallowing rate This is useful when you’re seeing her over a lunch or dinner date. When she first gets into a mild trance, she will naturally slow down the swallowing of the food. When the Rapport level increases, the comfort factor kicks in, and she will be swallowing her food at a quicker rate. When she goes into a hypnotic trance, her facial muscles will relax The change in swallowing rate is perhaps the biggest tell when it comes to Rapport level calibration. You may also see this effect when she is swallowing her saliva although this will be harder for you to observe. Signal #5: Change in tonality
You’ll notice that the tonality in her voice changes to be slower and deeper. Signal #6: Change in blinking rate Another signal you should look out for is the rate at which she blinks her eyes. As with the change in breathing pattern (Signal #1), both increase and reduction in blinking rate are signs that she is falling into trance. When you’re building Rapport, unlike traditional hypnosis, you want her to be in awake state In classic cases of induction in traditional hypnosis, the target’s eyelids will become heavy and eventually close all the way down when she falls into trance. However, you shouldn’t be expecting this to happen since you’re only using mild Mind Control on her (at this stage). Additionally, you want her to be in the awake state as you are building Rapport. On the other hand, if she stares at you coldly without blinking for a seemingly long (and unnatural) pause, it is a sign that she is breaking out of trance, and may be breaking Rapport with you. Signal #7: Change in mobility When your target is excited, her body language and mannerisms will be in hyper mode. When you gradually develop Rapport with her, these movements will slow down, or even stop altogether. When this happens, she is entering into an altered state, and will be more open to your hypnotic suggestions. Signal #8: Change in responsiveness As a rule, when a woman gets into deep Rapport with you, her “passive” responsiveness to you will increase, which means that she will be more agreeable and less argumentative. She will also be eager to follow what you say without much questioning. Signal #9: Enlargement of the pupil
The pupil is the black center of the eye. When your target begins to relax and feels more comfortable with you, her pupils will become noticeably larger. When a woman goes into deep Rapport, she will be more agreeable and less argumentative Calibration via the examination of the pupil has the added benefits of eye contact which help tremendously in Rapport development. Signal #10: Twitching of muscles When she gets into Rapport with you, she will display some muscle twitches. These are most apparent on the face (i.e. a facial tick) or on the shoulder (i.e. a shoulder twitch). Again, these are signs that she is comfortable in your presence as her muscles go through a slowdown process. You’ll also notice that her guard is gradually going down also (as she becomes more agreeable to what you say), giving you an opportunity to finish the job and quickly move on to the Attraction phase.
The Anti-Demand Tactic Now that you know how to subconsciously build Rapport (through Mirroring) and to gauge your progress (through identifying the ten signals via the Social Calibration System), here are some specific techniques on rapport building which will move you up the Desirability scale, and at the same time opens up opportunities for value elicitation. It helps to presume that you already have existing rapport with her and act accordingly. Many other seduction and “Pickup Artist” ebooks preach this, and it does work somewhat although you’ll be vulnerable to making mistakes like “faking familiarity” (which we have talked about earlier). The following is an example of “assuming familiarity”: You: “Are you good at holding your alcohol?”
Her: “Yes.” You: “Come to my place and prove it to me.” Of course, this might work with a woozy party girl but someone with some degree of self-control and selfrespect will downright refuse you. In this example, you make a demand on the girl, asking her to go over to your place. This represents a moment of weakness on your part because it gives the woman the power to say no to you. Demands trigger internal resistance while “antidemands” create the desire to pursue On the other hand, the “Anti-Demand” shifts this dynamic in your favor and gives you the power instead. This Shogun Method™ technique works like magic because it taps into this particular flaw inside the female mind: demands automatically trigger internal resistance inside a woman, while the “anti-demand” creates the desire to pursue. Psychology tells us that women are hard-wired to gear their natural sex drive towards the seduction of men who makes Anti-Demands. (This also explains the paradox of men who initially refuse quick sex will often get laid quicker than those who demand on sex early in the relationship.) Back to the earlier example: you can recover from rejection by making an Anti-Demand “Ah, OK. Sorry, I can be quite direct sometimes. When I saw you, I said to myself, there’s this friendly lady I would enjoy talking to. I guess I’ve ruined that opportunity, no?” You are likely to get a response in the form of, “Oh, that’s fine.” You have then recovered successfully to continue to build Rapport with your target.
Conversational Hooks Different from conventional dating beliefs, the Shogun Method™ way is to make the woman do all
the heavy lifting in the Rapport stage. In other words, what you want to do is to get her to actively build rapport with you. In short, you want her to be the ‘aggressor’ in the interaction, not you. This approach has two advantages: 1. The harder she has to work to build rapport with you, the more you will be “worth” to her. Chances are high that that she will maintain rapport with you right until the end of the Attract and Enslave stages. 2. If you are the one who tries too hard, she will subconsciously pick up vibes of desperation from you, which will cause her to break rapport. So how do you get your target to actively work for rapport then? Simple - using what we call “Conversational Hooks”. These are persuasion devices which are designed to get your target to ask you questions (repeatedly) in order to fill in the information gaps that you deliberately leave out. Now let’s imagine I tell you the following story: “I arrived at the LAX and as soon as the immigration officer saw my passport, she said - Mr Rake, we’ve been expecting you. Two plain-clothed policemen came and took me to a lowly lit room. To make a long story short, I managed to get out after two hours, and I immediately hopped in a cab to my hotel, all the while trying to see if there’s anyone following me.” I’ve just told you a story (with Rollercoaster principles of introducing conflict, resolution and a cliffhanger in the end), but it is incomplete. There should be some questions in your mind now, like - why were the police officers waiting for me? What’s inside the room, and why does it sound so sinister and shadowy? What happened in the two hours that I was inside the room? Who was trying to follow me, and why? Also, notice that the flow of the story is natural, told in a tone which is casual and conversational. Remember:
Conversational Hooks, like the best Mind Control devices, are delivered most subtly and covertly. Contrast this with the standard “Pickup Artist” approach of trying to get women interested by shoving information down their throats. Imagine a wealthy person trying to tell people how rich he is - “I’ve got a brand new yellow Lamborghini Aventador which goes from zero to sixty in five seconds flat.” Alas, instead of demonstrating his high value, he comes across as a showoff who is also deeply insecure. Is there a better way to say the same thing? Well, consider the following instead: “So, I was at a friend’s party and we were going out on a bar hop. I offered to give some people a lift, but there’s only one spare seat in the car. So, I guess I couldn’t really give everyone a ride.” Naturally then, the woman will ask what two-seater car he has, and he can then talk a little more about his Lambo. And because the woman is the one who asks for that information, it seems to be more important and legitimate.
Using Conversational Hooks In Fractionation Fractionation is the showcase technique of the Shogun Method™ - relatively easy to learn, it gives quick, tangible results. It remains the starting point for many Shogun Method™ students and for good reason - if by any chance you haven’t seen it yet, go to the Appendix, and see it in action. Quick recap: in Fractionation, you build rapport with a woman, break it, and then rebuild it, and then break it again in quick succession. This has the effect of deepening her state of trance, increasing your Desirability level along the process. Similarly, you can be interested and pay attention to your target, and then pretend to be distracted, looking behind her at someone else for example. Then, focus back on her and see if she tries to re-engage you. If she does,
then congratulations - you have rapport with her. At this point, continue building rapport and as you would expect with Fractionation, they will go deeper into the trance-like state of trust and comfort as you continue to talk to her. Again, to do this, you can use Conversational Hooks to get her to ask you questions based on the gaps that you have deliberately introduced in your previous stories. For example, you can say: “I’ve just gotten back from Japan, and you know all those crazy Japanese inventions, well, I’ve gotten hold of one of those. It’s a handheld device which you beam at the person in front of you and it will tell you what she is thinking. It sounds nutters, I know, but after I had seen it in action I was totally floored. Think of all the things you can do with it!” OK, let’s look closely at this script - do you notice the Conversational Hooks that I used? The most obvious is the one about me having gone to Japan. She might ask you, “Where did you go? Tokyo?” or “How did you like Japan?” The more rapport you build with her, the less work you’ll need to do to build and maintain that rapport You’re feeding her information bit by bit without giving her a full picture so that she feels compelled to ask you questions and work for your answers. This is an effective Mind Control trick which exploits what’s called Cognitive Dissonance{15} inside the female mind - she gets uncomfortable unless all the questions in her brain are resolved. Now as long as she keeps asking you questions, you will go up nicely along the Desirability scale. As you get better, the further up you go in the rapport scale, the less work that you’ll need to do. You’ll only need to introduce more Conversational Hooks for her to latch on. In short, you’re letting her seduce herself for you.
You’ll also be compelling and repelling her repeatedly (just like what you’d do using Fractionation) to deepen rapport and increase Desirability, giving you a solid foundation to build Attraction in the next stage of the IRAE Model.
Rapport Mistakes Now let’s examine the most common mistakes that guys make when they try to build rapport with women. Mistake #1: Being too dependent on the outcome One of the cornerstones of the Shogun Method™ is that it is outcome or Endpoint oriented. Revisit the Rapport Development Model and notice the straight line connecting your initial point (Low or Zero Rapport) to the Endpoint (High Rapport). You already understand that the process is linear, and you want to go from your initial point to the Endpoint as quickly and directly as possible (i.e. in a straight line). Rookie Shogun Method™ students could easily make the mistake of being too focused on the Endpoint or outcome Rookie Shogun Method™ students could easily fall into the mistake of being too focused on the Endpoint or outcome while losing sight of the process involved in taking them from the initial point to the Endpoint. Perhaps paradoxically, the best way to quickly reach the state of High Rapport is to stop being dependent on the outcome. You have already learned how to identify signals of rapport through the Social Calibration System covered earlier in this chapter. Naturally, you will want to look out for these signals when you talk to your target in order to calibrate your progress. However, I must warn you not to be too dependent on wanting to see these Signals too much that it completely destroys your focus and composure. This means that when you are building rapport with your
target, you must stop wanting her to display those positive Signals. When you’re too dependent on the outcome, you’ll inevitably become too needy and pushy. Think of the stereotypical salesman who approaches you when you walk into a used car garage. He starts talking to you, trying to find some common ground by faking familiarity. He wants you to like him so that you buy from him. And as he gets a little too pushy (or sale-sy) too quickly, you feel turned off, and you walk out. Sounds familiar? Instead of going “balls out” to build rapport, you must, therefore, use Fractionation. Build a little rapport, and then pull away. Then, focus back on her again, and restart building rapport. Then, back off. Repeat this process and it gets easier while she slides down the slippery slope of no return. To summarize: don’t be pushy and desperate; instead, fractionate. Being too nice can be a communication barrier because it increases your inhibitions Mistake #2: Being too agreeable Here’s the most common rookie mistake that any guy makes when he tries to build rapport with a woman: being too agreeable. The problem with being too amenable, polite and pleasant is that it gets in the way when you need to develop a genuine connection with your target. Being too nice can be a communication barrier because it increases your inhibitions. When you’re too agreeable, you’re setting up a barrier that stops you from being seen as a real person. I’m sure you have had the experience of meeting someone that seemed to be so nice, but you couldn’t seem to be able to connect with this person in an authentic manner. It would appear that there was this social facade that he or she was wearing that you
couldn’t seem to see through. Of course, you shouldn’t purposely annoy your target so that you don’t come across as too agreeable. Far from it! Understand that it’s entirely fine to be nice as long as it doesn’t get in the way when you communicate your ideas authentically. Mistake #3: Faking familiarity We have already covered this previously, but it’s worth mentioning again because this one mistake alone can completely undo all the progress that you have made so far. Don’t try too hard to look for similarities between you and your target in your attempt to build rapport. Otherwise, you will come across as awkward, or worse, a phony. Desperation is the number one killer of rapport and attraction When you’re trying too hard, you will send out subconscious signals to your target that you’re desperate and needy, and as you should already know, desperation is the number one killer of rapport and attraction. You’ll also notice that the harder you try, the likelier you will fail. Mistake #4: Developing contextual rapport Let’s say the woman you’re talking to, like you, is a fan of classic rock. And you both spend hours talking about nothing except Led Zeppelin, AC/DC and Deep Purple. Now you may conclude that you are doing well with her. However, you may have just made a grave mistake, and I’ll tell you why. Imagine that you’re taking Karate classes under one Master Kazuhiro at your neighborhood Dojo. He’s someone you deeply respect; you get along with him really well, and you look forward to going to his classes every week. Now one day you’re out having a drink with your buddies in the pub, when Master Kazuhiro unexpectedly turns up,
orders a pint of lager and starts talking to you like an old buddy. How would you feel? Naturally, you’d be somewhat uncomfortable talking to Master Kazuhiro at the bar. Why is this so? The answer is simple: the rapport that you have with him only fits in the Master-Student context inside the Dojo. In the Shogun Method™ lexicon, this is called contextual rapport. When you’re outside the Dojo, the rapport you have with Master Kazuhiro is minimal. Now let’s relate this back to the earlier example. You’ll notice that apart from classic rock, there’s nothing else to talk about with her. You therefore will face tremendous problems later trying to “bridge” out to the Attraction stage because your rapport with the woman is limited in context{16}. There are two solutions to this problem. The first is what we commonly term as the “Bounce” - you must arrange to meet her in different types of locations each time (i.e. the mall, cafe, park, bookstore, club, library) so that each time you build (and rebuild) rapport with her, it’s not tied down to (or contextualized into) one particular place. The second solution to this problem is to use the Rollercoaster technique to create multiple threads of conversations around various themes and topics. The Companion Guide on how to use the Rollercoaster has specific examples on how to develop deep rapport and emotional connections through “multi-threading”. Mistake #5: Lacking authentic interest One thing you must understand about interest is that it’s incredibly hard to fake. The reason is simple: when you hear something which really interests you, your body language changes, and you start to communicate these positive changes (on the subconscious level) which get picked up (also on the subconscious level) by the woman that’s talking to you. Interest is incredibly hard to fake, so don’t even try
On the other hand, if you are disinterested, the (verbal and non-verbal) signals that you send out will scream “I’m not interested, and I am shutting off.” When this happens, the woman you are talking to will also respond in kind, and soon she will start to lose interest herself. With Pseudo Repeat, you repeat back what she has said to you using the exact words with the exact tonality that she has used The solution to this problem is a Mind Control technique that we call the Pseudo Repeat. With this technique, you repeat back what she has said to you using the exact words with the exact tonality that she has used. Here’s an example. She might say to you, “So I had a bad dream last night. I dreamed that I was walking on the streets at night, and you know, suddenly a mugger jumped at me with a knife.” So, you say, “OK, so you dreamed that you were walking at night, and a mugger jumped out with a knife.” So you’re summarizing what she said (using the same words) and repeating it back at her. For added effect, you can also preface your Pseudo Repeat by saying: “Alright, just to be sure that I get this right…” The Pseudo Repeat may seem to be somewhat similar to what other dating coaches teach in the form of what’s known as “active listening”. However, there’s one key difference: in Pseudo Repeat, you use back the same words and the same tonality. When you use different words (although they may mean the same thing), the underlying emotional tone is different. “A thief came to me with a weapon” sounds less dramatic{17} as “a mugger jumped at me with a knife”. You have been introduced to the concept of Shogun Sequences in the last chapter. The following is a selection of the Shogun Sequences which you can use in the Rapport Stage.
Emptiness Sequence
Shogun Stage: (2) Rapport Flaw To Exploit: Submerged Needs This Sequence is designed to elicit a primal need which is submerged inside every woman’s inner psyche - the need to find the meaning of her existence and what she truly wants out of life. You deliver this Sequence in two steps: Step 1. Bring the submerged need to consciousness, and amplify it Step 2. Present yourself as the perfect solution to fulfill the need Here’s a sample verbatim: Step 1: Elicit The Void Sometimes when you stop and observe some really successful people who seem to have everything, don’t you notice that they seem to be pretty lonely and somewhat hollow? I came across a magazine article about Owen Wilson just the other day… he seemed to have everything, you know, being a Hollywood superstar and all that. But he suffered a major depression and even tried to kill himself. So was Gwyneth Paltrow… so beautiful, rich and blessed with thousands of guys swooning over her… she suffered from deep depression and during a period in her life, she just sobbed every single day… unable to do anything. I think lots of people are like that. They seem to be happy and successful on the outside, but deep inside there’s this void and hunger. They just keep asking themselves, “Is this it? Is this all that I am living for?” Most people are looking for a reason to live, you know, to fill the emptiness inside their soul… whatever that may be, it’s the thing that makes you feel complete. Step 2: Present Yourself To Fill The Void
When you finally find it, it’s right in front of you, and you finally feel whole again, at peace with yourself. It fills you up completely, making you feel deep happiness and ecstasy that no drugs in the world could ever give you. That’s when you know that you’ve been missing it all along in your life. Yet whenever you find it appearing right in front of you, you must grab the chance and not let it slip by your fingers. If it ever escapes you it may never come back again, and you’ll be left wondering what could have been… with feelings of regret and deep disappointment. So, when it appears right in front of you, grab hold of it, now!
Shared Universe Sequence Shogun Stage: (2) Rapport Flaw To Exploit: Us Against The World This Shogun Sequence is designed to exploit a woman’s need to belong to social groups. Here, you will construct a “shared” universe consisting only both you and your target. Within this imaginary universe, you are comfortable, happy and free to experiment and to do anything you wish. In other words, she’s free from the conformity and rules which regulate members of the society. The Shared Universe Sequence would work especially well in the following situations: 1. Asking for a date face-to-face, or over the phone{18}. Given the length of this Sequence, it is not ideal over text or email. 2. Destroying boyfriends. By creating a “shared universe” occupied only by you and your target, you are effectively excluding her boyfriend in the shared space. The Shared Universe Sequence is the basis of all Boyfriend Destroyer techniques. This Sequence is delivered in two steps: (1) elicit her values, and then (2) create the Shared Universe.
Step 1: Value Elicitation In this step, you will need to find out about two things: 1. What she looks for in a boyfriend, i.e. her romantic values 2. What objections that she may have, i.e. if she already has a boyfriend, or if she has conservative values which conflict with her being with you openly, etc. A good opener to this Sequence is a question about her casual interests (i.e. hobbies) which should then be switched to romantic interests. For example, if the woman says that she likes going clubbing, then ask if she has a boyfriend who also enjoys clubbing. You can then “bridge” to the usual romantic value elicitation, i.e. what she likes in a guy and what she looks for in a relationship. The four most common (and natural) needs and desires in a woman are below: 1. The need to care for and nurture a man{19} 2. The need to receive and share love 3. The need to feel protected and safe, conforming to the norms of the group or society 4. The need to “follow the heart” and do what a “woman’s hunch” tells her to do (3) and (4) above can be in conflict with each other. When a woman chooses to do something that her heart tells her, she could well violate some of the norms of the society. For example, a woman is supposed to have only one boyfriend or husband; the society frowns on females who have romantic relations with more than one male at any one time. You can say something like: “Sometimes, you may have romantic feelings for more than one guy at the same time. Of course, the society frowns on you if you date multiple men simultaneously. Yet, it’s entirely natural to
express one’s feelings without the need to feel ashamed.” You can then share stories with her that in some cultures, it is accepted that women may have multiple partners simultaneously, like in Tibet and in the Amazonian jungles. You want to plant the idea in her mind that it’s fine to break taboos and social constructs, freeing her to consider you as a potential replacement for her boyfriend. At this point, you may even follow up with some Boyfriend Destroyer sequences to pile-on the effect. Step 2: Shared Universe Creation Once you have elicited her values, you then introduce the concept of your “shared universe”, which is a device for you to transport her into an imaginary world where common norms of the society do not apply. Again, this is to subconsciously plant the message in her mind that it is perfectly natural for her to flirt with you despite her boyfriend. The Shared Universe is also where both of you can feel secure with each other, be comfortable, relaxed and happy. Again, the rules of society do not apply here, and she is free to “follow her heart” without the usual repercussions. You want her to feel secure and free enough to be with you despite her boyfriend - because all this takes place in an imaginary world consisting of just two of you. Whatever she chooses to do inside the Shared Universe, she doesn’t have to live up to anyone else’s expectations or follow anyone’s moral standards. And once you’ve set this up, invite her into this imaginary Shared Universe. Describe to her the things you both can do: where you can create beautiful moments together, hug and share secrets without any real world repercussions. You can then escalate this physically if you wish – to do this, here is a three-line mini Sequence
you can use: “When we hold each other, notice just how good it feels to really connect with each other on a very deep level.” “I think sex is just an extension of this connection. It’s pure, natural and spontaneous. In Our Shared Universe, fighting this feeling is just so unnatural.” “We don’t have to have sex if you don’t want to.” (Plant the idea in her mind, but disqualify her).
6 Attraction
The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it. Oscar Wilde
By now it should be clear to you that nothing in the Shogun Method™ works on its own. All the concepts and principles you have learned so far are interrelated they are all built on top of each other. In the Shogun Method™, nothing works in isolation, and the whole is more than the sum of its parts Nevertheless, you can be pretty decent at getting women attracted to you by using some of the techniques we have covered so far on a piecemeal basis. However, if you want to be truly great, then you will need to master each and every part of the Shogun Method™. More importantly, you must be able to make the connection between the components because in the Shogun Method™, the whole is more than the sum of its parts. As you’ll recall, in the first phase inside the IRAE Model, you have learned how to capture a woman’s attention by generating intrigue. Further, you have discovered the ways to develop deep emotional rapport with her, giving your Desirability a tremendous boost. You have learned to develop rapport by covertly manipulating her inherent psychological flaws, subconsciously pulling her strings using a combination of
Mind Control techniques encapsulated in the form of structured scripts and actions. Within the Shogun Method™, we call these scripts “Shogun Sequences”. In this chapter, we will finally explore the actual mechanics of making a woman attracted to you. You may have realized that we are only starting to build attraction somewhat late in the game. Contrast this with the typical newbie would jump the gun by attempting to attract a woman right off the approach. This is, of course, a rookie mistake – as you have already learned when we were discussing the IRAE Model in Chapter 3, trying to generate attraction before developing sufficient rapport is a recipe for failure. Remember the basic premise of the Shogun Method™ that the process of seduction is a straight line. Problems arise when newbies try to skip steps or improvise their way around the proven methodology.
She Is Mentally Programmed To Resist Overt Seduction Every single Shogun Method™ technique has its roots in the understanding of the female psyche. Specifically, each technique is designed to exploit one or more flaws in the female mind. We have found, through sheer experimentation and exhaustive client work in the field{20}, that everything about female attraction can be traced back to two specific psychological flaws in the female mind. Let’s examine what these flaws are, and how you can manipulate them to your advantage. First, I want you to try this out with a female friend. Ask her to stand about two feet away, facing you. Then, hold up your palms towards her, and ask her to do the same. Place your palms against hers. Then, push against her hand. Notice what happens. The harder you push, the harder she would resist you You will find that in most instances, she will resist you,
and attempt to push you back. In fact, the harder you push, the harder she would resist you. She might even try to push you back even harder than before, and of course you will then resist her. Naturally and instinctively both of you will just keep pushing each other without wanting to back down. Why? Here’s another experiment to try. This Saturday night, go to your local pub and approach any woman sitting at the bar. Say hi to her, and then tell her that you want to seduce her right up front. Let her know what you’ll expect from her as the relationship progresses. If you want to sleep with her, tell her that also. Even better, share with her your favorite sexual positions, your condom brand of choice, and how you’d like your eggs in the morning. Would you approach a woman at the bar like that? Well, yes, if you want her to pour her vodka lime down your collar. You instinctively know that you can’t be that overt if you want to be successful. It’s not because you deliberately want to be crafty and dishonest, but regardless of how much we guys like to think that women are straight-thinking, rational beings, they are not. The truth is that in dating and love, you’re forced to choose between being an honest loser or a successful manipulator. Now that you’ve already gone so far ahead in this book, I hope you’ll choose the latter. It is a built-in flaw in the female mind to automatically resist direct instructions from a male. As such, a female is hard-wired to resist unwelcoming attempts from a male wanting to seduce her. In dating, you’re forced to choose between being an honest loser or a successful manipulator
She Is Mentally Programmed To Chase A Running Rabbit
She wants what she can’t get. When something is running away from her, her knee-jerk reaction is to pursue. This “forbidden fruit” phenomena, of course, is not only limited to women. We all want things that we can’t have. Back to when we were kids, when we were told that we couldn’t have that Optimus Prime toy, we wanted it even more than before. When we hit our teenage years and our parents told us that we couldn’t consume alcohol, it only further inflamed our desire to drink. A female is hard-wired to resist unwelcome attempts from a male wanting to seduce her In a scientific paper published in the July 2009 issue of the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology{21}, a group of females were shown of the picture of a man. Half of the group were told that the man was single. The other half was told that the man was already attached. The same picture was shown to both groups. 59% of the group who were told that the man was single said that they were somewhat interested in dating him. The other group of females who were under the impression that he was married? A whopping 90% of them said they would pursue him! What’s happening here? Why does a man who is attached seem to be more desirable to females? Is it simply that something that is forbidden naturally feels more exciting to women? Is it that their competitive female psyche that fuels their desire to “conquer” a man who is already taken? Women’s urge to chase after the unattainable is deeply wired into their minds The facts are clear: women’s urge to chase after what may be “unattainable” is deeply wired into their minds. The scientific explanation for this phenomenon is well documented, but we couldn’t care less about the theory. Rather, we are more interested in how we can practically
exploit these flaws to further advance our goal and get us to closer to the Endpoint. So, that’s exactly what we are going to do in the next section.
To Make Her Attracted To You, Exploit These Two Flaws In The Female Mind Here’s a recap on the two flaws inside the female mind that we have talked about the previous section: 1. A woman will resist your overt attempts to seduce her. It then follows logically then that if she can’t detect your attempts to seduce her, then she won’t be able to resist you. You must therefore ENTICE her, and you must do it in a covert manner. 2. A woman has a natural tendency to chase whatever that’s running away from her. Consequently, this means that you can get her to chase you if you withdraw from her completely. You must therefore REPEL her so that you can create the “space” for her to chase you. The Shogun Method™’s Attraction Development Model (ADM) is built on top of the understanding and the exploitation of these two flaws via a set of ENTICE and REPEL strategies. Look at Figure 5 below –
Figure 5
Just like the Rapport Development Model (RDM) that you have seen in the Rapport phase inside the IRAE Model, the ADM is designed to provide you with a roadmap to chart your progress in the Attract phase. 1. Your Endpoint for this stage is to increase your Desirability levels from moderate to high. The Endpoint Desirability level depends on what your end game is: to sleep with her, or to make her your girlfriend, or to add her to your harem, etc. Obviously, different level of commitments{22} will require different thresholds of Desirability. As such, you might not want (or need) to go all the way although the Shogun Method™ will arm you to the teeth with enough ammunition to achieve any end game you have in mind (including Enslavement which is covered in the next chapter). 2. To move up the Desirability scale, you go through a series of actions to ENTICE and REPEL her in succession one after another. You’ll notice that this is similar to the Fractionation principle of alternating between Pleasure and Pain. Enticing is associated with Pleasure while Repelling is associated with Pain. 3. You ENTICE her using Implanted Commands. This is done by appealing to her subconscious, bypassing her conscious mind. 4. You REPEL her using Devalidation. This is done by appealing to her conscious mind directly. 5. Shogun Sequences (at the end of this chapter) can be used to quickly ENTICE and REPEL her within a single conversation thread. Next, we will explore how to ENTICE her using a Mind Control device known as Implanted Commands.
How To ENTICE Her Using Implanted Commands Females don’t talk to themselves like they talk to guys (or to other females for that matter). This has interesting
implications because it means that if you are to speak to a female in the same way that she talks to herself, her subconscious will believe it to be her own thoughts. Re-read that again because it’s important: If you are to speak to a female in the same way that she talks to herself, her subconscious will believe it to be her own thoughts. If you can control a woman’s imagination, you’ll control her thoughts, emotions and actions There lies the key to implanting ideas inside her head. Remember one of the fundamental flaws in the female mind - she may or may not believe what you tell her, but she will never doubt her own conclusions. How do you get her to think the thoughts that you want her to think about? Simple - you do this by engineering the situation that compels her to come to those conclusions on her own. What a woman imagines are perceived as her own thoughts. What this means then is that as long as you can control a woman’s imagination, you’ll control her thoughts, and subsequently, her emotions, and finally, her actions. Inside the Shogun Method™, the tools that will help you to subconsciously implant desired thoughts inside a woman’s mind are called Implanted Commands. An Implanted Command is a phrase that forms the part of a sentence which if spoken on its own, it would be a direct command. The other phrases in the sentence would camouflage the Implanted Command so that it goes under the radar, undetected by your target’s conscious mind. You use an Implanted Command to make a suggestion to your target which is automatically accepted because she won’t be noticing it consciously, making it impossible for her to evaluate (and reject) the suggestion. Now remember why you are doing this: psychologically, she is programmed to push back all
your overt advances. By working on her subconscious instead, your attempts to seduce her will instead be completely covert. Again, always remember that whatever she cannot detect, she cannot resist.
“Blotching” Like Shogun Sequences, much of the effectiveness of Implanted Commands lies in the delivery. In order to deliver an Implanted Command effectively, I recommend that you use this technique called “blotching”. This is a method to make the Implanted Command stand out by doing something different when you say it. You can blotch an Implanted Command with any one (or a combination of) the following eight actions: 1. Lowering the volume of your voice 2. Lowering the pitch of your voice 3. Lowering the speed of your speech 4. Touching her (in a non-sexual way) 5. Smiling 6. Pausing just before you say the Implanted Command 7. Tilting your head to one side 8. Doing the “triangular look” on her face (i.e. from left eye to the right eye and to the mouth) What I am going to share with you next is an exhaustive list of 44 Implanted Commands that you can use to subconsciously direct a woman’s thoughts and influence her emotions. Don’t feel overwhelmed because you’ll rarely need to master all 44 commands to see good results. In fact, many Shogun Method™ practitioners have done well by picking their favorite eight to ten Implanted Commands and devoting time to master those properly. It’s all about quality, not quantity!
Cheat Sheet: 44 Implanted Command Patterns
In the following list, the Implanted Commands are in italics. Commentaries (if any) are in normal type. “Start to imagine …” Start to imagine what you would do if your best friend suddenly dies in an unfortunate accident? Can you imagine the grief and emotional suffering that bites you inside the very core of your soul? Use this to incite pain as part of Fractionation or the Black Rose{23}. Caution: this is a dark pattern{24} which must be used cautiously. “Sure, I can tell you that , but I won’t.” Sure, I can tell you that this experience will change your life for the better and you will feel the joy and excitement that you’ve never felt before, but I’d rather you experience it for yourself. Sure, I can tell you that this is a great way to make your wildest dreams and deepest fantasies come true, but you should discover it for yourself. The second part (“…but I won’t”) makes it impossible for your target to resist you because in effect you’re not instructing her to do anything. “I’m wondering if …” I’m wondering if that warm feeling in your chest now will move downwards to your stomach, and down your thighs and legs. I’m wondering if you will now grab this opportunity right in front of you now and go for it. This Implanted Command works well during value elicitation (Rapport phase) and, as you will see in the Enslavement phase, it is also a potent technique used in delivering the Black Rose Sequence. “You already know …” You already know that it feels good to think of those
happy thoughts, and memories that make you feel excited and joyful. Use this when you are placing anchors that will trigger off positive feelings when triggered (remember to link those wonderful emotions to you!). See the anchoring guide inside the Derek Rake Insiders Lab which you have access to as part of the Shogun Method™ package. “Don’t so quickly…” Don’t fall into trance so quickly… relax and listen to me closely just a little while. This Implanted Command pattern has the benefit of invoking her conscious response and disobeying you but in your favor (What you mean I can’t fall into trance quickly? I’ll do it now!). “You don’t have to, , …” You don’t have to, Jenny, believe every single word as I say as they ring true to your heart and soul. You don’t have to, Maria, feel the excitement as I describe to you the things that we will do together. The “you don’t have to” phrase takes the edge off the command, making it sound informal and somewhat detached (so that it cannot be picked up by her conscious mind). It’s pretty sneaky! “Someone else might …” Someone else might jump at the opportunity in front of her when she finds him to be the soul mate that she has always been looking for. For added power, call out her name in front of the Implanted Command. “One could because…” One could feel comfortable and relax just by hearing what I say because inside she is aware of the truth that I
only have nothing but love for her. “You would , would you not?” You would understand what I tell you, would you not? You would let your eyes close, relax and release all your inhibitions, would you not? “Would you not” is an excellent way to close an Implanted Command because it makes the Command transition into something which seems to be pretty docile. Also, it is designed to be confusing so that it completely stumps the conscious mind, making the Command particularly difficult to block. “I don’t really know if …” I don’t really know if you’re going to like me more than the other guys that you’ve been with. I don’t really know if you’re going to experience joy and ecstasy like you’ve never experienced before. I don’t really know if you’re going to really, really love me. “One might just, you know, ” One might just, you know, relax and let my voice guide you. One might just, you know, sink deep into this wonderful feeling and enjoy this moment with me while it lasts. “You’ll start to notice how good feels, as you …” You’ll start to notice how good your shoulders feel, as you start to relax, take a deep breath and listen to every word that I am going to whisper softly now into your ear. There’s a covert suggestion already hidden in the “good feels” segment, and the following part reinforces this suggestion. This Implanted Command pattern is also useful when you’re doing hardcore emotions and value elicitation like the Black Rose Sequence.
“You’ll never know if …” You’ll never know if spending time with me will open you up to new, exciting and thrilling experiences. You’ll never know if you’re enjoying yourself so much talking to me and sharing with me your most joyful stories. When you say “you’ll never know”, you’re making her mind presuppose what you’re going to say next (i.e. your Implanted Command) to be true. “I wonder if you will … or not.” I wonder if you will spend more time with me and be happier than sticking with your boyfriend… or not. The ‘or not’ phrase at the end is a device to discourage resistance from your target. If she has been responding well to you all along, then you should omit it. “You may ” You may find it easy to talk to me. You may want to relax as we talk. You may like to hear what I say. This is perhaps the Implanted Command with the simplest structure, but you’ll have to carefully blotch the Command in order to make it stand out and work as intended. “Some women may ” Some women may have hidden desires that explode out in the open when they meet a guy who is so right for them. Some women are raving sexual beings under their skin, and will not shed their sexuality for anything in the world. Remember, you’re talking about some women, and not necessarily her. “It’s just so simple to , isn’t
it?” It’s just so simple to agree to everything I say, isn’t it? It’s just so simple to do everything I tell you to do and be really happy for it, isn’t it? You’re “softening” the transition from the “hard” Implanted Command into something which seems to be a harmless question (“isn’t it?”). Also, if something is simple, her subconscious mind will tell her to do it just to validate if it’s indeed simple. Pretty sinister! “You’re able to …” You’re able to enjoy yourself now with me because we have a special connection despite meeting me only for the past hour. You’re able to relax your shoulders and close your eyes. You’re able to understand me on a deeper level because our bond is special. “Finally ” Finally, realize just how we are meant for each other. Finally, feel the sensation fill your body with warmth and comfort. Finally, understand that you should embrace your destiny instead of fighting it. “, , and …” You’re now comfortable sitting down, your shoulders are relaxed, you’re listening to the words I say, and your eyes are now heavy. You want to make your target respond in a series of yes’s internally, so that when you hit her with an Implanted Command, she will ‘follow the pattern’ and obey you. “Someone once told me that …”
My best friend once told me, “You should express your sexuality in all ways possible, since it’s only an extension of love and passion. You shouldn’t be ashamed of it.” By putting your words in other people’s mouth, you have plausible deniability. After all, you wouldn’t say such a thing, would you? “If you , then …” If you imagine being in a place that makes you happy, then you’ll feel relaxed, safe and comfortable. If you feel the warmth all over your body now, then you’re secure, relaxed and happy. This is a classic “cause and effect” statement which really doesn’t make much sense (i.e. the effect is not necessarily related to the cause). However, the mind naturally assumes the connection due to the “if… then” structure. This is, of course, a psychological flaw which you can, and should exploit. “Maybe you haven’t ” OK, so maybe you haven’t, or maybe you have, but when the right guy comes along, you’ll feel just how incompatible you are with your current boyfriend that it pushes you just over the edge and you will dump him for the right guy. This is a powerful Boyfriend Destroyer pattern that you can use to make a woman leave her boyfriend for the right guy (i.e. you). For more ammunition on Boyfriend Destroyers, check out the Boyfriend Destroyer System. “, you can …” Melissa, you can feel good just by listening to me. Danielle, you can close your eyes just to feel better. Elle, you can imagine just how good this feels as the warmth goes up from your stomach to your chest area. Mentioning your target’s name before the Implanted
Command adds to its effectiveness. We automatically sit up and pay attention whenever our name is mentioned. “Would you , or would you instead?” Would you write down your phone number for me now, or would you directly key it into my phone instead? This is referred to in the standard Mind Control knowledge base as the “illusion of choice”. No matter which choice she takes, you benefit. “You could ” You could think about it and still dump your boyfriend when you see him next. You could decide to go out with me and feel really happy about it. You could imagine doing things that you could do if there’s nobody around to watch and judge you. “You don’t have to ” You don’t have to understand why you’re attracted to me… you just have to feel it inside you. This statement presupposes that your target is attracted to you, giving her no opportunity to question if it’s true or not. The second part of the statement shifts her attention to her feelings, thus bypassing her critical thinking which would attempt to evaluate the truth in the first part of the statement. “One might, , ” One might, Irene, feel as if you’ve known me for a long time because we hit it off so quickly after we met. One might, Yvonne, feel relaxed just by listening to my voice. “Maybe you will …” Maybe you will dream of me when you sleep like a baby girl tonight.
Maybe you will realize just how compatible we are, sharing dreams, thoughts and fantasies together. “Would you , or , or ?” Would you live your new, exciting life with me, or would you leave the boyfriend who is treating you so badly? Notice that both options are favorable to you - you’re playing a game that you couldn’t lose. Caution: you shouldn’t go more than three Implanted Commands in this structure because the brain can best cope only with three (or less) pieces of information simultaneously. “You want to now.” You want to relax and close your eyes now. You want to start feeling comfortable in my arms now. The subtle part of this structure is “now”. It strengthens the Implanted Command with a dose of authority. It might backfire if you’ve not build enough rapport for her to trust you, so use with care. “Sooner or later, ” Sooner or later, you’ll realize what’s truly good for you (subtly point to yourself) and grab the opportunity that’s right in front of you. Sooner or later, you will solve your current problems, and start to enjoy life again with me. Sooner or later, you’ll understand that you will leave your boyfriend for someone better (point to yourself). This is what we call “truism” - since virtually everything will happen either sooner or later. Devious! “Other people could, you know, ” Other people could, you know, fall in love instantly the moment they meet the right guy that they have been waiting to meet all their lives.
When you talk about “other people”, you’re not talking about her, which means that her conscious mind can’t pre-judge what you’re going to say. The “you know” phrase is deliberately inserted as a presupposition that she already establishes the Imbedded Command as a fact inside her mind. “Someone wouldn’t even know if …” Someone wouldn’t even know if she finally falls in love with the man in front of him who has everything that she is looking for. Someone wouldn’t even know if you’re going to enjoy yourself with all these new experiences with me. These statements may even be a little perplexing if you are examining them rationally, but it’s structured deliberately like that to bypass her conscious mind. “You might or might not ” You might or might not notice the warm, comforting feeling in your stomach just right below your chest right now. What you’re doing is to make her focus on the feeling in her stomach. If she notices the feeling, she’ll tell you. If she doesn’t feel it, then she might think that she’s just not noticing the feeling which is there. As you’ll see in the Black Rose Sequence in the next chapter on Enslavement, this is a powerful way to elicit sensations in a woman’s body (in the process of enslaving her). “What will happen when you ?” What will happen when you decide to be happy and dump your boyfriend who has been giving you nothing but grief? In order to answer this question, her mind is forced to associate happiness with the act of leaving her
boyfriend. You are also making her imagine the breakup. Remember that in a female mind, there’s no difference between imagining an experience and the actual experience itself. “You might not have felt ” You might or might not have felt the warm sensation now forming in your chest, and now spreading all over your body slowly. You might or might not have felt this excitement when you meet a guy that seems to be destined to be in your life. “It’s hard to try to stop ” It’s hard to try to stop the gush of excitement in your body as we move closer to each other and look each other in the eye, gazing into our collective soul. It’s hard to try to stop the big ball of energy now getting warmer and bigger in your belly. The setup phrase “it’s hard to try to stop…” implies that as your target tries to resist, she fails and will eventually give in to your demand. “A woman might , because ” A woman might fall in love just as quickly, because when she finds a soulmate right in front of her, she will grab the chance to be with him. This structure gives you the opportunity to implant two commands, with the added convinceability of the power connector “because”. “Imagine how it feels when you ” Imagine how it feels when you snuggle up with me on the couch and getting yourself relaxed and comfortable. Imagine how it feels when you’re with your dream guy (subtly point to yourself), and both of us are freely
enjoying ourselves on the peak of a cool mountain. This structure is the classic value elicitation pattern that you’ve already seen in the Rapport phase, and as such, it should be used with plenty of anchoring and conditioning for maximum effect. “Sometime, somewhere, ” Sometime, somewhere, there will be a woman just like you facing a situation like you now who will grab the chance and go for her dreams. Sometime, somewhere, you will decide to embrace your sexuality and understand that it’s just an extension of love and passion for me that’s building up inside you. “You want to because…” You want to go on this adventure with me because you’re always up to try new things and experience new experiences. You want to immerse deeply inside this new sensation because you want to know yourself better. The word “because” adds credence to the Implanted Command - humans are conditioned to believe that by default. “Would you enjoy it if you ?” Would you enjoy it if you start to relax and feel comfortable in my arms? Would you enjoy it if you close your eyes and fantasize about this faraway land of fairy tales which you are going to visit with me? Would you enjoy it if I touch your body and hug you? In the last example, notice that the question is not whether you should do it or not (which then gives the opportunity to the conscious part of her mind to reject you). The question itself presupposes the action which is favorable to you. “I won’t tell you to
because…” I won’t tell you to fall in love with me right here, right now because I want it to come naturally to you. I won’t tell you to close your eyes right now and imagine you’re living your dreams and acting out your wildest fantasy with me because you’ll do it on your own terms. Notice that your target can’t “disagree” with you because you won’t tell her to do anything anyway. Also, the word “because” has the added effect of imposed authority which strengthens the Implanted Command on a subconscious level.
REPEL Her Using Devalidation The conventional wisdom says that it’s the guy’s job to chase, and the female’s job to push the guy away. That’s nonsense. As far as we are concerned, it’s the guy’s job to do both. This is also how the Shogun Method™ is different. “Pickup Artists” focus entirely on the chase, while Shogun Method™ practitioners both entice and repel in order to attract. Enticement is never enough. When you have sufficiently enticed a woman, to deepen attraction, you need to push her away. Novices often make the mistake of attempting to entice a woman too much - up to the point when she feels uncomfortable. You’ve got to know when you’ve generated enough interest in your target that you must start to repel her. When you push her away, it immediately intensifies attraction. At the same time, it also makes her feel more comfortable as you’ve now stopped trying to get into her pants since you’re pushing her away. Her conscious selfdefense mechanism temporarily eases (or shuts down altogether) to your advantage. To deepen attraction, you need to push her away To repel a woman, you Devalidate her.
In the previous section, you’ve now learned how to use Implanted Commands to entice your target. Devalidation is the other side of the same coin. If you’re going to use Implanted Commands to subconsciously entice a woman, then you should be using Devalidation techniques to consciously repel a woman. Implanted Commands subconsciously entice a woman, while Devalidation consciously repels her Notice that unlike Implanted Commands which work on the subconscious, when you’re repelling a woman with Devalidation, you’re working on her conscious mind. In other words, you want her to consciously KNOW and FEEL that you are deliberately pushing her away. There are three tactics you can use to Devalidate a woman: 1. Mixed signals 2. Negative body language 3. Break Point Next, let’s explore each of these tactics in greater detail.
Devalidation Via Mixed Signals When you deliver your Implanted Commands during an ENTICE cycle{25}, it’s natural to project interest, but it also will make her guard go up because you’re essentially trying to get something out of her. To negate this possibly harmful effect, you can Devalidate her by sending out “Mixed Signals” with this verbal structure: “ + ” In the following examples, the Positive Emotion is in bold, while the Negative Emotion is in italics. “I kinda like you. But I’m really not sure…” “Wow, I’m impressed. So far, I mean. In the next five minutes you may say something silly and completely ruin it.” You may hug her, and then immediately push her away
and say: “That’s just like hugging my little sister.” You can hold her hand, and say, “We can do this, but don’t get any funny ideas.” You can kiss her on the cheek, and then say, “Alright, that’s all you gonna get from me.” “You’re pretty fun to be with… maybe because you’re weird, and you giggle like a little girl.” “You’re nice. Maybe a little too nice. I like nasty.” “You’re nice to talk to. But you’ve been spraying saliva all over my face for the past five minutes.” Of course, you’ll readily notice that this is a variation of the One Sentence Fractionation pattern that you’ve already seen earlier. When using it to repel women, however, you want to place more emphasis on the Negative Emotion than the Positive{26}. For more ideas on how to structure your sentences around the sending of mixed signals, refer to the appendix on Fractionation.
Devalidation Via Negative Body Language What you portray in your body language can be more powerful than what you say. Non-verbal cues are picked up more easily by a woman than verbal cues. The female subconscious is tuned to detect changes in body language to a high degree. To Devalidate your target, you demonstrate disinterest to what she says To Devalidate your target using negative body language, you demonstrate disinterest by showing little to no reaction to what she says. Recall that in the Rapport phase that you don’t want to be the one carrying the weight of the conversation. Instead, you want her to be the one seeking to build rapport with you (not the other way around). You want her to be the one who is “trying harder” because that implies that your Desirability is higher than hers.
This can be achieved through body language in two primary ways: 1. Face your body away from her while she faces you. Turning your back on her will immediately and abruptly break rapport. 2. Gaze away from her once in a while to look at other people as if you’re losing interest. Be careful not to overdo this (good eye contact is necessary to maintain a inimum level of interest). How do you know enough is enough? When do you stop portraying negative body language? Here’s a tip. As you turn your body away, look out for her trying to turn to face you more. Is she actively trying to maintain rapport with you as you try to break it? The fear of loss causes a woman to react and try to recapture your attention and validation
Devalidation Via The Break Point The Break Point is introduced to send a discreet signal to her that your interest is waning. And unless she does something spectacular to win your attention, you will go away, perhaps to talk to another woman. This fear of loss naturally causes her to quickly react and try to recapture your attention and validation. You communicate the Break Point both verbally (“OK, you’re losing me… fast”) and through negative body language. Usually you would start with your eyes as you turn your gaze away from her. Then, slowly move your body away from her (but at the same time, give her the time and opportunity to reel you back in). As you do this, here’s the ideal reaction that you want from her: as your eyes start to look over her and your body starts to turn away, she would come closer to you, grab your arm, and ask you a series of hopelessly irrelevant questions in the hope of recapturing your attention.
If, however, she doesn’t react the way that you want her to, then it means that you have not ENTICED her enough before for you to REPEL her. This is not a big problem - you should simply fall back to “Entice” mode and tell her stories with Implanted Commands to rebuild attraction and desire.
Two Devalidation Mistakes That You Must Avoid When you’re actively attracting her, you’re at the risk of projecting too much interest. By repelling her, you get her to ease up and lower her self-defense mechanism. When you Devalidate your target, be careful so that you don’t make these two common mistakes:1. Going too far. You should never flat out insult her (“You’re one snotty little bitch, aren’t ya?”) to the point of no return. Remember: you want to be playful, not rude. 2. Building too much comfort. You should quickly go back to ENTICE mode as you continue to build more attraction. You should know that you practically can’t “overdo” attraction - which means that you should keep alternating between ENTICE and REPEL until your Endpoint is reached. Here’s a good rule of thumb to follow: if you’re in doubt, always REPEL. If you’ve built enough attraction, she will always come back no matter how hard you REPEL her. The following Shogun Sequences have been designed to be used in the Attraction phase. Each of these has been developed to include both ENTICE and REPEL strategies - see if you can identify those elements in the verbatims below. Of course, as you get better, you should come up with your own Sequences based on the same principles and infused with your personal stories and experiences. Don’t forget to use Rollercoastering techniques in order to make your stories more compelling and hypnotic.
Shared Similarities Sequence Shogun Stage: (3) Attraction Flaw To Exploit: Shared Experiences Description: This Shogun Sequence works on the same basis as the Shared Experience tactic{27} which you will learn in the next chapter. Instead of sharing experience, you want to induce the feelings and thoughts related to the similarities that you share with the target. You: “Hmm… I’ve overlooked this thing about you…” (Keep quiet for a few seconds as you look around) Her: “What’s that?” You: “…about how really similar both of us are. It’s as if there’s a mysterious force which brings us together and creates this special connection between us, holding us so tightly together. I think it’s wonderful that we come together and get to feel such closeness and warmth in our bodies that we’ve never felt before. We are so connected on so many levels… emotionally, spiritually and physically…” Notice that the Sequence warms her up to kinesthetic with phrases which imply physicality (“brings us together”, “tightly together”, “closeness and warmth in our bodies”, “connected… physically”).
Dream Guy Sequence Shogun Stage: (3) Attraction, (2) Rapport Flaw To Exploit: Future Projection Description: With this Shogun Sequence, you’ll get her to imagine her dream guy vividly, and consequently, to project the characteristics of her dream guy on you. This closely mirrors the value elicitation technique that you have already seen, and as such, it can also be used in the Rapport phase.
“Every woman who is mature and serious has got a clear idea what she is looking for in a boyfriend or a partner.” (She will quickly identify with this, since there is not one woman who thinks of herself as immature or not serious!) “Have you ever met guys and dated them only to find out they seem to have one or two things that you don’t like? Or even, you may have even had a boyfriend whom you discover to have some flaws that you found out only when you’ve been dating him for some time.” (Every guy is bound to have flaws, and you’re making her feel extra aware of the flaws of her boyfriend if she is attached.) “Have you met a guy who seems to be so perfect in so many ways, and he has so much to offer and you just can’t believe your luck that you’ve found him? You’re having so much fun just being with him, and instead of trying to look for his flaws, you’re just accepting whatever he offers you.” (Anchor those characteristics to you when you say this. You’re setting yourself up to play a game that you can’t lose - even if she finds some flaws with you later, she is conditioned to accept them).
Perfect Boyfriend Sequence Shogun Stage: (3) Attraction Flaw To Exploit: Imagination Is Reality Description: This Shogun Sequence works well on both single and attached women, although we tend to like use it on women with boyfriends with reasons that will become apparent to you. First, you get her to describe her dream guy. The trick here is to get her to be as vivid as possible as she describes her “Perfect Boyfriend”: 1. What he looks like (what he is wearing, how his hair looks, what he sounds like, etc) 2. What he says to her
3. How he makes her feel (how it feels to be in his arms, etc) When she is describing her “Perfect Boyfriend”, she is experiencing the same feelings as if she is already facing him at that very moment. And guess what, she’s facing YOU, and you can transfer the same intense feelings to YOU. In short, you are covertly getting her to project her “Perfect Boyfriend” fantasy onto YOU. A variation of this Shogun Sequence involves making her fantasize about a movie star so that you can similarly transfer and project that fantasy onto you. Here’s an example You: “If Brad Pitt walks right in, what are you gonna do?” Her: “I’m gonna catch his attention, of course.” You: “When you’ve gotten his attention, what then?” Her: “Well… I will flirt and seduce him!” You: “What would you do to seduce Brad Pitt?” Again, get her to vividly describe what she would do to seduce Brad Pitt, and at the same time covertly “transfer” the emotions to you. This can be made via anchoring and conditioning - use the guide which we have published inside the Derek Rake Insider Labs. Yet another variation of this Sequence has notably given birth to the original Boyfriend Destroyer routine. Here, you will get her to compare her boyfriend with the idealized version of her dream guy, making her boyfriend look deficient in every way, thus destroying him.
7 Enslavement
None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe they are free. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Once you have successfully seduced your target (i.e. you have reached your Endpoint in the Attract stage), the next step (if you choose to take it) is to ensure that the connection is not broken. A woman, at any time, is vulnerable to be seduced by other men with higher levels Mind Control skills Now understand that this is nowhere as trivial as you may think because of the following reason - she is vulnerable to getting seduced by other men who may have a higher-level Mind Control skills than you. These “other men” may be those who are grandmasters at Mind Control (the MKDELTA group is full of these types), or even guys who are learning the Shogun Method™ as you are doing now. Thus, in order to preserve the bond with her that you have forged (after going through the first three steps inside the IRAE Model - creating Intrigue, developing Rapport and building Attraction), you are left with the following two options. The first option is to bet on her self-control, conscience and willpower to overcome the
temptations to stray and cheat on you. Even if you have access to Enslavement knowledge, you don’t have to use it until it becomes an absolute necessity Theoretically, this is the most honorable strategy, but in reality, it’s often useless. Using reason to convince a woman to love you is futile, especially when the other guy is armed with nuclear-grade Mind Control tactics (like the Shogun Method™) that exploit her emotional flaws to steal her from you. The second option is to enslave her - so that she is yours for the keeping for as long as you want. Like everything else you seen inside the Shogun Method™ so far, this sounds more sinister than what it really is. And yet I want you to understand that it is not possible to undo the effects of what you have done on a woman using what I am about to share with you next. Start by dipping your toes and see how cold the water is. Realize that even if you have access to this knowledge, you don’t have to utilize it until it becomes an absolute necessity. The techniques I am about to show you have been used (and continue to be used) in many morally dubious ways throughout history by psychopaths, cult leaders and dictators. I want you to understand that they can be as equally effective when used for positive reasons. For the rest of this chapter, remove the moral or value judgments from each of the examples that I am going to show you next, and the underlying social dynamics and constructs will become clear to you.
How To Segregate Her From The Outside World Teenagers abandon their loving families to join cults and gangs. Partnerships in businesses break up abruptly, and without warning. Wives leave their twenty-year marriages for men they just met for a week. These occurrences are pretty commonplace.
Organizations which are successful recognize this phenomenon. They compensate for it by segregating themselves, drawing strict boundaries that separate its members from the outside world. Some may think that this is repugnant and yet it is pretty much pervasive in our everyday lives. All cults require their adherents to abandon their ties with people who do not subscribe to their dogma Some religions and (all) cults require their adherents to abandon their ties with people who do not subscribe to their dogma. Followers are encouraged to mix only with each other instead with those who belong to other faiths. Leaders of multi-level marketing schemes routinely tell their members to only associate themselves with similarly minded people; others who don’t “get it” will sabotage their success out of jealousy. Teenagers form close-knit gangs and avoid hanging out with those which are not “on the inside”. The list of examples goes on. In a similar vein, enslavement of your target requires her segregation from the outside world. Segregation can be done physically and emotionally. Physical segregation is illegal (without consent) and can often be dangerous - it’s something that we cannot, and will never, recommend. We shall, therefore, focus on emotional segregation instead. The tactics I am going to share with you in this chapter will help you to build a strong emotional barrier that separates the target that you want to control from those who want to break her free from your control. Emotional segregation, however, carries one major risk: if you segregate your target too quickly, her panic buttons may be pushed and she may well suffer from withdrawal symptoms. Indeed, many women are too fragile to be immediately cut off from their comfort zone. It is therefore foolish to keep your target “disconnected” from the outside world for too long without anything comforting in sight. Therefore, once you have successfully segregated your target, you must
immediately introduce to her things that will make her feel comfortable again which are completely under your control{28}. Many women are too fragile to be immediately cut off from their comfort zone
Segregation Tactic #1: Shared Experiences I once spent three days at a 75-acre farm in Suzhou, China as a guest of a group of 100 men and women that most would consider as a cult. All the signs pointing to the inner workings of a cult were there - charismatic leaders (one of which was recruited directly from our MKDELTA group) and strange rites dictating what the members can wear, talk and eat. The event was designed as a bootcamp to teach the cult members how to develop their intuition through guided meditation. And yet, over the course of 72 hours, the actual meditation done was over less than an hour. The remaining time was spent on the bizarre rites and shared experiences. They said their prayers and offered thanks to their deity together. They walked on hot coals together. They cook, ate and washed together. When I asked my MKDELTA friend on what was happening, he told me, “Derek, the meditation is secondary. The bonding experience is more important.” At the end of the three-day bootcamp, everyone sat together to offer their thoughts about the program. Each and every one of them enthused about the fun they had and the bonding experience; not one of them talked about meditation. To enslave a woman, you don’t have to whisk her away to a faraway land. You only have to deliberately introduce experiences{29} which you can share with her (which involves only both of you) – good and bad. A shared experience works even if it is negative A shared experience works even if it is negative. Humans often form extraordinarily strong bonds even
under dreadful circumstances such as war, famine and other similarly disastrous situations. Imagine a picnic date in the park suddenly “marred” by a heavy downpour, drenching you and your date while you run for cover under a tree. Or, a road trip to the outback “ruined” by a flat tire. These are the moments that couples cherish more than, say, the perfect dinner-and-movie date, although they may seem to be particularly troublesome at the time. Advanced Shogun Method™ practitioners often deliberately introduce “disaster” in the date in order to create compelling shared experiences. These are the same principles that make a Mind Control technique such as Fractionation work so well - the inducement of negative emotions is an amazingly effective way to exploit the female mind’s hidden addiction for drama. All in all, Shared Experiences is a numbers game - the more experiences you share with your target (both good and bad), the more committed she will be to the relationship.
Segregation Tactic #2: Shared Secrets The Shared Secrets segregation tactic is similar to Shared Experiences, and works exceptionally well when used together. Letting a target know a secret confirms in her mind that she is special A good salesman never gives away every bit of information regarding his product. Instead, he waits for the appropriate time to “let you in on a secret.” Letting your target know a secret confirms that she is special. When this secret is shared only between you and your target, you create a strong bond which only gets more powerful over time… as long as both of you keep the secret. This bond serves to nurture a sense of commitment within the relationship, as well as reducing the influence
of outsiders on the relationship. In particular, you can use this to neutralize those attempting to use Boyfriend Destroyer techniques on her. Sharing and maintaining of secrets is a bread-andbutter Mind Control tactic among many cults and fraternities. It’s also a natural phenomenon among groups of people socializing together for a long time, and in those situations, it’s not deliberately deployed as an Enslavement device. Regardless of intent, sharing of secrets with a woman who is already attracted to you{30} is a potent Enslavement tactic which will psychologically segregate her from the outside world.
Segregation Tactic #3: Prophesy Ronald F. LeBlanc, the world-famous sales trainer once told me over a private chat session hosted by the MKDELTA, “Derek, there’s this subtle tactic that I teach my salesmen that discourages their customers from going elsewhere to do business.” My interest was immediately piqued; I knew that whatever he told me would be readily applicable to dating and relationships. “Which is?” I asked. “I call this tactic, ‘Prophesy’. When the customer starts to get restless and wants to go shop elsewhere, I first disarm her, by encouraging her to do so. Then, I’ll suggest that she will just be wasting her time by “predicting’ what happens when she goes see a competitor. For example, I’ll say, feel free to go to shop so-and-so, but there will be higher prices, or smaller variety, or less flexibility.” “OK. But how does that help you?” I asked. He smiled. “Simple! If the customer is convinced and decides to stay put, I win. If the customer decides to go to the other shop, discovers that what I said was true and then comes back, I win. If she doesn’t return, well, I’m no worse off than before!” Cults use the “Prophesy” tactic when they recruit new
members into their group. For example, they “prophesize” that a new joiner would be mocked and derided by her friends and family for her decision to join the cult. Similarly, doctors also use this tactic on their patients: when asked if they (the patients) would get better, his stock “Prophesy” answer would be: “It will get worse for the next few days before it gets better.” If the patient gets better immediately, then she will credit the doctor’s treatment. On the other hand, if it indeed gets worse, she will also credit the doctor for his “accurate” prediction. Either way, the doctor wins. Now think for a moment how you can apply this strategy on your target. In particular, you can use it to “inoculate” your target against any attempts by other guys to seduce her or use Boyfriend Destroyer sequences on her. For example, you can say, “You’re free to go with him, of course. But you should already know some things about him which are not ideal now, something undesirable, or something that annoys you… and you will find more and more of these undesirable things as you know him more.” Of course, to protect your woman from getting preyed on by men who know Boyfriend Destroyers, you may also consider another option which can seem to be at least more morally palatable. You can treat her more nicely and lovingly that she wouldn’t consider leaving you for another man, for example. However, as you should already know, this option wouldn’t be practical simply because not a lot of women are capable of being so loyal. In order to preserve the relationship, you must see the female’s nature for what it is and do what can seem to be morally repugnant by the society.
Segregation Tactic #4: Hearsay Hearsay is regularly used as a Mind Control device to make the victim feel insecure, ruining her relationships
with other people To the rational mind, hearsay is untrustworthy. But, as you already know, the female mind is hardly (read: never) rational. To a woman, hearsay is often taken as the truth, especially if the information has been deliberately hidden from her for a good reason. As you’d expect, the “Hearsay” technique is regularly used as a Mind Control device by many expert manipulators and con artists. It is often used to make the victim feel deeply insecure, and to exploit that insecurity to ruin the victim’s relationships with other people. Like the “Prophesy” technique, you can use it on your target to inoculate her against the advances of another man, or more insidiously, to destroy her relationship with her boyfriend if she has one. You can deploy this tactic more effectively when you’ve got an accomplice or a pawn who can spread hearsay on your behalf. Imagine a scenario where you can get your accomplice to tell her, “Do you know how proud he is to have you as his woman? He’s been bragging to his friends about how happy he is that he has got someone as smart and sexy like you as his partner. I don’t think he’ll tell this to you straight because he thinks he might embarrass you. Just so you know.” By revealing this to her on a “second hand” basis via the accomplice, the impact is much stronger. Similarly, you can use an accomplice to spread hearsay about her boyfriend, or anyone you want her to be segregated from. I’ll leave it to your imagination and creativity to come up with ideas that you can get your accomplice to feed her to completely destroy her boyfriend.
Segregation Tactic #5: Role Reversal You’ve already learned some Role Reversal tactics in the Rapport Stage where you make your target carry the burden of building rapport gradually as you move up in terms of Desirability levels. Given enough inducement
and plenty of space, a woman will seduce herself for you. Throughout the Shogun Method™ you’ve learned to play the role of the aggressor. As you progress from the Intrigue stage up until Enslavement, your target’s comfort levels increase as she plays along. Yet, as the level of predictability goes up your Desirability may falter. From time to time, and especially when you detect that your target is becoming too used to your advances, you need to inject some unpredictability into the equation. The best way to do this is to hint to her that you’re interested in another woman. You need to inject some unpredictability into a relationship to prevent it from going stale Of course, you must never make this explicit (remember that the Precondition #2 of the Shogun Method™: you must mask your intentions until the seduction is complete). You imply this by being a little more detached as usual, looking and sounding bored when you are with her. In fact, you may want to reduce the frequency of which you see her. Even better, start canceling dates at the very last minute. You want to make her sense it{31}, and let her own imagination do the dirty work for you. Soon, she will want to possess you completely, and any pre-existing doubts about you that she has will simply vanish into thin air.
The Endpoint of The Shogun Method™ The first step of Enslavement is to segregate your target from the rest of the world. Once isolated, she will be completely at your mercy - like a lamb to the slaughter, figuratively speaking. All your training inside the Shogun Method™ leads to this eventuality that you are going to reach now. In the next section, you will be armed with the single biggest, baddest Shogun Sequence that will complete the seduction and enslave her to you - forever if you choose
to. I hope you’re ready. To perform the Black Rose Sequence effectively, you must first segregate your target This Shogun Sequence is known as the Black Rose. It is the most advanced technique inside the Shogun Method™, and will require you to be an expert at all the core Shogun Method™ concepts like Fractionation, anchoring, conditioning, intrigue building, Rollercoastering, creating Implanted Commands, Devalidating, and manipulation of the flaws of the female mind. Once you see it in action, you will appreciate just how powerful it is. If you have jumped ahead just to see the Black Rose, don’t attempt to use it because you won’t be able to pull it off if you’re not adequately skilled in the core Shogun Method™ techniques that I have mentioned earlier. Also, truth be told, you might not even need to use the Black Rose especially if you’re contented with the ability to attract any woman (and not necessarily to enslave them). In a majority of cases, the first three stages of the IRAE Model (namely Intrigue, Rapport and Attract) are sufficient for most men in getting what they want out of love and dating. This is the final point where you can put an end to your Shogun Method™ journey without learning the ultimate Enslavement tool – the Black Rose Sequence. After this, there is no turning back, and your eyes will be opened forever, for better or for worse. Turn the page only if and when you’re willing, and ready.
Black Rose Sequence The Black Rose Sequence marks the ultimate Endpoint of the Shogun Method™. It is certainly the definitive, and without a doubt the most powerful Shogun Sequence that we at DerekRakeHQ have ever developed. And with a little bit of practice, you will be able to deploy this Sequence to enslave any woman you lay your eyes on. Moving beyond seduction, you can pretty much use this on any man or woman to get anything you want. This is why I’ve deliberately suppressed this information and put it at the end of the Shogun Method™ course. You’ve successfully gone through the entire program, and you’ve now found the holy grail of Mind Control Seduction, so congratulations. The Black Rose Sequence is the culmination of everything that you have studied inside the Shogun Method™. Rather than merely reciting the Sequence line-by-line, I will teach you on how to attain a deeper understanding of how it works, which is considerably more powerful and useful – for seduction and anything else. You’ll discover how to use a Shogun Method™ concept that you already know - namely eliciting values and emotions - and combining it with visualization and kinesthetic (which again, you should already be familiar with), amplifying the combination of feelings, and finally linking that explosion of feelings and sensations to you (via anchoring). Before we go in deeper with the Black Rose Sequence, let me pre-warn you that this is advanced material: consider it a Ph.D. in seduction and Mind Control if you will. As such, I am going to assume that you already have developed a strong understanding of the inner workings of the Shogun Method™. If you find yourself
stuck, revisit the appropriate section of the Shogun Method™ for clarity.
Four Petals Of The Black Rose There are four main parts (or “Petals”) that make up the Black Rose Sequence: 1. Fractionation 2. Anchoring 3. Alter Ego Creation 4. Transmutation Petal #1: Fractionation We have already covered Fractionation in great detail, but just to recap, it’s a process where you pull your target in by building rapport, and then break rapport, and then you pull her back in again so that you build a stronger level of rapport than the last time. You should also realize that we have only discussed the use of Fractionation within the context of love and attraction. It has a broader use in hypnosis where a subject is brought in and out of the state of trance in order to deepen the experience of getting hypnotized into trance. In seduction, Fractionation is particularly effective in generating intense pleasure and pain in a woman. You can create a pleasurable state in a woman by making her describe her happy experiences, and then quickly induce a painful state by prompting her mind to think sad or traumatic thoughts. When you guide her back into a pleasure state later, she will experience happy feelings which are more intensely pleasurable. What you want to do is to fractionate her from pleasure to pain, and then to pleasure again, swinging back and forth like the pendulum of a clock. Petal #2: Anchoring Anchoring is never done on its own. In the case of the
Black Rose, it’s performed when you are fractionating your target. Anchoring is never done on its own, and is usually part of a combination of other Mind Control techniques, like Fractionation This is how anchoring works in combination with Fractionation: when you get her to talk about positive experiences, wait until she gets into state (refer back to the Social Calibration System in the chapter on Rapport). When this happens, place an anchor by gesturing to yourself (i.e. self-point), or gently touch a non-sexual part of her body. You should already be familiar with the anchoring and conditioning technique and what its uses are. You’re doing this to give you an “access point” to trigger off the associated emotions next time whenever your situation calls for it. Similarly, when you get her into a negative state, again, place an anchor, but in this case, you may want to gesture away from yourself so that you anchor that negative feeling to outside elements. If she has a boyfriend, for example, you may want to place that anchor on him (difficult, but possible), or simply associate him with that negative feeling with a Shogun Sequence of your choice. Remember also to stack your anchors: get her through multiple pleasurable emotions and anchor all of them to you. Stacked anchors are more powerful than “singular” ones. Once placed and ingrained into their subconscious, it will be the key to her eventual (and perpetual) Enslavement to you. Stack your anchors by getting her through multiple pleasurable emotions and anchor all of them to you Similarly, you want to anchor her sadness and trauma away from you, so that her emotions go on a nose dive with your absence. Again, this will get her to be addicted to your presence as long as the anchor is unbroken.
When done in combination, both anchoring and Fractionation will create an emotional distortion inside a woman’s mind, making her feel disconnected from the outside world. At the same time, it makes her feel comfortable and safe in your presence. Over prolonged periods of time, this makes her feel dependent on you emotionally, and whenever she is not with you, she will feel sick, disoriented and perhaps even nauseous (depending on how much you make her fractionate). Petal #3: Alter Ego Creation In the Intrigue stage, you have discovered the duality nature of the female, and correspondingly, you can use the “Jekyll & Hyde” Shogun Sequence to plant seeds of intrigue in the female mind. In the Alter Ego Creation part of the Black Rose Sequence, you again work on this particular flaw in the female mind to install two different identities in your target. The first identity is the “Social Face” identity. It’s the identity which complies with social norms. It’s the “face” that she wears to school, work and everywhere else. The second identity is the “Alter Ego”. It’s her real, authentic self which is free (emotionally, physically and sexually) from the society’s rules, regulations and expectations. You’re creating these two very distinct identities inside her in order to guide her to transmutate from her “Social Face” identity to her “Alter Ego”, which we will cover in the next part: Transmutation. Transmutation is the changing from one state to another. Specifically inside the Black Rose Sequence, transmutation is where you get her out from the shell of her “Social Face” and morph into her “Alter Ego” which is truer to her authentic self. You want her to embrace the uninhibited part of her psychology, guiding her to open up to you about the
inner workings of her soul, sharing with you her deepest (and often darkest) desires and fantasies. This marks an essential step to her enslavement to you emotionally and psychologically. You intensify the feelings inside a woman using synesthesia – the association of emotions with colors and shapes Petal #4: Transmutation Transmutation is like a cluster bomb inside your arsenal of Mind Control seduction techniques: it attacks her multiple senses all at once. Using Transmutation, you want to perform visualization together with your target in order to work on her subconscious. You want to first put her in a pleasurable state, making the feeling becoming more intense, and in some cases, even making her feel aroused. In order to magnify the intensity of the feeling inside her, you want to make her see the color of her feelings. This association of feelings with color is known as synesthesia, and remains an underexplored branch of neuroscience (although its usage in Mind Control has been well documented in groups like MKDELTA). You want her to associate a feeling with a color so that the visualization becomes more real to her. Remember: the key to successful transmutation is to make the experience as vivid as possible. What you want to do is to get her subconscious to make the link between her feelings with a color that she already has in her mind. Once she has established this link, you want her to move the feeling around her body, and then out of the body and get it back in again (remember spatial Fractionation). You will then intensify the feeling and associate it with a sensation inside her body. This is how you create the body sensation: first, get her to describe how it feels, and then, guide her to where the feeling flows to in her body.
Remember to guide her to where the feeling flows to in her body For example, let’s say you elicit the feeling of ecstasy in your target. You then get her to visualize the morphing of the feeling into colored energy, which she then moves around her body, increasing the intensity of the color. Then, Fractionation kicks in: as the colored energy peaks in intensity, pull it out of the body by making her visualize the feeling seeping out, vanishing into thin air. As you then put the colored energy back into her body, the feeling becomes even more intense. (If all these are somewhat vague or conceptual at this moment – don’t worry as we shall go into some practical examples later.)
Hitting Her Senses From All Angles When you’re performing Transmutation on your target, you’ll be stimulating her across multiple senses: via touch, voice and imagery (visualization). You’ll be hitting her senses across multiple modalities: kinesthetically, aurally and visually. You’re guiding her Transmutation using your voice, and at the same time you’re touching the parts of her body to make the colored energy flow to wherever you want. What makes the Black Rose Sequence particularly unique is that you share the experience with her, rather than running the Sequence on her. You’re not seducing her, but you’re inducting her in a process of mutual seduction and enslavement. This is why it can be dangerous in the hands of the novice with zero knowledge of the Shogun Method™. Used incorrectly, it will not only harm the target, but also the seducer. What’s unique about the Black Rose Sequence is that you share the experience with her, rather than running the Sequence on her
Warning The Black Rose Sequence is not something you use to approach women. In fact, you don’t even deploy it in the early and intermediate stages of seduction. Inside the Shogun Method™, it’s designed as an Enslavement strategy (the final stage “E” inside the IRAE Model), and for good reason. Black Rose Sequence is an endgame strategy, and as such, it’s not designed for early stages of seduction Now even past the third IRAE stage (Attraction), when you attempt to use the Black Rose on a woman whom you have already generated a good amount of attraction, you can still come across as weird if you don’t use it congruently. Here’s the solution to this problem: say that you’ve got a new game that you want to introduce her to, or a new esoteric technique that you want to show her that will reveal a hidden side of her. Women dig that sort of thing. Like with any other Shogun Sequence, you need to preface it with at least a couple of minutes of reestablishing rapport (use a couple of techniques that you have learned in the Rapport chapter).
Black Rose Sequence: Example Verbatim Step #1: Build Rapport & Fractionate First, you introduce a personal story with Rollercoaster elements (see the Companion Guide). This is where you get her to fractionate, and as appropriate, create and place anchors as you go along. Example – “I was watching the Green Mile on Netflix last week and you know, I was watching it and I was thinking that I haven’t seen Michael Clarke Duncan in any new movies for a long time. So I googled his name and I found out that he had actually died…” “He seemed to be pretty healthy until he suddenly had a
heart attack and died… I felt so bad reading about it because I knew exactly the pain that his family members had to go through… because not long along my Grandpa passed away with me sitting right beside him on his deathbed…” “I remembered him holding my hand and telling me in a frail voice that he was very scared to die… and as I was sitting there looking at him, with all the tubes going into his nose, arms and body, looking very frail and there was fear, real fear in his eyes…” “At that moment, I wondered what it must feel like when you’re going to die… what flies across your mind, like, the things you had always wanted to do but didn’t… like, did you have the courage to quit your job and chase after your dreams… or, like, did you risk it with the person that you have fallen in love with…” “Losing my Grandpa haunted me for a long, long time… and yet it made me realize what I truly treasure in life… that I must take chances if I really want to be happy…” “Then, a friend gave me this old book passed to him by a Buddhist monk in Tibet, and according to this book, we as humans need to suffer through pain in order to fully appreciate the pleasures in life.” Now let’s analyze the example above, blow-by-blow. I first introduced pain in the conversation by talking about the death of my Grandpa, and further intensifying that pain by going through the details (tubes into the body signifying physical pain; his frail voice and fear signifying emotional pain). Then, I switched over to pleasure with the Tibetan Buddhist monk story arc. Here, I’m also developing rapport as I am relating a personal story which she should be able to relate to. As you’ve seen in the Shared Secrets technique I’ve uncovered as a Segregation tactic in the previous section, revealing a secret or a past history is a strong rapport building device.
Step #2: Smooth Transition Once you have developed rapport with her and get her to fractionate through at least one cycle of pain/pleasure, then you should move in with the Transmutation step. If you’re going to do it abruptly and say it outright that you want her to imagine a happy occasion, then she might be awakened from the light trance which you have induced in her through Fractionation, objecting to your advances. Instead, you should smoothly transition by continuing the Tibetan Buddhist monk story: “What my friend taught me was also this meditation technique that the Buddhist monk had shown her. When done correctly, it will reveal to you your hidden self, and a path to enlightenment, happiness and eternal fulfillment.” Step #3: Transmutation: Value Elicitation From here, elicit her values through the “meditation technique” of the Buddhist monk. “According to the monk, enlightened beings have this ability to see the color of a feeling, or a musical note, or particular taste in food. I can show you how this is done. First, close your eyes.” At this moment, assuming that you have successfully gotten her to fractionate earlier, she will automatically obey your commands. However, do not self-sabotage by asking her for permission, for example, “Do you want to learn this technique?” Don’t give her the opportunity to quit at any moment. Once she has closed her eyes, you can elicit her values. There are a couple of Shogun Sequences which can be deployed to do this, but my particular favorite is the Strawberry Fields sequence below (a full version can be found inside the Dark Rake Method). “What I want you to imagine right now is that you’re in the middle of a field… and you see a large field with some big, juicy, tasty strawberries. Picture this in your
mind… a large field with lots of red strawberries. Now I want you to tell me, what do you see?” She might say something like: “It’s a big, green field with the sun right on top of my head. Some big trees on a hill with bright, blue skies.” The more vivid her imagination gets, the better it is. “Now look at the strawberries. How do they look like?” She might say: “Big, red and really luscious looking.” “Now imagine yourself picking some of those red, luscious strawberries, and then walking up to one of those big trees. You sit down under the tree and start eating them. How do they taste?” She might say: “They are nice, wet and juicy… they are very tasty.” “How do you feel as you taste the nice, wet and juicy strawberries inside your mouth? Do you feel the passion and excitement as you continue eating the big, red, luscious strawberries?” “Yes.” “Now feel this passion inside your body right now. Picture it clearly in your mind right now, and feel it right now inside your body.” I am issuing repeated commands to her in order to elicit the feeling of passion in her body. The key here is the phrase “right now” which is a hypnotic command that addresses both the conscious and the subconscious. Next, locate the feeling that you have elicited, and further intensify it by moving it around her body. “Where is this feeling in your body?” She might say: “On my chest.” “You feel that feeling of passion on your chest. Now make it flow downwards in your body. Where is it now?” “It’s flowing down to my stomach… and to my legs…”
Encourage her. “OK, good. Now feel it around your inner thighs… and back upwards, into your stomach, and up your chest again, and now slowly… up your neck and into your arms and face.” At this point, you may notice her face turning red, or the twitching of facial muscles (refer back to the Social Calibration System section in the Rapport chapter for more guidance on this). These are signs of deepening rapport and intensifying state of trance. Periodically, reaffirm her and ask her how it feels again with suggestions: “Good. How does it feel now? Does it tingle?” Now move again around her body, repeating the cycle. Encourage and reaffirm her, and plant suggestions about how the feeling feels in her mind (hot, exciting, warm, tingling, pleasurable etc.). The more you do this, the more intense the feeling is. Step #4: Transmutation: Color Symbolism The next step is to turn this feeling into a color. “OK, now I want you to concentrate on this feeling, and you are starting to notice that this feeling is turning into a color. Tell me… what color is it?” She might say: “Red.” Now that she has symbolized the feeling into a color (Red), you now need to manipulate the color and make it be even more intense. “Now with each breath you take, the red feeling gets a little warmer and intense… it gets brighter and brighter as you breathe…” Next, you need to anchor this positive feeling to you. Now use your left hand and motion it to “capture” this feeling in front of her chest (or wherever the feeling is on her body). Brush your hand lightly on her body so that she notices it with her eyes closed. Now, say: “I am now holding this red ball of energy here
in my left hand… and see in my mind that this ball of energy getting brighter and bigger as I put it on your body…” Now press your palm on her body. “Now as I pull it away, the feeling goes away slowly… and slowly…until it’s gone.” Pull your hand away. Repeat this cycle so that she fractionates, getting deeper and deeper into trance as you go along. Say, for example: “Now I am bringing the feeling back and closer to you, and this feeling gets more intense… and the closer we get, the stronger the feeling gets… the red color of the feeling becomes brighter and brighter as it pulsates inside your body… close your eyes and take a deep breath as this feeling now moves and creates ripples all over your body… feel and enjoy it as it becomes even warmer and more intense.” At this point, continue to elicit her feelings: “How do you feel now?” Place an anchor when she says something positive so that you can link that feeling to you. Step #5: Elicit Negative Sensation So what we’ve done so far is to elicit a positive sensation inside her body, lead her to transmutate the sensation into a symbol, intensify the symbol and then link to you. The next step is to continue to get her to fractionate by repeating the cycle with a negative sensation. Remember earlier in the Sequence you have introduced her to the Grandpa story. You can transition naturally by revisiting and building on that story arc: “Now I want you to recall the saddest and most painful experience that you have ever had. For example, the death of my Grandpa was completely devastating to me… so I want you to remember a similar experience. Just remember it clearly in your mind… and you don’t have to tell me what it is. It is something painful that has happened to you in the past… and something that has perhaps scarred you for the rest of your life.”
At this point you will notice the sudden change in her demeanor, body language and facial expressions. This is a good sign. “This is painful and yet I want you to know that you’re becoming better because of it. So we’ll go through this together to help you get over it. Now, as you are starting to feel the pain, where in your body do you feel it?” She might say: “In my head… it feels like I’ve got a throbbing headache.” Reaffirm her. Say, “OK, your head feels painful. Now where is the feeling going next?” She might say: “It’s going down to my stomach… I feel a little nauseous.” Again, reaffirm her, and continue to lead her. “Good. This is natural. Now, is it flowing downwards? To the lower parts of your body, like your groin, inner thighs, calf and your feet?” “Yes.” “Now imagine the pain swirling around the lower part of your body, and moving back up to your stomach. How do you feel now?” “I feel horrible… I feel sick…” “OK, don’t worry, I’ll make it go away for you. Now I want you to focus on that feeling in your stomach right now… imagine it turning into a swirling energy with a certain color…. what color is it?” “Purple.” “Good. Now I want you to make that energy bigger slowly…. and it’s growing and growing until it completely fills your body, from top to down.” Pause for a couple of seconds for effect. Next you’ll want to fractionate her by taking the pain away from her, and putting it back into her body. Repeat what you’ve done previously when you’re manipulating with the positive (red) sensation.
For example, you can say: “Now, imagine that I am putting all that pain in my left hand and it turns into this Purple ball of energy in my hand. Now pay attention to this Purple ball as I take it away from you…” At this point, move your left hand away from her chest. “Feel the intensity of the Purple energy diminish as I move it away from you…. it’s becoming weaker and weaker as it moves even further away from you…” You’re in effect placing an anchor on her by associating the pain with the “outside world”, away from you and her. Next, hold both her hands and say: “To get rid of this pain, let’s throw it up in the air and let it vanish into thin air. Feel the burden lifted from your shoulders as the Purple ball of pain disappears!” Step #6: Elicit Positive Sensation As in Fractionation, you don’t want to end the cycle with the elicitation of a negative sensation - you want to end the Sequence with an emotional high. Following the previous step, you can say: “Now with the Purple ball of energy gone and vanished into thin air, I want you to recall the Red ball of energy… the one which is filled with intense pleasure, happiness and joy… and I want you to shrink the Red ball into this small Red pill which you are now holding in your left hand.” Continue to manipulate the positive sensation: “Now place the Red pill in the palm of my left hand. It’s a small pill containing all the pleasures that you have ever experienced in your life… all packed inside this pill. It’s very powerful and intense.” Next, place more anchors by touching her. “Now as I touch you on your wrist like this, feel the sensation going into your wrist, up your arms, into your chest and move upwards to your face…” Lightly, trace the path of the sensation from the wrist, arm, chest and finally brush against her face lightly. “Notice wherever I touch, you can feel this sensation spreading, and it gets more powerful and intense as it moves throughout your
body…” Continue tracing the sensation around her body. To further intensify the sensation, you can say: “Surrender to this feeling as it moves throughout your body…. and the more you surrender, the more pleasurable you feel… it gets stronger and stronger as you give in to the feeling… now your body is filled with deep joy and pleasure as you surrender to the feeling…” Step #7: Create The Alter Ego The final step in the Black Rose Sequence is the creation of the Alter Ego. You will be creating an identity inside your target which is separate from her primary identity. This separate identity is controlled by you totally. It will be subject to your actions, thoughts and intentions completely. The creation of the Alter Ego is the ultimate Endpoint of the Shogun Method™ - it’s the final stage of Enslavement where you will forever put a woman under your thumb - as long as you are able to preserve the Alter Ego and keep it under your control. Think of it like Mind Control Ventriloquism - you’ll be able to place a thought into her mind, bypassing her conscious awareness. A ventriloquist “throws” his voice into the mouth of the doll. You, as the Mind Control Ventriloquist, “throw” your thoughts into the woman you want to enslave, and make her think that the thoughts are her own. What all the previous steps inside the Black Rose Sequence do (Fractionation and anchoring) are to condition her to accept the creation of the Alter Ego inside her psyche by you. If you’ve pulled off all the previous five steps in the Sequence successfully, then the final step of the creation of the Alter Ego is trivial. To create the Alter Ego, here’s what you’re going to say: “All the time you feel that you have to put up a mask to face the society and act in a certain way which is deemed to be acceptable by other people… but at the same time you feel that there’s a hidden part inside of
you with fantasies and desires that are frowned upon by the society.” “I have this hunch about you that nobody else has… most of the people who know you don’t know that there are two sides to your personality. Am I right?” She nods. “The real you is the side that nobody else sees… it’s the part with all the dreams and fantasies that you imagine only when you’re with yourself and no one else… that’s when you can be the REAL you… and there’s nobody else who will judge you for your dreams, desires and fantasies. These are the desires that you cannot even tell your best friend. You’ve held back all these wild fantasies and yet you have the yearning to fulfill your dreams and fantasies despite what others may think or say to you.” To make it easy for you to create and manipulate this Alter Ego, give it a name, say, Persephone. “Now I want you to take this part of you and imagine her as a person, and she’s looking at you in the mirror. What do you see? Do you see… Persephone? Notice just how happy, carefree and fulfilled she is… and how she seems to carry this air of confidence and contentment as she smiles at you. Now imagine a color surrounding her and flowing out in your direction… tell me, what color is it?” She might say: “Orange.” Next, say: “Continue to close your eyes and imagine the image of Persephone as vividly as you can. Now, reach out your right hand and touch the mirror. Imagine that this woman is doing the same on the other side of the mirror. Now I want you to see the Orange ball of energy from Persephone’s hand move into your hand, and it slowly goes up your arms, and into your body.” Then, “merge” the reflection with your target. “As the Orange ball of energy moves into your body, feel the
woman’s soul merge into yours… slowly becoming a part of you… you are becoming her, and seeing things from her eyes. Notice what it’s like to experience the world through this new part of you… through Persephone’s eyes…” To deepen the experience, run another round of Fractionation for full effect. Say, for example, “Tell me how it feels with this Orange energy now filling you up with intensity and warmth? Breathe slowly, and with each breath, feel the aura of Orange energy getting warmer and more intense as you let the soul of the reflection form a part of your very own soul… with the Orange energy getting a little brighter and warmer as you continue to experience sheer joy and pleasure…” Then, reach out your left hand and place it on her chest. “Now I will take some of that Orange feeling here on your chest, and I want you to imagine I am capturing the energy and turning into this Orange ball of energy, right here on my left hand.” Next, proceed to manipulate the symbol. “Now, take a deep breath, and continue to relax. Imagine this Orange ball of energy getting bigger and bigger as I raise it up in the air.” Raise your left hand slowly in the upwards direction, and at the same time, take a deep breath. “Now, it gets smaller… and smaller…” Breathe out, and lower your hand slowly. Repeat the two steps above a couple of times until you sense that she is falling back into trance. As you will no doubt notice, this miniSequence itself is Fractionation as you manipulate the symbol and make it grow bigger and smaller in succession, varying its brightness and intensity. To further induce her into deeper trance, say the following: “Now, pay attention as I want you to notice as I pull the Orange ball of light away from you, and you’re feeling that it’s being taken away from you… it’s no longer as strong, and slowly it’s fading away…” While you say this, move your hand as if you’re pulling the Symbol away from her.
“Now as I bring this energy back and into your body, you feel its warmth and intensity yet again, and it’s growing in intensity and it throbs like it has a life of its own, and you can feel my hand touching your body as your hidden desires and fantasies slowly come alive… you have become Persephone.” Complete the transmutation into the Alter Ego with the following: “Continue to relax, breathe in, breathe out… and feel the new soul of Persephone taking over… and let yourself assume this new soul and enjoy the moment when you embrace your true self… this is real and true… you are Persephone.
8 What Next There is a more profound objective for going into the field and putting the Shogun Method™ to test on tens of thousands of women, and that objective is the development of your inner discipline. With this knowledge, you will transform yourself to succeed in this game of love and life. Over hours of practice which you must commit yourself into, you will overcome your own fears, uncertainty and limiting beliefs to emerge on the other side as the version of yourself that you most desire. You will have the ability to see through any social facade and see things for what they truly are. You will never have problems meeting women ever again, and you will be brimming with quiet confidence that you have the ability to attract any woman that you will ever lay your eyes on.
Figure 6 You will never be lonely ever again, unless you purposely choose to live a life of solitude. A young Shogun who trains in the art of warfare for twenty years will become a master, but eventually he will lose the desire to fight, because of the experience and wisdom he acquires from the deepening of the knowledge and practicing of the art. The same goes for Mind Control and seduction. You will no longer have the desire to bed every female you see, but you will use your knowledge selectively on that special woman who connects with you at a deeper level. You will act more naturally, and with your own Shogun Sequences inside your growing arsenal of seduction and Mind Control techniques, you will be able to overcome any obstacle and remove any attempts to barricade your progress. You will know how to create the perfect and lasting first impression by appealing to her curiosity and creating intrigue. You will know how to build deep emotional rapport, and skillfully shifting the burden of attraction to her while you increase your Desirability in her eyes. With
the foundations of strong rapport, you will then get her attracted to you with your charm and confidence. You’ll achieve all this using military grade Mind Control techniques like Fractionation, aided by your mastery of supplementary tactics like anchoring, rollercoastering and conditioning. If needed, you will bring out the biggest gun of all - the Black Rose Sequence. If you have been transformed by my work, get in touch and share with me your experience. Throughout our journey, we have gone beyond the master-apprentice relationship, and we are now peers in the game of seduction and life. Tell me your story.
APPENDIX: F R A C T I O N AT I O N It all started with an accidental discovery by a professional hypnotist whom I had met in the MKDELTA group. “Derek, over the years, I have noticed one very curious pattern among my clients,” he told me one day over tea and scones when I visited him at his practice in Knightsbridge, London a couple of years ago. “What pattern?” I asked. “When they first visit me, they always get nervous. And because they become very self-conscious, they almost never get into trance. So, the first visit is usually pretty much useless and sometimes frustrating.” I nodded. “Falling into trance is not exactly a natural thing for most people.” “Things, however, always get much simpler the next couple of times they visit. It gets easier and easier to put them under trance. And by the sixth visit usually, I could put them under my spell at the snap of a finger.” “Interesting. Does this happen to every one of your clients?” I asked. He nodded. “That’s what really amazes me, Derek. I’ve had more than 3,000 clients, and every single one of them showed this behavior. Every one of them, without exceptions.” “Have you tried doing everything within one single session though? You know, put them under, bring them back up, then under again, et cetera… all within a couple of minutes?” He smiled. “Derek, if you are able to do that, you would
have found the holy grail of covert seduction.”
I’ve Found The Holy Grail Of Covert Seduction… And I Am About To Hand It To You On A Silver Platter The conventional model of “dating”, as we know it, is tedious, awkward and exhausting. Indeed, for the typical guy, the process of seducing women is usually drawnout over multiple dates which is unnecessarily wearisome, and not to mention expensive. But with Fractionation, you can shortcut the process and make a woman fall in love with you within minutes – not over days or week of mindless (and expensive) “courting”. However, before I share with you the nitty gritty of this method, I want you to first comprehend Fractionation as a concept, and not merely as a “trick” or “technique”. Once you understand the underlying principle, you’ll see it everywhere. DEFINITION: Fractionation is taking a woman into a trance and taking her out of the trance repeatedly over time until she becomes emotionally addicted to you. Here, over time can mean minutes, hours, days or weeks. It’s immaterial. You can take it nice and slow, or you can choose to go balls to the wall. It’s entirely up to you. If you’ve been in sales, you’re already familiar with Fractionation. The first or second meeting with a prospective customer is usually difficult. He listens to your proposals with his arms crossed. He is cold, defensive and distant. Yet when you see the customer again in a week, he is warmer to you. This is when Fractionation kicks in. Bestselling authors and Hollywood scriptwriters are absolute masters at Fractionation. When you read a
story book by your favorite author, you easily lose yourself in the story. Why? Each chapter is written to put you into trance, snap you back to reality, and put you back into trance again. That’s also how women get addicted to stories, dramas and soap operas. Using Fractionation, you can get women addicted to you the same way. Of course, this can be good OR bad. Therefore, before you proceed, heed this warning: Before you use Fractionation on a woman, know that there is no UNDO button you can push to remove the effect. Also, the possibility of inflicting emotional damage on women is very real. Remember to use it responsibly!
Fractionation In Seduction: The Nitty Gritty To use Fractionation to seduce women, you invoke alternating states of happiness and sadness – repeatedly, and in quick succession. This may sound rather complicated to you now and yet it’s pretty simple once you’ve seen a couple of examples. Inside the Fractionation module{32} of the Shogun Method™, there is an animation clip which shows an example of how Fractionation can be used to quickly make a woman fall in love under the unlikeliest circumstance. It’s the origin story of Harley Quinn, a character from the Suicide Squad series (also been adapted into a major Hollywood blockbuster). Here, the Joker delivers a masterclass in seduction by using Fractionation on Harley Quinn, transforming her into an ally and a devoted lover. Now let’s put on our Fractionation filter and decode Joker’s lines and actions (go watch the video as you go through the explanation below). Before the Joker attempts to fractionate Harley Quinn,
he builds initial rapport with her by creating intrigue. Intrigue and rapport development are covered in other modules inside the Shogun Method, but here’s a quick rundown on what the Joker has done as the groundwork for Fractionation: To develop intrigue, Joker leaves Harley a rose in her office as bait to lure her into his prison cell. When Harley goes to see the Joker, he mildly teases her name, and as Harley begins to walk away, Joker does two things: 1. He creates the “Us Against The World” frame “This makes me feel there’s SOMEONE here I can relate to…” 2. He opens up an Intrigue Loop – “SOMEONE who might want to hear my secrets…” Starting at 1:13, Joker starts to use Fractionation on Harley: Negative emotions – “My father used to beat me up quite badly…” Positive emotions – “There was only one time I saw dad really happy…” Joker then enthusiastically tells a story where he would entertain his father like a clown, and he would even drop his pants which was a sexual move (see Harley Quinn blush at 1:58). At 2:11, Joker then dropped the “bombshell” in the midst of the laughter – “Then he broke my nose.” Genius. Interestingly, during the epilog, Harley Quinn would contrast the appeal of the “misunderstood” Joker with the “self-righteous” Batman. In the end, she conceded that “as unprofessional as it sounds, I have fallen in love with my patient.”
The Rollercoaster Now let’s see how you can learn Fractionation and make
it work for you immediately. Fractionation is focused storytelling. Therefore, to be able to use Fractionation effectively, you will need to know fundamental storytelling techniques. But don’t worry: you don’t need to be a Hollywood scriptwriter to pull this off successfully. In fact, all you need to know is just one simple storytelling trick: The Rollercoaster. To make things simple for you, I’ve summarized the Rollercoaster technique inside the Companion Guide which comes together with this book. You may also download it inside your DerekRakeHQ.com console.
Sample Fractionation Scripts Now that you’re familiar with the Conflict-ResolutionPlateau-Conflict cycle (if you’re not, re-read the Rollercoaster report again!), here are some sample Fractionation scripts that you can use to put a woman quickly into and out of trance. Script #1: The Kid Samurai This morning at seven, I woke up and saw a Katana blade three inches from my forehead. [CONFLICT] It was my four-year-old brother. He’s going through a Samurai phase these days. [RESOLUTION] It was pretty annoying, and I tried to brush him off. [PLATEAU] I was dozing back to sleep until he whacked my head with his plastic Katana. [CONFLICT] Script #2: The Death Of A Friend (Version 1) Do you remember the time when your best friend is just next to you, and it makes you feel tremendously happy? [POSITIVE] You feel important, appreciated and loved. [POSITIVE] Can you imagine now how that feels? [PLATEAU]
I used to feel like that… but then one day my best friend got sick and she died almost immediately. [NEGATIVE] She was gone. [NEGATIVE] Script #3: Death Of A Friend (Version 2) Have you ever met a person who you feel that he is meant to be with you? [PLATEAU] Even if you’ve only known him for five minutes, you knew deep down inside you…that he will be an important part of your life, whether as a partner or only a friend. [POSITIVE] I have experienced that myself. I met someone who I grew very close to very quickly…but only a few days later she got into a horrible car accident. She was gone. [NEGATIVE] Script #4: The Serial Killer You seem to be a sweet, happy and baggage-free girl. [PLATEAU] But then, you may well a serial killer. Because you know, all serial killers seem to be pretty nice and happy on the outside. [CONFLICT] Script #5: One Sentence Fractionation Here, we embed both the positive and negative into one sentence. You set it up by expressing your approval (positive) of a woman’s presumed weakness or negative quality. Some examples: “I am fascinated by your bad manners.” “I am charmed by your lack of common sense.” “I am mesmerized by your severe lack of tact.” “I am enthralled by your mind-numbingly boring stories.” “I like you despite your lack of compassion for other human beings.” You can also flip the structure around to express your
disapproval over her positive qualities. For example: “I am grossed out by your good manners.” “I am intimidated by your cunning intellect.” “I am overwhelmed by your ability to hold your drink.” “I am disgusted at your boundless imagination and sense of adventure.” “I am repulsed by your ability to whip up a mean Caesar’s Salad.” Note that the statement does not have to make sense (or even true) as long as it’s delivered in a light-hearted way. For more scripts (including the famed Strawberry Fields routine), see the Dark Rake Method.
Conversational Fractionation Storytelling can be tough to master at first, and for those who are just starting out, I recommend Conversational Fractionation. Instead of telling a canned story, you ask her questions alternating between the present and the future. Here’s an example – • What do you for a living? (Then, ask her about what she likes and dislikes about her job, etc.) • Is that what you’ve always wanted to do? (Get her to project into her future; i.e. the ideal job that she wants to have) • What do you like about your current job? What don’t you like about it? (Notice that you’re pulling back to the present) • Imagine now you’re doing the thing that you’ve always wanted to do. How would you feel then? For bonus points, whenever she describes a positive feeling, you anchor that feeling to you. Again, when she describes something negative, you want to anchor that
feeling away from you. Remember that both pleasurable and painful experiences can work for you.
Locational Fractionation Fractionation does not have to be verbal. In fact, you can build rapport by fractionating her location (i.e. getting her to follow you). First, move back a couple of steps, and then ask her to move closer to you. Then, move to the opposite side of the room or bar. Then, take her outside. Then, take her to a nearby location (for example, another bar or coffee house). The strategy is to get her to go deeper into the idea of following you each time.
What Next? Congratulations – you now have everything you need to use Fractionation on women to make them fall in love with you quickly. It’s important to us coaches here at DerekRakeHQ that you get off to a flying start with the Shogun Method™. Therefore, I would encourage you to completely digest the material above and get out there and use it on as many women as possible as practice. You’ll be delighted with the positive results that you’re going to get – I can guarantee it.
About DEREK RAKE Derek Rake is a full time dating coach specializing in Mind Control-based seduction systems. Over the years, he has helped more than 12,000 men around the world achieve their relationship goals. At present, Derek leads a team of expert coaches, providing counseling to a small number of clients internationally. He travels regularly from his headquarters in New York City to San Francisco, London, Sydney and Singapore.
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RESOURCES For more Shogun Sequences that work across all IRAE stages, check out the Dark Rake Method: http://ShogunMethod.net/Dark-Rake-Method-Info The IRAE Model is a concise version of the 10Step Attraction Roadmap which is found inside SeductionOnSteroids: http://ShogunMethod.net/Seduction-On-SteroidsInfo You can learn how to use the Shogun Method™ over text inside TextingOnSteroids: http://ShogunMethod.net/Texting-On-Steroids-Info Similarly, discover how to seduce over the Internet with the latest Internet Dating Playbook: http://ShogunMethod.net/Online-Dating-PlaybookInfo/ Derek Rake endorses the Alpha Male Activator, the brainwave entrainment program that automatically boosts confidence levels and completely eliminate anxiety: http://ShogunMethod.net/Alpha-Male-ActivatorInfo/ The world’s first dedicated program on
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I had spent three years apprenticing inside the MKDELTA group, a secret underground society devoted to developing techniques on Mind Control, persuasion and dark influence. Hidden inside the Darknet, the membership of this group was by invitation only, and members were vetted stringently before admission. I was one of the privileged few who managed to get in. My moniker inside MKDELTA, you guessed it, was Shogun. {2}
This is relevant also for guys who are using Mind Control to get their ex-girlfriends or wives back. Declaring to an ex that “I want you back” is the surefire way to fail; this is the basic maxim for
ReSeduction {3}
Like the MKDELTA.
{4}
The sequential nature of seduction is also present inside the 10Step Attraction Roadmap of SeductionOnSteroids {5}
This is even more so when a woman is on the phone, or online. Therefore, it is relatively easier to capture a woman’s attention when she is texting, or if she’s online. For more, see the Online
Dating Playbook and TextingOnSteroids. http://shogunmethod.net/shogunmethod/fractionation/ {6}
{7}
Creating the illusion of familiarity is a concept that is explored in full inside the ConversationalSeduction companion guide {8}
The October Man Sequence itself is rooted in Fractionation which you should already be familiar with. If not, skip to the Appendix and learn it. {9}
Implanted Commands are described in detail in Chapter 6.
{10}
This is the basis of all Boyfriend Destroyer techniques and their variants: http://shogunmethod.net/boyfriend-
destroyer-system/ {11}
Described inside the Shogun Sequences section of Chapter 5
http://shogunmethod.net/insider/anchoringclassical-conditioning-an-advanced-seducerstechnique/ {12}
{13}
This is similar to the value elicitation technique inside the Dark
Rake Method {14}
You will also learn how to mirror speech patterns in the Attract phase of the IRAE Model (Chapter 6) {15}
See the Dark Rake Method – http://derekrakehq.com/dark-rakemethod/ {16}
This is also a problem when you get to know a woman online. You must arrange to meet her face-to-face as quickly as possible
in order to avoid the problem of creating contextual (i.e. “online only”) rapport {17}
From the Mind Control standpoint, this is also less effective
{18}
You can also tweak this to be used online (say, over email or Facebook) – see the Online Dating Playbook {19}
{20}
Also known as the “Wounded Warrior” theory Findings are regularly released inside the
Insider’s Lab,
Derek Rake
which is included inside the Shogun Method™
package {21}
“Who’s Chasing Whom? The Impact of Gender and Relationship Status on Male Poaching” by J. Parker and M. Burkley, Oklahoma State University {22}
See “Action Limits” and “Pain Limits” in the previous chapter
{23}
The Black Rose Sequence is covered inside the next chapter on Enslavement strategies {24}
Other kinds of dark patterns are found inside the
Dark Rake
Method {25}
Refer back to the Attraction Development Model for clarity
{26}
For added effect, you can “blotch” the Negative Emotion in the sentence (see the preceding section on Implanted Commands) {27}
Segregation technique #1 in the Enslavement phase (see the next chapter) {28}
You can run the Shared Universe Sequence on her again, for example {29}
These experiences can also take form of a Shogun Sequence – for example, the Strawberry Field pattern from the Dark Rake
Method {30}
Meaning, you have already seduced her past the Attract stage inside the IRAE Model {31}
Remember this flaw inside a female mind: a woman may or may not believe what she’s told, but she never doubts what her female intuition tells her
http://shogunmethod.net/shogunmethod/fractionation/ {32}
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Module 1: SonicSeduction™ Laid
Bare
M
ost men are bred from a very early age to regard women with the utmost respect. They’re taught that by being a gentleman, working hard to impress her, and catering to her every need, they will eventually win her over. When this fails to work, they simply pick themselves up and try all over again.
If you’re reading this book, then odds are those old methods of seduction just aren’t working for you. Either the women you’re picking up are less than desirable, or you can’t pick up anyone whatsoever. It is for this very reason that I came up with SonicSeduction™.
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What makes
SonicSeduction™ different from all the
other dating manuals out there? For starters, most of those guides simply list off various methods of chasing after a woman, and nothing more. However, if you want real success with women, you’re going to have to delve deeper than cheesy pick-up lines. In short, you’re going to have to start viewing yourself as the catch, not her. And, to do it FASTER than anything you’ve ever experienced before. This is the premise of SonicSeduction™ . It has worked for countless others – and there’s no reason the system won’t work for you.
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Think about any of the women who’ve rejected you. What did they all have in common? If I were to guess, I’d say they all had a solid sense of entitlement to their personalities. Their egos were that of a “prize” to be won by any man who deserved it. Those who met their qualifications were rewarded, and those who didn’t were tossed aside. This can come as a strong blow to guys who aren’t prepared for it, but what if I said that you could use this same approach in your favor? After all, it’s worked effortlessly for women, and in fact, they’ve mastered it. Why not flip the tables on them, and reap the benefits at the same time? Turn on the next page and find out how…
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SonicSeduction™ was designed for one purpose:
To give
you the tools you’ll need to attract women, not chase after them. What’s more is that it gets you results…FAST. Wouldn’t it be nice to have women flock to you, instead of the other way around? Let me assure you that this is more than just a pipedream…it’s a very real possibility. My system is much more than a how-to guide for getting laid. Within the pages of this book are techniques you can implement to better yourself, and in turn, become “prized” by practically every woman.
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You’ll learn the secrets that successful pick-up artists use when approaching women, as well as how to build self-confidence that will take you far not only in love, but also in life.
It’s all about getting results at record speed.
\\\ Change truly does start from within, so if you’re ready to become the man that every woman desires, I encourage you read on. Throw out all the old rules you used to follow when pursuing women, and learn the real tricks of the trade. Whether your goal is a one-night stand or a long-term relationship, the SonicSeduction™ will teach you how to pick up women on your terms, and you’ll be able to do it in no time at all.
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The Myths of Dating & Seduction Love stinks. If you’re not pulling your hair out trying to please a woman, you’re home alone with a dirty movie and a bottle of lubricant. Between handling rejection and finding out what women really want, it’s enough to drive even the sanest man crazy! To make matters worse, we’ve been taught over the years (mostly from other males) that there are just some things you cannot change when it comes to pursuing the opposite sex.
They are “laws of the universe” that will always work against you, no matter how hard you try to fight them. And when you’re lacking in the love department, this is a big pill to swallow.
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But have no fear! In this SonicSeduction™ module, I’m going to cover the seven most popular myths about dating and seduction. Some of them may sound familiar to you, and if so, then I want you pay especially close attention. By honing in on these overused and untrue statements, you’ll be on the road to getting rid of the very thing that’s holding you back from having a healthy sex life.
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Turn the page…
2/16
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Myth #1 – Women want a lover who is also their friend. So many guys fall for this line, it isn’t even funny. In fact, I’d be willing to bet you’ve played victim to it once or twice yourself. Let me guess: You focused in on one particular girl by continuously picking her up in your car, paying her way, feeding her, listening to her problems, dropping her off back at her place – lather, rinse, and repeat. Am I right? What’s worse is the fact that you didn’t even get laid (much less a kiss on the cheek) to show for it. Don’t feel bad, dude, because…
2/16
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… you’re certainly not the first guy to go through these motions. You’ve simply made the classic mistake of assuming that by being her friend, you’d be on the fast-track to picking her up. The most important thing to do from this point on is to learn from your mistake…and never allow it to happen again. The truth of the matter is this: Once you’re in the “friend zone,” you’re pretty much trapped there. Women put great care into deciding which guys they deem “friends” and “lovers,” and your goal is to be in the latter category. With that said, don’t mistake friendship for passion, and keep your hard-earned money for yourself (or someone who really earns it). Turn the page for the second biggest myth of all time…
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Myth #2 – Women want a shoulder to cry on. This myth is partially true, in that women are extremely emotional creatures, and with that comes a lot of tears. But the truth of the matter is this: They have friends for that. And if you paid any attention to our first myth, you’ll know that being her friend is not going to get you laid.
Still, there are men all over the world absorbing women’s problems in the hopes of getting some action. They’re living under the illusion that if they only listen to the whining a little while longer, they can get these women into bed. Months later, they’re still in the same position…and it’s not missionary style.
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You may have heard the phrase “Nice guys finish last,” and this couldn’t be truer. When you turn yourself into a girl’s therapist, you’re actually placing yourself in a subordinate position to her, and this is the primary mistake made by “nice guys” everywhere. By constantly being at her beck and call, you’ve lost all novelty in her eyes. Comprende?
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Turn the page for the third myth …
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Myth #3 – Women are only after money, looks, or fame. If this were true, most of mankind would not be getting any. While women certainly do flock to fame and riches, the majority of them are in the market for a normal, Everyday Joe like you.
The problem with this myth is the attitude it creates within the
man who believes it. When rejected by a woman, he tells himself that he’s not cute, smart, rich, or famous enough to hook up with anybody. In turn, this becomes a self-
fulfilling prophecy that handicaps any and all of his future seduction efforts. That, my friend, is bad news.
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The fact of the matter is this: The women are out there, and they want you, but most of them are not going to put forth the effort to hit on you. That means it’s your job to approach them, and you can only do that once you’ve let go of your personal handicaps. And with the SonicSeduction™ toolbox (particularly the Sonic Rapport Arsenal – modules 10, 11 and 12), you’ll be well equipped to get any woman you lay your eyes on to fall in love with you.
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Turn the page for the fourth myth …
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Myth #4 – It’s hard to meet women. With the technology in use today, I can’t believe this myth isn’t extinct by now. No longer do men have to circle the bars or nightclubs in an effort to pick up women – they’re just a mouse click away! Almost every day, a new dating site is added to the Internet featuring hundreds of available women ready and waiting. Of course, online dating may not be your thing, and that’s completely understandable. Still, that doesn’t mean you should overlook your own backyard. Colleges, coffee shops, sporting events, and clubs all make for ideal places to meet and pick up women. You just have to open your eyes and look for them.
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Myth #5 – You’re not attractive to the opposite sex. Unless you’ve been living under a rock your entire life, you’re probably familiar with that guy. He’s the one who’s fat, semi-bald, and poorly dressed, yet for some reason, women are all over him. What is a goofy-looking guy like him doing to be so successful with the opposite sex? In short, he has confidence. He sincerely believes that he has a lot to offer women, and it shows through his actions. In fact, he loves flirting so much, that he does it on his terms with whomever he chooses. Instead of worrying about what women truly think about him, he simply has fun…and the ladies love him for it.
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Unfortunately, men such as this are scarce, and there’d be a lot more sex in the world if guys would just stop demeaning themselves. If this sounds bogus to you, then you’re probably a believer in this particular myth. Don’t worry – by the end of this course, I’ll have you thinking otherwise. Bet your bottom dollar on it. Now if you buy into the new age hippie thinking that “both sexes are equal” then you’re in for a rude shock…
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Turn the page…
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Myth #6 – “Equal rights” means equal seduction. Women have come a long way since their foremothers. First, they’re able to vote, and now they’re making almost as much money as men are. One thing they’re not doing, however, is making equal attempts at seducing men, and some guys hate them for this. Let me clear one thing up: Most women will never act as the pursuer, and they have no problem moving onto the next bloke if you have a problem with that. Your boss may be a female, but in general, women still want to be approached, seduced, and yes – paid for. It’s just a fact of life that you’re going to have to deal with. Acting like a “21st century male” will only hurt your seduction efforts.
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Myth #7 – Women want a certain type of guy (and you’re not it). If you’ve heard one woman describe her ideal man, you’ve heard them all. She’ll usually tell you that the guy has to be a combination of nice, smart, handsome, funny, goal-oriented, and the like. Of course, some of this may be true…but certainly not all of it.
If you think a woman’s going to reveal to you
everything
she
wants in a man, you’re kidding yourself. In all honesty, she doesn’t even realize what she’s looking for in the opposite sex (although she may think she does). It’s weird, but it’s true.
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The truth is that at her very core, every woman wants a man who can please her sexually. This can be as simple as turning her on with his eyes, to actually bringing her to orgasm. Whatever it is, he’s got it, and you’ve got it too (you just don’t know it yet). It’s important for any Sonic Seducer to know, and to internalize.
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Here’s what you need to take away from what you have just read... Some of these myths may sound familiar to you. If that’s true, then they’re probably at the very core of your difficulty with dating and seduction. The mind is a very powerful tool that’s often overlooked, and if you don’t learn how to retrain your brain into thinking positively, you’re never going to have success with the opposite sex. The first thing you have got to do is to “recondition” your mind, and prepare yourself for massive success with women…
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What’s coming up next?
N
ow to know where you are going, you must first know where you are currently at.
I am now going to expose to you the roadmap of the Sonic Seducer – the five levels of SonicSeduction™. Think of it as a gauge of your level of mastery of seduction techniques – and a tracking mechanism for you to calibrate your abilities and see clearly where your opportunities are. Turn the page to see clearly where you are right now…
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The Five Levels of The Sonic Seducer When it comes to picking up hot women, men generally fall into one of five categories. These personalities range from duds to studs, depending on their skill level with the opposite sex. With that said, if you’re serious about becoming a master seducer, pay close attention to this module of SonicSeduction™. By determining which of these five levels you are currently at, you’ll be able to learn from your mistakes and never make them again.
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Level 1: The Dreamer There really isn’t much to say about this guy, because he doesn’t do much at all. His idea of a Friday night is sitting at home on the couch, watching television, and waiting for beautiful women to find him. He depends on fate to get him laid, and when that doesn’t happen, he becomes even more discouraged with dating and relationships. There really is no telling what made The Dreamer give up on seduction. Perhaps he’s been burned one too many times, but then again, who hasn’t? Anyone with a decent head on their shoulders knows that if you really want something, you have to put forth some effort to make it happen.
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Level 2: The Scared Seducer Many men who enrolled into my coaching group fall all within this category. The Scared Seducer is just that… scared. Unlike The Dreamer, this guy knows that he at least has to try and pick up women. The problem comes when he hits a roadblock in his seduction efforts. Like so many others, he gets rejected; unlike so many others, he takes the rejection to heart, and goes into hiding for several months or so. While in hibernation, he passes the time with porno and a bottle of lubricant, until one day, he finally feels ready to take another stab at seduction. He runs away when things get scary (and doesn’t get laid much either).
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Level 3: The Perfectionist This character is a level above The Scared Seducer, because he realizes he needs to work on his attraction abilities, and spends time trying to study his techniques. Sometimes, however, the problem is that he never gets around to actually trying the stuff that he learns. He grabs every piece of information he can get his hands on that pertains to picking up women, and memorizes the material word-for-word. While this strategy works well for school, it’s not going to do shit for you in the dating world. Sorry, buddy.
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The point is this: If you want to get hot women, you have to get out there and try. If your efforts fail, try again. While self-improvement tapes and pheromone colognes are nice, they’re poor substitutes for actual experience. The only way you’re going to become a master seducer is to learn from your real-life mistakes, and improve upon them. SonicSeduction™ will give you all the tools to move on to the next two levels. You gotta boost your game, and move from being The Perfectionist to...
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Level 4: The Determined Seducer While
this
improvement,
character he
is
still worlds
has above
some the
room first
for three
characters I’ve mentioned. Not only does he get out and try in the dating world, but he understands that there is no “perfect” means of picking up women. He recognizes that mistakes are nothing more than learning experiences, and if he continues improving where he left off, he knows he will soon become a master Sonic Seducer.
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But perhaps the most significant difference between The Determined Seducer and our first three characters is their mind’s view on dating and seduction. In the eyes of The Determined Seducer, there is nothing wrong with the women who reject him, and the world isn’t some cruel machine working against his “mojo.” Instead, he chucks his failures up to nothing more than himself, and he works to fix the problem. If you think about it, this viewpoint is shared by successful people in all fields and topics, not just dating and seduction. Nothing worth having is easily obtained, and if you really desire results, you have to work for them.
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Have patience with the process, and don’t let minor setbacks frustrate your efforts. It’s only the weak-minded individuals who give up at the first sign of difficulty.
Remember… SonicSeduction™ is designed to get you to our fifth and final seductive character, but if you can manage to at least reach the level of The Determined Seducer, you’ll be leaps ahead of where you are now. In order to do so, you have to be willing to take my system to heart by learning all the fundamentals of seduction, and work to put them into operation.
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Level 5: The Master Sonic Seducer The Master Sonic Seducer walks into a room, spots a chick he wants, and gets her. He has mastered the art of attraction so much that it’s in his bones. In fact, he isn’t even conscious of his seduction efforts anymore; they’re just a part of who he is. This character is filled with confidence, and people (especially beautiful women) are drawn to him for that. He lives life according to his rules, and anyone who isn’t on board with him he can do without. This level of conviction not only enables him to snag hot women, but he’s also able to get practically anything else he wants out of life. The word “fear” is not part of his vocabulary.
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Now obviously, you want to be on par with the Master Seducer, and if you follow the SonicSeduction™ method, this fantasy will soon become a reality. But you can’t move forward until you know where you’ve been, so you must first determine which of these five levels you currently fall under. Only by honestly recognizing your shortcomings can you really get started towards the healthy sex life you deserve. With that said, I’d like to make a second point: You cannot become a master without first becoming a determined seducer (level 4.) In other words, you have to learn my fundamentals of seduction first, and then go out and apply them. If you expect to become an expert at getting laid just by reading this book, then you’re nothing more than a perfectionist (level 3.)
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C
ongratulations. Now you’re ready to embark on your journey to attain the highest level of seduction mastery.
With your understanding of The Five Levels of Sonic Seduction™ you now have the roadmap to supercharge your skills and bring your seduction game to the next level. This roadmap has led many men just like you to attain the success with women that they desired – so there’s no reason you can join the rank of Sonic Seducers who have already made it.
In the next module, you will discover the Magic Element - this is where you will build the bulletproof foundation for your game. You will discover about the essentials of having a strong and rooted self identity - using the proprietary CECRC Method
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Module 2: The Magic Element
B
elieve it or not, I used to be just like you. For years, I lived under the assumption that I had to have the hottest set of wheels, loads of money, and the looks of an Abercrombie model in order to lay hot women. Needless to say, this affected more than my sex life; it took its toll on my self image as well.
But all of that changed for me when I entered college here in Singapore. I was out drinking with some buddies of mine one night, when I witnessed something that was nothing short of baffling to me at the time.
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At the far corner of the bar was this guy surrounded by a group of hot women. You’re probably thinking that he was (no – had to be) really good looking, rich, or some combination of the two, but you’re dead wrong. To be blunt, he was short, plump, semi-bald, and kind of old. Now that I think about it, he wasn’t even dressed that well either. Yet for some reason, the women at his table were glued to every word coming out of his mouth, and they constantly had their hands all over him too. I thought I had seen it all, until he took it upon himself to pull one of them in for some deep tonguing action…and she didn’t mind at all.
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As I stared at this guy, wondering to myself what his secret was, it suddenly hit me – he had confidence. Every inch of his demeanor screamed “I’m the shit,” and the people around him could pick up on that (even me.) His body language demonstrated that he owned his space, and he was almost too comfortable in his own skin to give a shit what the women around him wanted. That was when I realized…
“I want to be that guy.”
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If you paid close attention to the last module of Sonic Seduction, you should know good and well that this man falls into the category of The Master Sonic Seducer. Every other character you just learned about (with the exception of The Determined Seducer) lacks one crucial element of seductive appeal, and that is confidence. Without it, you’ll be hard pressed to survive in life, let alone in the dating world. Having confidence means being in control of your mind. It’s been said that “I think, therefore I am,” and this is certainly true. The impact of the mind is so powerful, it has the potential to make or break you in any situation, especially when it comes to approaching women and getting laid.
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You took action and acquired the SonicSeduction system, so odds are you’re in need of some help when it comes to hitting on females. And if you’re in need of some help, odds are that you’re not in the correct state-of-mind about yourself and what you have to offer not just women, but the world. In fact, I’d bet that if you wrote a daily log of all the thoughts running through your head about dating and seduction, you’d be amazed at how negative they are. In this module, I’m going to teach you how to take those harmful thoughts and transform them into something positive that’s going to increase your confidence, and in turn, your sex life. The important thing is that you commit to making the change, and this starts with learning the five-step model of all confident people – the CECRC Method.
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The CECRC Method
Composure Explanation Confrontation Reassurance
X-factor
Confidence To acquire the elusive “X-Factor” of successful seducers, you will need to master all the five building blocks that we outline in the CECRC Method. This part of your seduction arsenal is also known popularly as “inner game” – the invisible foundation which anchors all your abilities to master your interactions with women.
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Composure. One of the biggest ways to mess up a good thing is to make decisions based upon your feelings. Spur-of-the-moment choices spawned from anger, frustration, sadness, and the like seldom turn out well, so the first thing you need to do is calm yourself down. For instance, let’s say you’re at a party, and you spot a hot chick across the room. Suddenly you feel flustered, your stomach is in knots, and your mind is filled with negative thoughts warning you about the potential for rejection. This is no state-of-mind to be in when approaching her. If you do, you’re bound to embarrass yourself.
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Before putting any moves (or chickening out), take five minutes for yourself to breath deeply. Close your eyes, and think clearly about the circumstances. Hitting on a girl is certainly not a life-or-death situation, so there’s no reason to treat it like one.
-Ж-
Explanation.
Once you’ve calmed yourself down, go over the
thoughts racing through your mind. Analyze how these thoughts are making you feel, and question why you even feel that way in the first place. Our mind’s view of the world is shaped by our life’s experiences, but the good news is that you can change this. Here’s an example. If you’re hesitant to go up and talk to a girl, some good questions to ask yourself would be…
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“How am I feeling at this very moment?”
Maybe you’re
nervous, insecure, or horny…only you know how you truly feel.
“Am I acting in accordance with these feelings?”
In
other words, if you’re horny, then why aren’t you going up to talk to her? If you’re nervous, then the fact that you’re hesitating would make sense.
“What happened in my past to make me feel this way?”
Maybe the kids at school called you ugly when you were younger, or
maybe you’ve come across one too many bitches in your life.
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In order to get a grip on your mental and emotional state, you must get to the root of the problem. You first have to acknowledge it for what it truly is, and then you must face it head on.
-Ж-
Confrontation. In this step, you take every negative thought and emotion running through your body, and challenge it.
At the core of every confident person is the desire to succeed, but you’re never going to be successful if you run away from everything that scares you. It’s for this reason that you must confront all doubts, and erase them from your being.
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I’m sure that if you looked back on your life, you could think of several obstacles you’ve succeeded over. These don’t have to be sexual obstacles; they can be anything from graduating college to getting a huge promotion at work. The point is that you were originally presented with a challenge, and you beat it. You set certain goals, and you achieved them.
Continuing with our example of the hot girl at the party, your goal in the
short term is to challenge every negative thought you identified in step 2. In fact, pick up a scratch sheet of paper, and write these thoughts down so you can come face-to-face with them. Once you have them in front of you, challenge them with positive statements that work against them.
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For instance, you may have written down, “I’m not hot enough to go talk to her.” You could challenge this by saying that you exercise, dress well, and take very good care of yourself. You might also tell yourself that you don’t even know this girl or her “type,” so she could very well be attracted to you! Think of these positive statements as medicine to a sick body. The negative thoughts consuming your mind are nothing more than a virus, and the only way to get rid of them is to treat them with medication. By allowing your negative thoughts to run amuck in your head, you’re creating a self-fulfilling prophecy of low confidence.
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Reassurance can be accomplished by evaluating all the positives about yourself and your life. In order to accomplish this, a good exercise to do would be to write down everything you like about yourself. Your personality, looks, talents, friends, and achievements all constitute “positives.” Once you’ve got them all on paper, keep the copy close by (maybe even in your wallet), and reread them to yourself during moments of negativity and self doubt. Another good exercise to try is creating personal affirmations for yourself. In case you don’t know, affirmations are short statements you repeat to yourself that are designed at upping your confidence level. I can’t tell you what your affirmation should be, since it’s supposed to be unique to you, but some examples include…
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“I’m a fun guy, and everybody likes me.” “I’m cool, calm, and collected.” “I’m the shit.” Your goal with reassuring yourself is to provide you with a quick boost of confidence, exactly when you need it. For instance, once you’ve identified and challenged your negative feelings, take a moment to review everything you like about yourself. Silently repeat your affirmation until the words shout over every bad thought in your mind.
You’ll be amazed at how powerful this technique is.
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Confidence.
If you’ve successfully implemented
these first four steps, you will receive the confidence you need to set and achieve all of your goals. Helping you build confidence is at the core of SonicSeduction, and it can be accomplished from the most obvious of places. Once again, think about all the everyday accomplishments you achieve. You don’t doubt yourself when driving your car, do you? No – instead, you climb in, rev-up the engine, and go forward without a care in the world. This is the attitude of a naturally-confident person. When it comes to pick-up artists, they don’t sweat talking to a girl whatsoever. To them, it’s just the natural thing to do.
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They approach women with the full knowledge that they are desirable, and as a result, they get laid. If, on the other hand, she rejects him, he moves on unscathed. In his mind, it’s her loss, not his.
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onfidence is at the core of attraction. People who sincerely feel good about themselves are naturally appealing to those around them.
They view the world and their personal playground, and they’re not afraid to go after what they want. Obtaining true confidence could seem difficult, but if you follow these steps religiously, you’ll soon be amazed at what you’re capable of
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Module 3: The Sonic Approach Formula
W
hen it comes to macking on women, I’ve seen it all.
I’ve gotten many a good laugh from the cheesy pick-up lines spouted off within an earshot of me. I’ve seen guys blow up at women for rejecting them. Hell – I’ve even witnessed a few female bitch slappings towards men who just didn’t have a clue. To some guys out there, the social scene is like a candy store, and they’re the greedy fat kids who can’t wait to tear the place apart. More often than not, this behavior backfires on them.
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Men and women are very different animals. If you didn’t already know this, then consider their bedroom behaviors. If a guy could have it his way, he’d get off in a matter of minutes during sex. Women, on the other hand, require a full-body warm up from steamy foreplay before the concept of an orgasm is even possible. And if the guy gets off before she’s ready to launch, his chances of getting laid by her again are slim. What’s the point of this example? Put simply, there is a method to gaining a girl’s interest, and the more you follow this method, the less your chances are of being rejected. Just like during sex, you can’t simply cut to the chase with women…you have to slowly warm her up to the idea of being with you. You have to establish rapport with her.
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Summed up, rapport is a feeling between two people who have a connection with one another. You don’t have to be the girl’s soul mate in order to accomplish this; anything from having similar interests to sharing a good laugh together can create rapport. Only when she feels you’re on the same level as her will she even entertain the idea of having sex with you. So how do you establish rapport with a woman? The good news is that it’s not hard, and SonicSeduction will teach you a no-nonsense method of doing so that works fast. Turn the page for a five-step method to getting her into bed…
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Step #1: Small talk. Whenever you meet someone new for the first time, you introduce yourself, and the same goes for landing hot women. Greet her, tell her your name, and ask for hers. Ask her where she’s from, what she does for
work,
and
other
getting-to-know-you
questions.
Use
the
environment around you to create chit chat.
Step #2: Create a bonding experience. This step builds upon the first one, in that you try to establish a feeling of trust between the two of you. Use what you’ve learned from the chit chat to find common ground with her (interests, hobbies, etc.) You can even notice something funny about your surroundings, and share a nice laugh over it together.
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Step #3: Tap into her romantic side. Once you two have bonded on some level, it’s now time to tap into her sensual side. I’ll get more in depth about this later on in the book, but for now, consider this step as the point where you ask her out. Compliment her lightly, use body language to display your attraction, and get those digits.
Step #4: Touch her. If she agreed to a first date, then you’re officially in a position to touch her. When, where, and how you touch her are subjected to a variety of things, such as her personality, or the level of rapport between the two of you. But generally speaking, there’s usually nothing wrong with holding hands, and if she gives you the green light, kiss her.
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Step #5: Get laid. Getting a woman into bed depends on a couple of things. Some women require a few dates before having sex, while others are ready to sleep with you after the first night. Read her body language to get a feel for where she stands (I’ll get more into body language in later modules).
Take the Method with You…Everywhere. Once you’ve learned this method of establishing rapport, you can use it in every situation to effectively seduce a woman. In some cases, you may find that you’ve already reached a certain point with a woman. For example, if a buddy of yours introduced you to her a week ago, then you’ve officially passed steps 1 and 2, and you’re well on your way to getting her in the sack.
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More often than not, however, you’re going to have to start from scratch when seducing a woman. It’s important to take note of the circumstances when doing so, such as how much time you have to approach and connect with her. Generally, you’re going to be faced with one of three situations for hitting on a girl, and you’re going to have to tweak the five-step method to accommodate for each. The principles remain the same, however, but I am going to show you how to tackle each of these situations like a true Sonic Seducer you are. Turn the page…
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Scenario #1: Time is on your side. In this case, you have days (maybe even weeks) to approach the woman. Maybe she goes to the same coffee shop as you, or you met her through friends. Whatever the case, you know you’re going to see her again…it’s just a matter of “bumping into” her. This scenario is ideal, because not only does it provide you with the least amount of pressure, but it also enables you plenty of time to establish rapport with her.
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Scenario #2: You’re on a tight deadline. Maybe you met her at a party, or were lucky enough to get seated next to her on that flight to Chicago. Still, you only have a few hours to put the moves on her. Unlike our first scenario, this situation requires you move quickly through the steps of seduction. While you are being rushed, you still have some time to establish a connection with the woman prior to asking for her digits.
Scenario #3: Seduction in a matter of seconds! This may sound impossible to accomplish, but if you know what you’re doing, it’s a piece of cake. Turn the page to find out just how…
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As you might imagine, this scenario involves a woman who will soon be gone if you don’t put some moves on her…fast. Yes – it does involve the greatest risk of rejection, but just because you’re working on the fly does not mean you should neglect the basic principles of establishing rapport. For example, let’s say you’re out shopping when you spot this gorgeous girl. A good approach would be to ask for her opinion on something before you buy it (establish rapport), thank her for her time, and then ask if she’d like to go out sometime.
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When approaching a woman for the first time, the biggest mistake you can make is rushing things. Remember that if you want to get her into bed, you have to warm her up properly, and the first step to doing this is to establish rapport with her. Follow my five-step model when approaching women, and learn how to use it in every seduction situation. If you do, you’ll have the sex life you’ve always wanted, and in no time at all. Next, you will discover how to overcome the biggest obstacle in any budding Sonic Seducer’s game – approach anxiety. Turn the page…
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Dude, here’s the deal about approach anxiety… If you think you’re the only one who gets nervous when approaching women, you’re mistaken. Truth be told, I used to be just like you. For me, hitting on women was more nerve-wrecking than a visit to the dentist. I was never quite sure of what to say or how to act, and the thought of rejection felt like a life or death situation to me. In fact, I used to be so anxious about approaching women that eventually, I just gave up. Sound familiar?
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The problem with giving up is that eventually, you get horny; and the only cure for horniness is getting laid. Don’t get me wrong – approaching people (especially gorgeous women) whom you’ve never met before is always going to be a bit uncomfortable, but if you don’t get past that, you’re never going to have the sex life you want. With that said, the only choice you’re left with is overcoming your fear and getting out there. If you fall, pick yourself up and try again. In this module of SonicSeduction, I’m going to share with you some key points on approaching women effectively. You’re going to learn what to do, and what not to do when going in for the kill. Put these methods into practice, and you’ll soon become the seducer you’ve always wanted to be. Turn the page…
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You’ll laugh at rejection if you know this. Read on. If you’re like most men, you take rejection personally. You feel that because one woman didn’t appreciate your efforts at seducing her, no woman will. If I were to guess, I’d say that you also think being rejected means you’re ugly, stupid, boring, and the like. Am I right? If you said yes, then I’d like you to smack yourself right at the head. When a woman rejects you, she’s actually rejecting your approach, not your person. Think about it: She’s never even met you before, so how would she have a clue as to your personality? Consider anyone (male or female) that you truly disliked. Odds are you got to know them prior to deciding that they repelled you.
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In other words, they gave you a reason to not like them. When approaching women, this reason has nothing to do with your value as a person, and everything to do with your method of seduction. That’s important for any Sonic Seducer to know! It’s the first impression you’re giving off that’s not meshing well with the women you’re trying to approach. But by the time you finish with the SonicSeduction system, meeting and getting women into bed will become second nature to you. Don’t worry, buddy – I’ve got your back.
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Before you approach any girl… …Take a Few “Practice Swings.” Athletes do it before the big game; singers do it before stepping on stage; and even your car does it before hitting the road for a long trip. It’s called warming up, and it’s necessary in order to successfully execute anything in life, especially seduction. But how do you warm up for approaching women? For starters, don’t be disappointed if your first couple of openers aren’t well received by others. Instead, consider those failures as “practice swings” – merely a warm up for the real deal. Just because some hot chick rejected your efforts to approach her doesn’t mean you’ve lost. You’ve actually gained from the experience.
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Warming up begins well before you hit the social scene. Turn off your computer and television, and get pumped by listening to your favourite CD. Reread the list of affirmations I told you to make in last module, carefully plan out what you’re going to wear, and enjoy a good look at your reflection in the mirror before heading out. And once you’re done with modules 4-7 later on in this course, you will be able to use cutting-edge Mind Conditioning technology to “prep” yourself for the big night out. Personally, I also like to lift weights and take a brisk run before going out on the prowl, but different things work for different people.
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Start With The “Infamous” Opinion Opener. There’s nothing wrong with asking a question. With this approach, you’re simply asking the woman for her opinion on something, and launching the conversation from there. This tactic works wonders over the cheesy pick-up lines used by so many guys, because it hides the ulterior motive for sex very well. That, and women love to give their opinions. However, there is a catch to the effectiveness of this technique – it’s all about your delivery. To illustrate, a girl friend of mine was at the grocery store one day, when a man approached her asking if she had any good apple-pie recipes. Guess what happened?
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She told me he stood about two inches from her face, where she got an excellent view of his “sex eyes.” He then proceeded to tell her that she looked like “a piece of apple pie.” She straight-lined it to the beer isle. The point of that story is this: Had he remained more neutral in his approach, she would’ve very well given him her number (more on neutrality later in this module). By delivering his opener in an obviously-horny fashion, he turned her off before even finishing his question. He didn’t get any apple pie either.
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Don’t Be Male Aggressive. You’ve heard of women who are “female aggressive”. These are women who practically foam at the mouth whenever another female is within two feet of them, especially when a man is at stake. Well, a lot of guys make the mistake of acting the same way when pursuing a woman. Call it primal instincts, the “thrill of the chase,” or whatever you want…just don’t go there. In seduction, there are going to be times when the girl you want to score is hanging out with other men. Unless one of these guys is her boyfriend or husband, don’t let this deter you. In fact, approaching groups that include men can actually make your job a lot easier, since guys tend to be more laid back, and lack the “guard” that so many women put up against getting hit on.
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With that said, try your opener on one or more of the men in the group to get the ball rolling. Once she sees that the group approves of you, the girl you’ve got your eye on will quickly warm up and become more approachable. In effect, you’ve used the men surrounding her to draw her into your world. Pour Out the “Liquid Confidence.” Have you ever wondered why drunk drivers never get hurt or killed in a car accident? This is more than mere coincidence, I assure you. In fact, doctors everywhere have attributed their survival rate to the alcohol in their system, which relaxes their muscles and enables them to survive the impact of the crash. Sadly, it’s the sober people that end up suffering the most.
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While alcohol may indeed relax you, it will not up your game when it comes to seduction. Most guys make the mistake of getting tanked on “liquid confidence” before even thinking about approaching hot women. As a result, their words are sloppy, their breath stinks, and a lot of them can’t help but fall all over the girl…literally. Trust me – this behavior is not going to get you laid. If you want to be a master Sonic Seducer, you have to be on top of your game at all times. This doesn’t mean you can’t have a social drink or two, but drowning your brain in booze is only going to work against you. In order to deliver effective openers and score phone numbers, you need to be sharp, on your toes, and naturally confident. And besides, you want to be able to pick up chicks outside of bars sometimes too.
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The Importance of Neutrality Just as it’s important to not be male aggressive, it’s also important not to kiss ass when approaching a group (mixed or not). Both behaviors – aggressiveness and fawning – are typical of someone with a low level of confidence, eager to gain the approval of those around him. Your aim in every interaction is to portray the selfassuredness that’s irresistible to hot women. In order to accomplish this, you must remain neutral in everything you say and do, until you reach the point where rapport has been established. Turn the page for an example…
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Let’s say you just met a girl for the first time. She’s hot, and you can’t help but think how nice it would be to lay her, but the best thing you can do at this point is keep that bit of information to yourself. Warning! If you were to get straight to the point with her, odds are you’d end things before they even began. Instead, focus the conversation more on gray areas, and less on sexual topics. Instead of telling her how beautiful she is, use your surroundings to find something to comment on. Make a joke about the dreadful shirt that guy in the corner is wearing. Talk about the song that’s playing, and tell her about the time you saw the artist in concert. Keep everything (from your words, to your body language) neutral until you’ve established a level of rapport with her.
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Approaching women is not a death sentence, and if you’ve paid any attention, you should know this by now. Remember that rejection is not to be taken personally, and the more you practice your approach, the more effective you’ll become at getting what you want. The key to seducing a woman for the first time is ease your way into her world with neutral dialogue and body language. Ask for her opinion on something, and chat up her entire group (even the males). Display a level of confidence that she’ll find irresistible, and you’ll have her in bed in no time.
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Module 3
"Somebody better call God, because He’s missing an angel!" I could list off hundreds of these lines that guys use to pick up women, but honestly, I don’t think I could stomach that. The reason these lines fail miserably is because they position men as the pursuer, not the prize. Besides, you’re probably the fifth guy that night to try the same tactic, and women can’t stand it. It doesn’t matter how you look, what you do for work, or how much money you have; if your skills suck, you’re going to end up in the same place you started…lonely and horny. An old fat guy who’s balding can have great success with approaching women if he knows what he’s doing.
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On that same note, you could look like you’ve just stepped off the pages of GQ, but if your approach is off, you’ll end up looking like a fool.
Assume Attraction. If you want to meet women minus the creepiness factor, you’re going to have to start viewing yourself as the prize, and I will show you how. Old tactics of tacky pick-up lines position women as the catch, not the other way around. If you go into an interaction prepared with a list of stories and oneliners, you’re placing yourself in a desperate state-of-mind…and it’s going to show. Instead, your goal should be to assume attraction.
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Assume Attraction … the heart of the SonicSeduction system. This concept can be hard to grasp for men who’ve never heard of it, but with a little practice, it’s a no-brainer. In short, it involves drawing women into your world, not invading theirs. The men who fail at picking up women just can’t wrap their minds around this concept, and until they do, they’re going to have to be content with their right hands. To illustrate, consider how most men move in on a woman. They either make the tragic mistake of reciting cheesy pick-up lines, or they introduce themselves right off the bat. Some even comment about how beautiful the woman is, expecting her to melt. When she moves to another table instead, they’re at a loss.
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Why do these methods fail? For starters, most women wear an invisible guard against men. They’re raised from a very early age to behave like ladies, and are warned about the social damage of being labelled a slut. To top things off, they’re all well aware of the fact that most men are only interested in sex. With that said, any attempt to directly pursue them (be it sexual or not) will make you appear as a threat. So how do you go about assuming attraction? What’s the best way to draw a woman into your world, and get laid at the same time? The following are some of the best SonicSeduction methods that aim at doing just that. Turn the page…
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Invade Her Space. No – I don’t mean literally. Instead, this technique involves “accidentally” touching a girl, giving you an excuse to talk to her. For instance, if you’re standing in a crowd, bump into her. When she notices (which she will), apologize, and start up a conversation about how crowded the place is. If you’re seated at a bar stand, mistakenly brush elbows with her, and take it from there. You can even make a joke out of it by asking, “You want to buy me a drink?” This technique is great, because in the woman’s eyes, you aren’t trying to hit on her. Only you are aware of your true intentions.
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Be Cool. A man who successfully picks up women knows how to behave. Many guys break a sweat when first talking to a girl. They act as though their very existence depends upon her response to them, and if she shoots them down, they take the blow personally. This is typical of a pursuer. A successful pick-up artist, on the other hand, is of an entirely different state-of-mind. Sure he wants to score, but at his very core, he’s confident in and of himself. His value is not dependent on any woman…they’re merely there for his amusement. With a mental attitude such as this, he doesn’t have to act confident, because he is confident. He has mastered the art of disguising his motives for sex until getting exactly what he wants. He is laid back in his approach, making him even more appealing to the opposite sex.
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Make Conversation. As you can probably imagine, this involves talking to a woman. You might be thinking this is easier said than done, but you couldn’t be more wrong. In fact, if you know what you’re doing, it’s not that hard at all. As you already learned in chapter 6, one of the best ways to chat up a girl is to get her opinion on something. Since I already covered what the technique is, I’d like to focus now on how to properly execute it. Believe it or not, there’s more involved than simply asking a girl where you can get some good sushi.
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There are a number of topics you could choose as openers, so generally speaking, there are very few rules for what to talk about. The only rule you must abide by when first meeting a girl is to refrain from any sexual questions. Sure you wouldn’t mind banging her right there on the table, but once again, if she picks up on that, you’re immediately disqualified. To get the ball rolling, here are a few of the openers I’ve successfully used to pick up women:
The “What should I do?” Opener This one involves somewhat of a lie (okay, it’s completely untrue), but it works wonders for building rapport with a woman. Approach the girl you’ve got your eye on, and tell her you need her opinion on something that is really bothering you. Turn the page to know how to use this opener for maximum results…
Module 3 A good story to tell is that you caught your buddy’s girlfriend with another man, and you don’t know if you should tell him, because you don’t want to hurt him (or something like that). Women love this sort of gossip, because it feeds their need for drama.
The “Puppy Love” Opener Sounds silly, I know, but hear me out. As we all know, most women love animals (especially dogs). Walk up to a group of girls, tell them you just got a new dog from the pound, and ask them what you should name it. If you have a dog yourself, carry a picture of it around with you, and pull it out to show the women what the dog looks like (of course, you’ve already named it, but they don’t have to know that). While they’re busy cooing over how cute the pup is, use the opportunity to make them laugh. Say you were thinking of naming the dog Freeloader.
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n order to get you more comfortable talking to women, I recommend you try out a few openers at random. The next time you’re out with your buddies, choose at least ten women to approach.
They can be attractive or not, but the point is simply to get you loosened up and more confident. If you’re at a restaurant, try asking her if she has any menu recommendations. If you’re at a bar, ask her if she comes there a lot. Doing this exercise should prove to you that talking to women is not a death sentence; in fact, it can be a lot of fun!
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When approaching a woman for the first time, you have to be in the right state-of-mind. See yourself as a prize that any woman would be lucky to have, not the other way around. Remember that women are clued into men’s desire for sex, so keep your opener as neutral as possible. Set up a situation to draw her into your world, and start a conversation by innocently asking for her opinion. This is a perfect way to establish rapport and get what you want at the same time
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Modules 4,5,6,7 TechSheets
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arning:
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ReadMeFirst.pdf if you haven’t done so. The document details important information which is vital to the correct understanding and usage of Brainwave Entrainment technology, and how it fits into the SonicSeduction™ system.
This TechSheet contains the usage instructions of all four Brainwave Entrainment audio tracks which come in the SonicSeduction™ system that you have downloaded. Turn the page to get started …
Module 4: Affirmations Track Download Tracks Here (right click and choose save as) •Main Track - http://www.sonicseduction.com/alpx/SonicSeduction-M4Affirmations.mp3 •Background Track - http://www.sonicseduction.com/alpx/SonicSeductionM4-Background.mp3
How To Use 1.
Put on the main track; make sure you are in a comfortable (and safe!) environment.
2.
Repeat the affirmations in the track. These are listed in the following page for your reference.
3.
Repeat with the background track (with the spoken affirmations removed).
Affirmations List (in sequence) 1.
I breathe slowly.
2.
I feel relaxed and calm.
3.
I let go of stress and frustrations.
4.
My body and mind are at peace.
5.
I a take pride in the way I look.
6.
And I allow myself to shine and be radiant.
7.
I feel happy everyday when I look in the mirror.
8.
My confidence is my biggest strength.
9.
Confidence allows me to greet every one warmly.
10. I am attractive in my own and unique way. 11.
I add value to my relationships, making people want to know me.
12. I experience self-assurance and self-recognition every day. 13.
I respect myself as I respect others.
14. Every day I rediscover myself and my own mysteries. 15.
I project an aura of calm confidence at all time.
16. I allow myself to shine like a beacon and become an inspiration to others. 17.
I let go of self-consciousness today.
Affirmations List (in sequence) – continued 18. It is now okay for me to put myself forward. 19. And I allow myself to fully enjoy the company of others. 20. I keep an open mind towards others. 21. And understand that no one is judging me. 22. I am an attractive mystery to others. 23. And I allow myself to shine and be radiant today. 24. My body and mind are at peace. 25. I let go of stress and frustrations. 26. I feel relaxed and calm. 27. I breathe slowly.
Technical Information
Uses Dual Isochronic Tones starting at 13 hz (Full Awareness State) reaching down to 10 hz (High Alpha) before ramping down again to 8 hz (Deep Alpha) for the rest of the session. Triggers an highly suggestive state perfected for combined use with Hypnotic Affirmations.
Module 5: Mind Conditioning Track
Download Track Here (right click and choose save as) •Main Track - http://www.sonicseduction.com/alpx/SonicSeduction-M5Entrainment.mp3
How To Use 1.
Put on the main track; make sure you are in a comfortable (and safe!) environment.
2.
Close your eyes, and relax.
3.
When the track ends (it’s exactly 20 minutes long), slowly regain your consciousness.
Technical Information
Uses Isochronic Tones starting at 13 hz (Normal Rate), deepening to a deeper relaxation state of 8hz (Relaxation - Stress & Anxiety Reduction) and maintaining the frequency through most of the session, ramping up again to 10 hz (High Alpha - Bliss, Confidence, Feeling of success) to close the session on a positive feeling of well-being.
Module 6: Meditation Track
Download Track Here (right click and choose save as) •Main Track - http://www.sonicseduction.com/alpx/SonicSeduction-M6Meditation.mp3
How To Use 1.
Put on the main track; make sure you are in a comfortable (and safe!) environment.
2.
Close your eyes, and relax.
3.
When the track ends (it’s exactly 10 minutes long), slowly regain your consciousness.
Technical Information
Uses Isochronic Tones starting at 13 hz (Full Awareness State) and quickly deepening to 10hz (High Alpha - Relaxation) to shock-induce a relaxed meditative state that lasts until the end of the session.
Module 7: Anxiety-Buster Track
Download Track Here (right click and choose save as) •Main Track
- http://www.sonicseduction.com/alpx/SonicSeduction-M7-
AnxietyKiller.mp3
How To Use 1.
Put on the main track; make sure you are in a comfortable (and safe!) environment.
2.
Close your eyes, and relax.
3.
When the track ends (it’s exactly 60 minutes long), slowly regain your consciousness.
Technical Information
Uses Isochronic Tones starting at 13 hz (Full Awareness State) and quickly deepening to 10hz (High Alpha - Relaxation) to shock-induce a relaxed meditative state that lasts until the end of the session.
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Module 8: Sonic Pickup Routines Guidebook
D
oing the same thing over and over again can get boring.
Bars and nightclubs are indeed great places to meet women, but they’re not the only venues occupied by the opposite sex. Often times, it’s the most obvious (and overlooked) places where men find their greatest seduction success. While the tactics for picking up women vary from place to place, the premise is still the same…to score. Switching up your routine is necessary to avoid seduction stalemate, and in this SonicSeduction™ module, I’m going to show you how to do just that – using 7 patented routines that have worked, time and again. Turn the page to get started…
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If one tactic doesn’t work, revamp your game plan and try another. The following are some ideas to get you started. These tactics are field-tested with great success (especially in the dating lives of those I coach), and I have no doubt you will too - if you do precisely what I say. Sonic Routine #1: Going Into "Enemy" Territory Candle stores, shoe shops, and even perfumeries are generally accepted as places where only women shop, so why not do a little shopping of your own? Not only are the women plentiful, but the majority of other men won’t go near these venues. This puts you in an ideal position for success. For example, let’s say you’re at a perfume store. Zone in on the woman you’re interested in, and ask for her opinion on a good scent. “Obviously, I haven’t a clue about these kinds of things,” you could tell her, and add on that you’re shopping for your sister’s birthday present. This last point is especially important, as you don’t want the woman to think you’re already taken.
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Sonic Routine #2: Go Back to School. Well, you don’t literally have to go back to school (although that idea is not to be discredited), but a great place to utilize your pick-up routines is in a college town. When you’re enrolled in school, there’s practically a buffet of women for you to choose from. Finding hot and single women tends to become harder in the working world. If you’re uncomfortable with this idea because you’re older or have been graduated for a while, don’t let that deter you. Many college girls find the idea of an older man appealing, and they tend to make the best “test subjects” for seduction. Tell them you’re now working, and tack on that you’re studying ways to have the best sex (through SonicSeduction, of course). That’ll get the conversation rolling!
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Sonic Routine #3: Bust a Move. As you can imagine, this technique requires you get on the dance floor. You don’t have to be John Travolta to make this work; just move your feet to the rhythm (like everyone else). Once you spot a girl you’re interested in, move up to her, and assess her response to your presence. If she stays put, you’re doing good. Wait a couple of minutes, and gently place your hands on her sides. Periodically change the position of your hands to other parts of her body, such as her back, arms, and hips. This may sound risky if you’ve never tried it before, but if she’s not refusing you, then let me assure you of one thing…she’s getting really turned on!
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Your ultimate goal with this tactic is to kiss her, which is entirely possible. At some point during the dance, move your face up close to hers, and hold it there. If you’re unsure of her attraction to you, try asking her if she’s a good kisser, and go from there. But nine times out of ten, you can just lay one on her right there. Sonic Routine #4: Say “Cheese!” Everyone has a cell phone nowadays, and almost every cell phone has a camera on it. Use this to your advantage when picking up women. Get a good conversation going with her, and once she’s warmed up to you, ask somebody to take a picture of the two of you together. Not only is this a great way of establishing rapport with a woman, but it’s also an excellent excuse for touching her. Wrap your arm around her shoulders and smile big knowing that she’s getting off from your touch.
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Sonic Routine #5: Be Psychic. Women love anything to do with astrology, and you can use this to your advantage. Abandon the generic openers by appealing to her interest in the stars, and tell her you have psychic abilities that are honing in on her. When she asks you what you see, spit out something generic like, “I sense that you love ice cream.” If this sounds crazy, it should, and it’ll get her laughing in no time. A side note to this tactic is to avoid any sexual innuendos. Once again, your first words to a woman should never be of a sexual nature. With that said, don’t tell her you foresee the two of you in bed together, or odds are you never really will. Be forewarned!
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Sonic Routine #6: Read Her Palms. You may not know this, but the hands are one of the body’s many erogenous zones. In other words, by gently tracing your finger along her palms, you stand a good chance of sending sexual sensations right through her. Developing a palm-reading skill is also a great way to establish rapport with any woman. You don’t have to dive full force into the practice; just pick up a book on palm reading, or run a Google search to learn the basics. Then, the next time you’re in a one-on-one with a girl, take her hand in yours, study it, and tell her you see something very interesting. Just as with the psychic technique, keep your responses playful and flirty.
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Sonic Routine #7:“One more thing” This tactic works well when you’re already in a conversation with a woman, but you sense that you’re losing her. If she appears to be excusing herself from the conversation, keep her hooked by saying, “One more thing,” and revive the dialogue from there. If this doesn’t work the first time, keep trying until it does. It once took one of my students eight “one more things” before finally hooking the girl. If I recall correctly, she went home with him that very night. Yes – persistence is definitely the key with this pickup routine
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Module 9: The Problem Solver Toolbox
I
t
doesn’t
matter
how
innocent
(or
mischievous) your intentions are, a woman always has the option of telling you no.
How many times have you offered to buy a girl a drink, only to get turned down? Situations such as this often leave guys scratching their heads wondering what they did wrong, and how they can do it right. After all, if she’s not going to let you pay her way at the bar, she’s definitely not going to go home with you, so what’s a guy to do? Fortunately for you, SonicSeduction has got the answer. Turn the page…
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What most men don’t realize is that when they ask women
“yes
or
no”
questions,
they’re
actually
positioning themselves to be turned down. To reiterate myself from before, most women are programmed with a guard set up against men in social scenes, so any time you throw a closed-ended question their way, your answer could very likely be no. “Would you like to dance?” I don’t dance. “Can I get your number?” Why don’t you give me your number, and I’ll call you...or maybe not. “Do you want to go somewhere to talk?” No, I don’t want to leave my friend.
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Believe me, I’ve been there, and I understand. I’ve spent a lot of time wondering how to break past this barrier, and men…I’ve found the solution. I call it the “Yes Technique,” and it’s so simple, you’ll wonder why you haven’t thought of it before. Not only is it easy to use and understand, but it’ll get you the results you seek in no time. Here’s the technique in its full glory...
The Yes Technique To better understand this technique, you first have to recognize what you’ve been doing wrong. In short, “yes or no” questions put you in a powerless state. They give the women the choice over what’s going to happen, and very few (if any) of those options will lead to you. The Yes Technique aims to fix that.
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Summed up, this technique deceives a woman into thinking she’s making her own decision, but in reality, all of her options are directed back at you. Your questions aren’t posed as closed- or open-ended; you merely give her a few options to choose from, all of which get you exactly what you want. Let’s revamp my sample questions above using the Yes Technique. Wrong: “Would you like to dance?” Right: “Are you ready to dance now, or do you need a few minutes?” Wrong: “Can I get your number?” Right: “Can I get your number, or when do you want to call me?” Wrong: “Do you want to go somewhere to talk?” Right: “Can you hear in this place, or would it be quieter in the other room?”
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Not only does this technique give her no other option but to do your will, but it also puts you in a very powerful position. It works to display a natural confidence that women find irresistible. There’s nothing a woman loves more than a man in charge.
The Teasing Technique This is a twist on the Yes Technique that works just as well. Believe it or not, you can actually tease a woman into doing exactly what you want. Think of this is a less threatening form of peer pressure. The Teasing Technique is just what it sounds like – teasing a woman with two choices for her to make. The secret is to make one of the options sound much more enticing than the other. In short, you’re forcing her to live up to an ideal…and displaying your power at the same time.
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I can use the same sample questions above to illustrate how this works: Wrong: “Would you like to dance?” Right: “Do you want to dance, or do you have no rhythm?” Wrong: “Can I get your number?” Right: “Can I get your number, or do you not go out with awesome guys?” Wrong: “Do you want to go somewhere to talk?” Right: “Do you want to go some place quieter, or do you enjoy being deaf?” This may sound cruel, but the Teasing Technique is a milder form of manipulation. You’re using a powerful choice of words to get into a girl’s head, pressuring her into living up to your expectations. You’re also allowing zero room for the word no, which a Sonic Seducer never hears.
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When you cut straight to the point when pursuing a woman, you’re setting yourself up for failure. But by carefully choosing how you pose a question, you can get exactly what you want. Don’t feel shy about being so forward. Women are drawn to men who take the lead, and they can’t help but be impressed by such a high level of confidence. Try out these techniques the next time you hit the town, and you’ll never hear the word no again – I guarantee it.
Ж
W
e’ve all been there. You’ve got a girl who you like, and you’ll do anything to spend time with her.
This typically involves taking her places, paying her way, and listening to her run her mouth about her guy problems. If that isn’t enough to bother you, the fact that you’re getting absolutely no ass out of the deal only adds insult to injury.
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To be perfectly honest, if you’re already at this point with a girl, there’s very little (if anything) you can do to change the situation.
You’re her
friend, and that’s probably all you’ll ever be. One
thing you can do is learn from your mistakes, and see to it that you never make them again. In this section of the Problem Solver Toolkit, I’m going to show you how to do just that. The master Sonic Seducer knows his intentions with a girl immediately, and he wastes no time making them known to her. He does not become her therapist in the hopes that she’ll decide she likes him. His time is much too valuable for that. He does, however, take certain steps to delve straight into a sexual relationship with her. Read on to learn more...
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Anti-Friend Tip #1: Gaze into Her Eyes. This should make her feel slightly uncomfortable, but in a good way. In fact, if you’re not used to doing it, it should make you feel some discomfort as well, but trust me, it works. Simply establish eye contact with her, and hold it for a good three to five seconds. This creates significance to your interaction with her, and enhances that unspoken intimacy that friends don’t have.
Anti-Friend Tip #2: Decide Quickly. When you’re out with her, don’t hesitate when deciding what to eat, drink, or anything else. Your goal is to escalate the sexuality, and by making decisions quickly, you’re displaying your self assurance to her.
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Anti-Friend Tip #3: Use Your Eyes. There’s a lot to be said for a simple wink. Gesture in this manner to anyone around the world, and they will know what your intentions are. There are so many opportunities to wink. If you’re telling her something quirky or funny, or if you’re responding to something she said, show your appreciation by giving her a wink. This is a powerful means of flirting, because it’s so simple, yet holds so much intimacy to it.
Anti-Friend Tip #4: Scope Her Out. If there’s one thing her guy friends don’t do, it’s give her the once-over (at least, not while she’s looking). However, there is a fine line between appreciating her body, and degrading her, so be careful not to cross it.
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For starters, establish eye contact, and quickly draw your eyes down the length of her figure. Don’t be embarrassed or modest about doing this. Remember – your objective is to establish yourself as a romantic interest, not a buddy!
Anti-Friend Tip #5: Move Sharply. This has everything to do with body language. Stand up straight, don’t slouch when sitting, and make every movement as powerful as possible. Doing so will display you as a confident, sexual male, and what woman doesn’t like that? If you make your mannerisms interesting, she will find you interesting as well.
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Anti-Friend Tip #6: Stroke Her Ego. In other words, give her a compliment or two. Remember, however, that your goal in doing so is to establish yourself as a sexual possibility in her eyes. With that said, stray away from compliments that are safe. If it sounds like something her friend would say to her, don’t utter a single sound. Good compliments for increasing sexual attraction will indicate to her exactly what your intentions are. Tell her she looks great, or has beautiful eyes.
Anti-Friend Tip #7: Move In On Her. Instead of blatantly telling her something, create an intimate moment by whispering it in her ear. The closeness, coupled with the sensation of your words in her ear, will send shivers down her spine.
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Display your confident nature by helping yourself to her personal space. A man who knows what he wants goes in and takes it, and if what you want is something more than a friendship, you’re going to have to make that clear from the start.
Ж Once you’re in the dreaded friend zone, you still stand a chance of getting out. But don’t expect to get laid by listening to her problems hoping that she’ll one day come to her senses. Women either view you as a friend or lover, but rarely both. If you really want to have sex with her, you’re going to have to set the wheels in motion as soon as you meet her. Every gesture you make towards her (from the look in your eyes, to the things you say to her) must indicate this desire. Doing so will get you something much more than a new friend
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Module 10: Storytelling & Cold Reading
H
ow do you normally try to pick up women? If you’re like most men, you probably approach a girl you find attractive, ask if you can buy her a drink, and bombard her with questions about herself.
If this tactic worked well for you in the past, then congratulations, but I seriously doubt it’s been successful 100 percent of the time. The real shame is that it’s been used and abused by men for far too long. Why is this approach so unsuccessful? For starters, it’s the same crap women are exposed to every day of their lives. If you think you’re the only guy to ask where she’s from, or what she does for a living, you’re mistaken.
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Secondly,
directing a laundry list of getting-to-know-you
questions towards a girl puts you in the subordinate position of a pursuer, not a prize. It’s a waste of your time and breath, and it rarely (if ever) gets you laid. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not downplaying the importance of getting to know a girl (how else are you going to get her into bed)? I’m simply saying that you must have substance to your conversations with women. Q & A sessions do very little to enhance sexual attraction, and in fact, they tend to kill it. It’s for this very reason that you must learn the ultimate tactic in seducing women....
The tactic of storytelling.
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Why Women Love Stories There’s a reason why women love soap operas so much. These shows (which women tenderly dub their “stories”) appeal to a woman’s need for drama and emotional fulfilment. Most of these programs have been on the air for over three decades, which has to tell you something. Hell, not even The Simpsons can brag about that. This concept is hard for men to grasp, as we tend to be the “no bullshit” half of the two sexes. When it comes to telling each other stories, we men just need the basics – all the tiny details in between are nothing more than a waste of time. Women, on the other hand, are very emotional creatures. Their stories are colorful depictions of not only what happened, but what led up to the event, how the event made them feel, and so many other details that would make any man want to scream “Just get to the focken point!”
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Irritating as it may seem, you must learn how to use this example to your advantage. If you really want to captivate a woman, you have to know how to draw her into your world through stories, and in this section of SonicSeduction, you will learn to do just that. Being a good storyteller will put you in the spotlight as a prize she must earn, and it will work wonders for heating up your sex life.
Elements of a Bad Story I once knew this guy (at the Malaysia Lair) who could never get laid (let’s call him “Josh”). In fact, the very first time I met him, he started complaining about how all women are stuck-up bitches, and he just couldn’t understand why they were so hard to please. At first, I genuinely felt sorry for the guy…until we hit the town together.
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It didn’t take me long to figure out what Josh was doing wrong when it came to flirting. We were seated at a table with a group of beautiful women, and everything was going great…until he opened his mouth. The girls’ faces quickly went from bliss to disgust as Josh relived the story of his grandma’s dead cat, which had been decomposing in the backyard for weeks. “My stupid bitch of a grandma didn’t even notice!” he said, laughing as though the comment were totally normal. Needless to say, the night was a bust, but you can learn a great deal from Josh’s mistake. In short, his story was told in bad taste. For safe measure, stray away from tales about dead animals, decomposing bodies, strange sexual escapades, and the like. Moreover, never refer to your female characters as a bitch, slut, cunt, or any other derogatory comment about the opposite sex.
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Elements of a Good Story I’m not downplaying the importance of humor, but you must know the difference between good comedy and tastelessness. In fact, the best stories are generally of a funny nature. Laughter is an aphrodisiac, in that it releases “feel-good” signals from a woman’s brain, enhancing her feelings of rapport towards you. And no – decomposing cat bodies are not funny. In addition to having a sense of humor, try to be mindful of the details you give in your stories. You want to appeal to a woman sexually, you must first appeal to the emotional side of her brain that craves drama. Don’t just give the who, what, where, when, why, and how – fill in the gaps as well. What was the weather like? Were there any onlookers in your story? How did they respond?
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If you really want to grab her attention, tell her how the story made you feel. What were your thoughts about the subject? Did you become a better man from it? What, if anything, would you have done differently? If you can become a man who’s comfortable talking about his emotions, you’re sure to win over any woman who comes your way.
“So what do I talk about?” By this point, you’re probably wondering where you can get some good storytelling material. The good news is that you don’t have to be a best-selling author to captivate a woman’s mind. If that were the case, most men wouldn’t be getting any action at all. In fact, all you need to do is open your eyes and look around you. Turn the page for some story ideas…
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Very often, the best stories come from real life, but the trick is to know how to spot them. Go through your day mentally, and think of anything unusual you did, saw, or heard. Did you finish a huge project at work? Maybe you’re going on a killer vacation in the near future. What did your friend do recently that others might find hilarious? Steer away from philosophy. Not only is it inappropriate for first-time conversations, but people at clubs or bars just want to relax and have fun. Besides, most women can smell that “deep thinker” bullshit from a mile away, so keep your conversations light hearted. It’s for this reason that I say you should draw from your everyday life for the best material. Next, you should know how to think of stories on your feet…read on.
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Another source to get immediate ideas from is your immediate environment. In fact, I can’t think of a better way to establish rapport with a woman than to make observations both of you can appreciate. Does that drunk guy in the corner remind you of a time your buddy got really wasted? What about the song that’s playing – what does it remind you of? By drawing up material from your immediate surroundings, you will come across as spontaneous – women view this as highly attractive.
My “Brush with Celebrity” Story Speaking of music, I have a true story that I use on practically every woman I make contact with. While the characters change each time I tell it, this tale never fails to pique a woman’s interest in my life. It’s a simple, fun, and humorous story about the time I met Joey Jordison from Slipknot.
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(Slipknot’s “Psychosocial” hits the loud speakers): “Oh man, I love this song! You know, I actually got to meet Joey Jordison from Slipknot a few years back. They were playing at the Dome Stadium downtown, and after the show, a few buddies of mine got the idea to sneak backstage. We figured if we just acted like we belonged there, nobody would bother us, and nobody did. The next thing I saw was Joey coming straight at us. He was covered in sweat and heading to the shower, when my stupid buddy ran straight up to him asking for his autograph. ‘What’s the matter with you kid? Can’t you see I’m busy?’ Yeah –Joey was not happy. ‘Get out of here you stupid punks!’ God – I’ll never forget that day.”
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While I really did meet Joey Jordison (kind of), I always take into account the song that’s playing when flirting with the girl, and take my cue from there. For instance, if David Bowie’s on the loud speakers, then that’s who I met, not Joey Jordison. The story remains the same, but the characters are tweaked solely for the purpose of conversation.
Believe What You’re Saying. The best salesmen are the ones who stand behind their product 100 percent. Maybe they’ve seen how well it works personally or maybe not, but one thing’s for certain…they know they’ve got a good thing. When it comes to pitching a potential client, everything from their body language to the tone in their voice screams “You must have this product!” As a result, they make the sale.
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When telling a story, use arm gestures to illustrate important points. Demonstrate how something was done by using a member of your audience, and make facial expressions that enhance the words coming out of your mouth. If someone doubts what you’re saying, tell them they’re entitled to their opinion, and continue. The key here is to remain congruent.
A killer storytelling device: TRANSITIONS Transitions are subtle ways of going from one conversation to another. They’re great for introducing new topics, instead of blurting something outof-the-blue. Some useful transitions include: »“Something similar happened to me once.” »“That reminds me…” »“Speaking of which…”
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One of the best transitions is to tell the woman she reminds you of someone, and lead into your account from there. All people (especially women) have a somewhat selfish streak, and would welcome the opportunity to learn more about themselves via your stories.
Caution: Don’t Sabotage Yourself While your aim with storytelling is to portray yourself as a prize to women, be careful to not go overboard. Boasting about your accomplishments may seem like a great way to up your chances with the opposite sex, but it’s not. In fact, most people (especially women) view bragging as a sign of low self confidence. After all, if you were truly comfortable in your own skin, you wouldn’t need the approval of others, would you?
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It’s for this reason that Sonic Seducers
know that the best
stories are of a light hearted and humorous nature. Taking this approach provides you with the opportunity to display your assets, without coming off too cocky. Instead of repelling her with arrogance, it gives her the opportunity to wonder what it’s like being a part of your life. In some instances, however, the girl will not be receptive to your story, and it’s no big deal if she doesn’t. Think of it this way: You didn’t lose anything, and even though you weren’t successful in becoming a prize in her eyes, you at least gained some storytelling experience. The sooner you begin to view mistakes as learning experiences, the sooner you will become the master seducer you desire.
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Women are suckers for a good story, and this can be observed through their everyday conversations. As a result, storytelling is the best way to stand apart from your male competition. Drop the old tactics of asking a woman getting-to-know-you questions, and fill your conversations with intricate tales she will appreciate. Not only does it help you establish rapport with a woman, but it also puts you in the position of a prize to be won over. The best stories come from real-life experiences, and all you have to do is keep your eyes open and your mind fresh. Think about what happened to you throughout the day, and find ways to talk about it in an interesting manner. Keep the topic funny and light hearted, and stay away from topics of a tasteless nature. Tell your stories with a lot of detail, emotion, and conviction, and you’ll be sure to seduce any woman lucky enough to listen.
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Storytelling skills alone will enough to get you develop killer rapport with any woman you want to attract. But if you want to seduce at a “higher level” like all master Sonic Seducers do, you will have to master this next technique which I am going to share with you.
Sonic Rapport Builder – Cold Reading Cold Reading is the most devastating weapon in the Sonic Seducer’s arsenal – so it’s important for you to master it. It’s not difficult to learn this skill – there are books written solely on this topic – but this guide is all you need to know how to USE cold reading in the context of dating and seducing women. Cold readings are interpretations made about someone upon first meeting them. You know absolutely nothing about the person, yet you’re still able to appear as though you can see their true nature. It’s a technique used by psychics and palm readers every day, and women love it!
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You’re probably thinking “But I’m not psychic!” Yeah, neither am I, but I still manage to effectively use cold readings on every woman I meet. And if you want to know the truth, almost all of the “psychics” you see on television don’t have cognitive powers either. They just know how to work the technique of cold reading. And soon, you will too.
A Concise How-To Guide to Cold Reading Let’s go back to what I said about the psychics on television using cold reading. These 800-number scam artists have absolutely no special powers, but one thing they do have is a great understanding of human nature. They know that people (especially women) desire input into their lives and futures, and they feed off this need.
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These “psychics” know the secret to cold reading, and that is to pinpoint similarities shared among people within various demographics. For instance, if a 21-year-old female called in to hear her fortune, the psychic would logically guess that she was “at a turning point” in her life. Anyone who’s been 21 years old knows this is typically a transitional age, what with entering college, deciding what you want to do for a living, and experiencing overall independency. Suffice it to say that this “prediction” is hardly a stretch. Nevertheless, the young girl’s ears would perk up upon hearing it, completely convinced that the psychic is reading into her life. As a result, the girl would spill her guts, giving the psychic even more material to work off of. What started off as a general assumption by the psychic has quickly developed into something believable.
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Tips for Making Generalizations Let’s be honest: Most of us aren’t psychic. Still, women practically flock to anything that has to do with astrology. While most men would laugh at the idea of reading their horoscope, women fill their minds with thoughts about the future. It’s for this reason that delivering cold readings can work so well for your sex life. But how do you make generalizations about a woman you just met? It’s simple – just think about the things that all women care about. Their looks, careers, love lives, and relationships with others are just a few that come to mind. To get you started, here are just some of the ways you can approach a cold reading with a girl in a generalized way - turn the page…
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Cold Reading Technique #1: Reveal Her “Complex” Lifestyle Very few of us live the same day over and over again. Would she be out talking and drinking with you if she did? You can use this to your advantage when performing a cold reading on a girl. Try this line for instance: “I can tell by the group you came with that you have a lot of friends. But I sense that you value your alone time as well.” Who wouldn’t agree with that? This technique also utilizes the “duality” technique – either she will relate to the first part of the generalization (“lots of friends”) or the second part (“being alone”). Either side, you’re covered.
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Cold Reading Technique #2: Cover the Gamut of Emotions This tactic aims at revealing multiple sides to her personality. Think about it: Most people can be perfectly happy in one situation, but in other cases, not so much. Emotions are versatile depending upon the circumstances, and they work wonders for effectively delivering cold readings like this: “You seem to be a very kind and loving person, but you can only take so much. If someone hurts you or a person you care about, you have no problem speaking your mind about it.”
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Cold Reading Technique #3: See Thru Her This one works wonders for building rapport with a woman. If you can successfully detect her true nature on the inside, you’ll be getting laid in no time. What’s even better is that it’s not that hard to do at all. Put simply, start out the cold reading by describing her external characteristics (the person she reveals to others), and follow it up by making a general guess about how she truly is internally. For example, “You come off as a sweet, good girl, but I bet on the inside, you’ve got a rebellious streak.” When she agrees with you, enhance your rapport with her by saying you’re exactly the same way.
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Cold Reading Technique #4: Play Into Her Desires A lot of times, you can “trick” people into believing you simply by telling them what they want to hear. For instance, let’s say you meet a girl who comes off a bit shy. Odds are she wants to open up to people, and desires to be noticed by them, but she just doesn’t know how to get the ball rolling. You could use this to your advantage by saying the following: “You come off as a really quiet girl, but I bet you’re a totally different person around those you’re most comfortable with. There are a lot of interesting qualities to you that people rarely get to see.” Trust me…she’ll melt.
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The trick to using these approaches effectively is to base your cold readings off of something obvious. If a woman is tearing up the dance floor, don’t go and tell her she has a shy streak, because she obviously doesn’t. The best indicators to base generalizations off of are (1) body language, (2) conversation, and (3) temperament. Let’s go back to the example of the girl on the dance floor. She’s obviously got a very free spirit and tons of friends, but don’t most people feel a need to be understood from time to time? Run with this by saying “You’ve got a very energetic aura, and I can tell that people really love you. But I also sense that there are times when you feel alone and misunderstood.” If a girl is standoffish (i.e. – tight posture, crossed arms, and quiet demeanor), use these examples of her body language to I am going to tell you next to cold read her. Turn the page…
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Approach her and say “I can tell by your manner that you’re not really into the club scene all that much. Am I right?” When she agrees with you, tell her you feel the same way, and don’t know why you let your friends drag you there. Here’s a killer tip… Before beginning any cold readings, you should work on your ability to read body language. Observe people in a social environment, and key in on the different poses, postures, and behaviors. From there, prepare a few cold readings (either in your head or on paper) and use the same lines for the appropriate personality. Practice makes perfect, and the more you work on your coldreading capabilities, the more believable you’ll be, and the more sex you’ll get.
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Cold Reading 2.0 Besides making an outright psychic prediction, there are some “advanced” methods of performing cold readings that you can use. Tarot cards and personality tests are just some of the ways you can tap into a girl’s psyche, but use them in moderation. If you think about it, a guy who brings a deck of astrological cards with him to the bar might come off as being kind of weird, and the last thing you need is to be seen as a Dragon Con fanatic. But if you must branch out with your cold readings, I highly recommend palm reading. For starters, you don’t have to drag along any props like cards, which saves you the hassle and embarrassment. Even better is that palm reading provides you with an excuse to touch a woman. Turn the page…
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If you didn’t already know it, the hands are one of the body’s erogenous zones that are often overlooked, so the sensation of your finger delicately tracing along her palms will send shivers straight through her. As with psychic readings, you don’t have to be a professional to effectively perform palm readings. Reading into a girl puts an interesting twist on the usual getting-to-know-you process of seduction, making you appear as a prize in the eyes of any woman you come into contact with. When to Stop Reading The purpose of cold readings is not only to get to know a girl, but also to help you stand out from every other guy in the room. With that said, there is a point where you need to just stop, and it’s important to recognize when that is.
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If you’ve sufficiently worked up a good reading with a girl, you’ve probably learned a great deal about her (provided that you paid attention to what she said). Wrap up your reading, and go back to the points she mentioned about herself to delve into an actual conversation. Tell her a few stories that she could probably relate to (use the Storytelling techniques you learned earlier). Cold reading is an interesting tactic for getting in good with a girl, but be careful not to use it as a crutch. What would you think if someone approached you saying they had psychic abilities? At first, you’d probably play along, and you might even find their predictions entertaining. However, I’d be willing to bet you’d get annoyed if they didn’t know when to quit. The same holds true for women.
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Constantly spouting off cold readings to a girl shows a lack of basic conversational skills on your part. If you can’t discuss normal topics with her, you’re only telling her one thing…you’re a loser. In her eyes, you have low self-esteem, and must rely on games to gain the approval of anyone. So while cold readings are a great way to get the ball rolling, know when to stop. Do Women Even Fall for This? The short answer is yes. The premise behind cold readings is that everyone has a deep-rooted belief that he or she is special and unique. When taking in predictions made by cold readings, their ears tune out the generalizations, focusing solely on what information pertains to them. Call it selective hearing or a self-serving ego, but it works…especially with women.
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If you practice cold readings to the point where you’ve mastered them, you’ll not only establish rapport with a woman, but you’ll tap into that need she has to be understood by her man. And if you don’t perform readings well, at the very least, you’ve shown her an interesting side to your personality. Either way, you win. What To Do Next? Observing people can be an effective exercise in practicing cold readings. The next time you find yourself out in public, watch the women. Memorize or write down the similarities you notice about them. How they dress, interact, drink, talk, walk – these are just some of the attributes you can take note of. Remember them when preparing cold readings, as these are generalizations that many women feel are unique only to them.
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When it comes time to actually try a cold reading out on a girl, you don’t want to go in unprepared. Have a list of readings prepared, and memorize them for the real thing. You don’t have to prepare a special reading for each and every girl; in fact, most of the lines I use on women are rehearsed and recycled. The key is to sound natural, as though you’re naturally coming up with the whole thing.
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While most people like to think of themselves as different, we’re really very similar, and this is the premise of an effective cold reading. It is a good conversational opener to grab a girl’s attention, and if done correctly, will help you score big time
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Module 11: Advanced Body Language Tactics
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t’s a fact that 90 percent of communication is revealed through a person’s actions…their body language. That means that only 10 percent of what’s coming out of your mouth really matters. In effect, two guys could say the same thing to a girl, but give off completely different messages to her.
SonicSeduction™ is designed to teach you how to become a prize to women, and how to do it fast. However, if you can’t grasp the basic concepts of strong and confident body language, your efforts will be all for nothing. Talk is cheap, and at the end of the day, it’s your actions that women will remember you for.
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Think about it this way: Imagine you’re attending a weekly budget meeting for the corporation you work for. What would you think if your CEO came into the room with his body slouched and head down? What if (when telling the group that sales need to increase) his voice was stuttering, and he neglected to make eye contact with anyone? Would that make you want to get on the phone and secure some accounts? Odds are you wouldn’t be fazed by his request at all. On the other hand, imagine that this CEO carried himself tall and proud. His voice was so profound that it demanded respect, and he wasn’t shy about staring dead at you when talking about the slumping sales. If I were to guess, you’d take his message with the utmost seriousness, fearful for your job security, among other things. This boss of yours meant business, and he really didn’t have to say a word to indicate that.
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This example illustrates that the same message can mean two entirely different things, depending on how it’s delivered. The same holds true for seducing women. If you’re a nervous wreck when approaching a woman, how is she going to take anything you say seriously? If you don’t value yourself as a prize, why on earth would she? It’s true that if you don’t sincerely feel confident mentally, you’re going to have a hard time acting that way, but true confidence is something that grows with you. In the meanwhile, you must study the basics of confident body language, and make a conscious effort to apply them to your everyday behavior. If you do, you’ll not only score in the bedroom, but in life as well. Let’s get started!
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Body Language 101: The Best Way to Carry Yourself Find someone you trust who knows you well, and ask them how you tend to carry yourself in public. The reason you should ask a trusted buddy is because very often, we tend to have a blurred image of ourselves and how we appear to others. The truth may shock you. If this friend of yours says you tend to slouch, hold your head down, and appear shy overall, you’ve got some homework to do, and it’s time to start working on the basics of confident body language. This includes maintaining a tall frame, proud chest, and overall relaxed demeanor. Try to be conscious of your posture, and if you catch yourself hunching over, immediately fix it. A good trick to help you stand tall is to start breathing through your stomach instead of your chest, as it forces your frame upwards. This instantly will give you an extra 4 1/2 inches above your measured height.
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But if you improve anything at all, you must improve your eye contact with others. Lowered or shy eyes indicate a weak and subordinate status. On the other hand, if you can make and lock eye contact with others, you will appear as the confident man you are. Try staring at the bridge of the person’s nose if you’re having trouble with this. They won’t be able to tell the difference. Once you’ve mastered the basics of good body language, you’ll be ready to move on to the physical aspect of seduction. Read on... The SonicSeduction™ “Give and Take” Technique This technique involves flirting with a woman (giving), and suddenly removing your interest away from her (taking). If this sounds like teasing, you’re exactly right…and it drives women crazy!
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Consider all the “nice guys” you know (that guy may even be you). They give and give to women, only to get rejected in the end. If their intentions are genuinely good, why on earth do they always finish last? The answer is simple… they don’t present a challenge. There’s a universal economic theory called the Law of Scarcity. It states that a product’s value increases as its availability decreases. In short, the harder something is to obtain, the more important and expensive it becomes. While this law illustrates the concept of supply and demand for goods and services, it’s easily transferable to human relationships, and this is where the Give and Take technique comes in. Here’s the deal. You can’t shower a woman with affection. The more available you are, the less valuable you become.
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On the other hand, you’re never going to get laid if you don’t put in some effort towards seduction. The key is to show interest in a woman, get her excited, and take your affection away from her. By maintaining this cycle of give and take, you’re increasing your value in her eyes. Before you know it, she’ll be chasing you. So, how do you use body language to “give and take”? Read on… How to “Give” Via Body Language This is exactly what it sounds like – showing your sexual interest through your actions. Don’t get the wrong idea about this. I am by no means indicating that you should pour yourself all over a woman. Indicating too much interest through your actions would be the same as not providing a challenge at all.
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Never, under any circumstance, are you to commit yourself to her 100 percent. That is not the idea behind the Give and Take technique. A man who is a prize to be won needs to qualify a woman, and determine if she suits him, not the other way around. By “giving” her your physical attention, you’re simply indicating that you might be interested in her. When all is said and done, she should be left feeling somewhat uncertain about your feelings towards her. So what’s the right amount of “giving” body language? First off, remember that most people have a two-foot perimeter around their bodies that they consider personal space. While you may desire to enter this perimeter of hers, don’t. If you do, you’ll come off as a needy guy who’s seeking her attention, which is not the message you want to get across.
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Besides, how is she going to desire you when you’re so readily available to her? This is an excellent rule-of-thumb to follow for when you’re uncertain of your actions. What you should do is maintain an open and relaxed posture when around her. Keep your chest broad and head high. Uncross your arms, and if you’re clueless as to what to do with your hands, try your pockets or belt loops. Your eyes are the key in this situation, as they’ll not only indicate your interest, but also your “evaluation” of her. Don’t be afraid if she catches you looking at her…that’s a good thing. Now that you know how to portray the “Give” part of the technique, how about the “Take” part? Turn the page…
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How to “Take” Via Body Language Think about any time you felt intimidated by a girl (she was qualifying you). What did she act like? If I were to guess, I’d say her arms were crossed, and she wasn’t too quick to laugh at all your jokes. One minute, you had her undivided attention, and the next, she was looking somewhere else. Throughout all of this, her stance was tall and confident. After all, she’s was the prize to be won, not the other way around. The next time you meet a girl you’d like to have sex with, keep this concept in your mind. Once you’ve sufficiently “given” her enough of your affection, suddenly take it away from her. This can be accomplished by crossing your arms, directing your attention elsewhere, or excusing yourself from the conversation entirely.
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But how do you know when it’s time to “take” away from her? It’s simple…read her body language. If you’ve done a good job of “giving,” she’ll increase her eye contact with you, smile at almost everything you say, and direct her entire frame in your direction. She may even start sharing stories about her self to keep the conversation going. It’s like I said in the beginning of this module… actions speak louder than words. SonicSeduction™ Expression Teaser Technique If you really want to drive women nuts, learn how to tease them through your expressions. This goes beyond the Give and Take technique (which involves two separate actions) because it sends mixed signals in a single interaction. Turn the page to find out how this technique works…
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impressions of her through your face, and it works wonders for enhancing sexual tension and attraction. For example, let’s say you’re talking to a girl for the first time, and she’s discussing a particular topic. A good way to tease her would be to turn your body and head slightly away from her, and at the same time give her a look which indicates you’re not quite sure about what she’s saying. All the while, maintain a smile on your face to counteract the uncertain look in your eyes. This will leave her feeling contradicted – and slightly confused. Mixed feelings are known to stir up powerful emotions and creating sexual tension – exactly what the Sonic Seducer wants to invoke in every woman.
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The Touch-Tease Technique Most men touch women in a way that indicates neediness, and as a result, they get rejected. But touch can be a powerful thing, if you know what you’re doing. This patented SonicSeduction™ technique will show you the correct way to tease a woman through touch…and straight into your bed. So what’s the best way to touch a woman and not appear as though you’re pursuing her? First off, steer away from touching parts of her that indicate obvious sexual attraction (i.e. – the butt, hips, thighs, etc.) In fact, the best place to initiate physical contact is through her hands. For an example on how to do this, turn the page…
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Ask the girl if she’s any good at thumb wrestling. To increase her interest in your question, taunt her a little by saying that she looks like she has weak thumbs (or something similar to rev her up). When she rises to your challenge, show your approval of her by high-fiving her, and let the games begin. Consider this approach the “give” of your physical interaction with her. Your next step will be to “take” away your physical attention from her. If you win the thumb-wrestling competition, try slightly pushing her hand away, and tell her (teasingly) that you don’t have losers as friends. Judge her reaction for a bit, and then “give” her a consoling hug to let her know you were just kidding. This technique works like a charm, but why? Read on…
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With the Touch-Tease Technique, you’re not coming off as needy at all. In fact, you’re only increasing your value in her eyes by selectively choosing when and how you touch her. Before you know it, she’ll want your hands all over her.
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With the Touch-Tease Technique, you’re not coming off as needy at all. In fact, you’re only increasing your value in her eyes by selectively choosing when and how you touch her. Before you know it, she’ll want your hands all over her.
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Never neglect the basics of strong body language: tall posture, proud chest, and direct eye contact. A strong, confident pose coupled with eye contact can mean the difference between getting laid and being rejected. When seducing a woman, use your actions to incorporate the Give and Take technique. Never forget that you’re a prize to be won, and as such, you must qualify her to determine whether or not she suits your style.
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To illustrate this, be selective when “giving” your attention to her, and “take” it away once you determine you have her attention. Increase your value in her eyes by becoming a scarce commodity that she must get her hands on! Once you’ve decided that she’s good enough for you, she’ll get her chance
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Module 12: Advanced Humor Tactics
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f you can get a girl to laugh, not only will she remember you, but you’ll stand an excellent chance of taking her home as well.
Forget the oysters and chocolate – laughter is the best aphrodisiac out there, and you don’t have to be the greatest stand-up comedian to use it. Anybody can be humorous, and in this module of SonicSeduction ™, I’m going to show you how.
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When you make a girl laugh, you’re actually releasing “feel-good” hormones from her brain. What this means is that you’re not only giving her a good gut buster in the short term, but you’re also filling her entire body with a fabulous sensation that she’ll really appreciate. Besides, being able to lead an entire group with humor is a great tool for displaying yourself as a prize. But there are a few things to consider when tackling comedy with the opposite sex. For starters, the things men find humorous are often not funny at all to women. In addition, you don’t want to be tasteless or rude with your humor, as this will have an adverse effect on her feelings towards you. With that in mind, read on for some killer tips for effectively using humor to seduce.
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First, keep a cool head in what you’re doing. If you’re not feeling good and chilled out, how are you going to make anyone else feel the same? If you’re mood that night is sour, you’re either going to have to fix it pronto, or abandon the mission until a later time. Never attempt to flirt through humor (or anything else, for that matter) with a negative mind frame. To help you relax, go into a quiet corner by yourself for a few minutes, take some deep breaths, and clear your head. Remember that flirting is fun, and that’s what you’re there for…to enjoy yourself. Use humor as a recon tactic. First off, if you want to get with a particular girl, you’re going to have to get to know her or she’ll never sleep with you. But learning about a woman can have many advantages other than sex. Asking her questions can also provide you with some great comedic material for later use.
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Observe what she’s wearing or doing, and inquire about it. Women love to be the center of attention, so anything you can do to focus on her individuality will score you major brownie points. Use Value Elicitation techniques. Why is she wearing that interesting bracelet? Where did she get it? What’s the story behind her life and where she is now? Don’t get too philosophical with her, but do throw a couple of unusual questions her way other than “Where do you work?” If you can do this well, she’ll inevitably warm up to you, and laugh at anything that comes out of your mouth. Tease through Mild Sarcasm. In order to do this effectively, you must have a sharp eye for details. Don’t go for the more obvious observations; instead, look beneath the surface to find something humorous.
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For instance, if you’re at a club in New York City, and you’re talking to a girl wearing a cowboy hat, ask her, “Aren’t you a little far from home, cowgirl?” This is a silly observation that both of you can relate to, and can easily establish rapport in a matter of minutes. The key to teasing through sarcasm is to avoid any subject she might find offensive. Stick to what is safe, and both of you will enjoy yourselves. Get in Touch with Your Feelings. Women are very emotional creatures, and while you shouldn’t come off as a complete softy, one of the best ways to get on her good side is to express your feelings. I don’t mean you should profess your adoration for her. Instead, tell your funny stories with creative detail. Read on to discover the easy way to do this...
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Color your tales with descriptions of what happened, what it looked like, and what you thought about it. Instead of just covering the basics, do what every great storyteller is known for and imagine the event in your mind. From there, you can easily draw her into your world, and so much more. In fact, you can actually ‘manipulate’ a woman into feeling a certain way towards you by selectively choosing your words. She won’t even realize it’s happening, but you’ll know just by the look on her face. In order to do this, you have to try to incorporate feelings you want her to have in your stories. For instance, if you want her to feel sensuous, tell her about a time you visited Italy, and the gondolier ride was so romantic…until you almost tipped it over.
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Think about it: If I told you not to think about the color red, what would come to mind? I bet you’re seeing roses and tomatoes right this very second. This mind trick is a simple principle of psychology that plays on the fact that the mind is an unbridled machine, and very difficult to control. With that said, if you want a girl to feel aroused by you, all you have to do is say the word…literally. If you don’t believe me, pick up a copy of Walt Whitman’s material, or any other famous poet for that matter. These guys were the rock stars of their time. Women would literally flock to hear them speak their “sweet nothings,” because they loved the way those words made them feel. And the truth is they still do.
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Of course, I’m not saying you should blurt out poetry to a woman, especially upon first meeting her. I’m simply trying to illustrate the point that there is great power in words, and to merely blurt out a half-assed story is not going to get you the results you desire. You must put thought and effort into what you’re saying if you want her to pay attention. Having The "Magic Ingredient" If you’re naturally confident, you won’t think twice about cracking a joke or two around strangers. In a confident man’s mind, others are privileged to be around him, and anything that comes out of his mouth is worth saying. If you can adopt this mind frame, telling jokes will become second nature for you.
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Don’t wait for a perfect time to start joking with a woman, because the truth is, there’s no such thing. Even if you’ve just met her, try breaking through her barriers through comedy. You’d be surprised at how effective a good laugh or two can be for establishing rapport and building attraction. Using Humor To Break Down Invisible Barriers All women carry around an invisible guard against men in social situations. With that said, you’d be hard-pressed to get past this barrier without any effort, and it’s for this reason that humor is such a valuable tool. The best way to get her to warm up to you is to evoke good feelings within her. Before you know it, you’ll really be making her feel good. Having confidence also means displaying certainty in yourself and what you’re saying. Don’t hesitate…just talk. Forget about the woman for the time being, and just open up for the sake of having fun.
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Using Emotions To “Infect” Hers With Yours Have you ever been having fun with a group of your friends, only to have someone show up who was in a bad mood? What did that do for the morale of the group? If I were to guess, I would say it put quite a damper on things, and probably brought everyone down. Regardless of whether or not you’re joking around with a girl, you must remember to keep your emotions in check. The mind is a very powerful tool, and it can easily make or break any situation, depending upon what it’s thinking. In other words, if you want a girl to feel relaxed and comfortable around you, you must relax and feel comfortable yourself. Otherwise, she’s going to run the other way…fast.
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I’m sure a lot of you are thinking to yourselves “But I’m nervous around women.” And if you’re uneasy around women, how do you make yourself feel otherwise? Put simply, you have to see them for what they are…just people. Sure, the girl you’ve got your eye on might be drop-dead gorgeous, but at the end of the day, she eats, sleeps, and takes a shit…just like you. And honestly, what if she doesn’t find you interesting? Is that going to be the end of you? I certainly hope not. A true Sonic Seducer does not care what women think of him. If he gets laid, then great; if he doesn’t, life goes on. He knows he is a catch that any woman would be lucky to get her hands on, and those who are stupid enough to not realize that are losing out. He lets his confidence speak for him, and it’s because of this that he can open his mouth with ease around anyone.
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umor is the fastest way to get in good with a girl, and you don’t have to be a comic genius to use it. In fact, some of the best jokes come from what’s right around you.
Take the opportunity to observe the girl you’re with, and make her feel special by teasing her in a playful manner. Remember that your attitude can make the difference between getting laid and getting the boot, so don’t go into any interaction with a negative frame of mind. View women as an indulgence, not a necessity. By taking a laid back approach to your interactions with them, you’ll actually come out on top of the situation. Make her feel good through your use of humor, and she’ll be making you feel good in return
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Module 13: SonicSeduction™ Guide To Dating
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o you’ve finally asked that girl out, and she accepted.
Now the only thing left to do is take her out for some serious one-on-one action…a date. This is where most guys get stumped. They either settle for the bare minimum by bringing a woman to dinner, or freeze and don’t know what to do. Fortunately, SonicSeduction™ has got you covered. Your ultimate objective through dating is to escalate the interaction towards sex. This may or may not happen on the first night, but if you do things correctly, you will eventually get what you want. For turning an average date into something much more, read on...
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Women are drawn to a man who is in control, and the Sonic Seducer always is. With that said, always decide in advance where you’re going to take her, and what you’re going to do. Asking a woman where she’d like to go is the same as admitting you’re beneath her, and you never want to give off that impression. To second that thought, if she protests your date destination, stand by your choice. Tell her that you know the best place in town to eat, and you wouldn’t want to take her anywhere else. Also, remember that life is always filled with surprises, so make sure to have a backup plan in mind in case things don’t work out. If the wait at your favourite spot is too long, or your date gets held up, things might require a little tweaking on your part. Like they taught you in Boy Scouts…always be prepared.
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Think Outside the Box. While dinner and a movie are nice, it’s the same thing countless other guys have done for her in the past. And if you think about it, she obviously gave them the boot, otherwise she wouldn’t be out with you. If you want to stand out in her mind, try thinking of something unique for the two of you to do together. Case in point: A girl friend of mine once told me about the best date she ever went on. While it started out with a fancy dinner at an Italian restaurant in downtown Singapore, it ended up as something much more. She said after the meal, the guy took her for a stroll around this lake nearby his house, which was filled with birds of all types. “You could hardly see the water, there were so many ducks!” she told me. In fact, she enjoyed herself so much, that she called him… the very next day.
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This example serves to illustrate another point besides being creative, and that is that you want to be able to talk to the girl. With that said, stray away from the bars, nightclubs, or concert halls during the getting-to-know-you process. Remember the SonicSeduction’s basic premise - the sooner you make her feel comfortable around you, the sooner you get laid. Avoid the pitfall – DON’T do the movie date. I just stated the importance of being able to talk to each other, which brings me to one very important tip…never bring a girl to the movies on a first date. Think about it: Things are already awkward because you just met the girl, and to top things off, there’s absolutely no talking allowed at the cinema (unless you want to get kicked out of the place). Save the movies for a later time, once you’ve already warmed up to each other.
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Here’s A Killer Tip – “Heighten Her Senses”. When deciding where to take her, think of places that evoke various emotions within a woman. Coffee shops and restaurants do very little to excite her, and generally, they only add to the stress of an already tense situation. Instead, think outside the box for other alternatives. Comedy clubs, outdoor festivals, theme parks, and the like are excellent for turning up the heat (in more ways than one). Not only that, but they work wonders for establishing rapport with a woman.
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Allow Her into Your World. What better way to display dominance than by taking her to a place where everybody knows you? Do you play in a band? Ask her if she’d let you take her to one of your shows. Is your artwork hanging in a gallery downtown? Hit the exhibit with her. If nothing directly related to you comes to mind, consider your friends. If your buddy is throwing a killer bash this weekend, ask her to come with you. Knowing the host and other attendees will automatically place you in a dominant position, and it will drive her wild. These alternatives are worlds above the usual face-to-face chit chat that’s involved with a first date. Use the date as an opportunity to pull her into your world.
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Hit the Town. If you can manage to take your date to multiple destinations, you’ll create the illusion of a bond with her. She’ll feel that because she’s already done so much with you in such a short amount of time, she really knows you. Start things off with something to eat, and follow it up with some drinks, a walk downtown, and maybe some ice cream for dessert. Doing so will show her an unbridled side to you that women find irresistible. Have the Home Field Advantage. If your goal is to have sex, keep your date locations nearby your house. That way she’ll have less time to change her mind about you during the drive home. You can even use the excuse of having to run inside for a second to fetch something, invite her in, and go from there. Whatever you do, just make sure your pad is the center of it.
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Keep Things Late It’s true: The freaks come out at night. If you want to have sex with a woman, you have to see her at her most vulnerable… at night. During the daytime, people are so busy with their schedules to even begin getting caught up in seduction, but in the later hours, all bets are off. At night, women are ready to let loose and enjoy themselves. They’ve gotten all dolled up for the sole purpose of turning men on, so use this to your advantage. Where To Bring Her? If you’ve made it this far and are still at a loss for where to take a girl, consider the following list of great date spots. These are much better than the usual dinner and a movie, and will make you stand out from all of your male competition.
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Just make sure to take into consideration your date and her needs. After all, you don’t want to take a girl to a wine tasting if she’s a recovering alcoholic. 9Window browsing downtown 9Baseball, basketball, or other sporting events 9Dance lessons 9Museums and other exhibits 9The park 9Comedy clubs 9Theme parks 9Outdoor events 9Chef classes 9An outdoor picnic 9Your favorite local band
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Dating Behavior If you do anything on your date, have fun. Don’t place too much focus on the woman or how she’s feeling. If you’re relaxed and having fun, she will too. With that said, chat up the people around you, and don’t be afraid to take risks. If it looks like fun, it probably is, and she’ll find herself drawn to your carefree attitude. Getting Physical If you want things to progress sexually, you cannot hesitate. On that same note, be sure to gauge how your date is feeling. If she’s acting bitchy or uncomfortable, then she’s probably not worth your time to begin with. On the other hand, if the two of you are really enjoying yourselves, go in for the kiss. Not only does this set you apart from the usual dates she’s gone out with (who probably all waited until the end of the date to kiss her), but this also shows your level of confidence.
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Dating Behavior If you do anything on your date, have fun. Don’t place too much focus on the woman or how she’s feeling. If you’re relaxed and having fun, she will too. With that said, chat up the people around you, and don’t be afraid to take risks. If it looks like fun, it probably is, and she’ll find herself drawn to your carefree attitude. Getting Physical If you want things to progress sexually, you cannot hesitate. On that same note, be sure to gauge how your date is feeling. If she’s acting bitchy or uncomfortable, then she’s probably not worth your time to begin with. On the other hand, if the two of you are really enjoying yourselves, go in for the kiss. Not only does this set you apart from the usual dates she’s gone out with (who probably all waited until the end of the date to kiss her), but this also shows your level of confidence.
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Kiss her on your terms. Trust me – she’ll get really turned on.
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hen you are out on a date with her, take charge. Plan outings that will make you stand out as the dominant and interesting guy you are.
Most importantly, relax and have fun. Your goal is to escalate things towards sex, but she’s never going to feel horny enough for that if you don’t lighten up. Think outside the box about where you want to take her, and when it comes to the kiss, do it when the mood strikes you. Who knows – you may end up getting more than you bargained for
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Module 14: The Kissing Guide
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ou know the drill: You’re out with a girl, and things are going great, but the entire time, you’re wondering how and when to go in for that first kiss.
Thoughts of rejection, or worse, getting slapped in the face raid your mind, and instead of just taking a chance, you wimp out. But what if I told you that getting that first kiss is easier than you might think? In fact, once you learn the SonicSeduction™ technique for locking lips, the awkwardness of kissing will be no more. Don’t believe me? Continue reading, if you want to be convinced.
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Most men think of a kiss as a solitary event, depending on very little (if any) preceding factors. But the truth is that the actual kiss is nothing to sweat over; it’s the preparation for that kiss that involves some work. But if you can get her prepped well enough, she’ll be ready for first base and much more…trust me. Think of kissing women like making a pot of tea (for any of you guys who actually drink it). You put the water in the kettle, and set it on the stove waiting for what seems like an eternity to hear that loud whistle. On the other hand, if it doesn’t whistle, you have to revaluate your method. Did you put water in the kettle at all? Did you forget to turn the stove on? Something went amiss with your preparation, and until you fix it, you get no tea.
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Women work the same way. Unlike men (who are ready for action in a matter of seconds), females take a much longer time to get hot, but if you prepare them just right, they’ll be wet in no time. Odds are she wants to kiss you, after all, would she be out with you in the first place if she didn’t? Certainly not, but it’s up to you to give her a reason to. Don’t make this mistake… One huge mistake most guys make is waiting for the end of the date to prime a woman for kissing. How are you going to effectively do this in less than a minute? She’s at her doorway, and you’re just standing there with this dumbfounded look on your face. Is she supposed to be turned on? No. Instead, you should’ve been prepping her throughout the night.
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Consider this scenario: Jason is on a date with a girl named Tasha. They grab a bite to eat, during which Jason asks her a variety of safe questions about her job, family, favorite band, and other nonsense. The only time he touches her is when he accidentally brushes up against her in the restaurant, and at this rate, Tasha is about as hot as that salad she’s eating. The body language and flirting are at a bare minimum, and that’s putting it nicely. Yet for some reason, Jason thinks it might be a good idea to go in for a kiss at the end of the night. He’s shocked when she turns her head for a kiss on the cheek, but the truth is he would’ve gotten much more if he had set the frame up better. Throughout the entire night, he portrayed himself as nothing more than a buddy to Tasha, and as a result, she felt nothing. However, if he had asked her flirty questions, touched her more often, and displayed an overall sense of self confidence, he would’ve been one happy man.
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Eric, on the other hand, is a master Sonic Seducer. At the beginning of his date, he’s got that kiss on his mind, and he dedicates the entire evening to making it a reality. On his date with Kate, he automatically exhumes a sense of self confidence knowing that she’s only on the date because he chose her. He tweaks her frame-of-mind towards all things sexual by asking her questions about her biggest fantasy, best kiss, and other romantic topics. Throughout the date, he seizes opportunities to touch her on her arms, lower back, hands, and more, and she responds to the physical contact. As a result, she can’t wait to kiss him. What did these two men do differently? You could say that one was lazy, while the other was not, or you could just say that they both had a different understanding for how to get that first kiss. In other words, one knew the importance of preparation, while the other did not.
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How to Prepare for the Kiss – The SonicSeduction™ Way As with anything worth having, kissing a woman requires a little work. Before you even begin thinking about how your breath smells, you have to get to that interaction. You have to know how to sexually prepare a woman, and it’s easier than you might think. The following is a checklist for actions you must take to get her excited. Follow these to the best of your ability, and you’ll quickly get what you want... 9Flirt with your questions. 9Lead the conversation into romance 9Hold her hand. 9Gaze into her eyes. 9Touch her safely (i.e. on the forearm, lower back, or hand). 9Act without hesitation.
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9Use humor to warm her up to you. 9Indicate your intentions through body language. 9Ask her about her relationship goals. 9Feed her compliments in moderation. 9Tell her stories with “feeling” words (romance, attraction, etc.) 9Speak softly in her ear. This list is not all-inclusive, and if you’ve managed to fulfil most of it, it’s a safe bet she’s ready to be kissed. Gauge the entire interaction, and if you sense a mutual feeling of attraction, don’t hesitate to go for what you want. On the other hand, if you’ve neglected to prep her properly, you can either try to fix the situation by upping the romance, or jump ship altogether.
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How to Know if She’s Ready To Be Kissed Sometimes, no matter how much you’ve prepared, you’ll still have some doubt as to whether or not she wants to kiss you. If you’ve sufficiently prepped her during the date, then odds are she is, but it never hurts to be certain. With that said, there are certain circumstances you must establish within her to know if it’s safe to move in on her. If you get the feeling that these circumstances have not been met, save yourself the embarrassment, and don’t try to kiss her. On the other hand, if your gut is telling you that the vibe is good, make your move. Judge your interaction with her on the date to determine if...
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1. She would be shocked by you trying to kiss her. 2. She has the kiss on her mind. 3. She’s mutually attracted to you. Most of this can be judged simply by her body language and reactions to you. However, just to be safe, run a little test by her. Not only will these evaluations help you gauge her readiness, but they will also give you additional tools for heating her up. Don’t try to kiss her unless she passes with flying colors. Good Touch, Bad Touch As you can probably imagine, this test helps you evaluate her attraction to you through physical contact. If you touch her and she flinches, she’s not ready. On the other hand, if she allows you to touch her, you’re in.
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There are two types of touching: safe and sexual. Safe touching is innocent and restricted to the non-sexual parts of her body. For example, you can safely touch a woman by holding the door open for her, and placing your hand on the small of her back. You can even touch her forearm while in conversation to stress a point. As a result of your safe touches, she shouldn’t be able to tell what your intentions are. You’re simply touching her for the sake of touching her. Sexual touching, on the other hand, is physical contact with a very obvious motive…sex. It’s different from safe touching, in that your hand lingers on her body longer than she might be comfortable with. Brushing her hair away from her face, caressing her back, and even hand holding are considered sexual, as they all indicate a very obvious romantic interest.
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Initiate this test with safe touching. If she allows it, then great, but if you get no reaction from her at all, don’t worry. Simply push forward with your romantic prepping as discussed above, and try again. If, after repeatedly trying to safely touch her, she still neglects to respond, abandon mission. Any woman who can’t see how amazing you are isn’t worth your time to begin with. On the other hand, if she gets into your touch, that’s your cue to gradually progress to sexual touching. The best way to do this is to increase the longevity of your casual touches, and judge her response. Read her body language. Does she lean in closer to you? Is there a twinkle in her eye, and a constant smile on her face? If so, then you’ve found a winner.
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Hugging Hugs can be a very ambiguous show of affection. If you take a girl in your arms, she has no idea if you’re just being friendly or something much more. As a result, it’s her response to the gesture that speaks volumes. On that same note, hugging is generally viewed as something done by friends, so it must be done in moderation. If you haven’t had sex with her yet, the odds you ever will are slim if you keep hugging her and nothing more. In other words, hugging is not a substitute for kissing or sex, and there is a right and wrong way to do it. For starters, don’t give her a huge bear hug. Make it a quick, fast interaction meant solely for the purpose of gauging her response to it. For instance, if you pick her up for your date, go in for a quick embrace, and leave it at that.
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Trust me – she’ll hug you back, and her response can speak volumes. Does she want to prolong the hug? Is she giving you her whole body, instead of just the top half? If so, you’ve got an exciting night ahead of you. In fact, why not kiss her right then and there? Get Cheeky. See how she acts if you kiss her cheek. Don’t be afraid to do this, as most women view being kissed on the face as a respectable sign of affection. It’s just an innocent means of assessing her feelings towards you, nothing more. Most women will be caught off guard when you do this, but that’s the beauty of this test. Just as your kiss was unexpected, her response will be unplanned and natural.
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Look at her face after kissing her. Is she smiling, or does she seem confused and uncomfortable? If she flinches, she’s not ready, and you’ve got a lot of work ahead of you. On the other hand, if she stands her ground, your odds of locking lips are very good. Read Her Actions. What better way to test if she’s ready to kiss than through her personality? Read her actions, and decide for yourself if she’s into you or not. Doing so involves relying heavily on your gut instinct about how she’s acting, and what it means for you. However, reading her actions is much more involved than as simple personality test. You may think that the best time to assess her feelings towards you is during your interaction, but you’d be wrong.
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In fact, it’s the transitions between your interactions that are the most telling. Does she want to go somewhere else? Is she interested in what you two are doing? If she’s excited about being with you, she’ll want to prolong the date more and more. For example, let’s say you two are grabbing a bite to eat. After dinner, you suggest going to see the local fireworks display. If she’s game, then she’s obviously having a good time. On the other hand, if she says she needs to get up early and must go home, you’ve found a dud. Better luck next time. The “Tease-Kiss”. Consider this test the same as dipping your toes in water to test the temperature. It’s very simple to do, and extremely effective.
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Gradually move your face near to hers, hold your stance, and gauge her response. Once you’ve determined how she feels about you being so close to her, back off to your original position. That’s it…it’s really that easy. If, during your test, she retracts her body away from you, she’s not prepped enough. On the other hand, if she remains still or gravitates towards you, she’s getting hot. It doesn’t matter that you didn’t actually kiss her. You’ve actually accomplished a great deal by filling her with the sensation of being with you. She knows you want to kiss her, and she’s anticipating it.
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Going back to my example of Eric, this is a man who knows what he’s doing when preparing a woman for the kiss. Not only does he fill the evening with romantic questions, flirting, and body language, but he’s oozing with confidence. In fact, he’s so self-assured that he has no problem running various tests by her to confirm how hot he’s got her. He starts the date off with a quick hug and a kiss on the cheek, and judging from her reaction, determines how into him she really is. He places several safe touches on her body, enhancing them sexually once determining she wants him to. During dinner, he casually moves closer to her face, teasing her with the thought of kissing him. As a result, she can’t wait to go somewhere else with him while on their date, and by the end of the night, she’s ready to lock lips.
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Initiate the Kiss. Once you’ve determined how into you she really is, you’ve pretty much got smooth sailing ahead. With that said, don’t ruin the moment by not recognizing it. Hesitation will be your worst enemy when it comes to initiating a kiss. If the moment is right, you’ll know it, and that is exactly the time to move in on her. If you don’t, you’ll kill any chance you ever had of having sex with her. Show her your level of confidence by not being afraid to get what you want, and seize the opportunity. But how do you know when the time is right? There’s really no science to it…you just know.
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Have you sufficiently prepared her? Is she gazing at you? Are you two alone and enjoying yourselves? All of these and more are signs that she’s thinking the same thing you are, so don’t make her think otherwise by hesitating. Don’t be like amateurs and wait to kiss her when dropping her off. That’s been overused time and time again, and to be honest, she’s probably expecting it. Instead, decide for yourself when you want to kiss her, and go for it. There’s nothing sexier to a woman than a man who knows what he likes, and is confident enough to get it. In order to acquire this level of confidence, you have to first determine your weak points, and fix them immediately. If you don’t, you’ll lack the seduction skills you need to become a Sonic Seducer. The following is a list of inhibitions holding back many men in their quest for a great sex life...
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Low Self Esteem: I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again – there is nothing sexier to a woman than a nice dose of confidence. People only treat you with as much respect as you have for yourself, women included. If you go into a date hoping that she likes you, and dreading what it may mean if she doesn’t, then you need to change your mind frame. Don’t view women as a necessity. Instead, view them as a pleasure that you want, not need. If you can grasp this concept, you’ll be much more confident interacting with them. Thinking about the Future: If you’re like most guys, you’ve totally zoned out on a woman while she was talking to you, only to get in trouble for it. The entire time, you were thinking about the future, instead of living in the moment, and as a result, you’ve killed the attraction she may have been feeling for you. In contrast, a pick-up artist has no worries. He lives for the moment, confident that he has everything he needs to get laid. The future is just one more thing for him to worry about, so he doesn’t.
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Placing Her On a Pedestal: Consider dates as a chance for you to evaluate a woman’s appropriateness for you, not the other way around. I know you’re horny and lonely, but honestly, if your life depended upon having a woman, you’d be dead by now. On the other hand, a Sonic Seducer has a lot going for him, and he knows that any woman he’s taking out is lucky just to be there. He does not compliment her too much, because he honestly doesn’t know if she deserves those compliments yet. This is the attitude you should adopt not only with women, but with life in general, as it will take you far. Are you ready for the patented 4 SonicSeduction™ methods of getting the kiss? If you are, turn the page…
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4 SonicSeduction™ Methods Of Getting The Kiss At the beginning of this module, I mentioned that the hardest part about kissing a girl is preparing her for it. However, if you’ve followed all of my advice until now, then consider her prepared. That only leaves one question: How do you go about kissing her? Read on to learn more about the four methods of doing so. Method #1 - Go For It: This technique requires you to be in tune with the mood. When you detect the time is right, seize the opportunity. Depending on the circumstances, you might have to tweak your approach. For instance, if you two have had an incredible time, hold her while kissing her. On the other hand, if she’s a “good girl” with a dangerous alter-ego, play it safe for now and just lean into the kiss. Trust me – there will be plenty of time to heat things up later.
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Method #2 - Request Permission: Believe it or not, some guys still do this. That’s not to say that there’s anything wrong with asking a girl if you can kiss her, after all, it’s polite. But if you’ve sufficiently prepped her like I taught you in this chapter, she should be down for anything! Requesting permission to kiss her is okay for some girls (if they’re goodie two-shoes), but most women like a man with gusto. They desire a guy who knows what he wants, and is confident enough to take it. For this reason, you really have to gauge your girl’s personality, and decide for yourself if this method is appropriate or not. For instance, there are still some old-fashioned women floating around out there. They have safe conversations, cover up with their clothing, and always sit with their legs crossed. If you’ve found one of these, odds are you’d be doing good to ask permission for a kiss. It really just depends on the girl.
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But to be on the safe side, don’t go for this tactic first. Instead, use your gut to tell you whether or not she wants to kiss you, and take it from there. If she doesn’t appreciate your gesture, then move on to someone else. Remember – you don’t need a woman to live a happy and fulfilling life. Method #3 – The Direct Approach: Consider this approach as the “middle-of-the-road” between just kissing her and asking permission. All you have to do is tell her “I’m going to kiss you now,” and see how she responds. I like this approach, because you’re not coming off as a softy by asking if you can kiss her. You’re acting confident enough to declare your intentions, which women love. At the same time, you’re also giving her a chance to opt out. Of course, if you’ve heated her up enough during the course of your date, she won’t want to.
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Method #4 - Get Taken Advantage Of: You’re probably thinking to yourself “What?” Yes men, you heard me correctly. It is possible for a woman to kiss you, instead of the other way around. Of course, you’re just starting out as a Sonic Seducer, so this probably won’t happen right off the bat. But with persistence, practice, and patience, it can. In fact, if you find the right girl and work her just right, I can almost assure you it will happen! The Pesky Rejection Factor - The Sonic Rebound Formula! So she didn’t want to kiss you after all, eh? Are you ruined as a man? Have you lost all desire to date for the rest of your life? Or are you going to do what every man since the beginning of time has done and get over it? Read on to discover how to “rebound” successfully – and manage the rejection so that it works out for you anyhow…
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There are a lot of factors to consider when a woman rejects you. Did you prepare her correctly? Were you a nervous wreck throughout your date? Or is she just a prude? Believe it or not, there are still some of those out there. The following are some guidelines for dealing with rejection. Consideration #1 - Control How Rejection Impacts You: Before you even pick her up, decide how you’re going to feel if she turns you down. Is it going to be the end of your world, or are you just going to pick yourself up and try again with someone else? Set the frame in your mind before the date, and stick to it no matter what. In fact, instead of considering her rejection as the end of the road, tell yourself that it’s just not the right time. If you two had a good time on the date, that could very well be the case. Maybe she’s just old-fashioned and has a rule about kissing on the first date, no matter how much fun she had. Her rejection also could mean you have to prepare her better the next time. The possibilities are endless.
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Whatever you do, don’t take it personally. Refuse to allow her rejection to have any impact on your self esteem. No matter what happens, don’t lose your confidence. If you do, then you’re actually letting the actions of one female impact the rest of your sex life. And if you think about it, what man hasn’t been rejected at one time or another? Consideration #2 - Don’t Question Her Rejection: If a girl refuses to kiss you, don’t ask her why. Imagine one of the many brats whining to their parents in the supermarket, and keep this image in your mind, as it’s exactly what you’ll look life if you plead with her. Begging, questioning, or any other form of beseeching will only make you appear as a child in her eyes, and it will ruin any chance you ever had with her. On that same note, don’t argue with her decision. Not only will she not change her mind, but she’ll completely disqualify you (and she’ll tell all her friends about it too). Instead, accept the rejection with a smile on your face, and act as if it didn’t bother you at all.
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Consideration #3 – Laugh It Off: Just because she’s turning you down this time, doesn’t mean she will the next time. In fact, some women like to test men by seeing how they react to rejection. Other times, women just really aren’t feeling you, but you’ll never find out for sure if you behave like a child as a result of her rejection. Some women require more prepping than others, which can only be accomplished by taking her out again. This is the point where you have to decide for yourself if she deserves a second chance. If the answer is no, then you’ve at least gained some valuable experience for later use (on a woman who actually deserves you)
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Module 15: Sonic Escalation Strategies
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o you’ve qualified a girl, taken her out, and heated things up with a good make-out session. Now what? The only thing left to do is seal the deal, or in other words, get her into bed.
At this point, you’re going to have to be careful of what you say or do. As women sense the sexual interest enhancing, they often hesitate and second guess their decision to be with you in the first place. In this module of the SonicSeduction, I’m going to teach you how to respond to the various things women say or do prior to sex. Turn the page…
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Flirting as a prelude to sex is much riskier than out on the social scene. When you seduce a woman at a bar, for example, she’ll more than likely entertain your advances, because she figures it won’t lead anywhere. In a more intimate environment (such as the bedroom), the stakes are much higher. Both of you know when things are escalating to a sexual level, so don’t be surprised when she starts to doubt the interaction. Women have a habit of testing men with phrases such as “You just want sex” or “Do you really like me?” They want reassurance that they’re not just another piece of ass to you, and it’s your job to make her feel otherwise. If you find yourself in this situation, you might try and backtrack through the qualification phase with her. Consider what you like about the girl, and probe her more about these qualities. This might involve taking her out again to establish a greater sense of comfort for her, which may or may not be worth it to you.
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The Sonic Seducer Bids For The Right Time… If you’re not a patient person, you’re going to have a hard time seducing a woman into your bed. This is where so many guys mess up. They’re too eager to get laid, and as a result, they scare women right out of the room. Women are aroused slowly. Every action you take (from picking her up, to unbuttoning her shirt) should appear natural to her. You must use your confidence and body language to create the illusion that it’s only right for her to sleep with you, and this is easier said than done. Imagine you go to the doctor, and he tells you he needs to give you an injection. You don’t like needles in the least bit, but he’s the doc, and he knows what he’s doing, so you let him. However, just before filling the needle with medicine, the doctor starts acting nervous. His hands are shaking, and he’s breaking out in cold sweats. Would you feel comfortable letting him prick you then?
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I used this example to illustrate a point, and that is to say that if you don’t act calm and collected, she won’t either. In fact, she’ll probably freak out on you and leave. The reason for this is that you’ve essentially confirmed her reasons to doubt having sex with you. Her mind is thinking “If he doesn’t feel right about this, neither do I.” How To Be A Smooth Sonic Seducer A lot will be going on between the time you two leave the club, and the time you take her home with you. Driving, conversing during the ride, and inviting her in are just a few of these possibilities. Throughout all of this, she will be running the wheels in her head, reasoning with herself over what she’s about to do with you. Your job is to distract her from these thoughts, which only interrupt the seduction process. Three methods of doing so are (1) prevention, (2) hazing, and (3) diversion.
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Distraction Strategy #1 - Prevention: This tactic aims to avoid the interruption completely. For instance, when driving her home, try taking the shortest route. In addition, don’t allow any silence during the ride. If she has time to think, she has time to think about bailing on you. Do whatever you can to get to the seduction fast. Distraction Strategy #2 - Hazing: This minimizes how strong the interruption is. Take the car ride, for example. You’re preventing an interruption by keeping the conversation going with her, but at the same time, you’re hazing the transition between the date and sex through the topics you discuss. Try remembering a conversation the two of you really enjoyed during dinner, and bring it up to remind her of how much she really likes you.
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Distraction Strategy #3 - Diversion: When you divert something, you take away the attention from one thing, and place it on another. A car ride offers plenty of opportunities for diversion, such as that guy weaving in front of you, or the CD collection in your car. Keep her attention focused on a variety of things to avoid her wimping out on you. I’ve just given you a good bit of information to keep your date focused and in a sexual state-of-mind, but I can’t go on until I clarify one thing…sex must be consensual. If, after all of your attempts to seduce, the girl insists on not having sex with you, respect that. If you don’t adhere to her wishes, you’re what’s called a rapist, and you won’t be having sex for a long time (at least, not with a woman). Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s go over some of the most popular interruptions, and the three methods of dealing with them. Read on…
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Interruption #1: Inviting Her Inside Prevention Strategy: Save all sexual innuendos for when you arrive. If you get too horny too soon, she’ll have your game plan…and she’ll bail on you. At the same time, try to take her out to some place close by your house. This will minimize how long the ride back to your place will take. If you can, try to make the entire date an evening at your house. You can cook dinner, watch a movie, and proceed to the bedroom from there. Furthermore, familiarize her with your pad. Give her the grand tour, show her a couple of your favorite things, and make sure she feels at home. The more at ease she feels in your home, the more at ease she’ll feel about sleeping with you.
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Hazing Strategy: Don’t blatantly ask if she wants to come in, as this will only appear as an obvious attempt to sleep with her. Instead, think of an excuse to get her inside. Tell her there’s this crazy video on the Internet that you’re just dying to show her, and insist that she come and watch it now. Tell her you’ve got a great DVD collection, or some other quirky attraction she might be drawn to. Diversion Strategy: Even after you get her home, keep the conversation rolling. Tell her interesting stories about your past, or revive an old topic the two of you previously discussed. Women love to talk, and the more you engage her mentally, the more comfortable she’ll be in your presence. The more stuff she has to think about, the less she’ll focus on any doubt she may have to sleep with you.
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Interruption #2: Relocating to the Bedroom Prevention Strategy: The first time you seduce a woman, chances are that you are going to have a hard time getting her into the bedroom. In fact, your only chance of getting her comfortable enough to go there is by mentioning something safe that’s in that particular room, such as a video on your laptop. If there isn’t any specific reason (other than sex) for the two of you to enter the bedroom, then you might have to settle for the couch at first, until she’s finally established a sexual relationship with you. Hazing Strategy: Just like bringing her home, don’t come right out and ask her if she wants to go into the bedroom. Like I said before, if you can think of a safe excuse for the two of you to go in there, use it. Diversion Strategy: If you can turn a girl on, you can provide the ultimate diversion. Try grabbing her hand and leading her into the room. Even better, grab her up in your big man arms and carry her in there.
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Interruption #3: Get Her Naked Prevention Strategy: If this is your first time sleeping with her, prevent her from changing her mind by taking off as few clothes as possible to save time. For instance, if she’s wearing a dress, just take off her panties. This may seem crazy to you, but if you want to get any action, you’re just going to have to trust me. Save the full nudity for next time. Hazing Strategy: This requires you to detect what she likes and dislikes. For instance, if you’re kissing her neck and hear her moaning, odds are you’re doing something right. On the other hand, if you touch her thigh and she flinches, go back to what you’ve determined she likes. Keep this up until she’s sufficiently aroused, and you can do anything you want with her.
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Diversion Strategy: As soon as she’s agreed to come home with you, all of your diversions at this point must become physical. Kiss her lips, neck, and anywhere else she finds pleasurable. Depending on the girl, this could even involve oral sex. Anything that’s short of actual intercourse is a great diversion that will lead you to getting what you want. Interruption #4: Protection Prevention Strategy: For starters, protection is just another way of saying condoms (for those of you who didn’t know that), and I must insist that you wear one every single time you have sex. Sure it feels better without one, and believe it or not, there are a lot of women who are more than eager to have unprotected sex. But at the same time, you have to wonder how many other guys she’s fucked unprotected…
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Hazing Strategy: There’s nothing like the interruption of opening a condom. First, you have to get up and grab one, and next, you have to wrestle with the damn thing just to get it open and on. By the time you’re done doing this, there’s no telling where her mind is. To haze this interruption, keep a stash in your night stand, or somewhere else close by. Diversion Strategy: Try putting a condom on before going down a girl. That way, you’ll have her so aroused that she can’t wait to have sex with you. Your goal is to keep her sexual energy up in between oral sex and penetration, and the best way to do that is to be ready to go when she is.
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Interruption #5: Getting Laid Prevention Strategy: If you’ve made it this far with her, there’s nothing to prevent. Hazing Strategy: If you’re wearing protection, you should feel free to rub your genitals against hers, with the intention of full-on penetration. Most women will be turned on by this, but there are a rare few who may question what you’re trying to do. Tell her you enjoy how it feels, and with a condom on, everything should be safe. But overall, don’t take what she asks too seriously, as that’s just her logical mind trying to break through the seductive haze you’ve got her in. From there, just slip on inside her. Diversion Strategy: Why would you want to divert a girl’s attention away from this?
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How To Plan Ahead To Maximize Your Lay Chances You may have mastered the art of bypassing interruptions, but there will still be obstacles that get in the way of sex. If you think ahead and prepare for these obstacles, your chances of getting what you want will become much greater. In a sense, you want to have complete control over the interaction to make sure things go your way. The surest way of avoiding all obstacles is to take her to your house, not hers. Think about it: At your pad, you know everything that’s going to happen. You know the potential for visitors or other people who could get in the way. You have the ability to control all aspects of your environment, from how clean your place is, to how seductive the mood can be.
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On the other hand, if you go to her place for sex, you have virtually no control. Her friends or neighbors could come over, or she may be embarrassed about the state she’s left her room in. She also sees indicators of her life all around her. Anything from the laundry she has to do, to the files on her desk that she needs to work on can sidetrack her mind away from intercourse. Remember the SonicSeduction rule - Seduction is all about escapism – and anything that reminds her of her usual routines is a distraction. Turn the page to discover the secrets of prepping your place for the ultimate lay…
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You need to make sure your place is appropriate for a woman. You don’t have to have an interior-design degree to accomplish this. Put the dishes in the dishwasher, throw the trash in the trash can, and pick anything up off the floor that doesn’t belong there. If you pay attention to any room in the house, make sure your bathroom is clean. Scum around the rim of the toilet may not repulse you, but believe me…she’ll be disgusted at the thought of you if she sees this. If there’s anything in your place that may turn her off, hide or remove it. In her eyes, your collection of Playboy magazines will either make you look like a pervert, or a guy who never gets any. Try to step into the mind of a woman, and ask yourself “Would I be offended if I saw this?” If the answer is yes, do away with it (for now, at least). Better safe than sorry.
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Think about things the two of you can do together at your place to precede sex. Video games are great for getting a friendly competition going, but the possibilities are endless. If you have great artwork hanging up, tell her about it. Show her your collection of books, or any other hobby you enjoy. The idea is to introduce her to your world so that she feels safe and comfortable with you. To avoid her sitting on the opposite side of the room from you, make sure that the only available seating is your couch. Either remove additional chairs from the main room, or stack some magazines on top of them. Most women will avoid the rudeness of removing such junk, because they don’t want to appear as though they want to sit away from you. When you’ve got her situated, ask if she wants something to drink or eat. Always be a courteous host.
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Now that I mention beverages, make sure to have alcohol on hand that women tend to like. If all you’ve got is beer and whiskey, she might opt out of drinking completely. While you don’t want to come off looking fruity with a fridge stocked of wine coolers (no pun intended), do keep a couple bottles of good wine at your place. If you want liquor, go for vodka or brandy, and a margarita mix couldn’t hurt either. Remember that Sonic Seducers do NOT take advantage of a drunk girl. You may not know this, but the law tends to view drunken sex as not being consensual, and at the end of the day, that constitutes rape. And besides, sex is only good if both people are into it. Instead, your aim with feeding her alcohol should be to give her a nice, relaxed buzz so that she’ll be much more open to sleeping with you.
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I could go on and on about ways you can improve your living conditions to appeal to women, but at the end of the day, you’re a man, and you want your place to convey that. Cleanliness, entertainment, and hospitality are the essentials of making a house a home, and women appreciate this. See to it that these needs are met, and focus your energy on what’s really important. How To Turn Her On Like A Pro If you know how to turn a woman on, you can greatly diminish the power that interruptions or obstacles have on getting laid. Most men neglect the very basics of heating a woman up, but it doesn’t have to be that way. If you know how to push her buttons just right, she’ll undoubtedly come back for more later on.
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Here are just the basics that every man should know about touching and turning on a woman’s body, but they should last you a long way. If you want an advanced course on male sex performance, check out ZenGasms at http://www.ZenGasms.com. The Orgasm Factor: It’s a fact that almost 85 percent of female orgasms are faked. They’re acted out in an attempt to prevent the male ego from bruising. Isn’t that nice of women? Some of you may be thinking you don’t care, as long as you get yours, and that’s fine. But for those of you who care about getting laid more than once (not to mention your reputations), read on. Most men only tune into the obvious parts of a woman’s body…her breasts and vagina. And while these certainly should not be neglected, neither should the rest of her body. Besides the clitoris and breasts, the female body had nine additional erogenous zones. They are: the feet, the hands, the arms, the buttocks, the ears, the neck, the back, the legs, and the lips.
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Nice And Slow: Here’s what the Sonic Seducer knows that others rarely do - women heat up at a much slower rate than men. Don’t rush into anything. The longer you can keep her sensations running, the more aroused she’ll become. Play Around with Her: This can involve slight teasing, tickling, or gentle biting. Tug on her hair (delicately), and slightly blow in her ear to sends shivers down her spine. Never let her know what’s coming next. Being unpredictable is the key! Verbal Seduction: Communication is very important to women, and this is no less true in the sack. For example, if your stroking her clit, why not whisper in her ear how fucking sexy she is? Tell her she’s beautiful, and comment on how good she feels. If you’ve got a real sexual animal on your hands, try upping the dirty talk.
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In addition to what you say verbally, don’t neglect the nonverbal body language either. There’s something about a lingering, hungry stare in a man’s eyes that drives women crazy. Beware Of The Buyer’s Remorse The day after having sex, there are going to be a rush of thoughts going through her head. Unless she’s naturally of the kinky sort, she’s going to wonder if she’s made a mistake by sleeping with you, whether or not you’re going to call her again, and other mental dilemmas. What if she refused your advances, yet somehow felt pressured into having sex with you? Congratulations…you could’ve very well just given birth to your first felony charge. The following are different types of resistance women use, and how a true Sonic Seducer should deal with them. Turn the page…
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How To Overcome Initial Resistance You know the drill: You’re in a heated make-out session with a woman, and things seem to be going great…until you start unbuttoning her shirt. “We’re moving too fast” or “I don’t know if we should be doing this” are just some of the phrases she might utter out loud to you. If you think you’re the only one to have fallen victim to them, you’re wrong. It’s been happening to men since the beginning of time. So what’s the best way to handle this? In short, go along with what she wants. By telling a woman you agree with her (instead of persisting), you’ve gone from being her “enemy” to her friend. You’re safe, and no longer a threat to her. Remember – if you come across as harmless, then you have effectively disarmed her.
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Women also like to announce well ahead of time that they have no intentions of having sex with you. How do you deal with that? They haven’t even entered your car yet, and they’re already on the defense. In this situation, it’s best for you to not even entertain her argument. After all, you two aren’t even making out yet, so why would you? Tease her by saying something sarcastic like “What makes you think that I’m up for that?” to blow the comment off, or ignore it entirely. Disqualify her quickly, and frequently. Whatever you do, don’t debate with her on this one. If you do, you’re making something out of nothing, and in her mind, you’ll have created a standard that she must live up to. The fact is that women’s minds are not logical; they say one thing, and do something entirely different. With that said, by the time you get her home, she may have very well changed her mind about sleeping with you, so don’t blow it by fighting her.
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I might sound like a broken record here – but if she doesn’t change her mind and refuses to have sex, don’t help yourself to her. No means no. Move on. Diligence – The Sonic Seducer’s Secret Weapon Women have an innate resistance to being labeled sluts. They hear the voices of their mothers and grandmothers in their heads warning them about sleeping around and being promiscuous, and this greatly affects their sex lives. With that said, many women give off an initial resistance because it makes them feel better about going to bed with a man, and nothing more. When a woman initially resists your advances, she could just desire some diligence on your part. She might just want you to persist against her, that way she can at least find solace in knowing that she tried to not have sex with you. It sounds messed up, I know, but that’s how some women think.
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For example, you could be involved in some heavy kissing with a girl, but as soon as you touch underneath her clothes, she backs off. Don’t worry at this point; just go back to what she was originally enjoying and kiss her. Try to progress things again later on, and if she still protests, wait until a time when she’s more comfortable with you. Remember – don’t push her, and give her enough space to chase you back. Escalate slowly, and when at any stage she feels uncomfortable, go back to the previous thing when she feels comfortable doing with you.
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Ж ou might be surprised by this, but one of the best ways to seduce a woman into your bed is to know when to “take a breather”.
Well, women like to add these into their sexual interactions as well. Typically, they come when your advances make her somewhat uncomfortable, and she resists. If you’ve tried diligence to overcome this and that still doesn’t work, the best thing you can do is…
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…chill out, take a step back, and take a breather. Women want to feel as though you care about them, not just sex. This is the vibe you need to display when (despite your efforts) she wants to turn down the heat. So many men make the mistake of visibly showing their frustration, which only confirms her doubts about you. Instead, you want to enhance how safe she feels with you by doing whatever necessary to ensure her comfort. So what do you do when taking a breather? Well if the sexual contact wasn’t exciting enough for her, move onto something even duller. Get on the computer, suggest you watch the news, or do something else that doesn’t place her as the focal point of the interaction. What can you expect next? Turn the page…
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Most women, when faced with the option of this or sex, will naturally gravitate towards more arousal. Don’t fight her when she does…just go with it. If she repeats her resistance, then you repeat your response by being understanding, and moving on to something less enticing than sex. Pretty soon, she’ll be begging for it
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Module 16: The Long Term Relationship Guide
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o you’ve found a girl you really like, and things seem to be heading beyond a casual encounter.
In fact, you rarely go a day without talking to each other, and you dare to call her your girlfriend. That’s great! It’s hard to find someone who satisfies you sexually and emotionally, so if you do, then more power to you. However there are some things to consider if you want to keep the passion going. Most couples go through what’s been dubbed a “honeymoon phase,” which basically entails the first few weeks of a relationship where you just can’t get enough of each other. Once this phase ends, things typically hit a stalemate, and it’s up to you to know how to break past it.
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In this module of SonicSeduction, I’m going to share with you a few tips for keeping your relationship hot and thriving. Just because you’re committed to the same person does not mean things have to become dull. In fact, I’m going to prove to you that a monogamous relationship can be a lot of fun! Think… Small. During the honeymoon phase, you’re more than eager to do for your mate. Massages, home-cooked meals, and love notes aren’t expected of you, but you do them because you’re so excited about this new person in your life. And as a result, your woman feels mutually enthusiastic about being with you. But then you get used to each other. And that’s when the challenges kick in…
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When you are used to each other's company, the magic of being in a new relationship is gone, and being together is second nature to you. As a result, you’re neglectful of the little things you used to do to please her. In fact, she won’t admit this, but most of your fights stem from a feeling she has of being unappreciated. She thinks you don’t care for her anymore, and this creates tension. Relationships (like anything in life really) require effort. You have to actually put thought into what you do, instead of relying solely on your feelings. After all, no one can look at the same person day after day without losing some of that initial interest. The problem is that so many men think losing a spark for a woman means they no longer care about her, so they hunt for someone to replace her. If you want things to prosper with a woman, you have to give some of your time and energy towards making that a reality.
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Consider keeping your relationship alive as just another thing on your to-do list. I don’t mean to make it sound mundane, but it really should be a priority in your life. Make sure you set aside time in your busy life to tend to her needs. If you’ve got nothing pressing to do on Wednesday night, why not offer to cook her dinner? Is Friday night open? Take her out to that new restaurant. Nothing in life worth having comes easily, and this is especially true for relationships. Be her Rock. As your relationship grows, you’re going to learn so much more about each other than you ever thought possible. Provided that she doesn’t turn out to be psychotic, you must stay with her, and see to it that you support her in all of her life’s endeavors. She should do the same for you.
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Think about the person you were ten years ago. I would assume that you’re slightly more mature and educated, and your priorities have changed a bit as well. That’s a natural part of growing up, but it is not exclusive to just an individual. A relationship is a joining of two people, and just as the individual changes, so does the couple. But if one half of the changing couple is not supportive of the other, the relationship will inevitably crumble to pieces. If she finds new hobbies or passions in her life, don’t get jealous of the time she devotes to them. If she wants to get her master’s degree, encourage her, rather than get angry over the extra time she’ll have to devote to school. In fact, why not become involved in a new hobby yourself? You never know – the passion she finds for painting might also appeal to you as well.
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Use your differences to grow together, not apart. Remember that as a couple, any changes she makes will be made to the relationship, and vice versa. And if you think about it, why would you want to be part of something that remains stagnant year after year? The reason life and relationships can be so exciting is because they are ever-changing. View them as an opportunity to grow and learn more about yourself and each other. Keep an Open Ear. One of the biggest complaints women have about the men in their lives is that they never listen. And while it’s true that women can talk a mile a minute, if you want your relationship to last, you’re going to have to fine tune your eardrums a bit. The following is an eight-step process to help you do just that…
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1. Hear her. 2. Find the key message to what she said, and repeat it to her. 3. Show your appreciation for what she just said. 4. Listen some more to her. 5. Tell her what you think or feel about it. 6. If she’s spouting nonsense, tell her. 7. After telling her, move on to something else. 8. Give her a compliment. Obviously, you won’t need to use all of these steps, as each conversation is different. The key is to actually take the time to listen to what she’s saying, while maintaining your patience level. If, for instance, she’s saying the same damn thing ten different ways, politely point that out to her. Say something like “Sweetie, I understand. You’ve been saying the same thing for the past 15 minutes. Here’s my advice (give her your feedback here). Now can we talk about something else please?”
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You don’t have to be a dating guru to know that women love to talk, and more often than not, they get carried away and repeat themselves. This can be annoying, but just take a deep breath. The important thing is to simply listen to what she says and give your honest feedback if you want your relationship to prosper. Don’t Lose It. Don’t become one of those guys who finds all of his joy in the relationship, and nothing more. No one (not even women) can rely solely on another person for happiness. It’s just not healthy. With that said, make sure you’ve got alternative emotional outlets in your life, or you’re going to lose both your relationship and your mental health. The following is a list that every man should abide by in order to remain sane…
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Don’t Diss Your Buddies: During the honeymoon phase, it’s not that hard to put your buddies on the back burner. Everybody does it; the important thing is to go back to your friends once that period in your relationship is over. Girls will come and go, but your friendships will be there for a lifetime. Not only do buddies provide for an ideal emotional outlet, but they also offer you an opportunity to take a breather when the relationship gets to you. Do not neglect them. Besides being constant companions, guy friends are a great source of information about relationships themselves. Maybe your buddy has gone through something similar, and can give you advice for what to do. Sometimes, it helps to seek the help of someone outside the situation to help you see straight. All of these reasons aside, you should care about your friends’ feelings, and know that by neglecting them, you’re actually hurting them.
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Keep Some Things to Yourself: Sure you’d like to sleep with that chick across the hall from you, but don’t tell your girlfriend that. If you do, that’s relationship suicide (unless she’s freaky like that). As a general rule-of-thumb, don’t compliment another woman (verbally or nonverbally) in front of your girl. Females, by their very nature, tend to be insecure and jealous, so learn to watch what you say and do. Some men feel guilty for not sharing everything with their woman, and if this sounds like you, stop. Just because you act a certain way around your buddies does not mean she needs to know that. Some women like to test their men into seeing just how much information they can pump out of them. Don’t fall for this trick. Trust me – she doesn’t want to know everything (even if she says she does).
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On that same note, there are instances when it’s okay to lie. For example, we all know the infamous question “Does this skirt make my butt look big?” The truth could very well be that it does, but should you tell her that? If you answered yes, you’ve got a long road ahead of you. Just tell her no, or if you’re dead-set against lying, why not fudge the truth a bit by grabbing her ass, kissing her neck, and telling her the skirt makes her butt look “juicy and delicious.” As long as she feels desired, that’s all that matters. Don’t Rely Solely on Her: We all know that guy. He’s the one who can’t stand to see his girlfriend talking on the phone to someone else, and God forbid she speaks to another man in front of him. If she wants to go out with some of her friends, he has to know all the details, and if she’s not back by a certain time, he starts blowing up her cell. This is a situation that’s doomed for disaster.
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If you’re not happy by yourself, how on earth are you going to make another person happy? Neediness from another individual is one of the fastest ways to kill a relationship. If you want to successfully seduce a woman, you have to first be confident in and of yourself, and this confidence should not fade away once you’ve found yourself a girlfriend. Think about it this way: You had passions in your life prior to hooking up with her, and in fact, these probably played a huge part in why she was drawn to you in the first place. Women love a challenge, so what better way to be appealing in her eyes than to give her something to compete for? If she’s got to share you with all of your other hobbies and pastimes, she’ll be all the more drawn to you. It’s a man who’s constantly at her beck and call that she will find unattractive, and eventually, she’ll give him the boot.
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Ask yourself what you enjoyed doing before you found her, and gravitate towards those things. Did you like playing basketball? Shoot a game with some friends. Maybe you were working on a Web site or book. Why did you stop? What are some of the things you wanted to do by age 30? Why not give some of them a try now? Who’s stopping you? With that said, I want to take a minute to actually answer this last question. If you find yourself with a woman who’s possessive and hell-bent on limiting your abilities, you need to break things off with her…now. Remember that you don’t need anyone in your life, and that is the premise behind this entire tip. You should be complete as a person before inviting anyone else into the picture. And when you do, they should only enhance what’s already great about you. Turn the page…
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Remember To Give as Much as You Take Relationships go sour when one party feels that the other party is not meeting them half way. And guys, I’m sorry to admit this, but we’re usually the ones at fault here. If you want the relationship to be strong and thrive, you’re going to have to sacrifice, and sometimes that means doing things you don’t want to do. A lot of men are raised by mothers who did everything for them. They cooked, cleaned, bought them stuff, and more. And if you find yourself a good girl, she’ll undoubtedly take after her mother and do the same, but only for so long. They put up with a lot of our shit to maintain the relationship, but eventually, they hit a point where it’s just not worth their effort anymore.
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If you’re not willing to give as much as you take, then you may as well break things off with her right now. Short flings may be more your thing than meaningful relationships. Like I said before, being part of a couple requires effort on your part, so see to it that she’s not the only one making things work. So what are some ways you can give back to her? Just go back to the small sacrifices I mentioned earlier. Clean up the house one day, cook her dinner, or tell her she looks beautiful for no apparent reason. If she wants you to spend the weekend at her parents with her, don’t whine about it…just go. People will only give for so long before realizing they’re being taken for granted, so just suck it up and do it.
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Have Lots of Sex! When you first start dating a girl, you can barely keep your hands off one another. Eventually, this initial spark will fade, and this is where a lot of couples break up. If you sense the passion in your relationship is dying down, consider it your job to keep it going. This doesn’t mean that you have to have sex every day of the week, but see to it that you do it often. If you don’t, you may leave her feeling undesirable and unwanted, which is a precursor towards tension in the relationship. Sometimes, she may be in the mood and you’re not, but don’t let that deter you. Force yourself to satisfy her needs, and keep your relationship going at the same time. Turn the page for some ideas to excite your sex life…
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Have Lots of Sex! When you first start dating a girl, you can barely keep your hands off one another. Eventually, this initial spark will fade, and this is where a lot of couples break up. If you sense the passion in your relationship is dying down, consider it your job to keep it going. This doesn’t mean that you have to have sex every day of the week, but see to it that you do it often. If you don’t, you may leave her feeling undesirable and unwanted, which is a precursor towards tension in the relationship. Sometimes, she may be in the mood and you’re not, but don’t let that deter you. Force yourself to satisfy her needs, and keep your relationship going at the same time. Turn the page for some ideas to excite your sex life…
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Try switching up the routine a little. If you always have sex in the bedroom, why not move it to the couch or another room? Ask her what she fantasizes about, and see if you can make any of that a reality. Do some Internet research for ways to spice up your sex life. Tantric sex and the Kama Sutra are just some of the ways to turn your bedroom from dull to exciting. Another resource to consider is the ZenGasms home study course – http://www.ZenGasms.com Whatever you do, make sure you notice when the fire has faded in your relationship, and ignite it once again. On that same note, if she’s never in the mood, then you might want to reconsider being with her in the first place. Question her about her lack of sexual drive, and maybe even suggest couple’s counselling if you feel it’s worth it. If, after all of your effort, you get no solid answers out of her, it might be best to break things off. A relationship without sex is nothing more than a… you guessed it friendship
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Sonic Seduction™ How I Seduced A Hottie In Under 4 Hours Using The System – From Start Till Finish
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f you’ve made it this far in SonicSeduction™, you’ve learned all the skills
necessary in order to attract and effectively seduce women. Put these techniques into practice, and sooner than you expect, women will be chasing you, not the other
way around. The feeling of power and confidence is immeasurable the first time this
happens! But I realize there are a lot of steps to absorb in order to get women in the sack, so for fair measure, I want to illustrate how to properly apply them. The following is a true story from yours truly about how I met, effectively seduced, and laid this one girl last month. Consider this as a guideline for attracting women from start to finish. My Approach To set the scene, I was at a party in a college in Boston with a buddy of mine. It was like fishing in a barrel when it came to women, so all I really had to do was spot the hottest one in the crowd. She was gorgeous, with a tight body and long blonde hair, so I walked up to her and the friend she was with. Considering I’ve never met her before, I made sure to use the Give and Take Technique with my body language by not facing directly towards her when talking. I brought my buddy with me, and opened up with a quirky, non-sexual question: Me: “Excuse me, but can I ask you a question?” Her: “Sure.” Me: “My buddy and I were debating, and he thinks it might be cool to buy his mom underwear for her birthday. I say it’s weird. What do you think?” Her (laughing): “Um, yeah that is kind of creepy.” Me to my buddy: “See, I told you.”
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Me to her: “He said she really needs it, but I still say it’s a bad idea.” Her (still laughing): “Well, maybe it wouldn’t be so bad, as long as it’s not Victoria’s Secret or anything.” At this point, I fully face my body in her direction to display my attraction to her, and then I continue. Me to my buddy: “Yeah Kenny, you don’t want everyone to think you’re a real mama’s boy.” She and her girl friend are now laughing their asses off, flipping their hair, and displaying very positive body language towards me and my buddy. I can tell they’re really enjoying themselves, and getting into the conversation. Her: “I suppose if you really want to go all out, you can buy her a bra and panty combo!” Seeing that the conversation is going really well, I further establish my presence and confidence by sitting down at the table with them. While I haven’t sufficiently established rapport with her yet, she is enjoying my company, and I want to show her I feel the same way. Me to my buddy: “Nah, that’s probably not a good idea. Your dad would kick your ass if you did that!” Her and her friend: (laughing so hard, they almost spit out their drinks). Now I’m really in good with her and her friend. I’ve broken past their initial barriers by taking a neutral, funny, and non-sexual approach. Even better is the fact that I’ve managed to make them laugh, releasing “feel-good” hormones in their brains. As a result of all this, I’ve been established as a prize in their eyes. Becoming a Prize
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Me: “I think he should get her something completely off-the-wall, like a pet frog.” Her: “Why would…” Me (interrupting her): “Actually, scratch that idea. That would probably bring back bad memories of her dog, Sparky. You see, Sparky was a three-legged dog with a Mohawk hair-do who liked to get into all sorts of things. Even when he was an old fart, he was still chasing everything in the yard. One time, he chewed on this extension cord in the garage and electrocuted himself. It gave a whole new meaning to the name Sparky.” Her and her friend: (laughing). Me: “Anyways, one day, he ate this frog in the driveway, choked on it, and died. She was really upset about it. So yeah, we should probably forego the frog idea.” Her and her friend: “Aww, that’s so sad.” Me: “Yeah, but it was about time that old mutt bit the dust.” At this, the girls were kind of taken back by my statement, so I followed up with a statement to do some damage control. Me: “I’m just kidding, it was really bad. John is still getting over it to this day,” I said, teasing my buddy. Her friend (touching my buddy’s arm): “I’m so sorry.” Me: “I’ve never seen a woman so upset over a dog. She cremated him and kept his ashes. She even has sort of an altar to him in her house, with pictures, candles, and all sorts of stuff.” Me (to the girl I’ve got my eye on): “You remind me of Ivy.”
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Her: “Who?” Me: “Ivy was the teenage girl who used to babysit me when I was little. She lived across the street, and look a little like you. She used to hit me all the time, even for the tiniest stuff. One time, I spilled a glass of milk, and she whacked me across the back of my head. It hurt a lot, and there was a huge bump on my head for a good two weeks after that. I wanted to tell my mom on her, but she told me she knew where I lived, so I should think twice about that. I remember she had an obsession with Twizzlers.” Her (placing her hand on my bicep): “Oh, you poor thing! That was so mean of her!” Me: “So instead, I lied and told my mom that she made me kiss her. My mom charged across the street to her house and cussed her out big time! She told her never to come over to our house again, and if she did, she would call the police.” Her (playfully smacking me): “You are bad!” To establish myself as a prize, I direct the conversation by changing the subject here. Me: “This place always has some good parties.” Her: “Yeah, but it can get pretty crowded.” Me: “Well, I always say the more the merrier.” By holding strong to my opinion of the party, I get the chance to see if she’ll adopt her way of thinking to mine (which she does). Her: “Yeah, there are a lot of cool people here. It’s never the same crowd – always different people. And the drunken keg stands always make it worthwhile to come.” Me to her and her friend: “I bet you both are sorority girls, huh?” Her: “Actually, no; neither one of us is.”
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Me: “Really? That’s cool. I thought this place was infested with sorority chicks. I almost pledged a frat, but decided not to after hearing some of the horror stories.” Her: “Like what?” Me: “Well, it’s just the hazing that goes on. You know what hazing is, right?” Her: “Yeah. It’s like, the torture routines that frat brothers put pledges through, right?” Me: “Yeah. Well this one buddy of mine pledged a frat here, and told me some very disturbing stuff. I’m talking borderline homosexual stuff.” Her (getting very interested): “Like what?” Me: “He said that all the pledges had to get butt naked and be tied to a tree in back of the frat house. From there, he said all the brothers could do whatever they wanted to him while paddling his fanny.” Her: “Naked? What did they do to him?” Me: “All sorts of stuff. He said they sprayed whipped cream on him, spit on him, whistled at him, you name it. Now, I’m a man who’s totally comfortable with his sexuality, but that’s just not cool at all. I don’t care how bad you want friends; that’s just a bit weird to me.” Her: “Oh yeah, I totally agree.” At this point, I take the opportunity to elaborate by telling her a story filled with detail. Me: “One time – after he was sworn in, or whatever they call it – I went over the frat house to pay him a visit. The place was trashed – I’m talking beer cans and trash everywhere. I even saw a colony of cockroaches in the kitchen, and then it hit me: ‘People eat here.’ Anyways, we went out to the backyard to watch a group of his brothers playing touch football. They weren’t wearing any shirt – I mean none of them were – and it was kind of fruity looking, if you ask me. It reminded me of those black-
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and-white blow-up pictures you see at Abercrombie and Fitch. I couldn’t help but laugh my ass off.” Her (laughing her ass off): “Oh my God! That is hilarious! No wonder those guys put so much effort into hooking up with women. It sounds like they’ve got something to hide!” Me: “Yeah, well I’m sure you’ve experienced that plenty. Tell you what, if you really want to have a good time, you should hang out with me instead. That is, unless you like fruity frat guys.” Her: (giggling). Me: “Oh, so you do like fruity frat guys! Girls are so predictable – much more predictable than guys.” Her: “Are you kidding? Guys are way more predictable. They’re also hornier.” Me: “Trust me, women are much hornier than men, and they’re way more predictable. In fact, I went to visit my cousin in Miami last week, and we met these two black chicks on the beach. We got into a friendly debate about penis sizes for the various culture, cause you know what they say about black men, right?” Her: “Uh…” Me: “Oh my God, you don’t know this!” Her: “I’ve never slept with a black man!? Me: “Well, neither have I!” (At this, she’s laughing so hard, she’s practically crying). “But you don’t have to sleep with black men to know the myth about their penises!” Her: “Okay, so enlighten…” Me (interrupting her in a teasing manner): “Shh, I’m not finished.”
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Her (obviously pleasantly perturbed): “Jerk,” she says, with a sexy smile on her face. Me: “You know it.” Her: “It’s okay, I’m actually laughing so hard, I’m trying not to cry, so I forgive you.” Me: “I have that effect on a lot of people.” Her: “So, what were you...” Me: “Anyways, where was I? Oh yeah, well in case you didn’t know, black men supposedly have enormous penises. And these black chicks on the beach swore up and down that the myth was true. Well I had couple of drinks in me, so I was feeling good and buzzed at the time, and couldn’t help myself. I told them they ain’t seen nothing until they’ve seen an Asian man’s dick. I was totally kidding, of course, and I had no idea they were going to take my comment so far. They said they had seen a white man’s dick before; in fact, they’ve seen several Asians’ dicks! Even more, they said nothing compares to a black man’s penis…nothing! I just couldn’t let go of the challenge, and told them I was the rare exception. Next thing I knew, they pulled down my shorts, and I was getting a tan on my ass.” Her (busting a gut): “So, did they like what they saw?” Me (teasing her): “Wouldn’t you like to know?” Her: “I like you, you’re pretty cool.” Me: “Yeah, I get that all the time,” I say, jokingly. At this point, I’ve officially established myself as a prize in her eyes, so it’s now safe to “take” away my affection from her just a little. I do so by slightly turning my body away from hers, and giving her a doubtful look. Then I throw this line into the mix. Me: “So, you’re not a whore or anything, are you?
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Her (looking obviously confused): “A whore? Why would you think that?” Me: “I mean, you don’t hook or anything, do you?” Her: “No way.” Me: “Phew. I’m glad you said that, because if you didn’t, I was about to get the hell out of here. Some of the girls at this school are scary.” Her: “How so?” Me: “You haven’t been going here long, have you?” Her: “Of course, I’m a junior.” Me: “Oh, well in that case, let me educate you. I’ve seen so much crazy shit since enrolling here. I’ve walked in some sore sights. One time, I was at this party, and there was this girl naked and spread out on the couch. The guys were just standing in line – dicks hanging out – doing a train on her. She was so fucked up that I couldn’t tell if she even realized what was going on. Anyways, I walk into the room, and stop dead in my tracks, because I couldn’t believe what I was seeing. A couple of the guys looked at me, and invited me to join in. I was so shocked that I don’t even remember what I said. I think I just walked straight out of that place and went somewhere else. I’ve never seen anything so insane in my entire life. I mean, they weren’t even wearing condoms, and the girl was more than willing to just lay there and take it. Anyways, ever since that night, I vowed to always find out a girl’s true nature before getting to know her too well. I mean, don’t get me wrong – I enjoy sex. But to just fuck people without any attachment or feelings is inconceivable to me. I guess I’m just a softy by nature.” Her: “Oh my God, that is disgusting. Well, I can assure you that I’m not like that.” (Here, she’s trying to qualify herself to me, which is very good).
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Me: “Yeah, I do a lot of travelling whenever I get the time, and I can tell you that the girls in Italy are crazy kinky!” Her: “Oh, you’ve been to Italy! I’m so jealous! I’ve always wanted to go there. I try to travel a lot too, but so far, I’ve only been to England and Spain, and a few states here and there. I just think it’s so important to see the world around you, not just what’s in your backyard.” Me: “Yeah, that’s true, but I like to travel because of the shot glasses.” Her: “What?” Me: “The shot glasses. I want to get a shot glass from every country and major city possible. I’ve already got over 100 from all over the place: Sydney, Portugal, Rome, Tahiti…” Just hearing about all the places I’ve collected shot glasses from has piqued her interest in me, and she tries to continue to conversation by talking about her travels. Instead, I direct the conversation by telling her that we’re on the subject of shot glasses now, and then I go into some random discussion about the largest shot glass ever made, the biggest one I’ve ever seen, and more meaningless chatter. I’m using the Give and Take Technique by selectively choosing what I reveal to her, regardless of what she wants to discuss. As a result, she’s so into me by now, and she’s hanging on to every word I’m saying. Once I’ve finished my shot-glass lecture, I shut up for once. This is a significant technique, as I’m not putting her in the position of pursuing me, and she does. Her: “So, I never even got your name.” Me: “Derek. What’s your name?” Her: “Holly. Do you want a beer?”
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Me: “Sure – whatever you got.” Notice that up until this point, I’ve never asked her a single question about herself. Everything that’s come out of my mouth has been stories which sprang off of the original question I’ve asked her. As a result of my neutral and non-sexual behavior towards her, she feels safe with me…her guard is now down. And considering that she’s trying to keep the conversation going by asking me questions, it’s now safe for me to do the same. In fact, I can’t think of a better way to get closer to her than through a cold reading. Me: “I’m sensing that you’re a very introverted person.” Her: “What are you talking about?” Me: “It’s just a feeling I have about you. You seem to have an observer’s nature. I mean, there are some people who are the life of a party, and then others are happier just sitting back and taking everything in. You don’t seem to require a lot of attention from other people; you’re very comfortable in your own skin. I bet that you’re a great person and friend, but if someone doesn’t like you, then it’s no skin off your nose. You are very confident in yourself, and rely on your own guy to make choices. You don’t need to approval of others in order to be happy.” Her: “Yeah, that sounds like me.” Me (talking about her friend): “Now your friend, on the other hand, is quite the chatter box.” Her: “Yeah, you nailed it!” Me: “I bet she can talk up a storm with almost anybody.” Her: “Yes, she does like to talk a lot.”
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Me to her friend: “If you’re really close to somebody, you’re comfortable talking to them about anything. And if someone is very important to you, you’re always there to listen and help in any way you can. Am I right?” Her friend: “Yeah, you’re right.” Me: “I understand. I’m exactly the same.” The girl I was originally picking up: “You do seem really sweet.” Me: “Oh, well then we should probably not be friends. I wouldn’t want you to change your mind about me.” I can say this, because I’ve already established myself as a prize in her eyes. In a sense, nothing I say could make her change her mind about wanting to be with me. I’m merely testing her to see how badly she wants to be qualified. Judging from what she says next, she wants it bad. Her: “You and I seem to mesh really well. And besides, I’m a tough chick…I can handle anything.” Me: “Oh really? Well, we’ll have to wait and see about that. Don’t forget that when it comes to being with me, the surprised never end.” Her (laughing): “You are nuts…and I love it!” Seduction To re-establish a feeling of rapport and trust with her, I refer back to our previous discussion about travel. She tells me about some crazy scuba-diving trip she went on in Jamaica, and I high-five her to show my approval. I hold onto her hand for a bit, and draw her into me so that we’re almost kissing…and she’s expecting it. But instead of giving in to her desire, I lean back so that my shirt rises and exposes my tummy a bit.
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You may not know this, but showing your stomach to a woman is a major turn on. Think of the way a woman excites you when she stretches and pushes out her chest. It’s the same idea. At this point, she’s slightly uncomfortable with the silence, and is determined to restart the chemistry. She begins asking me various questions about my work, family, friends, and more. Instead of answering any of them, I gaze into her eyes, lean into her, and start an entirely different conversation. Think of anything to say that’s random, such as how stale the beer tastes, and how you know of a pub downtown that has the best ale. It doesn’t really matter what you say, just as long as you keep building that sexual tension. As soon as she starts talking about whatever subject I’ve picked, I interrupt her by drawing her in close and kissing her. She gets into it really fast and starts tonguing me, but I don’t let her get away with that (yet). Instead, I just start kissing her very passionately, and suddenly, I stop. This may seem like teasing (well actually, it is teasing), but that’s good. She’s already committed herself to the kiss, and by now, she really wants it. The only difference in this situation is that I’m calling the shots, not her. In fact, it isn’t long before she tells me she wants to be alone with me, and I tease her by saying that she’s taking advantage of me. She gives me that good-girl giggle, and suggests we take it back to her apartment. I happily oblige. Getting Laid First of all, I’m a bit unhappy with the fact that we’re going to her place instead of mine, but I’ve got my techniques in place for avoiding interruptions. It isn’t long before I hit my first one…her roommate. Her roomy is awake, and Holly (my girl) is nervous about being too loud with her in the house. I jokingly tell her that her roommate is welcome to join us if she wants, to which
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Holly gets a good laugh. Instead, I wait in her bedroom while she goes to talk things out with her friend. When she comes back, she tells me her roommate is in a bitchy sort of mood, to which I reply, “Well, if you’re not comfortable being here, we can go to my place to hang. I live just around the block.” She thinks about it for a bit, and decides to come over to my pad instead. Conveniently, all the additional seating in my apartment is occupied by stacks of books, except for the couch (I planned everything before leaving that night, in case I got lucky). What’s better is the fact that I live alone, so I don’t have to worry about cock blockers coming in and ruining the mood. She takes a seat on the couch, and I offer her a choice between wine, beer, or a rum and Coke. She takes the wine. From there, we chat a little bit longer about the party, and how good it is to be out of that noisy environment. Instead of beating around the bush all night (no pun intended), I continue where we left off and start kissing her. As soon as she gets really into it, I pull back a little, only to give her a little more. Pretty soon, she can’t take it anymore, and she starts scratching my neck, and pressing her body into mine. I slowly undo the top two buttons on her shirt, and then I go back to kissing her lips, neck, ears, and back to her lips. She’s getting really excited now, and practically rips my shirt off. I take this as a clue that she’s ready to go – and we sealed the deal right there and then. From the start of that night at the party to getting laid, the entire pickup took a total of four hours. A Final Word...
The essence of a master Sonic Seducer is a man who is solid in and of himself. Life is a big game to him, and he loves to play. With or without women, he knows that he has a lot to offer others around him, and it’s for this very reason that he’s so successful with the opposite sex. As with anything in life, he makes mistakes, but he learns from them, and he never allows them to define him as an individual.
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My hope is that through SonicSeduction™, you will find the master seducer in you who is capable of getting everything he wants out of life, not just women. Dating and seduction should be approached as fun opportunities to explore other people, yourself, and your capabilities. And the sooner you find that solid core of confidence within yourself, you’ll be amazed at the results which follow. Good luck and happy seducing!
Derek Rake Private email: [email protected] Author of: How To Seduce Out Of Your League – http://www.deadlyseduction.com/index2.html The Player’s Guide To Seduce Women – http://www.theseducersguide.com/tpg1.html ZenGasms – http://www.zengasms.com/zengasms.html
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SeductionOnSteroids™ Official Transcript To The Audio Program
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Users of this product are to use the material contained in this book for entertainment purposes only. By viewing this book, you agree to be bound by these terms.
You DO NOT have the permission to copy or forward or reproduce this document in electronic or print format, in parts or in entirety. This book is provided “As Is” without any kind of expressed or implied warranty. Information in this book has been thoroughly checked for accuracy, but may contain inadvertent inaccuracies or errors. We reserve the right to make changes to the information in this book at any time without giving prior notice.
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Why You Must Change Your Game
Y
es, dating is a game, if you didn't already know. It's a game that most men don't know how to play. But, that's okay, because no one ever told us what the rules are.
And, that's where this manual comes in... You've heard it before... insanity is doing the same thing over and over but expecting different results. Change just isn't possible if you continue doing what you've always done. If your current pickup/dating strategy is not working, it's time to change your game. More importantly, it's time to realize something very important... that doing something dramatically different, something that may seem crazy to you, is the answer! Why the heck am I telling you this? Because, the techniques and strategies I will share with you in this report will seem crazy to you. You may even think to yourself, "There's no way that stuff is going to work!" When that happens, I want you to ask yourself this question... "Is what you're doing now - or have been doing so far - producing the results you want?" Then, I want you to remind yourself that I warned you about this. I warned you that some of this stuff may seem crazy and "impossible" to work. And, that in order to get the kind of results you want, you will have to do something dramatically different from what you've ever done. And, lastly, I want you to put your trust in me. Have a little faith, okay? I'm on your side. I want you to have amazing success with women.
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And realize that, when the front door doesn't work, sometimes you have to try the back door, the window, or even the chimney. This is not the stuff that you "normally" do. It's not what you're "used to" doing. But that's okay. Because what we normally do, what we are "conditioned" to do with women does not work. I think you've already figured that part out on your own. Listen, if 95% of the guys are doing things one way and getting lousy results, doesn't it make sense to do things
“
Is what you're doing now - or have been doing so far - producing the results you want?”
differently? Doesn't it make sense to do what the other 5% of the successful guys are doing? So, it's time to change your game! Make a commitment to yourself to try these techniques and strategies out in the real world, okay? Even if you may not believe yet that they will work. (Think of the first time you saw someone floating on water, or the first time you saw someone balancing a metal frame on two skinny wheels i.e. a bike. It seemed impossible at first, right? And then you tried it, you practiced a little and you were able to do what seemed impossible just a few days ago.) I know for a fact that this stuff works, and it works extremely well. So, just try it, okay? And, I promise you, you will be amazed at the results you get
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Dirty Secrets…?
I
n my last report, “Seduction Secrets For Men” (note: updated and republished recently as “How To Seduce Out Of Your League” – link here), I revealed the entire seduction process from start to finish: how to
prepare yourself (mentally and verbally,) where to go to find women, how to approach them, what to say and do to get them to chase you, and how to create a sexual attraction in them. I also revealed all the psychological pieces involved (on both sides,) and I even showed you how to create unstoppable confidence in yourself. This report is a bit different. I will still go over the overall process (from a different perspective) and, I'm going to spoon-feed you by giving you "canned" material, i.e. a word-for-word write-up of what to say - and why - so you really don't have to do much work at all. In other words, I will show you how to cheat, by giving you all the answers to the exam. All you have to do is copy these answers word-for-word and you get to enjoy the results. That means, you don't have to be creative or funny... Heck, you don't even have to be a "better man" if you don't want to be. That's why this report has the words "dirty secrets" in the title. In fact, you'll even tell a few 'tall tales' along the way. Not necessarily lies that will hurt anyone...but, some of what you'll say will fall in the category of "fiction." See, all of this is a lot like trying to get your very first job... If you've had no job experience, it's much harder to get that first job, because all the employers want someone with experience! And that can create some problems.
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How are you supposed to get a job if you have no experience? And, how are you supposed to get experience if no one will give you a job to begin with! It's a tough place to be in, isn't it? Well, becoming a pickup artist is very much like that. Because... Women are drawn to men who are confident, in control, who seem to have already dated (and had experience with) other beautiful women. So, a lot of men are in a very tough spot. In order to get a woman, he has to be confident and have prior experience with beautiful women. But,
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You don't even have to be a "better man" if you don't want to be.”
in order to have confidence and prior experience, he has to get a chance to date one of these women, first! This is a common problem that lots of men face. And, it's not a fun place to be in. Recently, a friend of mine approached me because
he was having the same problem. He came to me and said, "I understand all the techniques and strategies in your report. But, when I get in front of the woman, I'm too nervous to be confident or creative or funny. I can't think of anything interesting to say that will engage her. What the heck do I do?" So, I decided to introduce him to the "fake it till you make it" method. I told him exactly what to say, and when to say it, so that he would have the confidence to walk up to women and start a conversation. This, in turn, got the women engaged. And, the more they responded favorably to him, the more comfortable and confident he became with the experience. That's what this special report is about. It's about revealing the dirty secrets of "faking it till you make it" by using someone else's word-for-word phrasing and languaging so
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women will think that you are the type of man she's looking for...someone who's confident, secure, and is not intimidated by beautiful women because he's dated enough already. Now... in order to pull that off...in order for you to succeed with what you say, you have to understand why you're saying it...which means, you have to know when to say it. Why is this important? Because every situation that you walk into will be slightly different. The women you approach will vary as well. That means, you'll have to know when and why to say the stuff that you've memorized. Simply memorizing this stuff will not do you much good. Timing is very important in this game. In fact, it's more important as what you're saying, because the right words at the wrong time will be meaningless. It will lose it's effectiveness and power. So, while I will give you all the word-for-word languaging to use, that won't be enough. There's still some amount of "doing" involved. Unfortunately, I can't be there in person to do it all for you. But, I can tell you what needs to be done so that you can do it yourself. Let's quickly go over what this process entails...
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Overview of the Process
B
efore we go over each piece of the process in detail, let's quickly look at the entire picture so that you can see how everything fits together. You'll also be able to follow along better as we go through each piece of the
puzzle, if you already know what the entire picture looks like. (It's like getting a peek at the jigsaw puzzle picture before attempting to figure out which piece goes where.) Here are the pieces that make up the entire process:
SeductionOnSteroids™ Attraction Addiction Ten-Step Blueprint 1. Preparation: This is obviously the first piece. Without this, nothing else will work. This is the stuff you will need to do before you leave your home. This entire report is actually part of the "preparation" step. You are learning what to do before you ever make that first contact with a woman. You're putting the time in to make sure that you'll have a much better chance of winning in this game. 2. Assessment: This is the first thing you need to do once you arrive at the location where you plan on meeting women. This piece is very important because it dictates how you will make your approach. Example: The approach and tools you choose to use will be different if you're at a night club versus at the mall or out on the street. 3. Approach: This is where you make first contact. It covers: how to (and how not to) walk in, which target to pick and why, what words/phrases to open with, etc. 4. Attraction: Immediately after the 'Approach,' you'll need to start creating the initial sparks of attraction so that she will be drawn toward you. The mistake most guys make is, they try to get the woman to like them first. Trying to be nice and friendly right away is a road to failure. That may sound crazy, but it's true. (Most guys, especially the "nice" ones always make the mistake of being friendly. You won't make that same mistake)
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5. Screen/Qualify: As the name implies, this is where you get her to prove to you why you should like her. Most guys will never know how this feels. This step is very important because it relays a lot of messages to the woman about why you're the kind of guy she wants to attract. She realizes that she has to work a little to get you - and she likes doing that! (I'll explain why.) 6. Comfort/Connection: This is where she realizes that she enjoys your company, she wants to spend time with you and get to know you better. Only after you have created 'attraction' should you start to create 'comfort.' If you start with comfort first, the woman will see you as a "friend," someone she loves to talk to, but does not like "in that way." Sounds familiar? However, attraction alone will not lead to sex and a future relationship. Most women have to feel comfortable and connected to you before they will get physical. That's what this step will do. 7. Arousal: Once you have created attraction, got her to qualify herself, and created comfort, you can now create sexual arousal in her, both physically and emotionally. At this point, she would start thinking about sex, and about having sex with you. 8. Disarm: Ooops... hang on a minute. Just because she's turned on doesn't guarantee that it will lead to sex. Most women have socially-conditioned or habitual rules and hangups about having, especially on the same day that she met you. They may want to have sex with you, but these pre-programmed rules and hangups will usually get in the way of her enjoying what's to come. No problem. There are ways to deal with this and disarm her, and to make her feel good about wanting to have sex with you. 9. Sex: Uh... right. This is where you have sex. Although, keep in mind that you may still encounter a few speed bumps along the way. We'll discuss what they are and how to get through them smoothly.
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10. Closure: This one, while easy to do, is a crucial step...especially if you want to see her again. It's an easy one to solve.
Okay... those are the major steps to going from initial contact to the bedroom, and beyond. Now, let's go over each one in detail, including the languaging that you'll be using
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Stage 1. Preparation Before You Leave Your Home As mentioned earlier, preparation is the most important part of this game. If you skip this step, you might as well just stay home. There's no point in going out and trying to pick someone up. Just like anything else in life, much of the important stuff happens before the game starts. Before you ever step out into the field, you have to prepare both physically and mentally. You have to get your head in the right place... warm up and stretch... devise, study and memorize the plan of attack... choose the proper gear/attire, and so on. If you don't do this, your chances of winning the game drops significantly. It just doesn't make sense to jump out into the field without first preparing thoroughly. In fact, it's pretty stupid. And only those who don't really want to win will ever do this. Every successful person knows this, and puts the time and effort into preparing as thoroughly as possible. Life is full of surprises, and the better prepared you are, the better you'll be able to handle what gets thrown at you. So, let's do that...
Stop Worrying About The Outcome Yes, you read correctly. Stop worrying about the outcome. Stop worrying about how things will end up. Stop worrying about what she'll think or say. More importantly, it means, stop worrying about upsetting or annoying her.
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The strategies I share in this report work. They have been tried and tested hundreds of times, out in the real world, on real women. All you have to do is learn them, and then just go out there and have fun. It's great to have your goal in mind, but don't be worried or concerned about it. Just do what you're supposed to, and have fun. Bonus Life Lesson: When you start worrying about what others will think of you, you'll become even more
self-conscious.
This
will
hurt
your
performance, whether it's in the rec room, the boardroom, or the bedroom. When you focus on the game, instead of the spectators, you'll perform at your very best! You'll
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(Women) much rather be challenged, or even offended, by a guy than be bored by him.”
also enjoy the game a heck of a lot more when your mind isn't elsewhere. When you're doing something, and you want to do it well, stop worrying about how it will turn out. Instead, just focus on giving it your best and let the outcome be what it will be. Be Anything But This... I'm a marketer. And, one of the most important lessons I've learned in this business is... you can be creative, you can be unique, you can be funny, you can be silly, you can even be arrogant and offensive. But, you can not be boring! Let me repeat that... You can NOT be boring. The moment you start to bore your prospects or customers is the very moment you lose them. It's all over. You've lost that sale, probably forever.
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Do you know why being "nice" to women, or being a "gentleman" rarely works? Because nice guys appear boring to women. There's no spark. Most women are very emotional creatures. They'd much rather be challenged, or even offended, by a guy than be bored by him. This may be hard for you to believe, but it is a fact that you will have to start accepting immediately. Why do you think the "jerks" and "bad boys" get all the women and the "nice guy" don't?
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Remember … nice equals boring. And women don’t want boring.”
Whatever you do, do not be the "normal" or "nice" guy that tip toes around the woman, that filters every word he says because he's afraid to upset, offend or annoy the woman. Don't treat her like your boss who you're
always kissing up to because you're afraid to get reprimanded or fired. That stuff can get really boring, really fast. The moment you start doing that, it's over. You're fired. Isn't it interesting that by not wanting her to lose interest in you, you start to do the very things that eventually makes her lose interest in you? It can be very frustrating. So, the first rule of the pickup artist is to (as mentioned earlier) stop worrying about what she will think, or how she will react! Remember, nice equals boring. And, women don't want boring. They want some ups and downs, pushs and pulls...excitement, emotional, dramatic. It's the difference between a boring elevator ride to the 103th floor...and...an exhilarating roller coaster ride.
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What Makes A Man Irresistible To Women Before you try to pick up and seduce a woman, it may help greatly if you had an idea about what women find attractive in men. If you've ever flipped through a romance novel, you probably have some idea of what women are drawn to. (If you haven't, you should pick one of these books up and read it. Seriously!) There are certain qualities in a man that women are naturally drawn to. Oftentimes, they don't even know why they're drawn to these men. Here's a quick list of what makes a man irresistible to women. Women are drawn to a man that... - projects confidence and authority - is dominant leader even among other men - does not show fear, doubt, or cowardice - is secure and does not look to others (especially not to women) for approval - respects himself and expects the best, and will not settle for less. - is very selective and picky, and is willing to wait for what he really wants - does not apologize for who he is, what he does, or what he wants - knows what he wants and does not make excuses for it - always keeps his cool, and does not get ruffled easily - is always in control of the situation - likes to claim his space, and spreads out to mark it - is also in control of his own emotions and can stop when he wants to - does not take b.s. from anyone (even women) and is quick to walk away from it - is charming, funny, and even a little cocky
Sounds like a lot to live up to, doesn't it? But, fear not. We'll find a way to project some of these qualities to women through what we say and do.
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Become An Instant Seducer Here's a powerful way to get the edge on every other guy out there... Think of your favorite role model, the one person who you feel could easily get any woman that he wanted. It can either be a celebrity, movie/sports star, comicbook character, someone you know of in real life, or even a completely made up character that you created yourself (just think of what this 'irresistible man' would be like, and give him as much detail/character as possible. I've given you a great list above to borrow and build from.) Next, become this person! At least when you're out scouting.
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There are certain qualities in a man that women are naturally drawn to.”
Yes, that means, when you're going out to pick up women, pretend that you're this person who you're modeling after...that you're this irresistible guy. (Fake it till you make it, remember?) Actually, try to take on his persona, just as an actor becomes the character/role that he's playing for a movie. Dress up like him, do your hair (or get a haircut) like he would, and yes, act like him. Sounds crazy? Yes, I know. I told you some of this stuff would, right? Trust me, just do it anyway, okay?
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If you do it right, you'll end up looking, dressing, and acting a lot bolder and with more confidence than you normally do. This is good because you want to stand out! You want to separate yourself from all the other boring guys out there in blue jeans, plain shirt and leather jacket. Now, take that up a notch or two! Be a bit more
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Think of your favorite role model, the one person who you feel could easily get any woman that he wanted.”
outrageous, unique, and colorful than the average guy. Accessorize a bit. Use unique and eye-catching jewelry like a necklace, rings, add gloves, hats, boots, scarves, (fake) tattoos, whatever into the mix that will make you stand out more. If you're not sure how these things will look on you, get a woman's opinion. (Hey, there's a perfect
way to start a conversation, eh? ;-) Look... you want to stand out and get people (especially women) to notice YOU. You want them to see you before you see them (or at least let them think that.) What else are you doing along the way? You are NOT being boring, average, vanilla....like most guys are. The average guy tries to "blend in" and fit in with the crowd. He tries to dress the same, walk the same and talk the same. The seducer or pickup artist purposely tries to stand out and get noticed! He's a showman, a performer. Often times, women are drawn to him because he looks so different and unique. (It takes guts to dress differently than everyone else) That alone can be very attractive, and can often get women to approach you. (Remember, the "Irresistible Man" list above?)
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If you want to get an edge on other guys, start doing this. Create an alternate identity for yourself. Start dressing up in a way that will draw others to you. (You don't have to dress up like this all the time, if you don't want to. Just do it when you're going out, when you're planning on meeting women.) The more you take on this persona... the more in touch you get with this character... the more your body and mind will learn to become more confident and seductive. This really is more powerful than most people will ever realize.
On Body Language Your physiology is also very important when taking on this new persona. Think of that irresistible male you create in the exercise above, or just think of the James Bond character. How does he walk into the room? Is it fast and jittery... or slow, calm and confident? How does he talk? Is it quickly and nervously, bumbling and stumbling over himself? Or is it slow, well thought out, with lots of pauses? How is his voice? Is it fast and high-pitched? Or deep and resonate? How does he gesture? How does he turn? How do his eyes move?... Quick and fidgety? Or slow, deliberate and relaxed? Again, start to embody this character - both mentally as well as physically. Become this person...at least while you're out meeting women.
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Note: Being consistent is very important. If you take on a seducer's role and personality, but you don't match the body language that goes with it, it will appear fake. Nobody will believe it. The same goes for the words you say. I'll give you all the right words to say, but if you deliver them with a weak, nervous energy and body language, the woman won't believe it to be true. She'll see through it all. As you walk into a room (or club,) expect others to notice you right away. Start getting used to this. Walk in as your alternate identity. Stand tall, lift your chest high and wear a confident, relaxed smile on you as you glide in. Slow everything down significantly, including how you look around, how
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Create an alternate identity for yourself. Start dressing up in a way that will draw others to you.”
you breathe, and how you gesture. Keep the above advice in mind as you read through, and study, this manual. A Few Powerful Concepts and Dynamics To Keep In Mind... Be Ready For Her Tests If you don't already know this, women will try to "test" you often. She may try to rattle you, ruffle your feathers, try to catch you off-guard with some interesting remark or response. Don't worry. She's not being a bitch. For the most part, this is an unconscious process on her part. Oftentimes, she doesn't even realize she's doing it. It's normal for her. The reason she's doing it is to try to quickly figure out who you are. Can you handle a little sass or will you run off at the first sign of trouble? She may even try to order you around, like she's able to do with most guys.
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How do you handle this? Easy... Respond to her with the same amount of sass and attitude, but in a fun way. Pretend you're playing a game with a friend, because that's really what it's like. She's just having fun while she's discovering what you're made of. She doesn't hate you. (She just met you, she doesn't know enough about you to hate you OR like you.) Expect her to throw her tests on you. And, play along. Poke fun at her too. (Remember, don't be
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Pretend you're playing a game with a friend, because that's really what it's like.”
nice and polite about it. Nice equals boring!)
Introduce Physical Contact A.S.A.P. No, this does not mean you should jump on her or try to kiss her within the first 5 seconds. I'm not talking about sexual touching here.
Physical contact can be as simple as touching her hand...playfully (read: lightly) pushing her or smacking her, challenging her to an arm or thumb wrestle, etc. Some guys also use the fake palm-reading technique. (FYI: All this should be done after you've opened successfully and started to create some attraction.) You pretend to know how to read palms and ask for the woman's hand. Then, you start telling her future, which really is just a series of jokes. For example, you could say... "Here...give me your left hand." If she says "Why" or "no," reply with... "Just give it to me, you punk...and I'll show you why..."
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If she doesn't want to, no problem. Just say... "Fine, whatever. You don't get a free palm reading" and ignore her for a bit. Remember, don't get upset, just go with the flow, and don't be a "nice guy." Usually, you'll get the hand when you ask for it, especially since you've already started to create some attraction in her. You can start the routine... "Hmm... it looks like you'll have 7 and 1/2 children. None out of wedlock, of course. Tsk tsk" (You shake your head as you say this.) "You love wall-to-wall carpeting. I've never met anyone with a carpet fetish. Interesting..." "Oh, it says here you're going to live till you die. That's... interesting as well..." She and her friends will probably be laughing through all of this. You can also gesture for her hand, by holding yours out, when you're ready to lead her someplace else. (We'll go over this later.)
Two Steps Forward, One Step Back This is a very important technique and should be used throughout the entire pickup and seduction process...from the first moment you meet her...all the way to the bedroom. There are many reasons for using this technique, depending on which step it's being used in conjunction with. I'll explain in more detail as we go over the steps. For now, think of it this way... When you do something and then pull back a little, you give the other person time to digest/absorb what you said or did. By doing so, you can now go much further than you normally would have...simply because you pulled back a little before
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continuing further, instead of constantly pushing forward and overwhelming the other person. Each time you take a step back (after taking 2 steps forward,) you increase the other person's comfort zone, which allows her to go further, without feeling unnatural about it. Also, by going back and forth, it makes the exchange more fun and engaging. Women actually love the back and forth, up and down interaction instead of
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(Take) two steps forward, (and then) one step back.”
the linear (often boring) one. It's unpredictable and fun for them when you do this. I'll demonstrate the use of this technique, and how it applies to each section, as we cover those sections
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Stage 2. Assess Before you approach a woman, you want to assess the environment as well as the situation. This is an important step because your strategy and tools will vary slightly depending on the environment/situation you're about to step into. Before you approach someone, or even before you decide who to approach, notice the environment. Is it a club, a mall, a restaurant? If it's a club, you don't want to appear to hover after you walk in. (That does not match the "role" you're playing.) Instead, scan the room quickly and find a group (or a woman) to approach. Find someone in one of the groups that you'd like to pick up, and proceed to approach the entire group (not just the woman you want to talk to.) If you see someone you like but you get nervous, go in right away and start the conversation. If you just can't do it, do not hover around her. Remove yourself. You don't want her to see you around her for too long before you approach. This makes you look insecure. Go to another part of the club where she can't see you, and come back later. Meanwhile, you can approach another group or woman that appears less intimidating to you. Pay attention to your target before you approach. What is she doing? Is she alone or in a group? If she's alone, you'll be able to use a funny/quirky opener and engage her into conversation. (Examples will be given later.) If she's alone, is she sitting, standing, or moving (walking/running... if she's outdoors)? If she's moving, you will have to walk/run with her or else she'll keep going while you're trying to talk to her.
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If she's with a group, is she engaged in conversation/activity, is she enjoying herself? Or is she bored and just being polite? (Guys are usually too occupied with what's going on in their own heads to notice what the woman, or group, is doing.) If she's interacting with the group, the funny/quirky type of openers will not work. I'll explain why below...
Offer First, Take Later What's one of the most powerful words in marketing? Yep, it's "FREE!" Multi-million dollar businesses
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…before you decide who to approach, notice the environment.”
have been created by offering something valuable to the prospect first, for free. By doing so, you've created some value in the person's life and that person will be more open to offer you something in return, even if it is his attention or a few minutes of his time.
You can apply the same strategy in the pickup scenario. In fact, you absolutely must use it, especially when approaching someone who's engaged in a group and seems to be having fun, before you approach. Let's use the club scene as an example... When most guys approach a woman who is at a club with friends, he (unknowingly) assumes that the woman will drop everything and entertain him and his questions. Why would she ever want to do that, especially if she's already having fun with her friends? She doesn't owe you anything. So...
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When you're approaching a woman in this situation, you will have to offer her value first! When you ask questions like, "Hi, how are you?" or "Hey, what's your name?" or other questions along those lines, you're asking her to give you (a stranger) something of value, namely her time and attention. She will rarely agree to do this. If she does, she will do it just to be polite. Instead, you should offer her value first, in the form of a quick entertaining story or tidbit. I'll give some examples in the next phase
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Stage 3. Approach After you have assessed the environment and situation, and figured out which approach to use, it's time to go in. (Remember, don't hover or you'll appear insecure. Woman are attracted to confidence.) Don't walk straight up to her. You want to imply that you're not necessarily interested in her (or them)...you're just passing by and happened to stop to share your experience (story.) For all they know, it could just as easily have been a group of guys that you approached. So, approach them at an angle instead, and lean away from them a bit, as if you could leave at any minute, i.e. your body is not facing them directly so you have to turn your head slightly to talk to them. (Imagine you're standing next to someone at the bar ordering drinks. If you were to talk to her, you'd have to turn your head towards her, yes? It's similar to that angle.) Speak clearly and loud enough so that everyone in the group can hear you. Remember, they may already be having a conversation when you approach them. (It's okay to interrupt, as long as you're offering some value. Speak from your abdomen, not just your throat. This will give your voice a much better sound, resonance and projection. And, remember to speak to the group, not the woman you're interested in. In fact, make it a point to not talk to the woman you're intersted in for right now. Most guys will go in and approach the hottest woman directly. Do not do this. By not paying too much attention to the hottest woman in the group, you're implying that you've been around hot women, that outer beauty is not enough to impress you. This is what most guys do not do. Also... remember that it's not just what you say to her, it's also what you do along the way. Your body language should match your words. Example: If you're implying to her, through your choice of words, that you're not interested in her "yet," be sure that your body reflects that as well. If you're leaning in too
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much or trying to touch or rub against her or sitting too close, this may send a conflicting signal than your words. She won't believe you. Remember, action speaks louder than words. Moreover, you may actually want to poke fun at your main target within the first 10 seconds. The hotter she is, the sooner you should do it. (I'll give you some examples soon.) Yes, I know that sounds crazy, but do it anyway. It works! Also, remember, most guys will never do this. Not in a million years. Address the entire group (instead of just the girl you're interested in) in a friendly tone and share something unique and interesting. (Don't open with the same ol' lame lines or questions that all the other guys use. Women get that all the time. Too many times, in fact. So, just don't do it. Be unique.)
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Speak to the group, not the woman you're interested in.”
So...instead of asking them things like, "how are you" or "where are you from?" start off right away with a fun/entertaining/engaging story, like... "Hey, did you guys see the lady that the bouncers had to throw out the door?" Now... something like that will pull them in because it's interesting, and you're offering them value first, before asking them to give you something. They may respond with, "Really? No, we didn't see that." Or... "Oh gosh, no, what happened!" Or whatever. Either way, you can continue with, "Yeah, she was drunk on her butt, tried to climb over the bar and attack the bartender!" Now that you've got them engaged, you can take it to the next level.
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Keep offering value, telling stories, etc. (so they don't have to do much work,) until you've got them engaged and interacting with you i.e. until they've made you a part of their group (or they've become a part of your new group.) At this point, you can move to the next step. Don't talk about something heavy or intellectual. Keep it light and fun. Do you remember when I said to stand as if you're about to leave at any minute? You can vocalize that point as well, by saying... "I can only stay for a little bit. My friends are meeting me here." "I can't stay long. I've gotta find the club owner." (If they wonder why, you can say, "Oh, I know him through a good friend of mine." That gives you a social point or two, which we'll discuss later.) As mentioned in step 1, have your stories/openers prepared before you leave the house. Don't try to come up with stuff on the spot. Come prepared. If you get nervous or scared, don't worry. Just do it anyway. Look, you already know that this stuff works. And, you'll already have your stories/openers ready before you approach them. So, if you fumble up the delivery or appear nervous, it's OKAY. It's not the end of the world if it doesn't work for you like it should. It's just one day, and one woman. You can try again later. No big deal. If it doesn't seem to work well and they didn't bite, if they didn't get drawn into your opener/story, don't waste your time there. Move on to another woman or group. (Say something like... "Oh I gotta go, I just saw one of my friends." and excuse yourself.) This is great when you're in a club because there are multiple groups and targets you can approach if the first one doesn't go well. Just shake it off and try again. You just have to practice and try to have fun with it. Think of it as an experiment where you want to see how women/people react to your approach/stories, etc.
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And, remember, if you take on the persona of that "irresistible man" or your favorite celebrity, etc., you'll do surprising well with this. You'll just be playing that role and all this will seem much easier and smoother. One guy that I know goes to a different city and
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Don't talk about something heavy or intellectual. Keep it light and fun.”
practices his pickup at the clubs over there. Why? Because, no one knows him there. He can be whomever he wants to be, he can play whichever character he wants and no one will know. He does very well, by the way. As soon as you've engaged the group with your story/opener, you can move to the next step right away.
Some Examples of Openers Here are a few examples of some unique openers. Keep in mind that if the woman is not alone and/or is already engaged with a group, having fun, etc. you will have to offer value first! "Hey, what's my sign?" (Start smiling or laughing after you say this, just in case they look confused.) "Are you married... or happy?" (I love this one! It's funny, plus it's a way to screen out the ones you don't want.) "Hey, watch it, missy!!" ...or... "You wanna take it outside?" (If she accidentally bumps into you or does an arm gesture that almost hit you, etc.) "Hey, can I get your opinion on something?" (These can be used on a group as well, especially if they're sitting down or in a group of 2 or 3. Women love to give their opinions, especially if it's related to fashion, relationships, other women, etc.) "Can you help us settle an argument?" (If you're there with another friend.)
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Here's a funny one that you can turn into a quick conversation... "So what do you think of that woman's (or man's) outfit? Would you ever wear that? Who does s/he think s/he is, huh? Where's the fashion police when you desperately need them! (Once she starts laughing, you can continue with... Actually, I have a confession to make.... I have that exact same outfit. I almost wore it tonight. Imagine how embarrassing that would have been?" "You look like you have tattoos/piercings." (She may respond with, "No, I don't." or "Why do you say that?" to which you can say... "Oh you just seem like the type" (Her: Oh yeah? and which type is that?!!