In Quest of the Mythical Mate: A Developmental Approach to Diagnosis and Treatment in Couples Therapy [1 ed.] 1138004596, 9781138004597

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A Developmental Approach to Diagnosis and Treatment In Couples

Therapy

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Ellyn Bader, Ph.D. & Peter

T.

Pearson, Ph.D.

QUEST OF THE MYTHICAL MATE IN

In this highly innovative volume on the treatment of couples in therapy, the authors present a clear and ex-

citing

conceptual framework for

understanding the evolution of the couple's relationship as a dynamic unit. Their starting point is the question,

"What do we do

after

we fa

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1

in

love?" At its most intense, the notion of "romantic love" evokes feelings and associations so profound that they

transcend time, culture, and even

Under the pressures an intimate long-term relationship, however, the "mythical mate" who was once the source of romantic love often becomes one's worst enemy. What does the therapist do then? How does this metamorphosis from rational thought.

of

mythical mate to worst enemy affect the therapeutic techniques created to help couples evolve through this crisis point? Using as their springboard the model of infant developmental stages described by pioneering researcher Margaret Mahler, the authors find striking parallels between these stages and the powerful biological/ psychological forces that shape the

dynamics between two interacting adults. They show how these forces result in a bumpy and stressful maturation process as couples strive to develop the capacity to manage

closeness and distance, as well as such complex emotions as disillu(continued on bock flop)

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