Conversational Hypnosis Quickstart Guide

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Conversational Hypnosis Quickstart Guide

How you can secretly hypnotize people during a normal conversation

Emory Green

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Table of Contents Introduction Chapter 1: Attitude of a Successful Conversational Hypnotist Hypnosis + Your Own Frame First Rapport-Building Skill Chapter 2: Basic Principles of Conversational Hypnosis The ABS Formula A is for Absorbing Attention B is for Bypass S is for Stimulate The Enchantment in Good Storytelling Tips on How to Be a Good Storyteller Set the scene: The audience matters: Embellish, but don’t lie: Rehearse: Keep it short: Chapter 3: Setting Trance Themes and Using Hypnotic Language 3 Trance Phrases Imagine (the Possibilities) Find Yourself If You Were To How to Hypnotize Someone During a Conversation Pattern Interrupt: Hypnotic Keywords: The Zeigarnik Effect: Ambiguity: Negative Words: Conclusion References

Introduction There is still some uncertainty regarding what is and what isn’t hypnosis. As a quick introduction, hypnosis is a state of mind—where the subject is in a sort of trance. Have you ever read a really good book, or listened to an amazing piece of music after which you “return to consciousness,” not remembering what happened around you during that time? Have you lost yourself in a daydream only to feel like you’re “waking up” and returning to reality? Driving home from work and you find that you’ve been on “autopilot” all the ride home and somehow still managed to arrive in one piece? You are still fully conscious, but for the most part you ignore or tune out the outside world, only taking in things on a subconscious level. That is the essence of a trance. Hypnosis allows one person to actively instill that state at will. It is a skill that can be learned just like any other. It will allow you to take your listener out of their current state of consciousness and place them in a state that you want them to be in. However, the difference between standard hypnosis and conversational hypnosis is that you do not want your subject to be aware that you are doing it. You will be bypassing their conscious mind and talking to their subconscious. Conversational, or covert, hypnosis is done in three easy steps: Establishing a connection: Draw their attention, establish trust, and build rapport with them. This is body language 101: make eye contact, be friendly, and use the right tone, volume, and pitch of voice to match the situation. Disabling conscious filters: You’ll find many sources that tell you to confuse your subject with vague words, but that will only work if you’re dealing with a doorknob. You need to tailor your skills to match each situation and practice your skills to be as flexible as possible. Subtle hypnotic commands: Always assume your subject is smarter than you give them credit for. Your commands and messages need to be subtle. Once your subject is aware of what you are doing, you’ve already failed. Why use conversational hypnosis, you ask? Imagine the power you would have if you could bypass the conscious and program the subconscious mind.

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Get your audience to warm up to you and be more open to your message Better sales tactics Politicians getting you to buy in to their cause Companies targeting audiences with their advertisements Gain a skill set to help yourself and others People will turn to you for help in solving problems Learn how to use your voice as a tool Evolve your thought processes and develop better ideas Create deeper connections with people Program yourself to overcome obstacles Create positive change

Chapter

1:

Attitude

of

a

Successful

Conversational Hypnotist

Hypnosis +

Hypnosis plus is hypnosis but with more. The point of hypnosis + is to engage your subject with more energy, more compassion, and with the best intentions. It is the ability to connect deeply from the moment any interaction takes place. The interaction is about them, not about you. You’re going to build a strong connection by emphasizing the other person. In order to succeed, you need to prepare everything. Being prepared allows you to do things with confidence, precision, and drive. What drives you is the intention with which you practice hypnosis. If you want to help someone lose weight, that is your drive, that is your intention. During your session, your intention needs to be absolutely clear and tailored to your subject’s needs. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5.

Listen and make them feel like you understand Use their words and phrases Make them feel safe Remain positive Let them follow your lead

This adds a new level of intensity to your sessions with your subject, and in order to do so, you can make use of the following points: 1. Build a strong connection. The more you know about them, the deeper the connection. A stronger connection means greater success. 2. Find the real goal and plan solutions and motivations towards helping your subject achieve them. 3. Identify and work through road blocks. Use your skills and new language to break through the blocks. 4. Follow your instincts as you become more comfortable with hypnosis +. Soon, you will be able to work off of feel instead of analysis. 5. Use power words to guide your subject to seeing future possibilities that overcome their issues and problems.

Your Own Frame First

The most important part is to make sure you remove your own feelings, emotions, experiences, and thoughts from the equation. You need to have an open mind and be positive. Fix your own viewpoint before trying to alter someone else’s. This is something you need to do before each encounter or session. Negative thoughts or conflicting thoughts will inhibit progress and affect your ability to be successful.

Rapport-Building Skill

Rapport is the feeling of being instantly connected to someone. Think of it as meeting a complete stranger and just “clicking” with them. You feel happy and comfortable with them, like instant best friends. How to establish rapport in a short time frame: There is no way you will have an instant connection with everyone you meet, especially not in relationships that happen organically. However, it is possible to plant the seed and begin to build rapport on a subconscious level. The easiest way is through body language and the way you speak. You can do this by mimicking your subject. This will lead them to think that you have things in common and that you understand them. Caution: Be subtle. Don't outright copy them. 1. Take note of posture as well as their tone of voice. The aim is to mimic both as closely as possible. 2. Make an adjustment to your own so as to resemble their body language, but still not identically copying them. 3. Take some time before making another move to get even closer to their posture. 4. People are not static, and chances are their posture will have changed. Don’t be obvious about your own posture change as you change to match them. 5. To test if you are making progress, try changing your position and see if they follow suit. This process takes time, so don’t rush.

Chapter 2: Basic Principles of Conversational Hypnosis

The ABS Formula

A is for Absorbing Attention

Hypnosis may seem like magic, but really, it’s just a higher form of focus, except it is geared towards focusing on internal processes instead of external factors. In order to get someone to be susceptible to hypnosis, you need their attention. In order to grab someone’s attention, you need to stimulate their consciousness and draw them closer with a story, an anecdote, or a joke. Get them interested in listening for half a minute before you start building rapport with them. If you haven’t gotten their attention, how are you planning on having a conversation, never mind trying to send subliminal messages? However, getting someone’s attention isn’t as hard as you may think. Think about every conversation you’ve had with a stranger—you could have bonded on the subway over a delayed stop or a comical event that happened as you rode to your destination. There is always something that can draw attention, but first and foremost, remember to go into your better, more positive state of mind (hypnosis +). 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7.

Make eye contact Tell a story, something interesting that will grab their attention Be interesting Steer their conversation towards yours Be subtle Show them a picture Engage and show interest in what they are saying. You will be surprised by how many people will feel that you have built a connection simply by allowing them to talk.

B is for Bypass

No, not the heart kind. What I mean by this is your ability to bypass the critical part of the conscious mind—the part of the brain that rejects or fights against certain impulses, thoughts, and emotions. It’s this part of the brain that analyzes incoming information and then either accepts or rejects it. You have to be able to get past this defense and break through this limiting barrier in order to get your subject to be more compliant and less likely to reject your messages. There are several techniques that you can employ in order to bypass this mechanism: 1. Tell an engaging story. Be a good storyteller and people will listen, no matter the topic. See below for tips on how to tell an engaging story and how to be a better storyteller. 2. Utilize power words. There are thousands of power words and phrases that you can utilize. The two most powerful are: a. Imagine, and b. Remember This creates a link with the person’s subconscious, since memories are stored there. If you are asked to imagine something, you turn inward to draw up that mental picture. Using these power words will create an easy-access doorway into the subject's subconscious mind. 3. You can use words that elicit more powerful emotions, and the easiest way to see them is by going through newspaper articles. These are the words that are designed to be attention-grabbing and controversial: “CEO flees after accusations of espionage.” The careful choosing of certain words will elicit stronger reactions from people. 4. Use linguistic bridges to link thoughts and ideas: a. And b. But c. Because d. Which means It really is as easy as it sounds. You can combine power words and linguistic bridges in order to create powerful sentences, phrases, or imagery with the right words. 5. Build up and use hypnotic themes (also called trance themes). Think comfort and relaxation; those are usually the easiest hypnotic themes that can be called upon. This is the equivalent of using imagery in guided meditation. “Imagine

that you are in a safe, happy place. You are comfortable and relaxed, but not sleepy…”

S is for Stimulate

When you’ve got their attention and you’ve bypassed their defenses, you are already well on your way to stimulating their unconscious mind. It doesn’t take long, and can even happen in a matter of seconds. It will take some time as you learn how to use your new skill and become more proficient at using it. All the skills can be applied together and should flow easily into one another.

The Enchantment in Good Storytelling

Great stories have power in them. The human race revolves around stories: books, television, news, gossip. We crave anything that gives more information delivered in a beautifully and enticingly-wrapped package. Words can move the world to tears or move a nation to war. Stories hold the power to take us away and deposit us in a new, unfamiliar, exciting, and wonderful place. Stories can help you grow, learn, or escape. Anyone can tell a story, but it takes skill to tell a great story. When you tell a story, the other person will listen. You need to keep them listening in order to succeed. Make sure that the other person is drawn in by your story. Whether it is funny, painful, or just interesting, they need to want to keep listening. You can tell a story over a matter of days, as long as it is interesting. Your listener will want to come back for more until the story has reached a satisfying conclusion. The way to do that is by using colorful language (and I don’t mean swearing). Paint a picture in as much detail as possible, using as few words as possible. This is where power words and emotionally enticing words come into play. Play with metaphors, similes, idioms, and other figurative language. Engage your listener’s imagination. 3 things to make or break a story: 1. An event or sequence of events:

Traditionally you were told that a story had to have a beginning, middle, and an end. However, for the most part, it just needs to follow in a sequence. You don’t have to tell your listener that you were at a conference when an event happened unless it has a direct impact on the outcome of the story. “I was in the hospital.” It is the start of a story, but there’s no real sequence here. What happened? Where did it happen? Why? Who else was there? When did this happen? These are the questions you need to answer in order to have a complete sequence of events. “I was on a cruise with my family and we learned that Richard Branson (or another celebrity) was on board. I got so excited to meet him that I passed out, hit my head, and fell overboard.” The more information you add, the more enticing the story becomes. Now that you’ve hooked them, you can continue your story, adapting your pacing for better effect. 2. Pacing: You don’t have to tell the story in the exact order it happened. Sometimes a story is better, and the listener will be on the edge of their seat if you begin with the punchline. You can also extend the lead up to the story: “I met Richard Branson on a cruise years ago. It ended with me in the hospital.” The idea is to pace the story, get the listener to interact. Now you have an opening by which you can add your “once upon a time” sequence to the story. “I’ve always been a huge fan of Mr. Branson, so imagine my surprise when I learned that he would be on the same ship we were on. My family and I won a week-long getaway on a Virgin Active cruise…” 3. Emotional investments and personal developments: In order to elicit the right response from your listener, you will have to introduce an emotional charge and a personal development related to the story. It has to be something that impacts one or more of the characters in the story. “Remember, I made a complete fool of myself! There I was, a fully grown man, having to be fished out by lifeguards. The first thing I did when I woke up was demand to know where Branson was.” You’ve created this need within your listener to know what happened. The storyteller had an emotional investment in meeting his hero, and it didn’t happen.

“Imagine that. You’re this close to meeting this amazing person, and bam, lights out! All I could think about was meeting him. Even with six stitches in my forehead, all I wanted was to get an autograph and shake his hand.” Caution: Don’t overuse pacing, but also don’t give the conclusion away too soon. You want your listener’s attention on you as long as possible. You want them to be invested, but you also want to give them the satisfaction of a good ending. It doesn’t have to be a happy one, as long as it is a satisfactory one.

Tips on How to Be a Good Storyteller

Set the scene: You know what happens in your story. Your audience does not. The first sentence needs to reflect the tone of the story and give enough detail to keep them interested. Don’t info-dump. Remember the 5 Ws: who, what, when, where, and why (or, how). The audience matters: The target audience needs to be considered when you’re telling a story. If your story is potentially offensive, be aware of who it could offend before telling it. What could be funny to you may not be to someone else. The same goes for the topic of your story. If you are talking about someone (now, this isn’t gossip, but simply in the event that someone has asked you to tell their story for them), be sure that you aren’t divulging too much. You need to be aware of the impact you have on your audience. If you are telling a story that contains potentially dark themes, or other delicate matters, be aware that what you say and how you approach the subject matters. You don’t want to repel your listener; you want to draw them in. Be aware of body language. Embellish, but don’t lie: Adding a short tale to your story and embellishing some details sometimes makes for a more colorful story. However, be sure that you don’t end up changing so much that it diverges from the original truth. It is one thing to exaggerate, but quite another to lie for effect. Rehearse: There is a reason that weddings are rehearsed. You don’t want the speeches to be fumbled or have someone share a secret that was never meant to be shared. The same applies. In order to have a greater effect, you need to know your story, your pauses, your subliminal messages (including body language that you will be making use of) in order to make a clear, stirring connection with your subject.

A story has more impact if there are little to no unintentional interruptions or pauses. If you tend to ramble, it is better to rehearse and know where you’re going with the story so as to avoid long-winded, unrelated tangents. Keep it short: As stated above, you can tell a story over the course of several days. It is a technique that will get the listener to engage and actively seek you out in order to hear the rest of the story. However, if your story is only a minute long from start to finish, don’t drag it out. The shorter, the better. Remember, you want to get their attention so that you can get them to start talking about themselves and build a rapport.

Chapter 3: Setting Trance Themes and Using Hypnotic Language

3 Trance Phrases

The phrases that follow are easy to slip unnoticed into the conversation and the more you use them, the better you will get at knowing when and how to use them.

Imagine (the Possibilities)

You’re inviting your listener to delve into their subconscious. It is a trance word all on it’s own but can be combined with other power words and phrases. It acts as a command word, but in a more subtle way. People are more willing to imagine something if it has to do with themselves and their own possibilities rather than an outright command.

Find Yourself

Similar to “Imagine,” this phrase invites you to imagine a future possibility. “If you sit down and start working on that presentation now, you will find yourself finishing it faster than you thought you would have.” It creates excitement and anticipation within the listener. It builds on the thought that the phase instills a sort of “lack of control.” It means that they can start whatever task they will, but whatever follows after “find yourself” would seem out of their control.

If You Were To

Again, this is not seen as an outright command, only a suggestion. Think back on every command your parents ever gave you. How often did you simply want to reply, “No, I

won’t do that,” just because they had the audacity to phrase it in a way that gave you zero choice? This phrase opens up your listener to be more receptive to a direct command. The trick is to have it come across as a suggestion, after which they tend to think that the outcome was their own idea rather than something you had suggested.

How to Hypnotize Someone During a Conversation

After you’ve established a bond with your subject, you can make use of the following skills in order to hypnotize them:

Pattern Interrupt:

Humans are creatures of habit. We like to do the same things every day in the same ways with little to no deviation. This allows us to go about our normal day without expending too much energy on the routine or mundane things. When something disrupts this pattern we have built for ourselves, we take notice—it is how the human brain is wired (it’s a survival thing). Applying the pattern interrupt technique is quite simple: all you do is make a small alteration to what you normally do. As an example, if you normally shake your friend's hand, change it up. Instead of shaking their hand, hug them, or change the way you shake hands. It is during this window where the pattern is interrupted that you will be free to give your hypnotic command. While they’re trying to figure out and process the change in behavior, you will have a window of opportunity to bring your subject into a trace.

Hypnotic Keywords:

Utilize your trance phrases. If you tell your subject to imagine something, they get programmed, or affected by it. This is why certain horror films do so well with jump scares. The patterns are known, which makes the anticipation (and the watcher’s imagination) go haywire. Let your trance phrases do the work to access your subject’s subconscious.

The Zeigarnik Effect:

Remember when I said to draw out certain stories? This is why. The Zeigarnik effect is explained by the fact that human brains have been wired to focus on the things that are not there, the things that change. If you tell a story, they know there has to be an end. When you deny someone that anticipated end, there is this constant thought in their head that the story isn’t over. Start with an exciting story, build to the climax, then stop, change the subject, or do anything else that will cause an interruption. During the next few seconds, while your listener is trying to piece together the end, give your hypnotic command.

Ambiguity:

Be as ambiguous about something as possible. Confuse your subject. It is as easy as messing with the sentence structure or by adding in a negative where there shouldn't be one. This allows you access to their subconscious as they try to work through the meaning of what you just said.

Negative Words:

Subconsciously, we don’t pay attention to negative words or commands. If I were to ask you not to picture yourself on the beach, chances are that is exactly what you did. The subconscious follows the instruction while ignoring the negative words. Only when the conscious mind kicks in and analyzes the negative word will you stop imagining said image.

Conclusion Even though you now have all the tools to succeed at hypnotizing someone, it still takes practice. It seems simple, but remember that tone, inflection, and emphasis play a very important role in driving home your success. Practice by changing up tone and inflection in order to alter your speech patterns. This will give you greater control over yourself and your ability to influence others.

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